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davedy:
Good evening Nairalanders

I'm sorry for bringing up to this platform but is of necessity for me to bring it . I've been hearing it from people but I don't know how they do feel about it. I've heard stories about how a lady cheating on her guy and a man cheating, but all these stories I do see them as fantasy or something that is not real. I've heard about a lady killing herself because of her boyfriend and I've heard about a boy taking sniper because of a lady.
Recently, I was in love with a lady in my office and this lady she is 35 years of age, I am 37 years of age and I asked out, we started dating after a period of time, she told me about herself, after all in the place of her work, she has dated about three different persons that she had sex with them. People in the office do gossip about her because of how waryward life. They do call her prositute. With all that, I still love her. Before I came on board, she told me about her neighbour and all what they've done like touching and kissing was the highest they have done and I said ok. We started dating and working towards marriage. At a time, we got intimate. I never knew that she was still seen her neighbor. She do go to his room to charge her phone. I never knew that they were having sex and she was having sex with me. she always claim that I'm the only person she is having sex with but I have this kind of feeling that she is cheating on me. I do always argue and challenged her faithfulness and at the end , she will put her.a defensive mode accusing me that I didn't trust her. Some days ago, when i challenged her with evidence if cheating. she confessed to me about how she and her neighbour been having sex and I was heartbroken, that night, I slept in a house I couldn't get it, I never knew that I love her so much, that was a period I knew that I was deeply in love with her. I feel like dying, I feel like everything is over. I love her so much, I want to marry her. Few days ago, I travelled to meet with my parents and discussed my marriage issues with then. I told my girl about it but she didn't blive. With all these, she didn't feel remorseful. I wish I had never met her. I am in pain.. What should I do? I am a confused man now.


Please Seun move to front-page. I will appreciate it. Thanks.

Go and hang yourself you don't have any sense of reasoning.

RuddyFusion:
The intentions behind CAMA is bad

Why do you say so. It gives Government the power to see who is behind this businesses that act as a front to siphon public funds. And the Church seems to be one of such businesses

ERockson:
This woman is carrying curses. It is wrong of any Christian to be aiding and abetting any anti Christian government policy with obvious ulterior motive. This woman and her likes should keep quiet if they can't call the government to order because of what they eat or steal from government

You are a born and buy fool. Go to Heaven and get off Nigeria as you don't know what a construction is all about

Robert1da:
To be honest I didn't even want to make this
I knew the topic I would talk about was frowned upon and heavily debated
Everybody thinks I'm happy but I'm not and this here is my confession
How I let a girl destroy me and then push me to the point of this depression

Yeah I'm talking about that do or die
bleeped my friend a couple times
Told me all those fucking lies

I should be dead
So I had a talk with God and he told me it'd be hard so I asked if I could stay and he could take you instead (amen)

Remember all the shit that you was telling me?
How you loved me and want nobody above me

You gave me something to believe in
Then you broke me into pieces and it's fucking with me mentally

And I can't trust no other girl because I'm starting to see women as the enemy
I saw you texting with the dude and it was cool because you told me you and him were just friends
Then I caught you in the bed, let it slide, took you back, and then you went and bleeped the same nigga again.


There's a kid that no ones knows about and me and you both know I am the father
That means I am a part of you, you went and broke my heart in two
Then stabbed me in the back and watched me bleed and pulled an audible How you think this gon' end?
Cause I been dealing with depression, social media attention
They expect me to be happy but I'm fucking depressed

Do you know how it feels to be awake
But all you want to do is go back to sleep?
Because reality is suffocating pushing on your chest so all you want to do is go and live your life in your dreams?
Do you know how it feels when the person that you love doesn't love you back?
When they say the right things but their actions are the opposite of everything they tell you everyday to relax.

Dear God
I ask that you give me the strength, to trust again
Please help me relieve this burden from my heart
I know time heals all wounds and some just take longer than others
So I'm going to trust you with this process
Amen

LOOK AT THE MONSTER YOU MADE.

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You will get over your stupidity trust me.

And know what she did in no way defines or degrade you. It only shows you were with a lowlife and should be happy it's coming to an end cause you don't want to get married to someone who cheats on you without a thought.

Brunosamel:
I think is from our origin, that's the way our creator made us and there is nothing we can do about it....

Beside Nigerians are Brain box, they always skeptic about laws that's doesn't help there own interesting

Speak for yourself and your bloodline. And for the person that made this derogratory remark, I can't come as low as he thinks.

pocohantas:
Never knew men are part of wildlife, but I’ll keep that in mind henceforth.

This response is epic sha.

IamD18:
Wetin person no go see on social media.......So if dem dey discuss sex, this one wey keep mouth like Albino-mad woman camel toe go follow talk about sex.

Men dn suffer

Men have suffered, thought I was the only one who thought of the shit face talking bullshit.

queencalipso:
So you created a topic to teach guys how to convince a girl to agree to anal sex

Any guy that does anal sex have gayish tendency... If you can Bleep a female as hole you can do same with a guy. Asshole is asshole...

Big lies the body of a male and female are totally different and if you ain't gay you ain't gay. Pls let's learn to understand gays have their fundamental human rights trampled and we using them as an example puts it's in a bag light. They are humans that deserves protection from our law and government

ImaIma1:
I don't understand why a girl will agree to put her health and well being in jeopardy just because of someone else's selfish desire. It is absurb and an affront for a guy to ask for anal. Infact I will take it very personally.

Thank God I never met such perverted men because they would have regretted the day they started liking that rubbish if they even tried to propose it to me.

And some girls actually succumb. Why? Because they are trying to keep their man or they have been deceived by the "Shiloh" threat. Girls!! Wise up!!!

Babe you just have to try Anal sex, hope you have already

Deepocean:
I wonder why some people are in support of anal sex, do you guys really know the meaning of abuse? ABUSE: "To use (something) wrongly." for the fact that either the male gender or the female gender derive more pleasure in anal doesn't mean that it should be done through the back, the creator of human anatomy purposely designed the vagina for sex, delivery of baby and for urinating while the anus is primarily created for passing excrement. If you derive more pleasure in using pen for drawings and you enjoy using pen maybe because it makes your drawing more pleasing to the eyes doesn't mean that using of pen for drawing should be conventionally accepted in the world of art. If the anus is also meant for sex, then in the process of giving birth, babies should come out from where it pleases them either from the anus or from the vagina. One person was even supporting the use of the backside for sex claiming that the Bible is not against it because it was not boldly written in the Bible that "don't practice anal sex," if every single instruction is written in any of the Holy Books, then I wonder why you were given brain for common sense and for common reasonings. If everything was written in the Bible, I am imagining the capacity of the machine that will be able to carry it. Your brain is given to you to do some common reasonings so as for you not to keep running to your Creator every minute for instructions and guidance. My advice to the ladies, if you know that you are not the anal type, before entering the marriage race, during your courtship period, discuss every down thing with your fiance as regards this subject matter. Tell him you don't like it that you can't do it. And to the guys don't be the type that love to abuse things, make use of things for the purpose of their creation, abuse of things is not morally accepted.

Anal sex is for birth control. You pour it inside

highqueen:
Good, nicely put.


Ladies should stop this act of doing anything a man from nowhere tells you he wants.

Have a standard, know when to say no.

Reason I'm saying this is because, before the act, they will beg and plead, honour and respect you, once the act is done and when they noticed that you are wild down there, castigate you, call you all sort of derogatory names and lastly leave you for a decent lady who is still tight and who didn't agree to even do that shiit with them.
One thing I noticed is that men love stubborn ladies, ladies who do not yield to these their stupid and foolish adventures.

Worst part is that, after all those rubbish you both engaged into, he will still come out and castigate you for even doing it while he was the one that initiated it.

Please ladies, say no to gay men, say no to weird and foolish advances from sons of Satan.

There's one special person for you who will love you for what you believe in.

Learn to like dear and learn to fucj with a open heart

ukaface:
Making mountain out of a molehill

This case of child abuse is definitely the mountain here. Is like you were deeply abused as a child so you wanna carry it to your unborn children sorry for you.

icebird25:
Mtcheew. .is it everything that you compare with UK... someone can't beat discipline his/her own child again Ni..

Yes you can't beat or discipline your child. Cause you have mental issues and pour it on them.

chiddyok:
Is your mother a man?

Oga your Mother, his and mine is what he is talking about. Don't think yours is a saint. Just have a chat with your Dad and hear what he went through.

KAHBOOM:
5k cha!

I nono why boys dey spoil these hoes with money still yet dem nogo still appreciate.

Bricklayers wey dey do hardcore job no dey see DAT kind money.Den one dirty gel go spread legs for nothing collect 5k.Boys dey fkkkk up

You be man. It takes alot to attain such level of intelligence and sense. Even so many old and married men think like fools.

These bitches are not worth a penny.

donbachi:
I dont know if dis woman talks from her anus.

Anus that must have probably been busted

Makavelli25:
We have all been cheated.
They kill our brothers and sisters only to get two cows in the end
Haaaa
So if i get an AK now,kill some northerners
I will still get two cows in return

Nigeria is fuccked up

You are so blessed

anukulapo:
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.thisdaylive.com/index.php/2020/07/15/breaking-arotile-nigerias-first-female-combat-helicopter-pilot-dies-at-23/amp/

RIP my hero.

Mvici:
I Lost Confidence In My Girlfriend The Moment She Asked Me To Marry For My Mother.

I had a girlfriend some few months back before the covid 19 outbreak, that was after we went home from school due to the strike and the pandemic, we both are in the same school which is IBB university lapai, in our final.

So at home this faithful day, I put a call through! We both were talking, laughing on phone, so she ask about my mum, I said she was fine and she now ask abt her loneliness because no one at home, I told her but I'm still here with her, she ask what if school resume and what if we should go for our service next year, she now told me to marry another man for my mum.... lol... telling me who knows" that my mum might like the idea if I should table it with her. Gosh! I actually laughed about it then on phone with her but inside me, it wasn't funny at all.

The next day, what she told me was still bordering me, so many things were just running on my mind...so even if by mistake I wife her in future and the Lord decide to take me when we have a grown up child like me, who is planning on becoming a graduate this year and have even spent 30 years in marriage already....she won't even mourn me for long before accepting another man's proposal or bleeping with another man or probably her one time ex.

I decided to ask my mum with play, mum be sincere to me, you and my dad have been married since far back 1986... U both were in marriage for about 30 yrs before he past away few years ago, may his soul rest in peace..this is 5yrs now are you considering on marrying any one or having any kind of body movement or even can stand the presence of another man in your life?

Guess what her reply was....
Mum said my dad was the only man she know in her life and that's how it going to remain by God grace, period! and I shouldn't ask her such again with cry/smiles on her face because she has me and I will give her groundchil........

Seriously I don't know why I brought this here but pls tell me, any girl that can ask a 52 Year old woman to re_marry even after she has a child, isn't it clear that she can't stay without having sex to anyone as long as her husband is on a peace keeping mission or even travel abroad?

Thanks everyone.

That girl is a No No.

NaijaRoyalty:
APC and stupidity are inseparable

Fraud and thieves apologist that is who you are. Or are the pictures fake now.

It shall not be well with internet fraudsters in Nigeria

tehilah92:
This is my first time of doing this on nairaland, please pardon any mistakes.
I met and started dating my boyfriend, though now ex, in 2013 while in my first year, he was in his third year, though there were other girls I didn't get know about till after 3 months of dating him, baby t somehow he dumped others and I was the only one left, so I thought..,
He kept on cheating, I kept forgiving, even after his graduation, we continued, everyone knows about us, almost everyone was seeing us couple of course we were seeing ourselves too, hahaha, we even planned how our wedding would look like, but then he is a woman beater, my mouth no kukuma good if quarrel start but he always starts the fight, his cheating part became something else, he even slept with my best friend's kid sister, hmm, as usual he apologized, and mumu in love, I forgave, after my graduation, a year later I went for service, though I went before him, now the problem, I served in a rural area, no light, poor Network, anytime he calls and am unavailable, he concludes am with a man, he will insult me and everything around me, after much insults, I decided to walk away for good, though it hurts that I wasted almost 7years with him, I was hoping he would change but it only got worse, if I endure and marry this one I will die of maybe BP or beatings, has anyone experienced this before?

Yes I do it and am a guy

sexylassie2:
The average Nigerian is a scammer, nairaland is a land of scams.

So any Nigerian trying to say racism to FBI list is a fool.

Nigerian worship scammers, they want to be like them, the women want to befriend them, the pastors want them to give tithes.

Scamming is part of Nigeria culture, it is a way of like and a means of survival.

The most painful stuff, you can't do business with a Nigerian and sleep well.

You all just full of excuses. Please learn to speak for just yourself at all times.

This word is very insulting to alot. Not all Nigerians adore, will partake in scam even if the narrative right now is lots of Nigerian adores scam.

Burstscam:
Case 1: HushPuppi/Mompha

Hushpuppi, whose real name is Raymond Igbalodely, is a Nigerian scam superstar who base in UAE and is the most recent trending fraud hero in Nigeria and beyond. Since the news of his arrest broke out, there has been various reactions from different quarters. In the same vein, Ismaila Mustapha aka Mompha, was arrested by EFCC late 2019 on allegations bordering on internet scam.

The problem[/i]

Most people who criticise these two young men are of the opinion that they shouldn’t have flaunted their ill gotten wealth on the social media. They are more concerned about their lifestyle of opulence and less concerned about the very act for which they are being prosecuted.

Going by the thought process observed thus far, most people who condemn them would not have done so had they not been intimidated by their extravagant showoffs. Some even protested that they spent the bulk of their largess in foreign land and on foreign materials and inquire what they (the Nigerian populace) have benefited from them.



Case 2: Invictus Obi

AKA Obinwanne Okeke, the self acclaimed entrepreneur and CEO of Invictus Group, was once among Forbes Africa’s highly coveted 30 under 30 list. His arrest earlier this year generated a lot of concern from the masses. The case of Invictus is different from those of Hushpoppi and Mompha.

Invictus made enormous investment across Africa in oil and gas, construction, energy solutions, technology and agriculture thus creating employment for a large number of people. On that note, many people tried to justify his act.

The problem[i]

Although many people totally condemned him for engaging in fraud, a closer look at their defense is also anchored on the fact that his massive acquisition of wealth, albeit illegal, made them, the hardworking youths, to appear lazy. This reason too is weak as they do not really have problem with his fraudulent ways but have problem with how his ways affects their own perception.



Case 3: Chidiebere Ogbonna

News has it that this man bought a carton of Indomie in Owerri. On getting home, he discovered that 1.8 million naira was enclosed in it. In a bid to remain honest, he returned the money even though there was no way it could have been traced to him and without any guarantee that he would be rewarded. Many have hailed him for being honest.

The problem[i][/i]

The vast majority of people who commented on the issue ridiculed and derided him for his honesty and refer to his action as stupidity and foolishness while describing the money as manner from above. Interestingly, many of those who condemn this man equally condemned Mompha and the likes. So how can one person condemn evil and condemn good at the same time?



Summary

Average Nigerian does not have any issue with fraud unless he is particularly affected negatively. This explains why communities decorate known fraudsters with chieftaincy titles; people crown them kings; the clergy celebrate them; parents are proud of them; the masses elect them into positions of authority; police worship them and girls choose them over hardworking guys any day any time.


Nigerians as a people celebrate fraudsters and encourage them to do more. Granted, scammers are everywhere, but the kind of hospitality and acceptance we give to scam and fraud has promoted it to the status of culture. We might be passing it on from generation to generation. Sadly, we suffer the consequences together.

https://burstscam.com/blog/2020/06/27/scam-enjoys-massive-support-from-nigerian-populace-a-closer-look-at-three-recent-cases/

Thank you for saying it as we know it. I hope people start seeing the spiral of failure this culture and love for scam will bring to our society

Tadeknkeepcalm:
Seriously, I would rather die before such happens to my wife.

Watching is what it means to be a true simp. Not all these shout on nairaland

Don't pray to ever see such

olisaEze:
I find it disturbing that dis young man has lost hope in himself that he’s boldly suggesting that he be executed as he does not expect any good to come from him!
He has totally given up on himself and doesn’t expect forgiveness.
I wonder if his life would have gone down this path if he was born in a country with a sane political system?

They are serial killers everywhere. No blame to the Nation, it they is you will also have lost all hope in yourself

bolaayenimo:
Omo ale jatejate. Yorubas disown you

Too late bro.

Sweetgirlmimi:
http://saharareporters.com/2020/06/30/rivers-police-arrest-notorious-kidnapper-uncover-bodies-victims-septic-tank

You can imagine how many dead bodies are in various septic tanks in this Country.

Where are you taking this ill-gotten wealth to.

And they always look unkempt. All of this Mother fucking Kidnappers and Killer's

Chosen1984:
Awesome... Beautiful architectural wonder from Qatar..
If men could come out with this, just Imagine how beautiful Heaven is..

Mumu first think of the one u see and stop blabbing stories that was used to deceive your generation

HeavenlyCherub:
Does that warrant killing? Better to walk away if it’s not working for you.

Yes it warrants killing. Hope you are satisfied now

Akpan107:
Allah SWT said:

فَإِذَا انْسَلَخَ الْأَشْهُرُ الْحُرُمُ فَاقْتُلُوا الْمُشْرِكِينَ حَيْثُ وَجَدتُّمُوهُمْ وَخُذُوهُمْ وَاحْصُرُوهُمْ وَاقْعُدُوا لَهُمْ كُلَّ مَرْصَدٍ  ۚ فَإِنْ تَابُوا وَأَقَامُوا الصَّلٰوةَ وَءَاتَوُا الزَّكٰوةَ فَخَلُّوا سَبِيلَهُمْ  ۚ إِنَّ اللَّهَ غَفُورٌ رَّحِيمٌ
"And when the sacred months have passed, then kill the polytheists wherever you find them and capture them and besiege them and sit in wait for them at every place of ambush. But if they should repent, establish prayer, and give zakah, let them [go] on their way. Indeed, Allah is Forgiving and Merciful."
(QS. At-Tawba 9: Verse 5)

* Via Qur'an English http://quran-en.com

Make u no let book deceive you as it has deceived youe fore fathers. Oga live youe life.

Nonybb:
Shekau is a real Muslim and very uncompromising. If you are against him as a Muslim you are a hypocrite who doesn't want to further the course of full Islam

Dream on. That course will take you nowhere. I can also see 78bastard likes in your pityful statement.