pro01: SINCE MEKABOY LIKES SHOUTING HIS QUESTIONS, I WILL ALSO SHOUT MY ANSWER TOO. ALL IT TAKES TO BE A WIFE MATERIAL ARE THE FOLLOWING:

1. AN UNWILLINGNESS TO EVER CHEAT ON HER HUSBAND UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES WHATSOEVER.

2. SUBMISSIVENESS - A WOMAN MUST KNOW HER ROLE AS THE SUPPORTER, NOT THE CO-EQUAL. OBEDIENCE BEFORE COMPLAINT IS THE KEY.

3. SHE MUST BE 'HOMELY', NOT THE TYPE THAT WANTS TO GO TO THE NEWEST CLUB OR HAPPENING JOINT IN TOWN. IF SHE IS TOO OUTGOING, THEN CHANCES ARE THAT SHE CAN MISBEHAVE AND MISFUCK 'BY MISTAKE'.

4. SHE MUST NOT BE THE 'CLIQUE' TYPE OF WOMAN. A WOMAN THAT HAS TOO MANY FRIENDS OR BELIEVES IN 'CLIQUE-ISM' CAN NEVER BE A GOOD WIFE BECAUSE SHE WILL TELL HER FREINDS ALL HER HUSBAND'S SECRETS AND SHE WILL BE INFLUENCED NEGATIVELY BY MEMBERS OF HER CLIQUE.

^^ this is almost EVERYTHING what a future husband should not be like

why not talk about husband qualities

5. SHE MUST NOT BE IMPRESSED BY MATERIAL THINGS. LET ME BEG HER FOR ONE YEAR BEFORE SHE ALLOWS ME BUY HER ANOTHER CAR, NO MATTER HOW RICH I AM. ANY WOMAN THAT LIKES MATERIAL THINGS WILL ALWAYS BE TEMPTED AND HAMMERED BY ANOTHER MAN THAT CAN TEMPT HER WITH THAT.

END OF DISCUSSION.

that's ALMOST everything what a future husband should not be like

why not talk about future husband qualities ladies

so happy to see people with moral values here. your mamas must be very proud of you. thumbs up!

I was just wondering whether some people in here will tell Jesus on the judgement day: I cheated and I stole from people, I did a lot of harm to my country and the rest of the world but hey I believed everyone did so, so what's the matter!

always compare yourself to the better not the worse (mama always said)

some people have developed moral standards, some others haven't. there are six stages. some people here are at stage one, like kids.
anyway, poverty this poverty that. there are people who succeed without stealing from others. God is the judge.

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I agree!
my parents were quite well off, not rich but still quite wealthy. I had to work for my money,I did so when I was at school and continued at university.
my cousin's parents were like my parents but their son did not have to do anything. I am successful now, he is useless. he still depends on his parents who are getting older and who have to worry about him all the time.
there are studies that clearly show that students with less money are more successful than those with a lot of money. teach your children well. teach them the value of work and money. teach them the sense of pride. but not false pride like I am so cool because mummy and daddy make me drive a mercedes.
thank you for this contribution. repeat yourself over and over again so that people start thinking. you may be able to make a change.

maclatunji:

I suggest you have a friendly chat with the married man's wife about your dilemma in deciding whether to be her husband's second wife or not. Tell her all you have told us, her response should help you decide.

By the way, did anyone tell you that getting involved with 2 men up to the point that they both want to marry you at the same time kind-of makes you look like a tramp?

very good advice!

Jean Macqou: In order to reduce the population growth, Polygamy must be stopped. In polygamy, women have a lot of children because they know their husband is will support them, and they have other women help take care of their children. Unfortunately, when each wife has so many kids, they might find out that their man is not as rich as they thought he was.

This causes over population, and over population increase crime and poverty. The wealthiest nations of the world have low birth rates, such as Japan, and the United States. Women should focus more on the opportunities each of their children have to be successful, not the amount oaf kids. If they actually love their kids, why do they need so many of them. If they want to please their husband then they should use birth control. Surely their wealthy husband can afford it for them.

Japan's state deficit (= debt) is very high. in fact, higher than in Greece. almost 200 % of the GDP.
it's not a wealthy country.
however, I have come to realize that all wealthy countries gurantee women certain rights, don't reduce their role to the household duties, educate them well and so increase the competititon and therefore the productivity of the country

MRbrownJAY:

does anyone of you got the address of that kid in the picture?! do you know where she is right now? you are all making mouth here while you may have passed RIGHT BY HER on your way home tonight.......... then you come here and say you want to help. the only way to help this particular child is to consciously help them all. if you only notice them when their sad pictures are posted on NL (while in the comfort of your own home) then i weep for thee.



well how would you feel if someone would drive right by your helpless daughter/son in the street, while claiming they want to "HELP"?
you are talking of helping this child....ok, fair enough. so care to tell us all how you DID help her? do you even live in that city? do you have that kid's mobile number? email? bank account to wire the fund? lol! and yet you are wasting time on NL saying "you wanna help HER", when MILLIONS are right at your door step needing help, and you do absolutely NOTHING.

the ones who need our help are the ones closest to us, so if you live in Abuja then help kids there, if you live in Lagos then help the ones there etc. they ALL need our help!

in my country, children at this age don't live on streets. so I have never seen a child like that.
however, I still believe that an individual is not able to help EVERYBODY. we are not allmighty. you have the right to have your own opinion and I partly agree BUT I still believe that it is better to help one person / child at a time that to help nobody. to help everybody is impossible.

charlsecy4: Pregnancy is sexy. The body of a pregnant woman could be curvaceous, making it very sexually attractive.

It is in order to make love to a pregnant lady. Just some changes in positions are required. However, you may be advised to avoid sex if the pregnancy is high-risk, that is, if it is twin or more, there has been a history of miscarriage on the part of the woman or any member of her family,etc.

So, a man who cheats on his wife when she is pregnant will still do so when she isn't.

great response!

MRbrownJAY: ^^^my point was very simple (wonder why you didnt get it): there are gazillion of such kids, and sista Talina will certainly come in contact with a few of them before she gets to work/school tomorrow. these other ones EQUALLY need help, so instead of focusing on ONE child (who already got someone to help her), people should spread the love to the gazillions of other ones as well (or give to all if they can). duh!

the funny part is that many who throw nice words on this thread probably passed in front of a few of these kids (on their way home) and likely didnt lift a finger.

have I said that I don't get your answer? I perfectly understood the point you were making. still, your line of argumentation doesn't make any sense. just because someone tries to help ONE child, it doesn't mean she / he has to save all children. why? because it's not possible. so it's better to help one than to help nobody! it's you who doesn't get something here.

apart from this, this child doesn't look like someone who is being taken care of. have a look at the pictures. look at them carefully! would you like your daughter to look like this? moreover, if it happens that this child happens to get her attention then let it be. maybe it's a turn in her life. maybe she is just being lucky. and there is nothing wrong with that. as someone said before: one step at a time. what's so difficult to understand?

MRbrownJAY: ^^^ dont get it twisted sista, they ALL matter......and if you are willing and ready to help this one then you should equally help the others too. she is NO DIFFERENT than the gazillion others. so when you go out tomorrow and see them at traffic lights, HELP THOSE ONES as well!

what kind of answer is this? what is your line of argumentation?
if you help one, help all? but if you can't help all, help none? are you serious?
just because you can't help all of these children, it doesn't mean that you should hesitate to help one.
like honestly!

moremi2008:

Hahahaha! I keep my charitable acts to myself; I don't publicize them on NL. Like, I said, carry on! Don't let my comment be a distraction. Go save an "abandoned" child from her grandmother and come back to tell us how that goes.

I see, you're such a noble person

moremi2008:

Blah, blah, blah... instead of organizing to protest a thieving, evil government that is depriving MILLIONS of children of basic healthcare, education and nutrition, one woman wants a cheap boost to her ego by "saving" a random unkempt child that lives with her grandmother. Some people just don't think rationally. But of course, it's a free world and she can do as she pleases with her time and money. She came here for opinions and I gave her an educated one. So carry on! Go "save" the "abandoned" pikin and make sure dem no call police on your head for child kidnapping.

before you complain about the government, no matter how bad it is, try to be the change you wish to see in the world.

apart from this, you don't know the poster so how do you know she needs to boost her ego? is it because you don't do anything that is of no use to your self-esteem?
and yes, it's a free world. so we all have to put up with UNEDUCATED answers s well.
go, hide, do nothing and complain about the government. and if you do anything, make sure, it serves YOUR ego!

queenafric:
U want me to mind my own business? Well, that's impossible, not especially when I saw d state dat child was in. I stated earlier dat she was trying to cross d highway when people screamed and dat caught my attention. From what I heard, she was abandoned by her mother for a long time now, so it is not as if the mother went out and would be back at d end of everyday. A child has a right to good health, good food, and not what I saw today.
Anyway, am sorry to disappoint u, but I aint giving up on her. I'm going back there on Thursday and I will insist on speaking with d old woman.



I will google it up and see if I can find their contact. Thanks for d suggestion.

pls let us know about any progress. so happy to hear someone cares!

moremi2008: I think you should mind your business. This child may by malnourished and unkempt, but she is NOT an abandoned child. The child is obviously trying to go after her mother but she'll soon get over it and return back to the old lady. Why do people like to create trouble and drama when there is none? Why don't you focus your energies on the hundreds of babies that are truly abandoned around Lagos every year? When last did you visit an orphanage? Please mind your business and leave the child alone; I hope the end result of this is not trouble for you and your family because I have seen situations where the child's family turns around and accuses the good samaritan of trying to steal the child.

I can't believe someone thinks like this!

it's a shame!

feminine A: I agree with everyone. She should stay put and fight for her marriage. If possible they should move out of the environment immediately and work on her man and marriage. God created women with so much shock absorber. The needed strength is available for her to pull through. Not easy though but all will be well @ the end

excuse me? is it strong to remain with a cheating husband?
I think, you're stronger when you can make it on your own.
I don't have enough details to say whether the lady should go for divorce or not and I wouldn't like anyone to advise to divorce. It's her decision anyway.
However, I am tired of listening that you're strong when you fight for a cheating, disrespectful husband.