saintnegroid:
you are very correct but let me ask you.... Between the lady and the guy who is suppose to do the ordering?

Both parties are to order for their meals. A man should not order for a woman and vice versa. This is why it's important to choose a venue that suits your budget so cases of spending above your estimate will not suffice.

komzy589:

I’m not sure what it was but I know it wasn’t for you to come and eat.

Certainly, it has to be about holding hands and singing kumbayalo [sic]

Jaycee07:


Agreed. But here is the deal. The problem here wasn’t about spending the money. That has never been contested. You have a guest, and without premonitions from you, your guest forges ahead to order food in a restaurant before your presence without getting a nod of approval from you. It’s very telling about the kind of person you’re dealing with. She’s disrespectful and inconsiderate.And if you allow her to get away with that, it means you’ve tacitly approved that type of behavior.
I’ve had dealings with ladies from different races, it appears Nigerian girls and African American girls are the lowest in the rung when it comes to greed, immorality and entitlement mentality.
To be clear, I am not bashing anyone here, just being honest.

Please correct me if I'm wrong. When you settle in, in most restaurants, you beckon on the waiter or waitress to come. If you are not willing to order, why beckon on the waiting officer? In some cases, the waiter shows face unbeknownst. In this case, if you do not intend to order, you let him off. I have a thing for foreign movies and when people go on a date, I have never noticed the lady seeking permission before ordering. Its honestly, absurd to expect a lady to ask if she can order before doing that.

I still maintain this stance thus: if you are not willing to spend, a restaurant shouldn't be a venue for a date. Trust me, it is unnecessary, outdated, quite dogmatic and misogynistic to expect a lady to ask before ordering. It's like expecting a woman to ask her man if she could breathe. If you respect your date, such trivial issue should not be heard of.

komzy589:

Someone invites you to a place for a meeting and you start placing orders without his consent 🤷🏻‍♀️
I don’t know what you’re arguing here o.

Narrow down the meeting to intent or purpose, then you would understand.

frankputer:


Your gender is very funny.
Na so one want me to take her to a Resturant that I have never been before and on a first date.
So I fear for my life, because I don’t know how the bill will look like. She chooose the venue, then i foot the bill.
I told her capital No, I go to places I fully know to avoid high billing.
She got upset because she thought she have gotten a maga to feed her dinner.
She started ranting that she can afford it, and if she can afford it,I can too.
I was like huuu.
First date you pick venue for me and I pay unknown bill
With unknown menu/pricing.

Next time, you should choose the venue for your dates. If you do not intend to incur cost, take her to a park. Other than that, a lady needn't have to ask for permission before ordering. The world has evolved past that.

7demons:

Thank you. Unfortunately, most people here are "boys" who are just hustling to chop 3 square meal.

Absolutely spot on!

PDJT:


- It appears "ladies" in your family were raised to comfortably live in a man's pocket. If so, you and your sisters have been raised very badly and would attract little or no respect from men. Re-educate yourself, this is 21st century.

- Meanwhile, an actual lady should be able to comfortably pay her bills without whinging.

I would forgive you for your baseless conclusion. I understand it's coming from a place of ignorance.
Please at what point did the lady move her things into the man's house to feed off his pockets?

If you do not intend to spend on a woman on a date, take her to a park. I think that is decent enough.

Jaycee07:


Nigerian girl courtesy?? Courtesy requires that you patiently wait for your host to give you a nod before you proceed in ordering anything. It simply shows that you respect your host’s privacy and preferences.
The lady in question felt entitled. Most Nigerian girls have such mindset.
It wasn’t within her right to disrespect her host by ordering food without his consent.
I can’t possibly love a greedy and disrespectful lady.
Nigerian men have actually emboldened their ladies to act in such weird and disrespectful fashion.Maybe that explains why most of their girls see such as normal.

I understand your standpoint, but understand that a restaurant is not the only place you could take your date to. If you have no plan to spend, a park should be the most suitable place. If the lady overindulged, that would have been a different case entirely, but to seek for permission before ordering is a tad bit misogynistic.

krushdripper:
Glad I struck a nerve. I hope your razz impish entitlement mentality to a man's pocket leads you to your doom. Nonsense & old for nothing.

A nerve? LOL! You wish!!

krushdripper:
Courtesy demands that you get rid of your saggy, puffy face & put it in the waste bin. So because you imagine a man should buy food for you cos he invited you on a date, you would just come in & order without his consent? She should have brought courtesy with her to force the guy to pay.

I won't argue with a kid younger than my youngest sister on a faceless forum. I don't expect a razz imp, born and bred with little to no morality, possibly an educated illiterate, to understand where I am coming from. Run along now,boy.

PrettyRX:
Seems we're twins Have zero patience for drama so I love minding my business

Exactly, I would rather keep up with drama on social media than have it dished close to me. The negative energy isn't worth it.

lilyheaven:
I just drive to work, do my duties, enter mall, buy whatever I want, come back home.
Most times, I do online shopping.
if I’m chatting with you online and you like miscommunication, I will Leave you, I don’t have strength to argue.
If I come to nairaland , and meet these human beings that like insulting each other, as if they will win award on the “best online insultee. “. I don’t bother reading their post, I will just jump over.

I watch tv , play games and sleep.
I don’t like entertaining visitors, and I don’t like visiting anyone.

I haven’t looked for anyone problems neither has anyone looked for mine.

My male neighbor , keeps coming to my door to ask for what is not obtainable, can I have this, can I have that.
Then he said, can you follow me to my church for a service?
I said I’m not interested in going anywhere that won’t earn me money 😃
He said he just wants to see me out... but I’m comfortable , not complaining .
He seems nice, but I i don’t want unnecessary distractions and headache from human beings.

What you typed is my current reality and it is nostalgic. Trust me, loneliness is bliss. It can be overwhelming sometimes, but the chaos that comes with friendship isn't worth it. Loneliness, if well channelled, can fuel your creative side.

PastorOlokonla:
There is this case involving a a brother at a popular Pentecostal church, this brother was disciplined and suspended in the chuch, his crime was that he visited a lady alone at her home which was contrary to the church doctrine.

Now this man and the lady in question just completed a traditional wedding and bride price was paid the previous weekend.

The reason for the suspension being that the couple were yet to do the "white weedding" so technically, according to the church were not yet fully married after the trado.

My argument at the time was that, once a ceremony had been performed and the bride's parents had received the bride price, handed the lady over to the man, they are fully married and any other church wedding or ceremony should be regarded as mere formalities.

What do you think? Is the church justified in suspending the brother?

What about our parents who had no "white wedding", are we saying they are not fully married if we decide to side with the church?

White wedding is not our culture and it is deeply rooted in paganism. A couple becomes officially married once bride price has been paid.

ravensckar:
That's why I always laugh at people who see house as a solid investment.

By the time you calculate what you spent on it and the returns, you'll realize that the MATHEMATICS isn't "MATHING" ENOUGH.

Nonetheless, anyone who can afford it should build to avoid landlord wahala.

...Not forgetting that it is a longterm investment and in most cases, before the initial capital is realised, the property would have been damaged, requiring renovation.

Henry2405:
I met a woman from one of the popular market in ibadan she was complaining of an inability to browse on WhatsApp and I assisted her. We exchanged numbers and we started chating, I got to know that she was lonely because her husband was on a peace keeping mission in one of the African countries.

The total sex I had with this woman summed up is more than the sex I have had with my wife. She got pregnant and had a baby boy that I know vividly that is my son though she tactically pushed the pregnancy to her military husband that was around at that time.

We both agreed not to talk about the boy but several years past she called me to tell me that she has given her life to Christ and she plans to confess to her husband about the five years old boy.

Kindly advise me on the necessary steps to follow.

You didn't seek counsel before running a reckless maneuver with a married woman. Why should our counsel matter now? Actions beget consequences. If you can commit then you must remit.

Kingsempires:
Alexander the Great was the emperor of macedonia and also the greatest ruler in the 4th BCE.For the 12 years of his reign his did'nt loss a single war.before his early dead. Julius caesar was the founder of the roman empire that lasted for many centuries ,he was the inventor of calendar.he conquered many places in europe before his assination on mar 44 BCE.AS for those that studied history very well who do you think that is the greatest among this two person i called their name here?

Both leaders were great in their own way and style. Comparing with the aim of picking out the best would be hard until if you pen down the criteria to use. All I can add though is that Caesar played a major role in shaping the Roman empire.

Westchester:
Who do you think is at fault here

This is possibly staged. Courtesy demands that when you ask a lady out on a date, you foot the bills. If you are also not very buoyant, you take her to a restaurant that you can well afford.

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Stop being negative. You will be called.

Mummyfour:
yes. He makes videos too on Facebook. He said he used to fix nails then at Wuse market before he became what he was .

May his soul find peace.

lexy2014:


how is he a sensation by dressing like a woman?

I think the community who made him one is in a better position to answer this question.

Tokskob2008:
Too expensive. N100k goat will be much more than this in quantity and sweetness too.

Here in the North, with 100k, you would get 2 fairly sized for that price.

JaneYave:
Will the catfish stay in the stomach forever? If the answer is No, then the cost is over stated

...Only then would it be worth that price.

ERockson:
It doesn't worth 50k

Exactly. I would get more value from a 20k worth of Catfish than this.

Agbo19:
Yes u right

This is really sad. May his soul find peace.

Agbo19:
A dead body was seen this morning in Abuja around white house close to banex.

This is brutal. Looks like a tik tok sensation called area mama

Apparently, every Nigerian is a civil servant. Who advises this man?

Talismann:


when you finish all that, when you get children no buy pampers, use banana leaves, don't buy formula, give them garri, don't buy baby clothes, tie them wrapper, don't rent a bigger house, stay for self con with all the children, finally no take Dem go school, teach them your self for inside house.

You can't escape, the only way is to double or triple your hustle. As the naira loses value, you just gotta make more of it

I don't know how best to reply you. If you were thinking, you would have noticed I focused solely on the marriage ceremony solely. Instead of dropping all these innuendos, you simply should have asked me how couples can navigate life after the ceremony. Drink some water and stop sounding aggressive.

RuddyFusion:
I'm planning to resign from my full time role tomorrow Monday 5th of August....

This role pays me #300k net alongside data and other few allowances. But over the last couple of months more stuffs have been dump on my table without adequate compensation...

I have tried to have a conversation with the management to further review my take home to match the additional responsibilities but it's failing on deaf ears with no commitment to my request all I get is more work...

I have delayed this to accommodate the fears of friends and family but I do have another hustle that pays me in dollars that actually meets my needs so I'm thinking of leaving this Naira one to focus on that one and use my extra time to prepare for something better......

My resignation letter is ready and I will drop it after our weekly meeting tomorrow morning except a divine intervention stops me....

So my people do you have any words for me? I will that if any......

I know this may sound silly, but please do not resign. Is this job affecting your productivity on the other one? If no, please manage both jobs. The economy isn't smiling too well on employers. Moreso, having two sources supercedes one. You can set a two year target, save up all the funds from this job and invest the saved money or set up a business that aligns with your skills.

jaszplus12:

Plug all holes around you too....they love to take rent-free accomodation in holes!

You are right.

samwash:
Always fumigate your compound & around your environment every now and then, snakes wouldn't have business coming close to your compound.

There are species of snakes that can withstand fumigation. I think the best thing to do is to make the space unsuitable for the snakes. Clear all grasses, plant snake-repelling plants around and so on.

We4all:


Although, we are no longer in the same neighbourhood, I still see her occassionally. But trust me, I don't like interracting with her because her character puts me off and rubs on me negatively. How can a little girl be looking so sad and withdrawn? Ironically, her siblings are very lively, so I don't where she got that attitude from.

Hmmmm! Something is definitely wrong. I understand your stance on not wanting to pry. Whatever it is, I pray she outgrows it. In your own little way, try to put a smile on her face. You never call tell how much difference your acts of kindness can make.

We4all:


That encounter happened a couple of years ago. I am not so close to her parents though, and even if I were to raise the issue, they wouldn't see it as a big deal.

Pardon me for not checking the date. Are you still in the same neighbourhood. How is her temperament like, now?