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onila: u guys act like these girls u bang were not virgins before they became whores. .
i see u just mess with girls that were once disvirgined by real men n u take back their leftovers

don't mind them my dear! like them gals were disvirgined from the womb! tomorrow it will still be the same guys that will come and complain of how loose chicks are! pls if u don't like virgins then leave them! abi na them virgins dey pursue u?! o ga o! Virgins this Virgins that........ Abeg go find a more articulate article to write.... We have many issues confronting the world @ OP

Ranti Fadahunsi: Abegi, what is with the virgin, non-virgin thingy? Virgins are people who have placed a value on themselves and will not allow just any stupid guy to deposit their sperm inside them, put them at risk of contracting STDs, or spending the last 2 days before their period wondering if one stupid guy has gotten them pregnant and they have to go for abortions because the stupid guy will either deny the pregnancy or deny his responsibility. Virgins are people who VALUE their body and peace of mind ABOVE 5 minutes of pleasure. If you have a problem with that, then please don't go near them. There are many of us guys who respect such ladies that respect themselves (we know that they most probably have no STDs, have not done any abortions and they are disciplined people that can withstand peer pressure and remain principled. Sleeping with a virgin is not a difficult thing of done at the right time (after you have put a ring on it). And it is a wonderful thing for the guy and the babe. Afterall, non-virgins were once virgins!!!! Please, if you have any inferiority complex because you cannot discipline yourself (only animals have no ability to discipline themselves and want to have sex every time they are in the mood), then go find girls/guys that fit into your shoes and stop disrespecting virtuous virgins!!!! Pshewwwww!!!!!

wish i cloud give u a hug for this!!! Dnt mind that fela!!! @ OP, pls hang on to ur "borehole" gals. virgins aint looking for people like u! Every one to his own choice and type! so pls hold ur breath and stop making a fool of ur 'member'. not hate intended sugar!

TV01: Sorry for being a bit long-winded guys, but one of my stated goals on NL is to see Sagamite married well and in fine fashion !

Sagamite;

1. If one preaches marriage and cheats, such a one is a hypocrite. If one "sells" marriage and is an inverterate cheat, such a one is a fraud. If one preaches or sells marriages and makes a mistake. It happens, seek restoration and keep moving. Geddit?

2. How would it benefit society at large, if every man just decided to opt for a life of "tapping ass"? For a start, what would become of the family order for raising well balanced children? Do you appreciate how fractious gender relationships would become?

3. When you get "married" you covenant/commit to sacrificially caring for your spouse. Otherwise it becomes a personal choice if/when/how you do this. The latter is optional, the former is a commitment - respopnsibility!

4. The surgeon and president are responsible professionally, but irresponsible to their families. The West African leader is irresponsible professionally and to society, even though he may be a good husband and father. Irresponsibility is not all or nothing, or necessarily based on one aspect.

5. Marriage is not a "man-made" instritution. Men have sought to re-engineer and/or pervert it. But the ideal remains unsullied. I never said enter into it purely on faith. I knew she was wife material after 1 date. I still did my due dilligence. And no, I don't know what the future holds, but I do know what we both committed to. And to Whom we commit ourselves.

6. If you meet that "dream girl" harken to this; it won't be solely on "your terms", if you won't marry her someone else will!

7. You regaled us with your sterling list of qualities and attributes. Are you saying you are not worthy of a committed long-term relationship where even more delightful offspring are raised? Or you think having a carousel of casual of relationships, where children may or may not be involved, and where you may or not be fully involved in their raising is altogether more worthy of what you have to offer?

Quit posturing dude, time is of the essence.

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on point! i applaud ur thought!

lord krato: Well, It's quite cheap but that's just the truth. if you are willing to pay more pls let me know.

will give u a call when am ready. but is this ur line of biz? just curious!

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for real? hw do i know its not a scam and that the BB aint faulty?

DailyNews: 99% of Nigerian married men I know are unhappy, while some are dead at a tender age. Honestly, the Nigerian ladies will never agree their fault & flaws that seems to be more rampant of recent- i.e. their recent quest for materialism & self-gratification instead of the usual search for true value. & what is the effect of this on Nigerian men? Men now do, indulge in all sorts of corrupt & evil things to please the Nigerian ladies, which often leads to their being unhappy in marriage (struggling too much to sustain a woman brings unhappiness). When u study the recent trend in marriage in Nigeria, it just seems marriage is no longer a vital union but a union intended to only please & satisfy women. a union where all Nigerian women tozzzle to get into just to offload their lifetime troubles on a man instead of sharing the burden with the man. What do most Nigerian ladies bring to the table of marriage? intimacy & maybe little performance of house chores, is that supposed to be so? even the high-income earners amongst the married ladies in Nigeria, hide their income from their hubby, some become unruly & disrespectful to their hubby just becos they earn an income. Haven't u guys observed that once a Nigerian lady or say ladies in general, becomes rich or too financially independent, she becomes unmarriageable (if single), she now sees all men coming her way as gold-diggers, as enemies, & ungovernable/unruly (if married), why? This alone should tell all humankind that God did not create woman to have so much financial freedom, which most ladies enjoy today, which is why marriages are no longer sacred & sweet as it used to be. women are supposed to derive their joy & happiness from the man. This is where I see American/European ways of life & culture destroying the world- over-empowering women financially & otherwise. This is where I commend the Arab world...Finally, if Nigerian marriages must become sweet & appealing as it used to be, Nigerian women must be stopped from becoming too financially independent becos over-empowering women destroys their humility & womanliness. If u doubt me, check through the rich single ladies u know & watch out how many that are married & those married, how many that are happily married.

permit me to politely disagree! The financial aspect is not the root problem i must say! I agree that some ladies that a financial independent could act unruly. But i think Character is the Key word. I have seen beautiful and boxed girls with refined character. I have also seen broke girls with bad character. What matters here is character, values, principles, personality, purpose etc. pls when a guy goes after some chick with no character.....pls don't come here and generalize it. Just as i won't come here and generalize that 'all guys are nothing to write home about' after making a wrong choice in a man! Life is all about choices. Whatever u choose, deal with the outcome! But pls my darling, there are still some 'take home to mama' chicks out there whether financially independent or not! Bless u!

shine-eye:
I sincerely do not know where you got the notion that marriage makes men unhappy. I sincerely see you as one of those modern day promoters of ungodliness . How could you even suggest that! I have been married for over a decade and there is no greater bliss than my wife in my life. It is all so simple. If we are simple honest people who dont derive pleasure in deceiving people for our pleasure, we would enjoy this life. But we have become so devious and are reaping from are folly. Life is simple. Marriage is so simple. We have abandoned the sincerity of our fore fathers and complicated our lives. Rather than return to the better old way, some dark agents are busy propelling rotten doctrines of living happy lives by jumping from woman to woman.Also note that enemies of marriage are direct enemies of God. We need to change ourselves, not God or marriage. The unhappiness of today is a reflection of our waywardness. More waywardness can never be the solution!

God bless u sir!!!marriage is sooooooooooo beautiful though am not married yet! it is not the institution of marriage that has failed but its people that have failed in the institution. i agree, there are some 'poor' marriages but trust me, i've seen excellent marriages not withstanding their 'ups and downs'. I love God and His perfect idea of marriage. Evertthing He made is good including marriage. We are the ones that have abused it! the solution to are happy marriage is simply given in scripture..... "husbands LOVE[/b]your wives and wives [b]SUBMIT to ur husbands". shikena!!! Its as simple as this if only each party will just obey and do their part. i love marriage and will definitely get married and have a sweet home!!! one more thing, lets note that "the way we see a problem is the problem".See urself having a lovely marriage.... and so it will be as u the two parties work towards it. Look out for those that are scoring high in marriage and learn from the principles they are applying. Also check those who aint scoring well in marriage, know what they are doing wrong and stay clear of it. In all, marriage is one sweet variety God gave to man....... Love it, Rock it and Enjoy it. Note: make sure u marry the right person for u!!!( i guess I'll also put this mind!)And in case u did not marry the Right person.....hmmmmmm, ok, maybe u should start from being the right person and see if the other won't change. But in case ur own case is complex..... well,genuinely talk to the institutor of marriage about it for a start! God bless y'all

TechRev: I WILL. i will marry her, marry her, marry her, over and over and over and over and over till eternity. I agree i dont love her as i do one of my former girlfriend. But I cant imagine marrying any other woman than my wife should i do it again a million times. I will marry her over and over she is the other half i always wanted.

in as much as i applaud ur sincerity of loving ur Ex more than ur wife, but don't ur think that shouldn't be so?! just asking o!

Killz.:
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Follow that advice at your own peril. . . Pr[i]o[/i]stitutes also got crazy sex skills. Does that win them the heart of any man? Use your what? Your HEAD! [/color]

seriously..... i like your views! you are one reason i joined nairaland although some "nairalanders" don't agree with you!

hmmm.... sir, i know its not easy but if u are really a born again Christian as you claim, then
1.sincerely forgive your wife and let go cos i think u still habour some blame over her. a woman gave a testimony in my church of how she could not conceive cos of not forgiving her hubby over something he did. the funny thing is that she thought she had forgiven him until the sweet, gently Spirit reminded her. after she truly forgiving him, she conceived. so pls check that aspect.
2.as a believer, you should know that no reason on earth will make adultery right before God. so pls sir, unless you are not a true born again, don't do it. Having a child outside your marriage will never bring you fulfillment. trust me! And pls, you divorce ur wife on the ground of childlessness?! u 2 hv come a long way.... pls don't throw it away. At least u never complained of her being a bad wife.
3.sir, all things are possible to them that believe as it is written. u cn still father a child. It takes Faith....pls dnt loose it. i have heard peoples testimony of over 30yrs. pls hold sir. your joy is near!
4.finally, love ur wife,choose to enjoy ur lives while u hope for ur baby to arrive. try not to worry cos worry might even be another factor. And it's not just about u.... both u & ur wife are in this together. you two can make it!
God bless!

Godwin Emah: No sir d last price is 28k tnks

is it brand new or fairly used?

ITbomb: Go silently behind him and shout 'God', if he run , no say he fear God , a true God-fearing dude

can't stop laughing!!! sooooo funny!!!

Jomiliny: Ah! Nigeria yaff scatter pata pata is like i will relocate. If i see the chance to move out of this bleeping country, i don't think i will come back here oooo cos all this things is discouraging someone. I hate Nigeria

pls jet out! who cares?! in fact we need you guys to leave and give us some space! yes, we knw that our 9ja has got some serious issues.... but no matter what, its still our country! you don't you be the change we need first. and what if Ghana is topping the list on internet speed?! so what?! enough of the comparison pls! let each and everyone of us do our part in making our country better. shikena!!!!!!

finallytalking: That is how i courted and married in a God-centred relationship and now my wife says she does not like sex and we are locked in a sexless marriage..if i have to advice anyone..please forget all this rubbish and confirm sexual compatibility or else you might just find yourself in my situation (don't laugh at this please, mine is a true story)

sorry, but ur wife can not just hate sex over night. sure she liked it when you two just got married. if so, something probably went wrong. so why do you have a heart to heart talk with her and find-out why. it could be some hormonal inbalance, stress, worry, or even you..... yes you! so find out the problem. like someone said, 'the way you see a problem is the problem'. premarital sex is not a guarantee for sexual compatibility. thanks!

CyberG: David Oyedepo is NOT a perfect man like all humans. However, can anyone cast a stone against this deed except of course you are all mad? Wait, he did not go to lodge all his holdings and STOLEN money from Nigerians in the US, UK, Swtizerland, etc. Also, he has not sat on it saving it in the Nigerian banks! He has not embezzled pension funds, rigged himself into "power", advocated removal of subsidy after stealing the entire nation blind!?

He has multiple investments that employ at least 1 person in Nigeria and has not asked you to bail him out when time comes to pay the salary. In fact, he has contributed more the Nigerian economy more than all you critics will do in a million generations and you abuse him while Maduekwe fucki.n Jonathan steals all your money and uses his rigged power to impoverish you further. Now you must see something is wrong with Nigerians. Wait: he is investing billions of Naira to build a university in Nigeria for Nigerians and if only the useless government ran the country well, private universities could be an avenue to earn foreign exchange by having foreign students enroll at the university. This creates jobs for thousands of people who are jobless, provides education for people who will need it and if intensive research is incorporated, all these can only be good for the country. So, why are you useless nonentities still complaining? If you are so sure you've got something against him, why NOT confront him personally and tell him your mind? I believe he is in Sango Otta most Sundays.

Most Nigerians have designed themselves to suffer, neglecting their own gifts and resources but glad-handling the little they have to me, foreign governments and foreign institutions in Oyinbo land!

God bless u!

iiiyyyk: this is just why africa is not growing. making analogies without any data. how can you compare among cities you ve never seen.

what are your parameters of comparison? people have not been to a city, yet they know the roads are bad

Does it mean our education in africa is a waste? our sense of judgement is too backward, always beclouded by one hopeless sentiment or the other.

bull shiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiit.

oh plzzzzzzzz.... save yourself the headache! who told you some of us haven't been to them cities!!! in fact, you don't even need to be there to know the state of the roads! just drop your opinion and free yourself!!!

pato405: 1. Sokoto
2. Owerri
3. Calabar

owerri ke?!!! who dash owerri?!!! Rochas is trying now but won't still say owerri sha!
would say abuja cos that's where i stay. heard of uyo and calabar but never been there. but abuja is topping sha!

baldman: @ HOneric01: If u have been kissing, hugging, cuddling, u are already half way into having intimacy and that means u are half-way away from the will of God ( The marriage bed undefiled). As noted by that poster that said he was working with one of the big 4, you will keep exploring deeper until the main thing happens. Apparently, ur reason for not having sex is not to please God but according to you, one just needs to find a strong reason.

@OP: The only way a relationship can be Godcentered and without sexual impurity is if both parties involved are genuinely born-again. If you two are just 'cool christians' you may end up doing it at some point because the flesh will fail u. If both of you are truly born-again, it is very possible, with the help of the holy spirit. If u make rules u may end up breaking or ammending them, but if you stick to the word of God and like in other areas of your lives, you allow it to direct your relationship, the waiting will be over before you know it.

Generally speaking, courtship should not last too long, people should not be involved in serious relationship with the opposite sex unless marriage (in the nearest future) is in the picture.

THIS MAKES SENSE!

cantell: Now tell me, whats the story? Excessive tithing extortion?

guy, won't get down with u on this one! are u practicing believer? do u even read ur bible? are a member of the church?...... so my dear,if you don't believe he is a man of God.... fine! but pls learn to just shush esp when u so ignorant of something! ... no hard feelings Sugar! coming frm a kul sista

yeaaaaaaaaaa.... love this!!! now i cn confidently fly!!! those of u hating, don't wana catch u in them aircraft o!!! love this man of God!!! pls if u don't kw the story behind the glory, why don't u just shush!!!

wow!!! i like this thread though new on nairaland. learning a lot though yet to be married.