ahnie:
I have this beautiful chubby neighbor that's from my husband extraction (Igbo)
Babe is hard working, business oriented and an avid hustler.

But she's dating a chubby fuvk boy,a failed yahoo lazy lout that even in the next 50yrs I do not see him ever picking.

He's killing and bringing down my neighbors business and sucking her dry and she doesn't seemed to noticed.

She's always crying of bn broke everytime....and it's damn pissing me off like fvck.

On his birthday she baked cakes for him,printed his name on mugs, towels, got him clothes and even travelled to visit him,left her business and stayed days with him before coming back.

It's irking me because he's a bad market and to me he doesn't have a bright future,he's not working,he has no handiwork and no skills
He's just a rotund whale sucking her youthfulness and finances.

Let's assume he has a skill or he's learning a trade it's another thing, at least we would all assume that he's productive and her supporting him wouldn't be futile,but this one.... nothing nothing.

On her birthday he didn't even posted her pictures or got her a pin,he said he doesn't have data...just negodu the nonsense and he still demanded money from her....to me the guy is just miserably useless.

He's now proposing marriage to her,and he visited her some days ago na she use her money run everything from feeding down to blood test.

I have not met him before,but immediately I saw him....my spirit no conform with his at all...he's not only a liability,but also a robust reaper.

Now my neighbor is asking me what I think of him.....I told her outrightly that I don't like him,that he's going to be a liability to her in the future....person nor fit take care of her as girlfriend,how e go take care of her as wife.....I m one hundred percent sure,she's the one that's going to pay her prideprice, pay for the wedding and feed herself.

She's trying to convince me to like him....but this isoko woman ain't capping that shiit.

I just detest fvck lazy boiz.

Wetin b your own?mind your business.onyochi

ghiloman28:
Immediately after the emergence of Buhari, Tinubu has been preparing to be the next president. He his prepared and has all it takes to be a good president and he will fulfil his promises that I know for sure.

Asiwaju omo oloode de he is a man of his words.

VOTE ASIWAJU BOLA AHMED TINUBU for a prosperous Nigeria.

werey suffer don build house for your body so I no blame you.

NaijaMutant:


I hate Peter Obi with passion because he lies.

I prefer a thief, looter, drug addict, drug baron, age falsifier, oluwole academic records, agbero mentor.
Drugified can steal all he wants, we don't care! Whether he's brain dead or not, we don't care!
Whether he's educated or not we don't care!
Whether he shits and pisses on his pant, we don't care!
Whether he converts our children and children's children to agberos, we don't care!
Even if he's carried on a stretcher to be sworn in and flown to the UK immediately, we don't care!

As long as Peter Obi lies, we prefer the worse of humans to lead us because we love Nigeria.

You are batified.
You are drugified!!!
You can't shame the shameless.

God abeg o

i no kuku blame you suffer don build house for your body illiterate being.

Chopchopfine:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kLd679cJPo8

I no even understand Wetin dey make una happy about the independence.

deltateam:


Can you remember what you told op in this thread below;

https://www.nairaland.com/3128811/why-should-stay-away-mmm

Check page 1, he advised people to stay away from MMM but you told him to "Stop saying rubbish."

so what are you trying to say?

duduade:
At what age are you carrying all these responsibilities


You will just die... before your time

Even us that are looking for responsible girls to choke us with responsibilities, we can't fall for this kain trap.

Tufiakwa

Wise up Bro from your maga-ness

thanks bro.,thank you all for your advice.,I really appreciate.

cayorday89:
Since you don't want to be insulted I will try my best not to but kudos to your girl because it's not easy getting someone there is a different between someone getting a man that has the money and getting a man who foolishly spends money, your babe got the latter in you.

As it is now, you have tried but she is ungrateful and inconsiderate, the best for you is to count your loss and move on or else you will finally confirm it yourself what you are and beg for the insult.

Thanks bro

kepstone:
This story really touched me ... Because I was in the very exact shoes this OP is in right now and it ended in tears, loss, wreckage and financial set back. In the end I discovered that this my ex got pregnant for another and now they are married, probably because she felt he has more money than I. She left me at the point I lost everything and began to show me attitudes and even added insult to it. This girl my ex insulted life out if me and even gave me a wound scar that's an everlasting Mark on my hand. Anytime I see that scar it reminds me if the ordeal I went through with this girl in the name of love.
I had to let go when I realized this girl does not love me and never loved me, she only came for the money and when it was gone she bailed out on me.
I can emphatically tell you her family drained me,I lost 2.4m because of this girl, she got married to a guy with Benz and was mocking me, the guy she was secretly seeing while we were already in premarital counseling about to marry. That girl caused me pained, emotional torture I had to go back to class room to start teaching while praying to God for a better job. From a guy that had over 2.4m in his account to a guy who was struggling with 18k teaching salary and sometimes we were not even paid.i became very emaciated also thought of ending it all. But God in his Mercy had a better plans for me. I moved on and let her be, her mum supported her in all her actions towards me. I keep laughing at the current husband because he doesn't know who he married, she he losses his money that's when the demon in her will show.
I have a standard now... If it's money that will keep her she doesn't worth my time and stress I let go of leeches till I find my own, I have not at the moment but I know very soon I will do so.
Bro just move in let her be she will wreck you. When a woman doesn't love you she wrecks you.

✍️

Damn sorry bro..,this one touched me big time…i learned a great lesson in this..,May GOD be with you and help you bro..it’s well..,Chai.

Yusufisraelj:
@Juliusmartin01

My brother, end this kind of relationship, it's just overly parasitic, and the lady I should presume opportunistic at the moment.

Going forward, remain single for like six months to heal from this, block her everywhere. Like someone said, focus on you at the moment. Guy relationship requires money, even healthy ones, you want to spend to that money with a reasonable girl.

Guy look for lady way ready to make things work and live within her means. Why carry wahala?

Thanks very much bro.

Bsharp:
I rarely comment on threads but I'd comment on this and I'd make my response as simple as possible.

OP, you have to first love yourself and understand the value of peace of mind. ANYONE (it doesn't matter who the person is to you) that doesn't give you peace should be cut off from your life as soon as possible. When you understand this principle of life, you would realise that there are some kind of women you should never tolerate.

From all you have said on this thread, it is obvious that that girl does not love you and doesn't belong in your life but my guess is you guys have already engaged in sex a number of times so that is hindering your ability to see things clearly.

There are no two ways to this, you have to let that girl go if you want to have a peaceful future. Next you need to set standards when choosing a woman. Look at her family, engage her in conversations and gauge her mental wavelength before you decide to have a commited relationship with her. Don't let your emotions take over when assessing a woman. I'm sure if you had done this, you wouldn't have fallen into the mess you currently find yourself in.

I wish you all the best.

thanks very much bro

ObinaaDubai:


Or drop ur digit let me message u

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ObinaaDubai:



Okay I will give you a very good advice..

That lady does not love you at all, in fact she's using you as an ATM machine, both her bro, mom and her see you as an ATM.

If someone richer than you comes for her hand in marriage,the speed way she go use leave ehn, u sef u go shock....

Broda man breakup with that girl block her everywhere.. Cause she will drain you totally...

But if you say love Don blind ur eyes ride on...

Cause that's not love,someone who does not care about ur future, wants you to spend all u make on her and her family.... I am very sure she hardly gets you any gifts...

Only thing I can say she gives you is sex,and now sex is very cheap ...sometimes most men confuse sex to be love...and this tends to block ur reasoning....

She does not love you...

If possible send me a mail let me talk to you personally on phone cause e dey pain me say you dey go down

thanks very much brother may God uplift you..,please how can I send you a mail?am new to this nairaland something.

Impostorr:
I feel very irritated reading through this. You are allowing someone you're footing her bills to be controlling you like this all in the name of being in love?

Nah! Grow up man
Never you invest in a woman in a bid to marry her. I most cases, it doesn't end well.

Channel your energy in developing and improving yourself. You're obviously getting attached to a leech. Dump her sorry ass and move on.

Thanks so much brother.

Baronthecelebri:
Nawa, that girl does not love you. But her brother is stupid, to be begging you for money. Guy leave that girl, that's why her step mom is fighting her mom.

Thanks for the advice bro..you’re blessed taking steps already.

Sucre6:


Be like u no get sense, ghost all of them, ain't u man

Which kind weak sisi be this

Tell her mom that u don't want anything to do with them no more, that her daughter has found another mugu, u ain't doing again, continue doing much charity

If you want to spend money, send it to your parents, they will appreciate and pray for you, don ever give your mumu girlfriend and her family shishi again. , use your sense

Thanks soo much bro!

Temmylee01:
oga from this morning no pick her calls, nd don't even think of calling her except you be natural born mugu.
And if she calls back no pick, I'm sure she won't take you serious but after two or three days believe me she start pressuring u cuz she go don see say the matter don dey become reality, my guy no fall ooh.
Stand your feet if her call and messages plenty block her.
Make sure say nah night u go dey come back house so as to avoid seeing her.
Ire oooh

her mom will always want to come through for her and beg me..,I really don’t know how to go about this part.

Temmylee01:
Juliusmartin01 hafa, you don serve her the breakfast yet

well her attitude this day’s seems like she wanna serve me the breakfast already.lol

Juliusmartin01:
sincerely I have already locked u.,I almost have high bp when I was thinking about it yesterday.,because what I’ve being doing..,Stopped me for even doing much for my parents.,I feel like a fool!.

”locked up”

peedeeasobie:



You know you just told a lie. You are not letting go. In fact, you can't let go... you will still chat her up, and call her... you will keep on trying until you hear there is another guy in the picture... until she has finished you completely, then your eyes will open, you will start saying that women are wicked.

You have a deep case of inferiority complex.

Better leave that nonsense you call relationship

sincerely I have already locked u.,I almost have high bp when I was thinking about it yesterday.,because what I’ve being doing..,Stopped me for even doing much for my parents.,I feel like a fool!.

jogsman01:
98%? Those are termites that we do pray against in church. Oga, you never get wife ooo, and I can see death knocking at your door if you don't find your way ASAP

I appreciate your advice bro I’m taking steps already..because I can’t just kill myself when I have parents to take care of.

omale88:
Dude don't let them use my husband and our husband to ruin your life,you can only give what you can afford,it's obvious they want you to go and join a gang to rob,kidnap and extort people,as for your job do real estate agent job,you can find any agent around you who could teach you, when it's time to ditch an unhealthy relationship do it with glee and move on stop being in pains for nothing and wake up before you mess up.goodluck.

Thanks very much brother.,God bless you abundantly.

Freshman54:
Sorry for the mess you put yourself into, Ladies are ungrateful beings, please leave her,face your mother, brothers and sisters, they're the ones that will be there for you, when you get show down,E get why

Thanks very much bro..,You’re blessed.

advanceDNA:


U are being exploited....the lady doesn't even care about u let alone love you....u are just an ATM....no respect for you...na her family dey beg am to stay with you for the money..

People that doesn't have money want to live in 700k apartment in Ibadan...is that not witchcraft??

As a guy..learn to say no to a woman or even anybody ....thats when u will see their attitude . U have already seen u are just paying her to be with you ..if you don't have her attitude will change.....it's time to walk away...

See...forget all u have spent ..u can never do enough for a lady like that......if you marry am, the frustration and entitlement from her and her family will double....

one of the best advice ever!..may you live long in Jesus name..,and whatever you lay your hands � upon will always prosper…thanks so much..,God bless you!

VictorUSA:
Juliusmartin01 dump her sorry ass..you SIMPle man and you deserve better.

thanks very much for your advice bro..,I really appreciate.,I know I deserve better than the way she’s treating me..,there was a time we have a little issue..something that doesn’t even have any meaning..,all because I wake her up for early morning jogging and she was still sleeping so I had to leave her to sleep and commence my own jogging.,she refuse to message me for straight 3days..,it was parents that later settled it..,it’s just crazy.

gaby:


Ekpa...

You never even mature enough to fit reason and take care of yourself you dey form father Christmas dey also plan marriage with yourself and by yourself.

The girl na very smart girl to fit smell your foolishness even from text message and phone.

Dundee United...

silence is the best answer for someone like you.

gaby:


Ekpa...

You never even mature enough to fit reason and take care of yourself you dey form father Christmas dey also plan marriage with yourself and by yourself.

The girl na very smart girl to fit smell your foolishness even from text message and phone.

Dundee United...

i don’t need to keep arguing with someone who’s very mannerless.

gaby:
E be like say e better to both Hushpuppi or BAT than to born ozuor a.k.a fool...

If you be my brother... I for go arrange better cane, soak am for Cameron pepper water for seven days come share one one give papa, mama, and all our sinlings.

We go invite you for family meeting...

Your life no go ever remain the same again aswear...

if you know you don’t have something good to say just keep shut and get out.,the people giving good advice here are not humans like you?

Aaaaarghmed:
They don't have money and they want to rent a house of 700k..what happend to house of 150k.Op you know what to do.Dont marry a liability.I can never do such,I speak from Experience as the experience master.I one met a lady online and after some days of chatting,I asked her what's the most important attribute you will like your man to have...she said a man who can meet her financial need,that was the last time I chatted her up.As a man,never marry a liability or student.Go for working ladies or self employed.because no matter how you brush up a lady,she will still be ungrateful.so why the stress to help her.

Thanks so much for the advice bro…,a house of 700k that’d still have to be furnished.,even the TVs and chairs that should be placed there isn’t part of the money yet..,and the brother isn’t doing anything than to be asking me for money.,my elder brother that’s abroad said I can’t marry such girl.,that the family problem will affect me big time..,and the so called brother will feel very entitled and I won’t have a peace of mind.

Fedrick100:
Bro the girl is not meant for you, i understand how you are feeling,it’s difficult for you to let go of her because of the investment and emotional trauma you will pass through but let’s call a spade a spade a girl that loves you and sees you as her future won’t be giving much billing
The girl has another guy that’s why she doesn’t care if she didn’t chat with you on WhatsApp,she’s probably chatting with the new guy on IG.Count your loses and move on though it’s not easy ,it’s emotion with time you will heal,if the 700k you couldn’t provide when she has siblings can lead to her acting up means she didn’t take you as you took her and don’t ever give her the 700k just move on.

Thanks very much bro.. thanks for the advice.,God bless you.,I really appreciate.,I’ve tried so much for this so-called girl.,is it about cloth or wigs all this material things.,I can’t just bear it anymore.,I just have to let go.,thanks soo much!

Good morning nairalanders,am in serious pain,I really need your help.,there’s this girl I’ve being dating for 3yrs now.,we have both being doing well ever since we’ve being dating.,I take almost 98% of her responsibilities.,we actually stay together but I’m actually out for work right now in Lagos..,so her dad passed away last year.,because her dad married two wives the other one isn’t giving her mom peace so they actually had to relocate from where they are to ibadan,so her and her mom was actually staying at her elder brother’s place till they find a house..,they already find a house and she was telling me the house worths 700k.,and the deadline would be end of this month,she said she’s depressed she’s this and that,definitely she’s trying to say i should come pay it,I also have bills on my neck to sort,this girl has a elder brother that doesn’t even wanna do anything to support..they will all keep asking me for money putting all their problems on my head all in the name of relationship.,we actually planning to get married but I don’t think it can happen again.,her brother will ask me for money.,her mom will ask me for money.,even when her dad was alive I’m actually fed up..,I do almost everything for this girl financially.,going to Clothings,feeding and all.,this time around because I’m not capable enough of doing all this financial needs for her like before I just noticed her attitude changed towards me.,my parents already know her parents and her parents already know my parents even before her dad passed away last year.,they actually speak on phone.,most of this financial help i render to them wouldn’t even let me do much financially for my own parents.,this girl will always need money which I will always try my best in doing everytime to give her.,her elder brother will always ask me for money too.,someone who’s supposed to be working very hard to make the little family okay.,I’m really trying my best.,I have spent so much money on her I’ve invested in her alot.,the last time we had a fight just because i sent her money..she said I embarrassed her and sent her money out of pity.,she deleted her WhatsApp and said if I want to reach her I can reach her at Instagram or phone call.,so I’m actually fed up about this whole thing and I don’t know what to do anymore I also have my own problems.,ever since this below �screenshot I posted happened she refuse to chat anymore since then.,since yesterday morning.,please I need your advice,no insults please and please pardon my grammars I’m not really good at it.thanks so much in advance.