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Family › Re: Is It Right To Fund Your Partner's Education? by JonTal: 8:24pm On Apr 03, 2016

EfemenaXY:
@op speak for yourself pls.

Don't portray women as self-centred leeches in parasitic relationships.

Some of us work hard and single handedly funded our education.

Cc: Mindfulness.

Efe, please get off op's back. She has just stated what is true in the huge majority of cases.

The question is, should people train their potential partners in college with the hope of marrying them?

By the way, the op added that women also fall victim of this crap from guys

Family › Re: Was I Wrong Opening Up To My Husband? by JonTal: 4:41pm On Mar 28, 2016

postmann:
@OP,
Your msg isn't so detailed but I should point out that you probably were wrong to have discussed your husband and marital issues with your neighbour and kept the so called advice to yourself until the day you had a misunderstanding with your husband.

Naturally, he wouldn't wonder if there's more you've kept away from him. That's coupled with the fact that you just gave him a crude shock you discuss him with your neighbour.

This is not to excuse his unfaithfulness.

What's your creed? Muslim? Christian? I'd advice you pray seriously. Divorce is no joke.

Family › Re: Social Media Is Destroying Our Inner Ability??! by JonTal: 10:45am On Mar 12, 2016

Chidoks:
But you agree that social media contributes to academic decadance?

Absolutely, @Chidoks. Then again, it depends on who the student is. For the student who experiences poor parenting or guardianship, if you will, social media will make him worse and worse. For the one whose parents are up to their parenting duties, social media will have very little impact on his academics, because from the word go, he has been trained to know what is most important and to give it all is focus. Unfortunately, for us, the former group are in the majority, that is the reason it is easy to blame it on social media.

What I think the problem is, is our over concentration on money making, which leaves parents with little or know time for child training. Parents have also come to accept whatever the media says is right as the truth and they allow their children go on with those practices. These and more are the issues.

So social media contributes to academic decadence, yes, but only where parents fail to do the right things up front.

The right approach for me will be, to recognise that social media has come to stay, recognise it as a "frienemy" and teach our young ones how to use it to their advantage.

Family › Re: Social Media Is Destroying Our Inner Ability??! by JonTal: 2:34pm On Mar 11, 2016

The educational system in Nigeria, which currently is in a bad state will be fixed with time, but the effect of social media on the education and well being of children will also increase, either for better or for the opposite.

The onus is on families to take individual responsiblility for the the proper up bringing of their wards, social media or no social media. After all, some young adults also grew up in this era of social media, and have turned out very well.

So individual familiy responsibility is key, here.

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Family › Re: Isreal Houghton-divorce Shock by JonTal: 12:14pm On Feb 25, 2016

Hmmmmm. I am just humbled and speechless.

Family › Re: Your Ex Living In The Same Compound With You And Your Spouse by JonTal(op): 9:36pm On Feb 24, 2016

myfantasies:
JonTal i just logged in nd saw u mentioned my moniker

Wats my offence

You have not commited any offence @myfantasies. I only encouraged you to continue with the subject matter.

Family › Re: Your Ex Living In The Same Compound With You And Your Spouse by JonTal(op): 5:44pm On Feb 24, 2016

Thanks pals for your contributions so far. I've been busy at work, thus not been around to join you guys.

Thanks be to God, today's work is done.

@Immortalcrown and @myfantasies, please, lets come back to the main subject of this thread and not derail it. Others are also welcomed to join us.

Thanks.

Family › Re: Your Ex Living In The Same Compound With You And Your Spouse by JonTal(op): 1:32pm On Feb 24, 2016

osedvgirl:
she aint loyal in her marriage then

There is a quote that says, when you excape a temptation, do not leave a forwarding address for the devil.

To what extend will her being loyal help her if the object of temptation is right there before her eyes on a daily basis?

Family › Re: Your Ex Living In The Same Compound With You And Your Spouse by JonTal(op): 1:20pm On Feb 24, 2016

JudgementHammer:
Ah it won't be easy o cuz d attraction might wanna set in later and if she refuses to let him into d house, he would think she's using power bcus her husband now have money and owns the house and she in turn wouldn't want him to feel hurt that way.

I'll advice she tell her husband and d man shdn't let him in bcus he may grow to become a wild and disrespectful tenant (courtesy of his wife's influence) and it will be too late to react then as it would have become a gossip topic in d compound that they had something personal for such a hot fight.

Many thanks. Note taken

Family › Re: Your Ex Living In The Same Compound With You And Your Spouse by JonTal(op): 11:17am On Feb 24, 2016

osedvgirl:
she should move on with her life, ex boo is ex boo, so let her fvck off her mind from there

How do you think she can stay on her own if she allows that man to rent the apartment from her husband? She is already afraid for her marriage

Family › Your Ex Living In The Same Compound With You And Your Spouse by JonTal(op): 10:56am On Feb 24, 2016

Good morning, family nairalanders.

A woman in my part of town is facing a dilemma. She lives with her husaband and children in a compound where they also let out apartments to tenants. Late last week one prospective tenant who she could recognise as her last boy friend before she got married visited the house with an estate agent (even though the man did not see her). The ex- boyfriend is also now married.

So, she is asking if she should open up and tell her husband that she doesn't want that man as their tenant because the man is her ex- boy friend and she already feels uncomfortable seeing the man or she should keep quiet.

So what is your take on this? What would you do if you were in her shoes?

Family › Re: After 21 Years,his Wife Made Him Take Out Another Woman. by JonTal: 11:20am On Feb 15, 2016

Very poignant lessons learnt.

Its also safe to say that what most aging people need in the most parts are the time and presence of their children and not money. So the lack of money, on the part of children should not be an excuse.

Family › Re: Pls Help: He Wants To Marry A Runs Girl. by JonTal: 8:47am On Feb 15, 2016

cococandy:
Innocent indeed.

We are assuming he's not been intimate with any other woman before deciding to marry this lady.
Who will marry those ones?
Since its now okay to considers ones past sexual conquests as filth.

Good morning, coco. I hope you slept well. I got your points and I give it up. Have yourself a swell day.

Family › Re: Pls Help: He Wants To Marry A Runs Girl. by JonTal: 11:26pm On Feb 14, 2016

EfemenaXY:
Well, they're friends aren't they?

So sharing bodily fluids shouldn't post that much of a problem. Like someone mentioned earlier, let them keep it within the "family".

Don't forget this guy is innocent. Have a very good night.

Family › Re: Pls Help: He Wants To Marry A Runs Girl. by JonTal: 11:23pm On Feb 14, 2016

cococandy:
Maybe the OP or one of the others should marry her instead and spare this their 'innocent' friend the 'misfortune'.

Let me guess, they consider themselves too good for her innit?

Rubbish

Yes @cococandy. I quite agree with your point of view that the op and his other friends are not better than her. So one of them should marry her but, not that innocent one. But what can we do? We can only talk here on NL

Family › Re: Pls Help: He Wants To Marry A Runs Girl. by JonTal: 11:16pm On Feb 14, 2016

Dheartless:
I swear the guy need arsenal for deliverance, I nor fit lie for na!!
nor follow all those women talk again you will only tired of the asupposed logical aguement and possibly get angry at their 100% sentimental jugdement .

Na so. Na so women dey defend their fellow women any time e come for marriage matter once one babe done see opportunity to marry.

Family › Re: Help Me Before I Die. by JonTal: 11:11pm On Feb 14, 2016

mudrock:
thank you for your kind words I really appreciate. I don't want to be a burden to my family honestly,i feel I should carry the pain alone,my dad might not just recover from the shock. It will shatter my siblings especially the younger ones looking up to me.

If I may ask, how have your tried to solve this problem besides going to the hospital once or twice for test? You don't conclude that there is no hope when you have not taken concrete steps to solve the situation.

There are millions of people all over the world who are suffering from one terminal disease or the other. Some of them are invalid and without any help whatsover. Yet, most of them will recover from those illnesses. You can still walk about to look for help. You can pray and seek God's face and hand, but here you are thinking to give up and lose? No you shouldn't.

Family › Re: Pls Help: He Wants To Marry A Runs Girl. by JonTal: 10:51pm On Feb 14, 2016

Now if you got the @op very well, @Gaborone and @EfemenaXY, you will notice that the op and other friends sampled her, but not this particular friend who wants to marry her now. This is the reason the op has drawn his attention to the fact that the girl is a pro. So the guy should not be the one to clear the mess from the floor even though he is insisting on going ahead with his plans.

Family › Re: How Do I Handle This? by JonTal(op): 9:57pm On Feb 14, 2016*

eightsin:
This is so wrong!!! But I am sure they have their reasons and I suggest you ask so you find out.

I believe with you about this being wrong. The only reason I know here is that he is afraid to face the children and tell them that their mother is late. What I fail to understand is how a man will not be able to bear seeing his children cry for at most one month.

Family › Re: How Do I Handle This? by JonTal(op): 9:55pm On Feb 14, 2016

eightsin:
This is so wrong!!! But I am sure they have their reasons and I suggest you ask so you find out.

I believe with you about this being wrong. The only reason I know here is that he is afraid to face the children and tell them that their mother is late.

Family › Re: How Do I Handle This? by JonTal(op): 9:50pm On Feb 14, 2016

doomsdayII:
Are you sure man utd isn't the problem

You are very funny @doomsdayII. Thanks very much for spotting out that typo. I have modified it

Family › Re: How Do I Handle This? by JonTal(op): 9:25pm On Feb 14, 2016

eightsin:
So they didn't participate in the burial?

No. They didn't. My uncle kept them completely away because of the pains he thought they would go through.

Family › How Do I Handle This? by JonTal(op): 9:07pm On Feb 14, 2016*

My eldest uncle's wife died at the hospital about four months ago after she suffered a stroke when she went to the market.

The burial and everything about it were done without letting the two youngest children know what has happened.

After the burial my cousin(the senior daughter) called me to inform the children about what happened as she couldn't do it herself too.

Unfortunately, my uncle was at home the day I visited them. I talked to him about it and he assured me that he will let them know, but he hasn't as I type this.

The children I am talking about are 4 and 7 years old. They are still been lied to that their mother is at the hospital.

I believe that they deserve to know the truth.

What do you guys think? Thanks mightily.

Family › Re: Pls Help: He Wants To Marry A Runs Girl. by JonTal: 8:30pm On Feb 14, 2016

Gaborone:
You guys have finished passing her round, now you plan to leave her for who? One of my brothers?

Biko, allow your friend marry her, that way, she remains in your circle.

Would you give your brother the encouragement to marry a pro if you knew her to be such?

Family › Re: Pls Help: He Wants To Marry A Runs Girl. by JonTal: 8:23pm On Feb 14, 2016*

EfemenaXY:
If she's your sister, will you deny her the privilege to get married?

Let those that sampled her marry her. Why should someone else be given your leftovers?

Efe, this particular friend of his' did not sample her previously and would you allow your brother to marry a pro if you knew?

Family › Re: Pls Help: He Wants To Marry A Runs Girl. by JonTal: 8:19pm On Feb 14, 2016

Dheartless:
3D juju in action. na the kind juju wey leicester Dey use .

hahahahahahaha. I no fit shaaout ooo. You too much!

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Family › Re: Help Me Before I Die. by JonTal: 8:09pm On Feb 14, 2016

At the end of the Korean war over 60 years ago a man was sitting at the frontage of his house and a young girl called on him with a Bible in her hand. The young girl greeted him and was about to preach to him when he told the girl that he was not ready to listen to preaching, since he had acute tuberculosis and was convinced he was going to die from it, having been given a date to die by the doctors. The young girl began to cry on hearing that he had that disease and his refusal to listen to the gospel. Eventually, he agreed to take the Bible the girl decided to give to him as a gift.

After the girl left him and from that day, he started reading the Bible, building faith in Gods word, and having the right relationship with God.

The day the doctors gave him to die came and passed, but he did not die. @op, the man I am talking about is the South Korean pastor, Dr David Yongi Cho. As we speak, he is still alive and an old man now.

Many people have had similar experiences over time and have survived them over time by trusting in God and seeking for help wherever they can find help.

The worst thing you can do now is to keep to yourself and refuse to talk to your family, friends and the church( if you are a christian) as you can never tell who God might use to help you .

There is no impossiblity with God. You will live and not die.

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Family › Re: Help Me Before I Die. by JonTal: 7:47pm On Feb 14, 2016

@op, stop trying to make us validate your belief that you are going to die of cancer any time soon and resolve to get help through the advices that you will get on this thread

Family › Re: My Mother Is Gone. by JonTal: 1:59am On Feb 14, 2016

tayo60:
With a heavy heart, I regret to announce dt av just lost my mother to d cold hand of death. She slpt last night but couldn't wake up ds morning. May her gentle soul rest in perfect piece) :'

Take heart Tayo. I know that feeling. God will be your strenght.
May she rest in peace.

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Family › Re: I Had Sex With My Pastor by JonTal: 1:37am On Feb 14, 2016

Mindfulness:
If she can'tt rust a pastor, who can she trust?

You mean for her to trust an adulterer who defiled her, the house of God and cast spise on his matrimonial vow?

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Family › Re: Help...i Am Finished!contemplating Abortion At Five Months by JonTal: 1:20am On Feb 14, 2016

Time is the most effective opiate of pain-Robert Ludlum.

I understand that you are going through what is probably the toughest period of your life, but rest assured that it will pass with time.

The main reason it is very painful for you now is that your mind has been focusing on all the bad consequences of your(and his) actions in the lead up to this situation. So, try and relax your mind abit for the start.

Resolve to deal with the situation openly, by reaching out to your family and just as you have asked for information about organisations that could help in the mean time. Your stress level will reduce once you start taking action.

You made a costly mistake, but you can work your way out of it to become wiser and stronger.

May God send you all the help that you need.

Family › Re: His Mother Said His Fiancee Is Not Beautiful And Classy by JonTal: 10:33am On Feb 08, 2016

Be very clear within your heart that you will marry this lady, if you are sure of all her attributes that you have listed, because ultimately, you are the one, not your mum, that will leave with whoever you choose to marry for the rest of your life .

Pray and talk to God about your mum, as there is no heart(decision) that God can not change.

Talk to your dad and mum, letting them know the reasons this girl is best for you to marry. Try not to focus much on the fact that both of you love each while talking to them. You should also involve your pastor, priest, uncles, and any senior person your mum holds in high regard.

May God see you through this.

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