₦airaland Forum

meobizy:
Come and beat me.

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Lamanii22:
This is extremely funny… lord let my wedding go well in Jesus name ooo

When do you intend to wed?

A society is as good as its people.

Capernum:
As per faithfulness... She's been faithful in all honesty, we share the same passwords. There's virtually nothing she does that I don't know.

I have tried to check and see if I need to work up some attitudes in me. I tend to be a perfectionist myself and I have mellowed down on most of my complaints. But it appears as if she's not willing to adjust.

She's not organized. Can drop anything anywhere... She's not clinical, doesn't tie up loose ends... Doesn't complete chores she starts to do. I do the tidying, meanwhile she sees these things as a right. Little or no appreciation. She barely say sorry too.

You need to understand that you cannot have it all in one person as we all complement one another. It is also important to appreciate the difference between the two of you bcoz it's possible she's noticed some of your weaknesses/lapses but sees the need to appreciate your personality anyway.

Marriage is hard work!

Missluvydovy:
Beautiful.
Congrats.
This should have been the first comment on this post.

Too much bitterness and bad energy on this site.
Some comments here are so discouraging.

The commenter you quoted failed to include that his blissful 5yrs of marriage is a result of hard work, compromise, tolerance, sacrifice and not just a walk in the park.

nedekid:
I am from Delta state.
The earlier mentioned is igbo tradition I am aware of. Nothing funny here, the Adelekes are half igbos on their mothers side and must be conversant with such issues.

Maybe we should have a look at what's obtainable in the Yoruba culture, tradition & customs as regards this particular situation - knowing fully well that the baby-daddy is a Yoruba man.

nedekid:
In igbo tradition, a man that has not paid a woman's bride price cannot claim ownership of a child. The child belongs to the ladies family.
Adeleke's cannot handle the burial of little Ifeanyi as they are not seen as his folks, not unless the adelekes pay chioma bride price, which they have recently done.

Lol you make it seem as if it's only you Igbos that have tradition and customs... very funny.

Echoban:
He needed to marry chioma so that tradition will allow him bury Ifeanyi in Adeleke's name.

Which tradition are you on about - Igbo or Yoruba?

Tektronics12:
For me, am very Lucky to be Married. I went for a Lady from a similar class of Family like mine. She understood how Rich Family Operates.

Rich Marry Rich. Poor Should Marry Poor. �

Taló berè ejó lowó e ....elejó wéwé !

Blesstar:
Not yet married..
Just wanna learn from experienced people

What do you want to learn exactly?

onumadu:
If anything, this thread will only prove that some are happily married, while others are miserable in their marriages.
Either way, there will still be marriage.

@bolded,

The unlucky ones.

Take her back

abobote:
APC's bad governance

Have you ever experienced or enjoyed any good/ beneficial governance since you were born - so why tired now?

Nixedor:
can never try this the the thought alone is irritating

Anal or Mouth gig?

Doyou2019:
Not with the shoddy job his urchins keep doing here and his Muslim-Muslim ticket.
Every day these Tinubidiots, with their antics and brash tactics on here keep reminding us on how not to vote their principal. His ambition is dead on arrival.

We shall see!

Jman06:
Go and sit down somewhere Oga!

You think we're in the same boat with you

Peter Obi is the candidate we sensible and detribalised Nigerians have chosen. He's the only one we can trust with our votes.

That man, Peter Obi, is wisdom personified! He's not your typical corrupt Nigerian politician like Tinubu.


So, Tinubu should better go and take care of his health.

Lol ...ok

edungene7:
We will resist APC with our last blood come 2023 imagine the high rate of hunger and killings in the land PDP that was voted out in 2015 is a million times better than this nightmare of a party called APC

Are you sure of this bcoz you sound like APC - We will We will We will.

Why wait until 2023 to sack the APC govt for being corrupt & irresponsible.

Bunch of jokers!

Jman06:
We will vote you and APC out to serve a deterrent to other politicians. We cannot continue to reward failures with our votes!

Nigerians have never had it this bad!

You guys are full of words, no action!

Most of you are incapable of identifying credible candidates talk less of voting one.

CSTRR:
A man that has installed his family in states businesses. A man whose jobless daughter bought a house for $2.5M in America with cash.

Nah.

There is no developmental politics in the world that comes with such a portfolio of crookery. Not in democracy, Communism, socialism, or capitalism.

There is no leader in recent World history to ever develop a country and came with tinubu's kind of history and reputation.

Its not possible. Corrupt Leaders don't build great Countries. Corruption is the number one impediment to a fair allocation of opportunities and resources.

And that is what differentiates the third world from the first world. Bad cannot produce good. We would just be wasting our time.

Majority of our so called educated class cannot comprehend this.

Majority of Nigerians are inherently stupid.

abulkhairi2019:
Nigerians don't need failed government and APC.

Atiku is the answer to Nigerians.

You see how foolish & forgetful you Nigerians can be.

Do you actually mean 'Atiku is the answer to Nigerians' ?

You want to give your car keys to the person who wrecked it.

This is beyond me really !!

Ken4Christ:
Not necessarily. Some people are poor because of the situation of the country. They have no job and no one to empower them to start their own business.

Majority of the poor people will still queue up in 2023 to vote PDP & APC.

Guy, the poor masses ain't ready yet.

Betanaija42moro:
APC has failed Nigerians

Just look at what is happening in the country today, people are suffering, poverty, hunger, unemployment, inflation, insecurity

We can't continue like this

Until y'all learn to kick out criminals from public offices nothing is going to change.

mrkings84:
May thunder fire Tinubu and his APC

Remember the Sabbath day to keep it holy .

abobote:
No, we are already tired

Tired of what exactly?

Tinubu shouldn't worry bcoz Nigerians have a short memory and more so love their oppressors.

Bearfruit:
Let love lead,love God love your neighbor, love humanity.that is how to overcome

Abeg park one side jare ...

Ken4Christ:
What is this man doing for poor Nigerians. He shouldn't be like the rich man who died and went to hell.

Who are the poor Nigerians , is it the people that don't even know how to vote for credible people but criminals.

The poor Nigerians are the architect of their own problems.

Glink2018:
God will not allow me to stay in the house that my wife is responsible for financially... it is better, i go back to my father's house and stay than to stay in the house a lady is financially responsible for.

Now you niggaz are freaking out. What's wrong with move into your wife's house and you guys grow together.

Marriage is a partnership, NOT a competition u know.

Haba mana!

DadaHammed:
I have a PhD, I am health professional and also an online instructor for a University in the USA, getting paid in dollars while I sit here in Nigeria. That's what I am doing with my life. Now can you beat that? Troll?

Can you please borrow me your PhD?

grandstar:
Life2020
Your husband wants to have his cake and eat it too

He wants more children so as to hold you down. It's a means of control

Dump him fast and move on!

Look inward, check your extended family for anyone with the same issue and offer this advice.

eniwhy:
With all your write up, I don't see anything wrong much but normal dispute in marriage. Remember that if you kick him out you don't know who you are getting to replace him. He might be more dangerous. It better to seek your pastor advice before you finally decide.
In my opinion, I still believe the guy can change since it was him who told you about the pregnancy.

Jovialjune1 is of the opinion that we should think positively.

nkwuocha:
I actually used preek because from her posts that's all the husband is offering.

All these you listed is alien to her marriage so why stay?

As much as the husband is a pain, I'm struggling to understand how separation or divorce would make their lives better - considering the children's wellbeing.

One thing parents routinely fail to realise is that children are also part of the marriage, therefore both should accept whatever comes with their decision to separate/divorce.

You can't eat your cake and have it.