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I thought about HEIGHT OF THE NATION few weeks ago.

THE EPIGENETICS OF POLYGAMY

After reading the many comments on my earlier critique of the modern marriage system, which is visibly cracking under the weight of its own contradictions, I decided to pause and think more deeply.

Why is it that so many modern men who loudly proclaim monogamy, often in the language of religion and civilization, still find themselves secretly practicing polygamy?

Why is it that even men who take celibacy vows as Catholic priests, pastors, monks, or other religious figures so often struggle, not because they are not willing, but because ordination, cassocks, and church doctrines do not rewrite the biology of ancestral inheritance?

Last night, as I put together these reflections, the comic wisdom of late Mr. Udo Uyor from Ndi Ukpabi, Aba, Isu came to me.

He used to say, one wife is not good; it is better when a man steps out and wives surround him - igurube.”

Maka Chi eeeeh, this is more than an old man’s joke; it is an ancestral logic distilled into a single sentence.

My parents are products of a polygamous marriage, like many Igbo families of their generation.

In their world, polygamy was not scandal; it was social structure. And truth be told, in my observation, those who abandoned polygamy under modern religious and legal pressure have not necessarily built better families, they have built more hidden ones.

Most polygamous men of old did not have children outside marriage; many modern monogamous men do.

What has changed is not desire or behavior.

What has changed is visibility.

To understand why this is happening, we must speak with scientific honesty. So, I think epigenetics plays a role.

Epigenetics refers to heritable changes in gene expression that do not alter the DNA sequence itself, but determine which genes are “on” or “off.”

It’s like software instructions layered over the hardware of DNA.

Environmental conditions, social systems, cultural habits, and stress patterns can alter these instructions and pass them down through generations.

The most famous example is the , when famine during WWII in the Netherlands left lasting metabolic changes in the children and grandchildren of survivors. Trauma, diet, reproductive patterns, sexual structures, and social organization can leave similar marks.

Shey you get?

For thousands of years, Igbo and many other African societies were structured around polygyny, one man, two or more wives, because it made sense culturally, spiritually, and economically.

That was not a short episode.

It was a long evolutionary environment.

In anthropology and population genetics, when a structure persists for centuries, it does not just shape culture; it shapes gene–culture coevolution.

Across human history, genome studies show that more women reproduced than men, meaning a smaller pool of men fathered most of the offspring (if we have more women than men, why do this same women not support polygamy to bring their fellow gender in?)

That is classic evidence of polygynous mating systems.

Such systems favor epigenetic patterns that influence bonding hormones (like oxytocin and vasopressin), jealousy thresholds, reproductive timing, sexual drive cycles, and patterns of attachment.

In short, many lineages have been shaped under polygamy for so long that switching to strict monogamy by colonial law or church decree does not erase the biological and epigenetic inheritance.

Culture can change in a generation but biology often lags behind.

Nowhere is this contradiction sharper than in religious institutions.

In Igboland, before the arrival of missionaries, men who were dibia, ozo title holders, or shrine custodians or those who chose strong spirituality had spiritual purity codes.

Sexual abstinence before rituals, sleeping in separate quarters, and menstrual taboos (mgbe nwanyị nọ na nso) shaped household organization. When a wife was menstruating, she could not cook for her husband or approach sacred spaces.

This was not hatred of women; it was part of a cosmology that treated blood and fertility as spiritual voltage.

In practical terms, a man who had only one wife would have his domestic, sexual, and ritual rhythms interrupted.

So many men married additional wives to balance the cycle, maintain ritual purity, and keep the household running smoothly.

This wasn’t just personal preference, it was spiritual engineering.

A dibia’s bedroom was his temple, his body was an instrument of ritual, and household management was structured accordingly.

Over time, this rhythm, spiritual abstention, multiple partners, regulated cycles, became interwoven with economic life. More wives meant more children, more labor, stronger extended lineages, and stable production systems.

This infact was the operating system under which many Igbo families ran for centuries.

Now, enter modernity.

Colonial administrators and Christian missionaries imposed monogamy as law and doctrine.

Churches, particularly the Catholic Church, went a step further, requiring some men (priests) to embrace celibacy altogether.

But here lies the biological tension: priestly ordination does not switch off the hypothalamus.

Vows do not silence the hormonal axis.

Celibacy is a spiritual discipline, not a genetic mutation.

A man whose lineage evolved over generations of polygamy still carries the hormonal, epigenetic, and psychological architecture of a mating animal, not an angel. And so many struggle silently.

This is why cases of secret relationships among clergy are not anomalies; they are inevitable frictions between inherited biology and institutional ideals.

The same is true for the laity.

When a society that has lived with polygamy for centuries suddenly says “from now on, everyone must be monogamous,” the law changes, the hymns change, the wedding format changes, but the body does not.

The ancestral software is still running.

This is why in many Igbo communities today, you see public monogamy but private polygamy: a church wedding at the front, a secret partner or children at the back. Baby mamas become unofficial co-wives. Polygamy goes underground, losing its structure and communal regulation, turning into secrecy, betrayal, and moral confusion.

In traditional Igbo society, polygyny was transparent, regulated, and spiritually anchored.

The ụmụnna enforced fairness among wives, protected inheritance lines, and maintained compound order. It had its injustices, yes, but it was visible.

Today, modern monogamy pretends the instinct is gone, yet the evidence of secret families, multiple hidden children, and broken homes says otherwise. The hypocrisy itself becomes a disease.

And at the heart of this crisis is epigenetic dissonance, when inherited behavioral tendencies no longer align with the social structures trying to contain them.

You cannot simply instruct genes by sermon. You cannot delete ancestral reproductive patterns with vows.

You can only acknowledge, negotiate, or repress them. And repressed systems have consequences.

Consider again the priest.

A man who grows up in a lineage where, for centuries, male reproductive strategy was polygynous, now swears celibacy.

The hormonal cycle remains.

The neural pathways for bonding and sexual desire remain.

The epigenetic instructions remain.

Some may succeed in sublimating these drives through discipline, prayer, and calling.

Many others break in silence, because ordination does not alter genetic expression.

Society then mocks their failure as moral weakness, forgetting it was asking a biological organism to act like a sexless spirit.

The same pattern is repeated in secular homes.

A man stands before the altar, vows monogamy, and perhaps means it.

But deep in his hormonal circuits lies an ancestral rhythm tuned to multiple attachments, high fertility, and shared household labor.

Without a strong and honest system to help navigate this dissonance, many quietly build parallel families.

Some rationalize it.

Some hide it until their funerals reveal the real kinship map.

Women also live with the fallout: fractured trust, secret children, contested inheritance.

We can deny this forever, but it won’t disappear.

Epigenetics is not a moral argument. It is a reality argument. It explains why certain social shifts stick quickly, and others drag ancestral shadows for centuries.

This doesn’t mean PEOPLE ARE “DESTINED” TO BE POLYGAMOUS.

Epigenetic tendencies are not handcuffs.

They are pressures.

They create tensions that must either be consciously managed, structurally absorbed, or hypocritically denied.

What Africa did was move from a regulated polygamous structure into a rigid monogamous ideal without building new structures to address the ancestral load.

The result is what we see now, a marriage system stretched between what we say we are and what our inherited biology is still whispering beneath the surface.

And this is why I say: the crisis is not polygamy. The crisis is pretending the ancestral architecture does not exist.

Our ancestors built systems that matched their cosmology and biology.

Modernity imported systems that ignore that history.

That’s why public morality says monogamy, private behavior says otherwise, and society sinks into quiet hypocrisy. It affects everyone - priests, pastors, educated men, market men, kings, politicians.

It is not a sin issue alone; it is a civilizational mismatch between biological inheritance and institutional design.

Maybe the question we need to ask is not “Why can’t Africans stay monogamous?” but “Why are we pretending ancestral epigenetic architectures can be erased by legal decrees or religious vows?”

Until we begin to face this tension with intellectual honesty, we will keep punishing individuals for collective historical inheritances. We will keep calling priests hypocrites, husbands liars, and wives promiscuous, while the deeper engine runs untouched.

Written by Ósìnákáchī Àkùmà Kálū

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wany:
How do you show her say God give you strength.

If she's not satisfied with watching my strength while I'm working out in the gym or doing kwọkirikwọ with her on the bed, then let her go and meet another man that will show her his strength by beating her. Not me biko.

WowSweetGuy:
Man or Boy...23 is a Boy

Boy kwa? Lol.

The only place that men of 18 years and above are called BOYS is in football or other sports o!

Meanwhile, I've always said that a man need to learn how to insult any woman who insults him instead of beating her. We should only reply verbal with verbal not verbal with physical.

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iInjureHerYansh:
And my prophesy came to pass and more

Nwanne, did you lose your former Nairaland account that you used to make the accurate prediction?

Give us new predictions biko.

ChizzyBuna:
I used to think juju na scam until i spent time with theze people.

You can call it skit
You can call it play play

All i know is that every enviroment has a pulsating energy.

That is a shrine
Even if it is play play for films
That room has a negative enegry the moment you put all those idols inside there.
To her it might be play play
But these entities are not here to play games.

You can be invoking them and laughing calling it a skit.
Until they attach themselves to you in the astral realm.

Now Listen

JUJU BLACK MAGIC IS REAL!!!!

There are entities that dwell in the astral planes.
Some give wealth
Some give protection
Some are invoked to spite someone
Each entity has their specialty.

The job of a native doctor is to invoke these astral beings to do his wishes.
These astral beings roam around earth without bodies.
Roaming aimlessley looking for where to cause havoc on earth.


The astral plane is not far from earth.
We do visit astral planes in our dreams, then return back to earth and wake up from sleep.

The only issue i have with these astral entities are they dont give you anything for FREE

You must pay a PRICE!!!
Its like a demonic subscription
You have to renew it monthly
No peace of mind

As a traditional man
God is my Chi
Not jesus, abraham, mary, or saints

My Chi is eternal
ONLY GOD IS MY CHI

So why should i ask lower astral plane entities for protection??

God give me air to brethe freely
God gave me seeds to plant and multiply and feed myself for free
God gives wealth for free
God give protection for free


These astral demigods give wealth too, but not for free.
They give it you under weird conditions.

Choose Wisely

Nwanne m, there is a lot that you don't know and need to learn.

If God created everything and everyone, it means that everything and everyone is God. Therefore, good is God, bad is God, light is God, darkness is God, male is God, female is God, past is God and future is God.

Astral entities and worshipable Gods all are metaphysical tools or weapons created by humans for different purposes.

There are many Almighty Gods depending on the religion and region of the world. Ra, Shiva, Ahura Mazda, Yahweh, Jesus, Allah, Shangdi, Amaterasu, Chukwu and Others.

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psucc:
Would have attended to your questions but from your own explanation below, you have the answers and more but simply see them as being wrong. So you can't get the ROGHT ANSWERS anywhere.

Jehovah Jaweh is His name. He created everything.

Anybody can claim that any God created anything but can you provide any verifiable proof outside your belief or holy book to back up your claim?

psucc:
There's one thing I know, every human being, male or female has an instinct or desire or quest for a higher power. Whether to God or to just anything he feels is "superior".! That vacuum can't be void except that we don't tell the truth or suppressed the truth.

Romans 13:1 Let every soul be subject unto the higher powers. For there is no power but of God: the powers that be are ordained of God.

UNANSWERABLE QUESTIONS

1. Does a Creator exist?
2. Where is the Creator?
3. Who or what created the Creator?
4. When was the Creator created?
5. Who or what is the Creator?
6. Is the Creator visible or invisible?
7. What does the Creator look like?
8. Is the Creator one, many or uncountable in number?
9. How did the Creator or Creators create life, the world and everything?

Philosophy, Religion and Science have been trying to answer questions about the Creator and the origin of the world for thousands of years. But amongst the three, it is only religion that formulates WRONG ANSWERS, writes down those wrong answers in a book it calls a HOLY BOOK and threatens people never to question those wrong answers because those wrong answers were inspired by a GOD that they created through the same holy book.

Polytheist religions are at least half honest, half sincere or half truthful to admit that their holy books are NOT THE ONLY ANSWER. But monotheistic religions especially the ABRAHAMIC RELIGIONS of Judaism, Christianity and Islam prefer to force their torah, bible or quran on each other and on other people as the ONLY ANSWER.

Judaism, Christianity and Islam know that majority of people will rather hear and believe in WRONG ANSWERS than to face the harsh, hard and bitter truth that there is NO ANSWER.

When will Judaism, Christianity or Islam be honest, sincere or truthful enough to admit that it doesn't have the answers? When will Judaism, Christianity or Islam be honest, sincere or truthful enough to admit that NOBODY KNOWS? When will Judaism, Christianity or Islam be honest, sincere or truthful enough to admit that the Creator is an UNANSWERABLE QUESTION?

My own answer based on my observation is that the Creator or Creators are unKNOWable, unNAMEable and unWORSHIPable. Therefore, Life, the World and Everything just exists without a beginning or without being created.

However, the honest, sincere or truthful answer to any question about the Creator or the origin of life, the world and everything is that NOBODY KNOWS and also most likely NOBODY CAN KNOW.

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NOTHING created God and God worships NOTHING. That is why We worship NOTHING.

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Every being, plant, animal, insect, micro-organism and human is born worshipping NOTHING.

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Plants, animals, insects and micro-organisms are 100% wiser and 100% smarter than us humans because they worship nothing.

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WORSHIPPERS OF GOD believe that pain, hunger, sickness and death is EVIL while plants, animals, insects and other WORSHIPPERS OF NOTHING know that pain, hunger, sickness and death is NATURAL.

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Why do Christians, Muslims, Judaists and other religious people who believe that NOTHING created their God demonize Atheists and non-religious people who believe that NOTHING created the world?


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MadamVanessa:



I am not justifying the action of the preacher by preaching in such an early hour. But again, Christianity is not respected at all, because of how meek christians seems to be. Was all that insults necessary?

I am telling you boldly, If it was the culture of Muslims to be preaching as christians preach on streets or corners, nobody would dare try this with any Muslim, even if he preaches by 1:00am , nobody will have the guts to confront the Muslim preacher, especially in Muslim dominated areas. You dare not, because the trouble you're looking for, the Muslim folks will give you overdose.

Sometimes I just wish Christians could be more radical. It's no longer funny.

Your comment shows that you don't know about the violent history of Christianity. Lol.

Biko go and research about the Great Crusades and the Spanish Inquisitions. Or will you pretend that you haven't heard of how Christians killed Galileo and many other scientists?

Muslim extremists actually learnt their violent ways from Christian fundamentalists.

It's so sad how Europeans and Arabs have used and still using their Yahweh, Jesus and Allah to enslave the minds of Africans and exploit the resources of Africa. Chai!

When will Africans wake up?

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Nwanne, can you change the title of this your post to IGBO NIGERIANS VS IGBO BIAFRANS so that we can have a debate here?

I also plead with you to reduce the use of insults and foul language during this discussion biko.

For munwa, I think that umu Igbo have invested too much in Nigeria to abandon our investments and run back to Biafra. The hard bitter fact bu na ọ ga-adi easier for us to restructure Nigeria through a new constitution than to disintegrate Nigeria through violence.

Ife ọzọ bu na ọ di very unfortunate na ndi Biafra are still promoting a foreign religion called Judaism which is not too different from umu nwanne ya called Christianity and Islam. Any observant person knows that God or Religion is a tool of mind-control. That is why a wise person creates his own God or Religion by writing his own holy book that will attract foreign worshippers to his own holy land for pilgrimage. Otu ahu, our palm-wine and palm-oil will become holy products replacing their red wine and olive oil.

The Biafran obsession with Israel and their Judaism is very foolish maka na the so-called Israelis bu ndi ọcha who have never cared for ndi isi ojii. They're not our friends. Nke bu eziokwu bu na umu Afrika will make more progress aligning with Russia and China than with Britain, USA or Israel.

Iwọtago my point?

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Nigerians of 29 years and below will be the LEADERS OF TOMORROW.

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