₦airaland Forum

There lies the biggest scam ever. It means nothing when an increase in minimum wage doesn't cut across all sectors and this increase also comes with an increased inflation rate.

jmoore:
Is Goodluck Jonathan even aware of what's happening?
He neither confirms nor debunks.
All the PDP drama that has been going on, Jonathan chose to remain silent.

Sometimes, silence projects louder than "noise".

Sirchiboy:
At what age should a man be able to find his feet in life

When he is old enough. Could be 20, 30, 50... There is no rule of thumb to things like these, so we don't have to put ourselves under undue pressure.

Akalia:
you don't love that woman. Cut her loose. I and my wife waited for almost 2 years to welcome our first child and we had to wait for another 3 years to welcome our second child. In our case I had remedial infertility but through medical prescription and prayer my fertility was restored and my wife stood by me.

There are other medical means using cutting edge assisted conception that would work for you and your wife to make babies. You seem not to have interest in the marriage again though

You're a true and bona-fide man.

Onegai:
My brother, you don't know the value of marriage and are treating it like a transaction. So because you're not yet benefitting, you're ready to leave as quickly as possible.

One Doctor told you PCOS (which is very easily treatable but you didn't even wait one moment, you're looking to replace her.

You don't seem like you're capable of loving or putting anyone else above your wants. Which is unfortunately quite common and even celebrated in moral society nowadays.

If you have an accident and they tell your wifeyour recovery period will be over 1 year and she says she can't wait and dumps you and hopes you find another woman to care for you, you will be very angry and feel betrayed.

You won't be able to take what you dish out. Most people can't.

This isn't emotions talking, just cold ,calm facts.

My dear, the best thing that can happen to this man's victim is if he divorces her. He is from my place. Men from my place have a record of being terrible husbands. It is harder to pass a cow through a needle hole than to find a good husband from my state.

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Privateworld:
I did traditional marriage may 2024 and this month makes it two years now. My main issue is my wife hasnt put to bed and i dont have patience anymore. I want a child and i dont want to be disrespectful by having an affair while been in marriage. I want to return her bride price and look for someone else.

I need advice on the how to go about the process of returning bride price. She is a calabar girl and I'm from Adamawa .

Even though I'm from Adamawa state, I would not advise my enemies to marry men from Adamawa state. Guess your wife didn't do her due diligence on you. Please divorce that woman and save her from future misery. I am sure that even if she has bore you kids, another issue would keep your home ablaze.

meobizy:
I always see you people mention them like both are completely different. Following your opinions, I should court someone I want to end up with rather than dating. Is dating then a waste of time?

I know people who dated and married each other. Did they skip the stage of courtship?

You date people to check if you're compatible with them in every ramification. The aim of dating is to determine if you can settle with them or not. You court people if you have figured out that you are maritally compatible with them.




Dating is quite chaotic, but when you're courting someone, you already see them as your prospective partner so it is less chaotic and you may get their families involved with visits and calls, etc.

alyarmouk:
Why would you say he had no right to demand such for a house he is paying rent??
Maybe the attitude n manner of approach might be off but he had every right to electricity.
Maybe what he shldve discussed with the landlord was a way forward rather than "demanding"

We are both saying the same thing. The right line of action would have been a meeting on how to resolve the issue.

Fountainofyouth:
The landlord is depriving tenants of electricity yet you're saying he has no right, as far as they paid their rent in full, he is very much entitled to demand whatever he wishes.

You people will open your dirty mouth to insult your leaders if they didn't do the right thing, then expect your fellow citizens to kiss ass when it has to do with the common man.

Bold of you to come on here to spew bile under my comment. I will not bear the brunt of your ignorance, so please I would advise that you avoid my comments from now moving forward.

Goodman024:
Good evening, everyone. Hope y'all had a great day.
I have a question please. I just want to know if am the one not seeing this as I should or something.
So the thing is that my pregnant wife, currently in her 2nd trimester is making it look like I don't assist her enough even though I do help very often, even before she got pregnant. I don't see any big deal in it at all, I cook sometimes, do the whole house cleaning every now and then, and even help her wash her clothes sometimes. But I would say these days I haven't been helping out alot due to work schedule, not that I don't help at all, I still help whenever I can.
But in her own words, it's as if she wants me to do 80% of everything because of her condition. I didn't overreact or anything when she said it, but I was like what sort of talk is that.
I just want to know if she's right and I'm the one not seeing things as I should.
Kindly share your opinion pls.

The hormones are raging, please be patient with her. If you can afford to, please employ someone to help around the house. That would also afford you more rest, which I presume you need as the sole provider.

Stephen0mozzy:
Forget legal action jare. If ywant to stay in the house, just go and talk to him man to man.

That something is right, doesn't mean that the way we ask it is proper - you have said you "demanded", I hope you didn't use the same "attitude" that the word implied?

Anyways, while it's not right, landlords often see themselves as the Lord of the Land on which their house was built - this is a lesson, don't try to be a hero if you can't lead others to join you in doing compound thing.

If you even go to court, the landlord can say he gave you the quit notice because, having considered that the house not having light will be an inconvenience to you, he has decided to terminate your tenancy agreement so you can get a proper house that meets your demand.

Wisdom is always profitable to direct - Landlord wey hold beef with full street naim you think say intimidation by few tenants will faze? You guys could have asked for a general meeting with him and sweet talk him into paying the dues, even if it means contributing small small to assist.

Them nor dey scratch brokos the way e take itch.

God bless you!

Mistermoon:
Please, I need advice on what to do.
The community disconnected electricity supply to our compound because the landlord did not pay a community electrification due (money for transformer) that predates our tenancy and the landlord gave only me a quit notice with 30 days ultimatum because I was the only one brave enough to demand that he pays the due so that electricity can be restored to the house.

I want to take him up legally but I need guidance on how to go about it plus L do not personally know a lawyer.

You had no right to make such request of him. I take it that since this money was paid before your tenancy, you had zero contributions regarding that. A better approach would have been to approach him on the way forward and not ordering him around like your puppet.

menaxe:
Something happened in my house this evening that’s been bothering me, and I’d like your honest advice.

My wife went out for a girls hangout. When she came back, she didn’t notice I was in the parking lot watching.

She called the gateman over, brought out her leg, and told him to remove her shoe. He took off the first canvas shoe, then the second. She didn’t notice I was there.

After he removed the shoes, she told him to take them to the cobbler for repair.

I just watched and didn’t say anything at the time. It looked to me like she was overusing the gateman, and it didn’t sit right with me.

Later, I called her aside and told her what she did was wrong but she said she didn’t know it was wrong and didn’t see the issue. I asked her what she meant by “it’s not wrong,” and she just repeated that she didn’t know.

Now I’m confused. I don’t know if I’m overreacting, overstepping, or making too much of it.

Nairalanders, please tell me honestly — is this wrong, or am I out of line here?

Thank you.

Congratulations for setting your wife and your home up for the drags. I wonder what happened to having a peaceful dialogue with your partner at the right time, but no, you chose to bring it to a forum, where most of the contributors are toxic and misogynistic. I wonder why the affairs of a couple should be brought before third parties (no, 1 million parties).

If you do not turn a new leaf, I can assure you that your marriage won't survive the next 1 year.

Pinnup:
A man posted his NYSC discharged certificate online and asked Nigeria if he offended her that for more than 4 years post NYSC without a job., drawing people's attention and reactions to the post with many lamenting of being in the same situation.

Some even described him as a fresher with only 4 years when they themselves have not gotten a job 10-15 years post NYSC.

And I am among the people the unemployment is so affecting in the country. In my case, 5 years now since I finished school, no job. I have been running from pillar to post trying to survival with nothing to show as of today. Right now, I am completely unemployed with nothing to survive on because I lost the little contract job I was doing late last year due to downsizing. Even to eat now, is a big problem. Soap, cream, tooth paste all the very common basics things in life, absolutely everything I can't afford any right now. This is where unemployment put you and you begin to ask the same question the poster ask, "Nigeria, did I offend you?".

You can see the posts and reactions below.

The secret is not to remain redundant. Learn a skill and start off with that not so attractive job. Personally, I taught in a private school for about 4 years before my big break came. The small job facilitated the big break. So whatever is available can be a stepping stone to bigger offers.

Swizdoe:
I came across a post by a female Nlder saying if its a must that every relationship end up in marriage. I was even surprised that it was coming from a female.
IMO, why would you be in a relationship with someone when you don't see any future with him/her. Some are in a relationship so that they can belong, while away time, prove a point (e.g getting back at their ex) or for personal gains (which is called friend with benefits).
No matter how much magnitude a relationship has, as long as it lacks direction. Its just a waste of time, energy and probably money on the part of both parties involved.
But that's just my own opinion and not the opinion of many. So do you think every relationship should end up in marriage or not

I think you should blame this mentality on the Gen-Z fever and mindset... and yes, you are right. Every relationship should have one end game, which should be marriage. The relationship can be aborted if both parties are not compatible.

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kingreign:
Lol I can relate too, lets exchange contact. If you don't mind.

Sure, you can pen yours down.

kingreign:
I dunno o.

Hey! My love, it's been a decade no see. Hope you're good?

Hi love! I'm good, you? Long decade indeed. Alot on my plate and also maybe because being here feels like a 12 month old baby fitting into a 2 month old pants.

brain54:
I look at parenting and what it has become nowadays...

And worst- where it is headed, It's like a void.

It's sad but most parents need parenting themselves!

Nobody is talking about this. If this trend tarries, it means we are done for and so is the next generation.

Jakarta:
I was at a family meeting last week, my aunt's ex was threatening his son, that he will break his leg or his arm whenever he visits the village.

That the boy is not giving him money, he is not using him as an agent either in yahoo or when he bought a land recently. Can you believe this boy is just 17 years old, and dropped out of secondary school 2 years ago. How I wish family allow me that day, I be wan give the man serious beating.

You should not be surprised. Fraud is the order of the day. Everyone seems to be involved in it.

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Stephen0mozzy:
I was watching a video on YouTube by one wise Nigerian, and he maid one quote



Come to think of the moral decadence of the kids and young adults today, is it really far from the truth? Teens these days do not even have a sense of responsibility or consequence - they have zero respect for authority.

Whe we were growing up, it was not like this with us, there used to be a saying then that "na one person dey born pikin, but na the whole community dey train am" - but these days, you can't even correct a child before their parents rain on you like hawks.

Where did we get it wrong? What can we do to remedy the situation, or atleast the nezt generation?

Share your thoughts.

Are these not pressing issues?

Yes, the society has lost its salt on discipline, priorities have shifted and our morals have gone to the wind. I came across a video on social media. Girls of less than 15 years, who should be well covered and decent, were seen twerking during an inter-house sports. Not only that, an innocent man was their victim because they harassed him with their seductive dance.


We truly have lost it as a country. I'm grateful to God for my experience in teaching. This would come in handy when I have my kids. We may raise them in isolation and home-school them until we have imbued in them core values. Isolation has its own downside, but I would rather deal with that than initiation.

kingreign:

Na wa o!
You just murdered a wild nocturnal cat and ate it just like that?

Like, do people eat Cats?

adamkkk:
I have this friend that got married on time. It was because the woman was pregnant as at the time and the guy was still in school(200level). So he dropped out of school to become a full time husband. That was the excuse he gave back then.

The woman got him the first child and then the second. My friend was living minimal to support the woman, he even rented a shop for her and spent so much on her(I don't want to talk too much).

One day another married man far older than my friend, approached him and advised him to tell his wife to stay away from his family. Apparently, the woman was dating the other man and when the other man decided not to continue the relationship anymore, the woman(my friend's wife) started threatening him and his wife and was acting jealous. It was that same period that it became known that the woman was dating other men and has been promiscuous for years even though they were not helping her with money. It was devastating.


My friend gave alot to that marriage and just like that, he was betrayed. So after everyday quarrel, she left the house.

It been like over 8 months now and my friend has moved on, i assumed so because he was with another girl that nearly caused issues between us


All of a sudden, he wanted the wife back. I advised her against the idea, but she was bent on doing just that. Some people were telling him to take her back like that. The matter tire me sef. So whenever the discussion came up, i would jejely avoid contributing to the talk.


So to the shock of everyone, he brought her and her load back. I don't want to say what on my mind and what am suspecting and at the same time, i could be wrong.


What do you make of the situation and is there a probable expectations in the future ?

Please let me know.

You are the proverbial third party. Why not mind your business? Your friend is not a child. He has made his choice and the consequence(s) would be solely his to deal with.

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Mariangeles:
For those of you shouting water water water! Oya ooO! 🙄

How many sachets/bottles of water do you consume throughout the day, in this hot weather? 🥵

3 litres on my least active days, 1 litre more on active days. The fear of kidney regeneration fuels this move.

Natbrowny:
I relocated from Northern Nigeria after many years.

Best decision of my life

Same thing has happened and still happening in UNIMAID, UDUS. and in Kebbi.

Media no send una.

Nowhere is safe, my brother. You may have escaped certain impunities here in the North, but there are bigger fish to fry over there. You don't solve a problem by distancing yourself from it, but by removing the system that fuels it...

Olagrace1:
Oh happy you're fine now

Thank you! Are you experiencing same?

Olagrace1:
Please what did you used?

Are you experiencing same? So sorry about that. It turned out not to be peptic ulcer. I had an injury on my chest due to severe coughing (covid). Hence why I coughed blood at some point.

Olagrace1:
How are you feeling now pls

Oh dear! I am very well and great now, thank you for asking.

Host78:
Personally, I'd say no.

Yes, the sales boy maybe acting on the fiance instructions, but honestly he's supposed to also use his head.

As a guy, you give her the money and if oga comes, you tell him. If him shout or becomes angry, you call the woman tell her incase of next time.

Also, I honestly don't think that oga/sales boy relationship is ordinary or the man no rate the wife to be at all.

What would be your reaction if this lady was your sister?

You should have "protected" Your dignity by not fighting. Having your own money is the best protection you can boast of.

Op, you mean you and this reptile played hide and seek for months and you lived in that same house? That is strange and a risky thing to do.

Next time you suspect having a snake or even see one, buy aidan fruit (uyayak fruit) and burn it inside your house. Let the smoke and smell fill up the entire house. The snake would be forced to run away. Do not use bitter kola as that pins the snake to the spot.

ceejay80s:
All of U telling him to move out,
Do U think it's that easy?
What if after moving to another location and same thing happens, then he will keep moving out, how much go come remain in his account?
Let me tell U a true life story.....
My sister came back from Europe few year back and was staying with elder sister and her husband, just because they told her of how armed robbers came to that street , the following day she packed her belongings and left the place out of fear and moved in with my aunt and another area,
Do U know that the day she moved in to my aunt's place was the day that compound was robbed?
Op doesn't need to be afraid of any body as long as U are not doing anything wrong or committing any crime , noting will happen,
Dem go talk and rest,
Even my area yahoo boys plenty and they are still there

That your aunty encountered something bad upon moving houses doesn't mean everyone would. If you read my comment to the end, you would have noticed that I didn't just suggest that he moves houses but also what to look out for in the prospective new location. If he remains there, chances are that he may fall into problems with the EFCC. Even when he has proven his innocence, the trauma might do him dirty.


The choice is ultimately in op's hands.