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PureSperm:
Good day my fellow Nairalanders. Guess you're doing good.

Finally,my brothers and sisters,I've broken up with my traditional religious girlfriend. Not that I broke up with her simply because she was fetish but what really broke my heart was when I got to realize she had always been in contact with her ex. I couldn't bear the pain. She even told me straight up that she can't stop talking to him because they aren't enemies. I even told her to choose between me and her other male friends who have been calling her every night and she said she can't let go of them because of me. Then ,I manned up and let her go,in peace.

Now, I've decided to go into the dating pool once again. My experiences so far hasn't been beautiful because I've met beautiful souls as well as kangaroos disguising as single women

So far,out of the 6 ladies I've met so far,5 were single mothers. The other one was in a serious relationship but was ready to give me a chance. But I wasn't ready to be in the friend zone praying for another man's relationship or break so that I could enter. I told her categorically that that isn't what I wanted. And we ended our talking stage, abruptly and , peacefully.

Now,what I discovered was that all of the single mothers I met were all in the age range of 24-30 years. Could it be as a result of parental failure? Or it was their greed that led them into such lifetime mistakes? These thoughts have been running Helter skelter in my head since I encountered all of them. 3 out them all complained about different men coming to sleep with them and running away because they didn't want to go into any serious relationship with a single mother. One of them even asked me to promise to take care of her son. I told her instantly that I wasn't ready to do that. Then I asked about her son's father and she said he was in the same town with them. On hearing that,I lost every single bit of erection and little affection I had for her.

So,my brothers who are now married but were once single,how did you guys manage to escape from this single and searching phase without getting entangled with these type of ladies our societies have kept on producing and dishing out,in recent years?

Nlfpmod
obembet
Dominique
mynd44
Seun

Please mods,let's help push this thread to the front page so that myself and other single men can learn from veterans and married men.

Dating pool has a lot of fish Don't be too hard on yourself or the ladies. Everyone has0q their own stuff, you know?
Note also that single moms are not the problem They're just people with kids. A woman can have bad character whether she is a mother or not. Maybe ask about their situation, interests, and what they're looking for instead of focusing on the kid(s).

Red flags are okay to acknowledge also.Trust your gut. If something feels off, it's cool to dip out and the earlier you do so, the better.
Parental failure is a pandemic but cannot be the sole reason why we have single mothers. Your surest bet is to ask your gender why it is so. Afterall, they are the impregnators.

Here in the North, desperate thieves resort to the use of jazz. I won't mention the deadly technology used, but once deployed, every living thing... including the Mosquitoes around would go to deep sleep. I'm talking about sleep that is as deep as death. I feel like the robbers used this Technology.

I doubt if this news is legit.

Everything is cheap safe for the rice and beans.

PinkStarsFallIn:
So if you buy raw gold, where do you keep it?

I'm sure you can figure out a safe place in your house to do so. You can also secure a safe deposit box with some banks.

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Deepspirituals:
2. Treasury bills. With this amount, you are guaranteed about 750k every 9 months or more over a year

About This Treasury Bills .How True is this ..Pls.Pls.and Pls.Can U enlighten Me more ...U mean if One Put 6M one can Truly have such Interest of 750k or amore every Nine Months or More over a Year .

Kindly respond.

When you hear people make money without working, one of the ways is through the purchase of government treasury bills. It is very limited, however and to achieve a good margin of returns, your investment has to be big. For instance, investing 10 million naira for a 1 year duration can earn you between 1.5 to 2 million depending on the interest rates. They are most times, available at the beginning of each year and may be announced on news channels or newspapers (not so sure about that)... your "trusted" banker friend may also intimate you on that. Do not forget to collect a certificate.

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LagosG:
Right now Silver is the shit!

People are buying silver because it is anticipated to bloom like gold. It is just an anticipation hopefully it pans out so. Ag on the other hand is already spinning in profits. The piece I bought in May was about 145k per gram. As at yesterday, it was 210k per gram. A 65k increase per gram in less than 7 months is big.

Nazgul:
Could you explain more about this gold business. And must I buy only from Abuja or kaduna?

If you don't mind, I can send you a DM...

You may send a DM. Compliments of the season!

PinkStarsFallIn:
I wish to Lock 6M naira to compound for atleast 5years. Should I do piggy vest or what?

I would recommend:
1.Stanbic IBTC mutual fund. Though this doesn't lock your cash, but you are guaranteed a great interest rate.
2. Treasury bills. With this amount, you are guaranteed about 750k every 9 months or more over a year.

3. Investment in gold. This is actually the best. The amount in view can get you about 31 grams of gold. You are likely to enjoy a 100 percent interest rate every year and about 500 percent in 5 years. Make sure you buy from legit vendors. I would advise you take a trip to Abuja or kaduna to purchase.

All the best!

oyeb15:
I lost my car, incured debts, start struggling to survive. Responsibilities become so overwhelming, anticipated government job was cornered by corrupt government officials who give it out as slots.

This Year is the worst year of my life. I don't pray to remember 2025 again as long as I live.

2026 will be better.

kings59:
Saved 7.5M but sporty chop am all, CEBEX also chop my 6M, But yesterday, I nearly lost my life to robbers. Omo, life first before anything else ooo

We go again 2026

2026 will be a year of saving. 90% of my salary, I will start saving it.



I just realized is not all about how much you have or lost, but how you stand again after falling or losing huge amount of money.

That's a big lesson. All the billions without life is nothing. However, being broke when alive is something to be grateful for.

immaculatesense:
With the situation if the economy in the current year. How much have you been able to add to you savings this year?

I had a good run financially, this year. I also garnered more heat to delve into Ag and real estate investment.

Your sense of entitlement could be why and also maybe the price.

wunmi590:
Good day Nairalanders,

What is the light situation in your area, just as the heading suggests.

In my office 🏬 Lekki phase1, light has been very bad, since last month, despite the fact that we are on Band A, we have been solely relying on generator from morning till night.

In my house at around Obalende, infact that one os worst, sometimes, I stay in the office late, so that once I enter house, just take my bath and sleep straight..

The most painful part is that, my inlaw who is from Oyo state are complaing bitterly that light might not even come for 2-3 month and when it does, it won't last more than 4hours and its gone..

We have a minister who is from Oyo state and can't even manage just a ministry and want to govern a whole state.

The light is really giving me a concern, mostly this festive period that alot of expenses is there, you will still be thinking of powering generator with high rate of fuel to welcome visitors..

Uninterrupted 24/7

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DarkLover:

I'm sick and tired of being sick & tired of my definition of a perfect life, a perfect relationship, & an ideal partner.

I guessed I'm built differently, my views are most times different & otherworldly. My ideas about relationships are being forced into making me believe that it’s unreal and only achievable in a Utopia.

I want a perfect home, devoid of the world chaos & accepted follies. A perfect partner who understood the assignment without voicing a word. The one who will stand shoulder tall with the women of essence & class out there. The one who won't be allowed to be ridiculed or disrespected.

But in all these, I guess my wants are many, they feel like I’m an egotist & a narcissist— that I demanded too much or pushed them too hard. I know that I’m just a human with a weird definition of life. My aura kinda exposes their weaknesses and insecurities in their quest for perfection, and now, I’m alone.

My girl is still on here, though I left her alone and ignored her when she needed me. I know she would read this, and probably understand my plights & in-fightings. I know we all have our shortcomings, I know you really tried to match my pace, even when it was tough and demanding. I didn't mean to leave you in the cold, and I hope that you find peace.

I am sorry.

First of all, there is nothing gross about your needs. They are valid. Do not compromise on them or be complacent. Make it a point of call to jettison whatever or whomever does not align with this. Surround yourself with people who are on a similar journey with you and things that best align you to this vision.

Everything would take shape soonest.

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ShobayoEmma:
Perhaps travelling/motion sickness might have contributed to her demise inside the bus too.
The truth about life is to fear God, eat, be happy and make others happy.
There is no fulfilled life apart from this.

May her so Rest In Peace.




Tinubu, a bad man with good intentions

God bless you for this. My thought tilted towards motion sickness too. Some people hardly ever travel without falling ill. So imagine a sick person with that tendency...

We4all:
How much would have cost them to hire an ambulance? It is not a good idea to put a sick person on a commercial vehicle.

The cost implication, possibly.

wunmi590:
Good day nairalanders,

This is the little Christmas decoration I was able to do this year in anticipation of the birth of baby Jesus.

Show us your Christmas 🎄 decoration 😆🤣😂😹...

My 2 years old son has used that place as his spot, so that he can always change the light anyhow he likes 😆 🤣 😂


Merry Christmas 🎅 🎄 and a prosperous new year in advance

Merry Christmas to you and yours. Please keep an extra eye on your 2 year old so he doesn't try to "taste the electrical fixtures".

Chilipepper:
₦186k Contribution: Do These Food Items Really Measure Up

No!

mommaJ:
You still will be better if you dump that money in a mutual fund account and be reaping profits per annum. A 100M will still be getting you 20m per annum which real estate can NEVER give you.

About these mutual funds, ever heard money went missing there?

Also, which bank would you recommend?

This is the best investment. I personally do not fancy investing in real estate or land. Building a house and leasing is not a good idea because such a building is likely to deteriorate with time. Similarly land is also not a viable investment, in my opinion, because the level of appreciation may be disappointing in some cases and sometimes, when the need to sell arises, getting a good deal might take ages.


My go-to investments are mutual funds and gold.

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Dpsychologist:
In today’s relationship landscape, too many people argue about “body count” like it’s a moral scoreboard.
Wrong metric. Wrong debate. Wrong focus.

The real issue is pattern count, the behavioral blueprint that explains why someone accumulated that body count in the first place.

Let’s be clear and data-driven:

A high body count in a woman is rarely an accident.
It’s a pattern of decisions, and patterns reveal more than confessions ever will.

It signals:

1. A history of low sexual discipline
Multiple partners over a short timeline shows one thing, judgment compromised by her impulse.
A woman who says “it just happened” twelve times isn’t unlucky.
She’s undisciplined.

2. A track record of emotional volatility
Jumping from one man to another is often a coping mechanism.
Breakup → rebound → situationship → reset → repeat.
That’s not romance.
That’s instability disguised as “experiences.”

3. A pattern of allowing easy access
You can’t accumulate a long list of men without being easily available.
Availability is a decision, not destiny.

4. A long-term problem with accountability
Most high-count women blame “toxic exes,” “bad choices,” or “not knowing better.”
But the common denominator in every story is the storyteller.

5. A consistent inability to say no
If a woman cannot say no to men, impulses, attention, or temporary validation,
she will struggle to say yes to discipline, loyalty, and partnership.

See the pattern?

A high body count isn’t just a number.
It’s evidence, a trend line which shows consistent patter..
And in business, leadership, and relationships, trends predict outcomes.

You don’t evaluate a candidate by one mistake.
You evaluate them by their pattern of decisions.

Relationships are no different.

Men must start thinking with strategy, not sentiment.
Numbers don’t lie.
Patterns don’t lie.
History doesn’t lie.

If a woman has a consistent pattern of saying yes to multiple men, multiple situationships, multiple impulses…
You’re not the “one.”
You’re simply the next.

Choose wisely.
Not based on what she says now
but based on what her pattern already proved.
Cc nlfpmod seun

20 farmers could cultivate a farmland once. Similarly, 1 farmer could cultivate one farmland 100 times. Neither of them is food, but if you're to pick a side..?

Samantha125:
Brother has been blue ticked and he's now wailing...😂😂😂

He was expecting her reaction, but only received silence in return... The humbler got humbled, now he's here seeking validation with hopes of having his brutalized ego massaged...

Lol!

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Goodmarlian:
Some women are really insecure beings and don't like the truth. There is this female friend of mine who developed a sudden likeness towards piercing her body and fitting rings everywhere. She pierced her nose, pierced her ear with 3 holes, I didn't criticise her because it was still common among girls, but the last one she did was awkward I had to tell her it doesn't fit her

This girl has a protruding Tommy and went ahead to pierce he navel and fitted a belly ring and it doesn't look good on her because it fits only women with very flat tummy, she went ahead started making Dance videos on her WhatsApp which I know is to entice men.

She wore tight and a short top that was where I noticed she did a navel piercing. I told her straight up that it doesn't fit her ever since she stopped talking to me.

Google image used for illustration

Your sense of judgement is amusing. For some uncanny reason, you concluded that her piercings were to entice men. Seeing how you're so condescending towards your friend says alot about you.

zagorakis:
Until it is time to judge a woman by her past, y'all will start to echo past is past.
Very hypocritical.

Jeep your generic misogynism to yourself and ilk.

Yes, a one hundred year post can cost even your descendants their jobs. Digital footprints is not a joke.

fineboynl:
After church service. I went to market and bought some food items among them was cow meat which I believed. I put them in my boot and branch somewhere. Inside the hot sun the meat started smelling inside the car. I get to open my doors and boot for a while and close them back. When it was time to go home as I entered the car the odor get worsen. I couldn’t put on the air conditioner because when I wind up and put it on inside the car was selling already so I get to wind down and drive for several minute before I finally put it on.

OK on getting home the Meat already getting black. A red meat that I bought and I was just wondering if this is cow meat or something else because igbo people are not meant to be trusted at all. They are so dubious in anything they are Doing

The meat was not fresh from the market. It was laced with preservatives, putting it in the boot of your car only fast tracked the decomposing process...

justyhere:
Please I need your advice. I am getting married, my fiance asked me to borrow his sister my bone straight and a dress and I refused, is this not a red flag? His sister wanted to wear it for a wedding. He didn’t buy it for me. He’s now really upset and has refused to talk to me for 3 days now. Our wedding is in 4 months and I am contemplating getting out of such a relationship. Please advice

LOL! I hope you have your finances sorted, else if you marry this Princess, be prepared to wear borrowed clothes, likewise.

Mrdealer4all:
Due to my childhood traumatic life .
I have lost sense of belonging in the society.
All my mates are all married wuth kids.
I stay indoors everyday.
I only go out in the night.
I don't know if I have mental problem.
Nothing impress me in this life.
I feel irritated being in the midst of people.
I always want to be alone.
My life is mess up

Your life is not a mess and there is nothing wrong with you. Start with positive thinking and acclamation. Secondly, you know what you need to do to change the tone of things in your life. Start with making friends online and offline. One step at a time.

CreamyCoffee:
Do you miss this product in the market since procter and gamble left Nigeria ?

Yes, I miss this and the original Omo detergent.

God1000:
Hmmm, I'm glad the Man is speaking out


I fully Support his actions, that Sammy and Regina Daniels needs serious rehabilitation, the level of disrespect towards the senator is something I don't understand

How can you wake up one day and start demonizing your benefactor and expect sane people to support you

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It is likely because the "home" maybe be dirty from all the prior days' preparation, cluttered and/or may be filled with guests...