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Roland17:
Watching a lazy father roam the house while the mother is productively and actively responsible for the upkeep and survival of the family is definitely not a good sight for the kids.

As humans, when we are stressed, emotionally and physically its only normal that we loose sleep and when good sleep is missing in the equation of daily living, we gradually develop health problems like HBP and other stress related complications, so think about it, i doubt he would cater for the children if anything happens to you.

Your potentials are really huge and i hope this challenge does not limit your focus to maximize your potentials. personally, i would not advise you seek a divorce as there are many avenues yet to be explored to resolve this issue.

If you have spoken to him about these teething issues and he has remained indifferent, i would say speak to his family or someone who he respects and listens to, do not throw him under the bus in your quest to prove he is wrong, dealing with a stubborn and lazy person is no walk in the park but it requires patience and maturity.

Take some time to build and stabilize your finances, sounds like you make some money but because you shoulder tons of responsibilities its almost impossible to save, i would advise you focus on shouldering what is very important to you and the kids and start funding an emergency account.

My prayers are with you, i pray God gives you the courage to remain strong in the face of adversity and the wisdom to make good decisions.

Freemanan:
It takes two to tangle Mate....
Happy Sunday

Freemanan:
Followed sir...

adorablepepple:
Thanks

INTROVERT:
I consider this thread insensitive.



BITE ME.

adorablepepple:
What rubbish, all this artist keep displaying their foolishness home n abroad, they don't even think of their audience before being Stupid and going deranged. Later we will hear he his a youth ambassador, youth ambassador for criminals I guess with the help of his Stupid video
He Went to school but school didn't pass through him.

mazech:
lol, many, many, many things are going wrong in this world. No moral values again!

Gay marriage, etc... - https://www.mazech.com/same_sex_marriage

*These are last days...

Incorruptible:
Ifonts. Currently using Hifonts. It works perfectly on a friend phone (opsson). But is not working perfectly on mine. And my phone is rooted. What then could be the problem

xmen4mee:
If you're sure. Flash it, or get a new memory card. Trabsfer those things in your memory card to the system before discarding it


the phone is working well - the issue is from the memory card

cococandy:
He said this to your face?

The guy doesn't even love you.
He's there because you're his meal ticket for now.

Watch him bolt when (if) he gets a means of survival of his own. What kind of man won't even make effort to help his wife take care of his kids' needs? Even if he's bringing only a quarter of it. At least that something.

And if he loves you, he won't be ok watching you stress yourself to death doing two jobs and doing all the house work on top of it all. He's both physically and emotionally not with you and it's not your job to fix him. He's an adult.

If you can't do it anymore, tell him to his face and not us. For example, that chair incident, I'd have left it there let rain fall on it and the sun shine on it. Or better still return it to where I bought it from. If he can't use his muscle to lift the chair into the house, we might as well send it back where it came from. I don't believe in stress lai lai.

Stop killing yourself slowly.
Anything you can't do? Say you can't and so be it.

You are probably afraid that he may misunderstand anything you say as disrespect for his lack of money. Even when you're very respectful about how you say it. It's not a new phenomena. (There's actually a name for it) But guess what? If it makes him sit-up and be an adult, the end justifies the means in this case.

Freemanan:
I mean the part of your signature that makes me wanna follow you ASAP lest I become separate entities with my head.

Incorruptible:
Ifonts. Currently using Hifonts. It works perfectly on a friend phone (opsson). But is not working perfectly on mine. And my phone is rooted. What then could be the problem

NoMoreTrolling:
Men, I am so soaking up all this advice.

Obviously, we should enjoy our lives and leave our marks, but as you said, we should be able to let go so we can partake in peace that comes from the spiritual. Letting go of addictions is soo hard though, but with it comes peace, like choosing to study instead of procrastinating and later experiencing the joy that comes from acing your test.

Thanks to all you guys for contributions on this thread. It's always nice to be steered straight after one has completely veered off track.

Freemanan:
We may decide not to look at the dirtiness of existence but it is there....
Your signature gives me the shivers, in other news.

NicxonXXX:
What i was aiming everybody keeps shouting HEAVEN IS A PLACE TO BEE? WHY Is it because Jesus/Bible says so and its the opposite of hell? Well what other reasons?

NoMoreTrolling:
The transient nature of life is really scary if based on shaky foundation.

I still remember my favourite lyrics from Casting Crowns:

"I am a flower quickly fading,

Here today and gone tomorrow,

A wave tossed in the ocean,

A vapor in the wind"

I feel you on the bible talk though, but you and I know how hard it is men, what with girls everywhere, lol. Still, it's sober reflections such as these that make us remember what the ultimate goal should be and hopefully dust off those bibles, hehe

Freemanan:
The universe is not as gentle as you perceive it Mate...
Supremacy and Peace cannot come without ruffling feathers.... It's you against other elements...

Freemanan:
Come out of that Utopia Mate...
Society is bound to evolve no matter what and in that process there must be clashes for survival, hence war and chaos.... State of nature becomes evident and the real nature of man comes out.
Peace is gotten through war and war Only ends when another war begins....

You see the circle Mate? It is aimless and void at last.

NoMoreTrolling:
Guess that's why one must strive to leave their mark, like the tale of the 3 talents (reference to religion again), instead of giving excess leeway to those thoughts of emptiness that fester to linger and become monstrous, devouring your talents.

However, leaving your mark without that something "extra" is akin to the cockroach stuck in the basin which you so aptly described, or the hamster running fervently to nowhere on the wheel.

Honestly, I find only religion answers questions of human existence for me though, without which, I'd truly be in complete agreement with your take on the lack of meaning to this life.

When some doubt my God, I point to one of the strongest emotions in human existence; Love! With it, you can raise the spirits of even the most depressed soul. The existence of that emotion gives credence to my belief in one, a supreme being, that radiates and promotes such emotion.



Please no one should mock me, calling me a saint! I'm far far from it, but I know what the ultimate goal is, which I mostly fall short of in forms of empty sexual relationships, anger and so on... Still I find that the straight and narrow path, though very very tough to stay on, is the surest path to fulfillment in everything this life has to offer.

Freemanan:
Hmmm... Deep one there...
I see nothing in human existence. It's like the tale of a cockroache who is in a basin and struggling fruitlessly to climb out. Man existence is like running in one vicious circle of aimlessness.
We try to give it purpose with Religion, happiness, material beauty and the rest, but at the end, it amounts to Void and Nothingness.

NicxonXXX:
My point exactly

NicxonXXX:
I do believe in Heaven 100%. But looking at this from a realist angle.... How easy is it to sell someone something based only on FAITH in you the seller?

sinaj:
yet d man didnt think twice b4 duin wah he did