We4all:
I'm someone who gets along great with kids, (especially those in my former neighborhood). There is this particular family whose kids always come around, and they have a 2 year old who happens to be one of my favourites.

When she is around with her older siblings, I play with her and she lets me hold her. In fact, we get along great! Last week, they were at my place, and her older sibling volunteered to run an errand for me. The 2 year old wanted to go with her, but I objected.

That was my undoing! As soon as the sister stepped out, the kid became furious with me, and wouldn't let me touch her. When I tried, she kept screaming that I should leave her alone. I held her hands and tried talking to her, but she wriggled out of my grip. I must confess that I was amazed at her strength, which was like a 10 year old.

Hours passed, and I thought her anger had died. I made an attempt to touch her, but she kept screaming: "Leave me alone". They eventually left and I forgot about it.

A week passed and they came by yesterday, but to my greatest shock, she was still mad at me. All my efforts to bond with her was met with a stiff resistance, and she kept saying: " Leave me alone". I asked the sister what she thinks of her behavior, and she said the kid gets angry easily at home and her anger can last for days.

That revelation didn't go down well with me, and I have been pondering what on earth would make a kid act that way? Gone are those days when kids are usually sweet and innocent. No matter how much you discipline them, they still warm up to you.

I guess a lot is going on and the change has also affected our kids. If a little kid is overly sensitive in her ways, then what should be expected of an adult?

At first, I was intrigued by your submission. I teach children and I understand that they can be naughty. What I do not understand however,is a child holding on to a grudge for days. It is not healthy. It points to either childhood trauma or early signs of aggression/hot temper. How well do you connect with this child's parents? Raise this observation with them.

Afodot0022:
Good day my lovely people, it always good to share life with you people here. Pls I need to ask, what is the advantage and disadvantage of living together with your girlfriend under the same roof. My girlfriend had an accommodations problem, her friend they stay together kick her out for no just reason, she wanted to get an apartment and the money she was ask to bring was quite much 250k, I convinced her to come stay with me and save that money for other things, initially she opposed but later agreed to come stay.
My reasons for her staying are there..
1... I want to get to know her better cos I believe when you live with someone in the same space, that's when you get to know them better, I was once married and have learnt a lot on how ladies pretend in dating but show their true color in marriage, atleast I want to know her well before making another serious commitment of marriage.
2... She works and earn a decent salary which I think will be an added advantage for me by her supporting by we both sharing bills together, it will lessen by burden. Though I haven't discussed this with her yet but hope to soon cos I can't let her depend solely one me while she works.
3.... Ever since I separated from my wife, it's not been easy living alone as a man, the cooking ,washing ,cleaning and loneliness has not been easy, so we living together will atleast help me in these area.
To be candid, the girl is a good girl and I was the one that disvirgin her, she is submissive and respect me, but you know you can really say of a person character until you live with them.

Now my question is to those that have been in this situation of living together with a girlfriend you are yet to marry, how did this affect the relationship afterwards. Pls share your experience be it negative or positive, I really want to learn from others to see if I can proceed on this or just abort mission by not allowing her to stay any longer. Do you think it make sense I share bills with her or I should should all financial responsibility even though am not capable of that now.. pls help me to navigate this scenario

A couple cohabiting offers a number of benefit. One of such benefit is the fact that you you get to understand your partner better. If he or she is faking initially, cohabiting would bring to light their schemes. It is also a useful tool is testing compatibility, especially if this period is invested in thoughtful discourse and not just coitus.

However, I would strongly proscribe to this. A wise man once posited that if you can milk the cow for free, you may not see the need in buying the cow. Same analogy can be applied here. Cohabiting with your partner may delay the process of marriage. The man, most especially, may not see the need in doing the needful. If care is not taken, the process of being a baby mama/baby papa may be initialized further putting the couple in a state of rigmarole.

If I had a say, I would prescribe that she puts up with you for the time being, but with house hunting in view. She works and earns well, thus she can be able spare some cash for rent.

I am also bothered about the needs you highlighted. I'm talking about the cooking, cleaning et al. Is that why you want her around or you truly seek genuine companionship. Are you with this lady because of the potential benefits you stand to gain from her. Are you a user? Are you trying to milk the cow without acquiring it? If you so much desire companionship and she is a good woman, why not start off the marriage process?


All the best!

pingpong1:
Not sure it leaked per se. What I know is that it is normally given to the press in advance and clearly marked NOT TO BE BROADCAST BEDORE 7AM 4TH AUGUST 2024. Trust Sahara Reporters not to comply.

You are right, but the submission is not intended to be made public until the speech has been delivered. So tagging it a leaked document is not far from the truth.

Pacesetter123:

Ask him.Even if a woman is working and earning money legally, will she use her money to go and marry a man for herself?

Exactly!

numericalguy:


Since when has it been a taboo for women to also work and earn money legally

Is that the bone of contention here?


Assuming it just so happens to be the topic of discourse, don't you know that man is generic. That is, it is used to refer to both male and female? Thus what I have up there cuts across both gender.

numericalguy:


Since when has it been a taboo for women to also work and earn money legally

Is that the bone of contention here?

MrCork:



U sound like wifey material...u muss be half cast or lightskin¡!

Halfcast- No!

jaszplus12:

Sincerely I don't agree with you on this. Give him another chance? No please.
He doesn't deserve the woman, he should live by himself and never bother any decent female. These guys are never repentant, I've a case currently with about the same situation and the hell the lady is going through breaks my heart!
Please marriage should never be a war zone or a ground zero!
Second chances can be given when there are no extreme cases of strife!!

You are equally right in your own sphere and I can't help but to agree more. Cheers!

RoyalBlu:


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You got it!

RoyalBlu:


I'm not disputing the fact you just stated.

What she wrote on her placard literally means she's been looking for a husband for a long while now due to bad governance.

That's a bit of a stretch. Don't you think so?

I honestly didn't see it from that light. You may be right. Pota(y)to Pota(h)to

RoyalBlu:


No correlation with the task at hand abeg.

Na government dey give people husband now Shuo.

Objectivity is key!

It takes a man who has attained financial stability (a feat that this harsh economy has made herculean) to consider settling down. When your salary can barely keep your head above water as a Bachelor, marriage won't even come to mind.

Sunnyrado:
Hmmm, this is so pathetic and am sorry about your predicament.. sorry to say, that man is a wolf In a sheep skin.. na why e good to dey enquiry about anything and anything you want to delve in to.. prayerfully, but once una don like una sef don love don blindfold una be that.. .Madam my advice for you..put one leg I. And one leg out since there's more trust there again and marriage is not supposed to be like that. A man suppose to treat his wife like his mother or his sister.. anyways it's well.. but you are a good woman. According to your story o, I pray to find a loving caring and a submissive woman someday...Shalom

He is likely one of such men who cannot bear to have strong independent women as wives. Hence the persistence that she quits her job and even after that, the torture (aimed at breaking her into subservience).

I'm so sorry about this predicament, ma'am. Can I advise that you give him another chance? However, be on guard. Channel all this resentment you feel for him into getting another job. I believe this would be a game changer for you.

All the best!

press9jatv:
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You have spoken well.

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tsnoop:


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I know it's brand new, hence the offer. 60k is what I'm willing to part with. I'm not in Lagos,which is why I'm suggesting escrow.

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I'm willing to pay 60k, we use escrow. Deal?

Exceptional300:
Remember this thread?
https://www.nairaland.com/8130045/pcos-should-tell-parents-it
So I have an update about this issue! Long story short, she is pregnant but she wants to take it out! She said she isn’t ready for any pregnancy right now. Even when I told her I want to go see her family then we can do a courthouse wedding afterwards, she is very adamant on removing the pregnancy. She said she isn’t ready to be pregnant and she wants to be legally Married and pregnant through the right process.
I am thinking of breaking up with her if she goes through with her plan!
NB: I have also not involved my family in this matter

This issue has been stretched for far too long. I believe you know the line of action to take. We, your nairaland in-laws should be seen as third parties and you know third party opinion is not really needed in marriage.

Floky215:


If to say you get prick you won't write what you just wrote now...!!!

You know nothing about man and been a man....so I advise you just keep quiet when it comes to how man handle their things...!!

The nerve of you defining what I should or should not contribute to. Social media sure has a way empowering imps. Didn't your parents teach you courtesy? Like, don't you know how to drive home a point without being rude?

StillDtruth:


See how you women are. You never say the most important one only this same useless advice which has never worked since Eve fuqd.satan.

Why don't you tell him that it he fell for his wife's friend because she enticed and sex induced him?

And the evil thing is that his wife knows but you women never tell.

But when the act is done it is then you come out saying all the rubbish you say whereas, you never told your husband that 98% of the time it is you women who chased him by setting him up to do the chasing.

What makes a man a true man is not the presence of a third leg, but the ability to define/maintain boundaries. A real man may cheat, but he knows best to sow these wild seeds far from home.

mmadu4:
Guys , how are you all doing today ,

I want to share something that happened to me last 2 weeks. I woke up last 2 weeks Sunday, Checked my phone and saw 2 alerts of Pos withdrawal in my mind i was thinking it was an old transaction i did and the alert came late, loo and behold a 3rd alert came in 25k withdrawal i quickly checked my bank app and realize my 55k total has gone out of my account from 164k . i panicked immediately and it dawn on me that my verse card have been compromised and instantly wore my dress to head out to the nearest Pos so i can take out all the remaining money before they empty my account. omo on my way i start receiving more and more alerts 10 k 12k 7k, I accelerate my car like someone that was being chased, by the time i got to Pos my account its left with 47k on it. I withdraw it immediately emptied the account, i told the pos agent what happened she said 3 of her customers have complained about the same thing and i should report to my bank . i ran into my car to call my bank , as luck would have it , i got alert checked it, an amount of 250k has been credited into my account from a random Pos stella David, Without hesitation I forwarded the money into my moms account . 250k, I was constantly refreshing my acc bank to see that it started showing negative withdrawal . i called my bank told them what happened i provided my details for verification after that , they blocked both the card and the account, End of the story , they stole my money and realized i emptied the acc, so they sent 250k possibly from a victims acc , with the intention to quickly take it out , but i did it before them, God , Guys please be careful how and where you used your card,

these types of crimes are on the high raise now, i always do transfer for any transaction hence forth

I'm sorry for your ordeal, but I think you are in trouble. That 250k deposited into your account makes you an accomplice. As painful as this may sound, you need to report that transaction.

DarkCaesar:

That was why I only sniffed it but didn’t eat as it wasn’t edible

What you did counts as cheating.

DarkCaesar:
https://www.nairaland.com/7979317/how-cancel-appointment-peacefully/1


It’s only right I update you guys about how our meeting went…..She came over as we both planned and we did some foreplays which I intentionally stopped. She wanted me inside of her but I stopped because her uncladness doesn’t appeal to me as much as they were while covered in clothes.
Things went on fine between us after then as we still maintain our usual fronts but recently my wife had an issue with her which is not in anyway related to me and this issue has caused them to drift apart and not as close as before after they settled it. I don’t talk to her no more and she doesn’t use that to react as well.

You crossed the line when you towed the path of being intimate with your wife's friend. That shows that you have zero regard for your wife and your family by extension. If her naked body appealed to you, I bet you would have hit third base.

I won't commend you for exercising self-control because you lack it. My advise is that you should learn to develope restrain and respect your family. Don't let what you see affect how you think.

descarado:

Is that your final answer?

Sometimes it's good to put the records straight for misinformation

I just aired mine. You can do likewise, especially if your thought does not align with mine.

descarado:

No sane argument about weight management through eating healthy food.
The problem is knowing the right food to eat.
We as a nation dont know Jack about healthy and balanced diet.

Speak for yourself!

1Sharon:


Weight loss is 80% diet control😄

Isn't that common knowledge? But do you know that this journey takes a while? Takes longer if the person in question is old? Do you also know that there are health challenges that can put an end to one's life in weeks? If weightloss through diet control can take 3 months and sudden death due to obesity is imminent in a month, would you advise your patient to tow the path of dieting? The quickest solution would be proferred as was done in this case. It's just unfortunate that it cost him his life.


Let me also burst your bubbles further... There are medical conditions that would set one's body on a fat gaining spree so much so that diet control and intermittent fasting won't give any results. Such people are advised to tow this path to correct this condition and set the body right.


Finally, let me correct you by saying weight loss is 80 percent diet ONLY IF the person's hormones are in check. Other than that, even a strict vegetarian would be obesed.

SadiqBabaSani:
Oh my, maybe complicated surgery. He could just have gone for fat removal instead of this.

Anyways I cannot know more than him. May his soul RIP

Fat removal is far more risky than a bypass.

LoveJesus87:
Hit the gym and stop eating trash, simple!!!

I'm certain his doctor prescribed the surgery as a salvation and panacea to his full recovery. Some conditions might require one to stay away from strenuous exercise. Haven't you heard of people who die while exercising? His weight was a challenge. He was not fit to lose it naturally and had to undergo that surgery.
May his soul find rest.

I know someone who had to marry her late sister's husband for the sake of her sister's children. You should have seeked for consent from your clan before being intimate with her, however. If you present this case, it would look like an abomination because she is already pregnant. Anyway, good luck!

Dexy4yah:
So irritating if you ask me...

It is disgusting, to say the least.

atoliman:


Date any age you want to date as long the age gap is reasonable. For example, 25 year old woman dating a 33 year old man is descent

This is a good formula. However, the dynamics need to change once a lady is in her 30s. An 8 year gap may not he feasible because most men within that age bracket are not available.

I would profer that people date with wisdom bearing in mind age and other factors.

atoliman:
I will seriously advise any lady who think she is getting old to wait and marry the right person. Do not marry your enemy because you are getting old or family is pressuring you. Na you go chop the beating from my husband or collect STD, if you marry an abusive guy or a womanizer. na only sorry you go hear or endure dear.

If you are above 35 years old, and you cannot find husband. Work on yourself, work out and please socialize,. You can dress descent and the right man will find you. Do not have unrealistic expectation and do not have unrealistic standard, no one earns 800 million naira in a month with 2 jets and 2 houses in Ikoyi, with one mansion in Dubai.

Except you want to marry the Saudi Crown Prince. So please, have reasonable realistic standards and reasonable expectations. Show respect to men and respectable man will find you.

Dating is not hard, find the right person take time.

Need I also add that do not commit morethan 5 years to a relationship without direction. If your partner is not looking to move things to the next level, please leave!