officialwdhtv:
Can you translate this photo into words?

Can you be ready at 5 PM?

yeslollipop:


Loyalty N200 | Financial worth N400 | Hygiene N200 | Romantic N200

That is a good purchase

carojody:
My fellow Nlanders, Good evening to all. I will not bore you with long stories so I will get to it right away.

I got married to my wife about 6 months ago. We had a 3yrs dating though it was a long distance relationship. During the courting period I asked her all the pertinent questions and she answered maybe to suit me. We eventually got married.

A little of my own life story: I am an orphan, the last child in the family with 3 older siblings. Growing up was tough without the love of parents so it was hell of a tussle in the streets. Recorded lots of loses financially. Also lost the first love I ever had but life has to go on.

On her part, she is the first child in a family of 5 children. Both parents alive and young. Healthy and strong. She currently works with a bank.

We go married 6months ago, I told her things I desired most during our days of dating which was a caring person capable of love. And she told me she has that quality being the first child. We went ahead and got married.

After marriage I discovered a strange thing. She really do care, she shows love too but to her family. She acts like I don't even exist. She does not see me. Sometimes I get jealous the kind of love she bequeaths on her brothers. I provide every thing in the house even to her transportation to work, but I hardly knw when her salary drops. In fact she shares her salary to her family before it drops. She would go through my wardrobe and select my clothes she deems too tight for me and send to her brothers.

I can sspend 5 hours with her in the house and she will be on the phone giggling and gisting with her family. She cannot cook well no clean the house. Totally lacks "Respect". Instead of eating poison every time she cooks, I do most of the cooking myself.

She does not need my approval for anything she simply sends money to her siblings as she pleases and even quarrels with me for not giving her to send. Recently I discovered she paid her brothers school fee. And as I write she is asking me for her transportation to work this week and I noticed she just received her salary yesterday cos I overheard her on the phone.

Please this is not the life I prayed for. I'd have remained single that be in a marriage like this. Who has a good advice please. I beg of u fam, how do I navigate these waters.

Your marriage is still young. It can be likened to a fresh stick. Make the necessary adjustments now before you will start procreating. You see the man of the house, so do not fail to communicate your displeasure.



All the best!

blackpanthar:


It is weak to use what happens to others are a yardstick to limit your own life

But anyway it is also wise to know what works for you.

A GOOD wife is rare and only few ever find her.

Are you a good HUSBAND?

Have you met people who enjoy their marriages after many years? Before you concluded?


Please be balanced so you don't generalize.

If the part you have chosen suits you, then avoid sex and focus and may God give you grace to remain strong

This is a balanced reportage. Dwelling so much on the negatives won't do him alot of good. Choose the right partner and soul mate you won't have to worry about this.



If sexual chastity is a norm and is not to be broken, op won't keep this notion. When you milk the cow for free, you won't see the need to own it.

jumper524:
Wike is most likely playing dirty with those state actors who are hell bent in frustrating the growth of the FCT.
(Enemies from within)

Wike be like, you won't be diplomatic in sabotaging the FCT growth I also won't be diplomatic in making you run from the fight of the greater good.

Disclaimer: This is not reality but figment of my imagination. It could be very much true cos I'm from the FCT.

As crazy as your analogy sounds, I believe you.

ObalendeCMS:
Me, I put on white noise on my phone & voila I'm in dreamland!

I also have this app that plays different rain sound, I love the sound of rain on the roof.

What about you?

White noise
Castor oil
Honey
Cold water bath prior to any of these options mentioned earlier.

Christianoir:
It is weird, I don’t talk with my neighbour, we only greet nd hail each other that where it end, but I haven’t really have any meaningful conversation with them before and it bother me sometimes tho.. I’m mostly an introvert nd the shy type. Is something wrong with me, sometimes I want to speak to them, but me speaking to them will mean being friendly, which I’m avoiding, ever since I rented this compound I’ve avoided trouble. Nd I’m someone who cares about what people say or care about the opinion of others, things get to me easily tho

Do they see me as a proud/arrogant person.
I’m I weird. Is there people out there like me who have neighbors like me.

Im a student tho.

Please ignore my typo error.

You don't have to do too much. It is good that you exchange pleasantries with them. Don't over indulge else you would have to deal with contempt.

Gold

Those who bought gold worth 200k 2 years ago are now millionaires in assets.

How clueless can these people be? So subsidy was removed so 12 million Nigerians can be reduced to beggars? Why give us Fish when they can provide a pond/river for everyone to Fish on their own according to their needs?

JayPeeOham:


I must commend what you did up there...

You asked a question and you answered first, that's how it's done

Not those bunch of OPs that would ask a question then step aside for their "students" to answer for them

Thank you!

queenblossom:


1. Hygiene= N200 because I can't stand a dirty man.

2. Financial worth=N400

3. Faithfulness= N300

I still have change of #100 can I use it and buy height. I love men with height.

These are all I need in a man

LOLs! Good choice, babe.

noblechoco:

Financial worth + spirituality + faithfulness

That is a fair deal.

bewla:
without the rest will you still be faithful to him

Absolutely. Funny enough, the other factors left out can easily be attained by an intelligent man.

chris4gold:


Ogini😆😅🤣

Ehen now

jos4kay:


I have over mingled and done with mingling. Until today, I ve never seen a woman values intelligence above money. Maybe you grew up amongst boys, you are not thinking like a girl

Funny enough, I grew up amongst women. We are a product of our environment, association, exposure, experiences and the value systems we enmesh ourselves in.

BarrElChapo:


Wait, did i quote you in the first place ? Or are you the person behind the male moniker.. ohhh i see ride on.

..if you lay claims on a thread I created, even if not quoted directly, I would take that as an affront.

Johncuppa:

Intelligence=700, spirituality=300.
#1000 spent wisely.
Wisdom and power are the greatest treasures of life.
When they lead, it's a matter of time, every other thing will follow.

Beautiful!

metaluterus:


A perfect man will have NO PENIS

Wow! Care to expatiate?

Anashe:


IF I were to choose, it will be faithfulness and intelligence. The rest can be taught or learned.

Beautiful!

jos4kay:


Also speak for yourself, I have never knew a woman who values intelligence above money.

Maybe white women o but I m not used to them but Nigeria women money first

You are a rare womanhood to have score intelligence very high above money and sex

I would advise that you keep an open mind, mingle more, desensitise your mind from some of the gospel preached on nairaland about women. This way, you can be able to see certain virtues....

Advancedman:


Intelligence also can be negative.

I factored all of these options in the positive sense.

emmyluizzz:
why are all the ladies going for financial worth??

guys this is to tell you .without money no girl will love you genuinely..be wise

Not like a man's financial worth matters, but a sane lady would factor that in when choosing a partner. Just like men, no woman would consciously want to marry a liability without prospect. The assurance that a man can hold the forte solely assuming a woman's finances runs into deficit is reinvigorating.

BarrElChapo:


If look scroll down on FP, you’ll see a man first made a thread like this before you start your chauvinism

Slow your role! Did I not pay credence to the thread created earlier? I believe I stated succinctly that the motivation for this came from that. Take a deep breath, bruh. It is not that deep.

DrAda:
Finances, funny, romantic.

A good finance correlates well with intelligence, spirituality, looks, toned body and hygiene.

A great sense of humour is crucial particularly when we are going through a rough patch since dopamines are released etc.

Romance is the spice that ties it all up and correlates well with loyalty too.

Spot on!

900warriorz:
Faithfulness N300 (I no wan get hbp on time)
Spirituality N300 (E get why and if you no get money for this country and you no get praying partner to support, you are gone)
Hygeine N200 (I no fit dey follow bed bug and cockroaches drag who get house)
Looks N200 (Wanna be attarcted to you everyday, e also get why)

This is very realistic.

BigYash:
In real life,you will hear.. Tall,dark and rich..

Your pardon has been begged for. Please expatiate!

chris4gold:
Issokay

N100 own no dey, shey we fit price ham?

Prices are fixed, but you can wait for clearance sales 50 years from today.

jos4kay:
Why rate intelligence high, I thought all women want is money and sex

My advice to Men, just make money, everything else will follow

Please speak for yourself. A real woman would hardly ever pay attention to your money.

ddippset:
A very vital factor which you overlooked is sexual prowess.

I am sure I am speaking the mind of many ladies.

Maybe I was a bit self-centred then. We could add that to the list.

obinna58:
No woman on sight, men takeover let’s help them create their dream man


They want money, the thread is contradictory

Last time I checked, I'm a woman and I have seen some comments from my gender. Don't turn this into a gender war please.

D4gmail1:
Ojoro dey this one. For woman you carry ass and breast for 500 Naira,
FINANCIAL WORTH suppose be 500 or 600 Naira.

Also bring intelligence down to 300 Naira. Imagine intelliegence getting higher value than financial worth. What is the essence of your intelligence if it cannot fetch you money?

What is the difference between faithfulness and loyalty? Aren't we talking about the same thing here. Oga edit this nonsense wey you write.

I did this on purpose, bruh. I pinned intelligence at 700 to see women who value this virtue. I do not want intelligence to be picked because it is a convenient statistic, but because it is truly valued. If this thread thrives, another topic on the concept of intelligence would come up. Facts cited would come from this thread.

Beverlyjean:
Loyalty 200
Financial worth 400
Hygiene 200
Romantic 200

This is good!