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Loving dis thread oooo

Hmmmmmmmmmm interesting how people can meet their soulmate.

Happy for you all and May ur marriages continue to be sweet/juicy

I will come back here someday to share mine------ till I walk down to that isle, then i will kwn it has really happened

For now

@ Poster and Topic

Glad that aleast Nigerian is the second most corrupt country---- Means we still have something to be happy about (second and not first)

You look at 419 as the most challenging pblm Nigerians have (not advocating for them)

419 as your case study ( how did it originate? what are the causes?, and who are the forefathers?

Leaving that aside, have you ever thought of YOu and I having a job? and there are millions of people out there who have noting to fall on (unemployment on high rise except you have Abraham as a father or Uncle)

Now if this people must be put on death penalty simply because they played outside (both,,the scammer and the scammed are greedy here) just like someone said, how can you reap where you did not sow?? (big question) then the penalty should be melted out on both parties, this way it will really be checkmate.

Again, What then will be the fate of our fund loaters?, (my fear) billions of Naira been loated and deposited in foreign accounts, Mine money, Your Money, Our Money, (both the loaters and the banks that encourage this with full awareness might as well be put on death penalty.) So start advocating from the root and then you see us joining suit.

We have enuf pblm, that i see 419 to be the least out of d lots. May be if our Government starts putting things in place as it is seen in other developed country(s) things will getter better and scam rate and crime rate will be low if not completely eradicated.

Otherwise i don't see this dream of YOURS coming to reality.

Taking a deep breath mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm, haven gone through almost all d comments.


@poster

I am not advocating for the girl, but let him or her who has never cheated in his entire life cast the first stone her

I wont hold my brief for your girl, especially for the fact that she was carrying your own child while going to sleep with another guy. was totally unacceptable.

But with all said and done, , here she now ask for your forgivness, how sincerely remorseful is she?? (the big question)

The problem here is finding it in your heart to forgive and forget, how do u come to terms with this??

If you can truly find it in your heart to do so, then and only will u be able to accept her back. (so search your heart, can you?) and if u will hv reasons dwelling in it for the rest of your life, then it only means u can't move on as u will never have sanity of mind. The decision hence lies with you.

I can't tell you to kick her away if truly she is sorry and has turn to a new leave (not fallacy)

Do we because our wife or husband cheat and we divorce them Some pple here, if found in this same situation won't do more.

Let your love for her and her's also in return stand the True Test of Time. True love forgives all things.( on a serious note)

So dear,, let the choice be your's, let your heart guide u

@ poster

Thor:
There is a culture in Nigeria that esteems those who can make money without working.

Those people cheat, scam and con their way through life. Children raised in this culture soon learn that stealing is acceptable.

Nigeria is rated as the second most corrupt country in the world (after Bangladesh) and that corruption is right through the whole of the society – from the top down. Nigeria will not be able to escape what some see as the legacy of colonialism until this problem is dealt with. As long as it is tolerated, or worse encouraged, by the majority of people then they will continue to struggle as a poor nation, stigmatized by a reputation for corruption and scamming.

Enough is enough, so I am starting a campaign to call for the introduction of the death penalty for 419 crimes. It is the only way that Nigeria can rid itself of the cancer that eats away at the very core of society, one that has the whole world treating ordinary Nigerians as outcasts and lepers.

If you are in business you will already know that you are treated with suspicion and disrespect, it is hard for you to trade with the West.

Nigeria is seen as the shit hole of Africa and it is time it stops.

For those of you that think 419 is clever, then think again. You are the problem that Nigeria has to combat, you are the first that should be hung.


DEATH TO 419 CRIMINALS

Lobby your local officials today to introduce the death panalty for these scum and lets make Nigeria great again  

Whom do u see as d 419ers??

Those who play locally?? (Our Past and present leaders)

or those who play out? (Nigerians who scam their way to livehood)

When you are able to throw more light on your meaning of 419ers, only then may i have something to add, and only then also can your reason for campaigning can be justified or nullify

Isn't this better? than kidnapping the expats,

One by one i pray and hope they all follow suit

@poster

You hv done well, a g8 deal at that
Takes only few with heart of gold to do what you hv done.

I can see some pple ranting and raving  and spitting nonsense.

Well,  you are not in anyway obligated to her but rather offered a humanly help despite d fact that you don't even kwn her nor her root.

Be up to it to tell her the truth, ur inability not  to help futher, make it clear and do not shy away from that, (this way u both can still stay friends) a fact she must accept and come to terms with reality.

And for any reason, she has been up for games without ur inclinations, leave it for God, her karma awaits her.

In all, be blessed as even the bible stated that it is more blessed to give than to receive.

G8 mishap to his Family

May His Soul Rest In peace

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A good development

Long May You Live Uncle Fash

Wish others can take a cue rather than embebbezling

Empty threats, don't suck no more

Get a grip, get a life, move on guy

The future holds more than u can imagine, they taught u hardly so you can become a better person, thats the way i see life

Most have pass through that lane, and more will still pass it

Finito.

Love it when he gives me every attention i need and deserve

More importantly when he whispers into my ear how much he loves.

as not sure i was meant to be here

Hey, but enjoyed every bit of the post

Feels good to be in-love, am thinking again

ok, talking about then and not now u know!!!

Always an issue wanting to kwn who calls, txt and toast me at every point , as if am a kid

Fight over wearing skimpy things around neighbour hood, appreciated that on a long run

Many more, dnt feel like going far into memory lane

Having a good smile that eventually Mr Right is coming soon

@Topic

Are u saying no hope for the woo-wo people?

What matters here? talents or looks?

Twaxyz:
Yes sure!
I have lots of female friends like that, that i have never imagined them as women- you know what i mean. The feelings I have for them are similar to those that i have for my sisters. And these relationships are mutually beneficial. I value this friends of mine so much and they are everything that a fellow man friend can be if not more.

This is not always the case as sometimes, one of the parties may actually be harbouring some feelings ( i guess you know what I mean). But once the terms of the union are spelt out- not necessary with words but at times with actions and gestures- the friendship can then blossom without any thinking (to put it Ur way). As a matter of fact, some of my ex- girlfriends fall under this category. Once the initial feelings are overcome, the sky becomes the limit for such relationships.
So, Yes, a man and a woman can be friends without thinking.

Impressive answer  

Some people can still not differentiate between friendship and dating,

While some don't even understand the meaning of friendship, more


Am simply walking away from this topic with  

Twaxyz:
Yes sure!
I have lots of female friends like that, that i have never imagined them as women- you know what i mean. The feelings I have for them are similar to those that i have for my sisters. And these relationships are mutually beneficial. I value this friends of mine so much and they are everything that a fellow man friend can be if not more.

This is not always the case as sometimes, one of the parties may actually be harbouring some feelings ( i guess you know what I mean). But once the terms of the union are spelt out- not neccessary with words but at times with actions and gestures- the friendship can then blossom without any 'thinking' (to put it ur way). As a matter of fact, some of my ex- girlfriends fall under this category. Once the initial feelings are overcome, the sky becomes the limit for such relationships.
So, Yes, a man and a woman can be friends without thinking.

Impressive answer

Some people can still not defferientiate between friendship and dating,

While some don't even understand the meaning of friendship, more


Am simply walking away from this topic with

whitelexi:
Now u're getting it all twisted. . . The question is clear enough

I disagree that am twisting the question here

FRIENDSHIP/DATING are two different thing

Friendship are percived differently by different people, dating someone is totaly different from being a friend.

You may have an opposite sex u appreciate and value so much as a friend without sentiments attach,, that way ,no one thinks of anything. so thats y i needed the poster to re-emphasis on d topic.

So for me both means different thing. I used to sleep on same bed with a guy who is a friend and good friend for that matter, during my service year on same bed, wake up 2geda but we never tot of ever discovering each others body, and to us we both knewn we are just friends and appreciated each other so much

In my office, i have a friend, close at that, everyone thought it was beyound more than what they see, but between both and God, it was just an open friendship. so understand that there are friendship worth more than dating, without thinking,

Thanks Epi

Thats ok, am cool with it and i understand better now,will find my way around it.

Keep on doing ur good work

Friendship in dating or friendship in acquintance/companionship

Which??

If you love her, you can change her

Sometimes we need people to get the best out of us

Except where your trial has failed.

Am just too impatient to read through what others have written already

Point clearly, Ur wife is cheating

My reason. no man with dignity and self respect will be calling another man's wife at any odd hour, except stated that ur wife did not make this known to him.

No woman of honour, married at that, will encourage a midnite call from whomever except close family members

I repect my married girl friends and never call them up at night, so what more a man and a love txt message,

What other proof do you need
The quilty are quick at shedding tears, watch it is my only advice here.

tamme:
they should go back to igboland and do their so called igbo kwenu titles
gabbage!

Speaking from the anus and not mouth i guess

People like u will disintegrate this country, just becus of tribalism

Can truth ever  be told the way it should

Yet we answer One Nigeria

@ Funmi,

Glad u are now doing well at ur decision

Some really gave u constructive advice as they would have given to their younger ones, appreciating everyone that did so

Well u can't have everyone on ur side, that's y we are in all kinds, (human beings)

What more can i say?? touching story, but thats fate for us

Happened to a colleague of mine, Both AS, but they are strong at it and amicably parted ways and still the best of friends and confidant, always there to encourage each other. In their case, the girl is still a virgin, the guy decieded to honour it till their wedding night, alas the findings . What can they do? but for  their own interest (both Yorubas)

Was never easy for Jide  nor the girl, i know them too well,  his world crashed over night,  life came to a stop, lol, (not funny anyway) but today they are strong people, so u are not alone in this heart break as it's bound to happen everday.

My advice, the more u see him, the more difficult to let go, though i understand how difficult it is, but then you are the only one to help yourself out, our advice can only heal ur wound temporaly but never the end point.
Relocating can never be the way out, though would  help

Bottomline, stop holding on to the memories (it will always cut deeper)
Jus be glad that for once the love was your

Stop visiting him, better speaking on phone than coming in close contact as sex will be unavoidable

Accept the fact that he will never be urs, let it be the guiding word


Also do not be in a hurry to get into another relationship, allow the mind to heal completely, only at this will u be able to choose rightly and clearly.

I promise You will surely get over it all, only if you try harder
and one day u will look up to these days and have a g8 smile at it all. , It's a phase

Finally, Keep Your head Up, another good guy will locate u, Best of luck

epi:
Thanks, keep praying for that lucky one to come my way. what's wrong with posting the recipes publicly? Just asking

Well, noting wrong, just that having it in my mail box will give me access to it at anytime needed,

Is that too much to ask for?

@poster

Most people have said it all, what more can i say?

Your story is indeed a sad one, we only learn and get better/wiser

The reason y some people find it difficult to trust, i for one hardly trust any more, takes a g8 deal

Be blessed for your good heart, leave vengeance for God, He is already fighting your battle

Some men are callous and have no heart,

Some get married over there, come back here to deceive us,pretending they were never married, so also imagine that

"NKEIRUKA , (THE FUTURE IS GREATER) let the past settle, it's only matter of time to let go, WONT HURT 4EVER.

So i can't blame u going back having sex, for someone u have been with for the past 8years, not so easy to let go just like that, but to that i will advice never again

Be strong for yourself, time heals all wound, i bet he will be miserable for the rest of his life, not a curse but true word


Our prayers are with u, and also know that not all Nigerian men are that callous, there are still people with consciences ok

Don't forget your lyrics, is not wack but real

Has an American version of it

The different between this and that of who want to be a millionaire, "Who wants to be a millionaire" is open to all, while know your lyrics is specifically for those in love with music.

Here what counts is not your voice, or how best you can sing, but just knowing the lyrics of the particular song you choose to sing.

You have two life line when u miss a lyrics, to either use any member of your family who equally is a lover of music and who also most be presence or

You key in the words, here u are given options of different lyrics. so left for you to key in which you think suits into the line.

Its fun anyway, especially when u have a lively person performing

Well don't have so much time doing that but whenever i bump into it, i glue my eyes

Making freebie money without so much sweat, The American version is also the bomb, guess TVC features it

She deserves nothing but the best


The best i wish you Lizy, and ur new found love.

Blissful marriage and fullfilment

The deed has been done, no aportioning blames

Where i won't hold my briefs for you is for not letting the lady know on time u are married, the intentions and reasons would have been clear, rather u went misleading her by your sweet txt msgs and words of encouragement, bull, shit

Well, i would advice the girl to move on with her life now that it is glaring and everything thrown to limelight.

She can't keep holding on to where she doesn't belong to

I may also blame the girl here for falling with her head, jumping to bed almost immediately without understanding well who you are

@POSTER

You owe her apologies, after that is done, move on regardless

She got herself into the shit, so let her deal with it

I can't really be carried away, it takes time to understand someone, and a longer time to jump to bed, only when you have known the person well

She wnated a fling at that, now she is asking for more, not done anywhere

Finally men learn to be more open and truthful, let pple accept you for who u are and not by words u speak

@poster

Not sure ur question is applicabale to all ladies

One can not be judged by looks, else we judge wrongly

But i also kwn and can not rule out the fact that some pple get egocentric by their looks

Just like power intoxicates, looks also do,

It only affects who we are when we let it becloud our sense of reasoning.

No doubts there are people whose life and xcter are affceted by this, hence making other parties be on the edge side

@ Amakaone

Thanks immensely for your time and details, i appreciate

Is there a particular leave call Atama?

And can it be easily found in any market?, need to know

Epi

You too muchhhhhhhhhhhh oooooo

U have the key to your husband heart . He is hooked and no going back

And if u have not found him yet, hmmmm men are missing out , I pray for the lucky one

Meanwhile, this salt fish, is it a particular kinda fish or? and must it be that type or any other can be used?

Wana try it out,

And could u also be kind enuf to mail me some of your recipes to nnekababe4peace@yahoo.co.uk, will appreciate

This will enable me to do my trials/erros at my own time and will

Waiting ooo