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musKeeto: Yeah, me and Christ get serious quarrel o...
as for devil, you know say Bible seriously spoil the guy rep

I don highlight the parts wey I like for your post... just smile biko.. in case you consider 'yoking with unbeliever', put me for front of your list... or maybe who knows? Christ fit arrest me

toba: I love ur taste. Dont worry somebody is viewing this thread and he's going to contact u soon

TV01: The requirement for and the dispensation of grace does not end when you've met the one. You need it still once wed. It should be asked for and is freely given.

For example; I know a lot of men stray when their wives are expecting. Was it inevitable? No. Grace ad faith made that a lie, a non issue for us. I loved my wife more and we bonded the more. It heightened our journey.

For example; Nobody knows how pregnancy will change a woman physically. It can physically wreck women. My wife had - in my opinion - a near perfect figure when I met and married her. Did pregnancy take a toll? Yes, but I truly cherish her the more.

All my fears - based on observation - were groundless. But we still pray to love each other more, to cherish each other further, to remain faithful and for more grace. We don't take it for granted





I was and I am sure I made the right choice. It was a mixture of understanding and being led. By the end, I was bold to approach, confident to ask and knew what to look for. I also utterly trusted , that like all the ones before, that if she were the wrong one God would end it, as long as I stayed humble, stayed true and sought His Face.

On the one extreme, one can have total faith in God to lead you to your spouse - or bring your spouse to you. On the other, one can have the maturity and understanding to choose wisely and commit it to God. Or a mixture. We are all different. I heard umpteen testimonies about how people met and married. But God gave me my own template. Trust Him, he'll give you yours. I fleeced when I was "younger" in the Lord and God answered, but by the end, I wouldn't dream of doing that.

God bless
TV


On Divorce: I believe divorce is only permissible - not necessarily prescribed - where there is adultery. Re-marriage is only permitted in the event of death (there is some discussion to be had there to provide depth and clarity, but that is essentially it in my view).

On Spousal Abuse: Why is it worse than adultery? If it's incipient within marriage, there can be forgiveness, restoration and healing. It starts somewhere. Which part of "love and respect" is confusing? If before marriage,you should not have proceeded. Poor foundation. Marriage is for the mature, Xtian or not. Many things may be considered grounds for separation, but the truth is, only one is cited for divorce and one for remarriage. The exhortation is to marry properly, marry a God fearing person.

On The Past: Share everything about the past prior to marriage. If the trust is not there to share, you are probably not ready, if they are not willing to share, they are probably not right.

musKeeto: hehehee.. i for gree.. na dis your christ matter don spoil show..

toba: church sisters are the ladies that pretend to be angels in church. always the first to attend meetings, welcome u very well into the congregation and say bless u bless u but their outside world characters are worse than those of infidels. They are hypocrites

Carius: Its very difficult for couples to admit to themselves or to any other person that they are not s3xually compatible.s3x is not synonymous wit sin.a lot of pple enta marriages wit pre-conceivd notions about intimacy such dat it would be easier to teach a pig how to sing than for them to change.i hate unpleasant surprises.it was here that i read d story of a lady who discovered dat d husband has a very tiny joystick that could not satisfy her.which mouth would she use to tell her pastor or her people that she's not fulfilled s3xually in her marriage?pls,don't let your marriage be lyk dis.d shame alone would kill u.

RedReact: What you are insinuating about church ladies is true. Many of Christian ladies allow their lives, especially marital life, to be run by world's standard and thereby getting confused themselves.
A church lady played some kind of pranks on me, in fact, she played the game well and I made up my mind never to be interested in any of these so called church sisters. The truth therein is that we have 90% of church sisters/brothers but 10% of christian sisters/brothers.
What can we do then? Ask God for His leading because there are many deceivers in our churches these days.

basisop: PLanning to get married to this divine package from heaven but immediately after the introduction, wahala started coming left, right, centre from both parents. Each seeing their child as treasure thereby attaching pride and condition to every single step.

We don't have any issue but the parental issue is really giving us sleepness nights.

Gracious10: Really masturbation is a sin. This sin is first built in ur heart then ur body reacts to it.
Medically, they will say its the effect of body hormones which I agree with. But remember, this body is given to you to control and not u allowing the body to control u. The enemy invaded my life with this same issue until I stood to it. I got so mad at it that I took a whole 3 days to address it. The enemy looks for loop holes to accuse the brethren, if u give in to one, he will bring more sinful ideas. I bombarded my self with tapes, books, prayers and I renewed my thinking. Whenever that urge came, I kept declaring " I am the righteousness of God, no trace of sin can be found in me" "I bear on my body the mark of Christ, therefore let nothing trouble me" By the time I did this for a week and avoided things that brought these thoughts (eg: the eye gate and the ear gate.) I was free from these torments and today, the devil dares not to bring these issues to me cos I don't Let go of the WORD!

mediainspired: I wish i culd marry my fiancee dis Decemba, but we havnt completed d minimum courtship period set by d marriage committee in d church. And she isnt even allowed to frequent my house; so sometimes i kinda feel lonely (i told her so today). I pray my neighbor's sis moves away (her broda is sumtyms out of town on official assignment). I sense she may get desperate &women can be dangerous wen dey're ar. Recently, she askd me 4som moni. Even tho i had it, i didnt giv it so as 2kill attachmnts. Am able 2handle oda women, but dis is a neighbor... Close by

ACM10: Naturally, va.gina is self-cleansing, but some of our activities inside there like douching, inserting contaminated fingers introduces infective organism into it. The infective organisms decomposes some substances in the va.ginal secretion, with the emission of gas, leading to the offensive odour. Washing of va.gina includes the vu.lva and introitus(inside). But should be done with lukewarm water ONLY! You may do it like 3 times per month. You might choose not to wash if you don't perceive offensive odour from it.




You want to learn anatomy of the va.gina. There is nothing wrong with you. Ok. Google "anatomy of the female reproductive organ". Yes, cer.vix is a lump of flesh that pops out deep into the va.gina. It connects va.gina to the uterus(womb).

ACM10: I have to make a general statement here.

1. Staphylococcus aureus neither causes urinary tract infection(UTI), nor sexually transmitted infections(STI).
Staph. aureus is part of the microbes that lives freely on our skin as normal flora. So much misinformations from charlatans.
Staph aureus in the test sample is a contaminant as a result of poor technique.

2. You don't do any form of investigation arbitrarily. Investigations must be requested by the attending physician or surgeon.

3. Don't take medication without doctors approval. Only doctors have the competence to prescribe drugs based on the clinical scenario presented to them. Anyone that insists on self-medication
should be ready to live with its consequence(s).





Coming to your post.
1. She should maintain a proper body hygiene.

2. STOP VA.GINAL DOUCHING with soaps, antiseptics or hot water. Va.ginal douching can only be done once in a while with LUKEWARM water..

3. Finally, I hate to prescribe any form of medication online, but I got to do this one. Buy mycoten cream and apply it liberally in and around your private part for one month. I expect you to finish a tube every 3 days.

If your condition fails to improve. Meet a gynaecologist.

Nashville: You asked for honest feedback and people have given you just that. If you don't want to hear it why bother?

Pastor Kumuyi remarried less than a year. Pastor Taiwo Odukoya whose wife was soo popular married a year after. Pastor Agu or Jesus House sef married after a year. Several examples abound!

What is the big deal about your mum's relatives? Did they pay your school fees or are they the ones that feed you that you have to suck up to them. God had given them a brain, they will always think what they want . They are obviously more important to you than your father!

I had a friend whose wife died during child birth - first child - and his wife's family did not want him to remarry. What sense does that make. On the other hand another friend whose wife died, his late wife's family supported and attended his wedding. Please your mothers family is not the most important here unless of course they feed you

NachiNaira: MALE COMMENT: Once the guy is physically fit & can reason, you'll be surprised at what he can do. Besides, there are books & online info these days, He will naturally flow. Actually, I'm one myself, I'm 27 & live an enjoyable life, Girls come around me a lot, even older ones but I know d limit. Apart from the Scriptures, one of d disadvantage of experimenting b4 marriage is that you gradually/speedily loose self control; especially men because of our sexual nature. One truth is that whoever I will marry should be rest assured that she alone owns my body!

SO LADIES, THERE'S NOTHING WRONG IF A MAN REMAINS A VIRGIN TILL MARRIAGE!

kulboy: My Pic pin-29EB14C2

401kk: Exactly. Its the same with my pics too

Johnzzy: Finally final...

kokoA: Just think about your future children's look sha. They might never forgive you! Think and do what you feel is right.

ayosmiles: u got me wrong. Living a good life is not connected to virginity just as its not dependent on sex alone. I did not imply dat life is all about sex.

OILOFGLADNESS: my fellow babes, its a very good experience to marry as a virgin, i have heard 101 goodnews on that, your husband will give 100% respect and in turn you will ever give him 100% and love cos he is the only one that made you enjoy that which God designed for couples.

PEOPLE WHO HAS LOOSED THEI VIRGINITY WILL ALWAYS BE LOOKING FOR CONVERTS" CAUSE THEY ARE JEALOUS, THEY WILL NEVER GIVE YOU ANY GOOD ADVERSE, MEN THAT HAD DISVIRGIN A LOT WILL NEVER CHERISH IT COS ITS NEVER A NEW THING TO THEM.

THEY WILL ALWAYS TELL YOU THAY YOU ARE DECEIVING YOUR SELF, YOU ARE WAISTING YOUR TIME, YOU ARE NOT GETING YOUNGER, YOU ARE MISSING A LOT,BLA BLA BLA BLA, BLAAAAAAAAAAAA........., ALL LIES DONT MIND THEM, THEY ARE JUST JEALOUSOOOOOO.
KEEP IT, GUIDE IT, DONT TAMPER WITH, SO THAT IT WILL BE VALUED AT THE RIGHT TIME, CHEEEEEEEEERRRRRRRRRRRSSSSSSSSSSSS
tnks lady!

12 inches!:
And what the girl he eventually falls in love in is not a virgin. Or leme ask @ranti a simple question. Can u marry or date a girl who is not a virgin? Oya answer....You people are so out of touch with reality. Typical of nigerians sha...Always paying lipservice. Get real

ayosmiles: U just won't get it. Virginity is not what makes u successful in life. Look at d most successful women in d world. Havin pleasure does not mean u are not responsible. Do hilary nd merkel have to be virgins b4 they got there. Stay there and don't live life 2 d fullest. Gals keep self servicin in ur closet while more socialy conscious folks enjoy their lives with wisdom nd live good lives. The world is changin, pls stay yoked to tradition. Just don't wake up 2morow nd say u have missed nd ur life is borin

ayosmiles: my daughter will be free to decide what she wants when she is old enough whether to b sexualy active or otherwise. I don't detest virgins i just don't place a value on it. Ur being a virgin will not make me want u if u lack good manners nd stop paintin nonvirgins as indisciplined or lose. what does sex have to do with discipline. A lose girl is one with multiple sx partners nd unhealthy sexual attitudes like not usin contraceptives. U can be a nonvirgin nd be more disciplined. Its just like sayin because too much sugar causes pile u now say sugar is bad. Dude d only way u can win dis argument is to use religion nd culture, and both are created by human beings.

rokiatu: You are a guy? Oh wow you just won a fan in me.