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To those of you who feel you have control over what your children listen to or watch. . . . YOU ARE DREAMING. Open your nose and smell reality! It is coming to a THEATER near your bedroom!

You will remember this thread when your own kids start showing you PEPPER!

Goodluck!

https://psiloveyou.xyz/why-im-relaxed-about-censoring-what-my-kids-watch-and-listen-to-150b63c04caa

I found this very useful.
Glad I looked online.

I’m a embarrassed to admit that I’ve largely given up on trying. I realise it’s defeatist, but where do you even begin with policing access to that?

My sentiments exactly!

I DON TAYAAAAAA!!!!!

cococandy:
Kids

Well I won’t be consciously trying to stop them from being exposed to porrn forever. I realize that at a point in their lives, it will be an unrealistic venture .
I’ll just not deliberately watch porrn with them present. And I know this should go without saying but...

I felt I had to include that when I said I don’t mind nudity/sex scene in a movie because apparently some things have to said or you’ll have some people panic quoting you to express their moral and holy thoughts

Watch PORRN with kids ke?
To prove what kwa nu?
We are all adults here I assume.
Nudity offends some more than others.
Moral or holy thoughts indeed!

Let’s face it. A pervert will be a pervert.
We are all exposed to the same materials.
We will take what they like and discard the rest.

Any obsession with one material or content can be problematic to the psycho-social wellbeing.

Some are addicted to porrn or gun-totting content.

Some are born psycho-sexual deviants and cannot be helped.

I keep a watchful eye and my ears are to the ground always. I will intervene when I feel something is off. Hopefully, when it is not too late.

aeion:
If they're high-schoolers (14 to 18 /as in 9 to 12 graders) ~ Okay. These kids know a lot more than you think. They grownnnn, lol.

If they're in junior high (11 to 13 /as in 6 to 8 graders) ~ I think you should've restricted them.

But irrespective of their age, talking to them after watching the movies with them was the way to go. Plus, they will always feel free to come talk to you about anything.

The bolded is what I most agree with. Thanks.
I want to maintain the lines of communication open, so to come to me if the want to. This is not shouting and beating matter o.

cococandy:
People can’t just focus on the topic.


At topic, I’d say it depends on the age of the child. All under 16 year old kids aren’t the same. An 8 year old is also under 16 and I’d definitely restrict more from such a kid versus a 14 year old.

At OP I think your discussion approach is more than reasonable. But personally, I have a thing against mindless/ sadistic violence in some kinds of movies. I’ll restrict my kid from such until they move out of my house . No discussions about it.

I have no problems with sexual scenes and nudity in movies (not talking about Indecency). We can watch and talk about it. The earlier the easier.

Thanks. I agree.
Senseless and sadistic violence I can’t stand.
Nudity is only a partial nuisance and can be ignored. PORRN? Youtube has all that for free!
Can you control that?

I have caught my kids many times CREATING NEW profiles or switching profiles on phones and tablets, pretending to be online-schooling. Meanwhile, THEY ARE YOUTUBE!

Disabling and enabling parental controls is a specialty in my home.

Hacking passwords on phones and computers nko?

Almost ALL their classmates have phones and gather in bathroom and video tape themselves naked! I have seen it ALL!

How many cases have I settled in principals’ offices? Change schools nko? Stop Bus rides nko?
All FAILED!

What next?

You wan beat TRUMP PIKINS dem?
Not ready for DFACS or POLICE cases o.
Lai lai!!!!

crackkhaus:
That we think teenagers/kids are already knowledgeable about certain things does not mean parents should encourage access to age-restricted content.

TV shows and movies always come in ratings - FAM, PG, 11, PG-13, TV-14, 16, NC-17, R18, R-Rated, TV-MA, etc.. I think there might even be more in-between and far apart.
The point here is, there will always be something interesting, educative and fun, to watch together as a family which is not R18, R-Rated, or TV-MA.

That said, how anyone goes about raising their kids is really their business at the end of the day as long as they're not breaking any laws.
No one can really dictate for another what/what not to do with their children.

I don’t know where you live sha.
Not many teenagers are amenable to Nigerian-Style discipline in any Western part of the world.
When you talk to Elementary school kids, you NEED to choose your words VERY CAREFULLY, not to talk of teenagers that have access to DRUGS, PORRN, SEX, ALCOHOL and name it in Middle Schools and HIGH Schools here.


Please, give me some examples of family oriented movies that won’t put us ALL to sleep in 10 seconds or LESS.

Tinyemeka:
Plus she looks quite prettier and "reserved" now.

I hope she doesn't give up that her bad b**ch persona.

I have been on NL since 2007.
You really expect me to carry on like I did over 10 years ago? Without provocation?

I sleep too well these days and really have other matters to deal with besides NL. I only get bitchyy when I feel the need to.

Let’s just say I am in a “resting-bytch-mode”!
I can never give that up.

And yup! I am getting sooooooo pretty in my old age I can’t stand it. Being reserved has made me “sexier” too!
Thanks o!

As you can see from this thread, I have to save my energy for my battles offline.

Nuzo1:
Almondjoy.

So something fit fear you for this life?

Mama always wants the best for her kids, even though sometimes they clearly don't know how to go about it.

Well, some kids started watching R-Rated films from childhood but still went ahead to turn out fine. Others only watched tales by moonlight till they turned 21. But by this age, their body count was pushing 100 from just 2 streets in the neighborhood.

But common sense and experience should tell us that it's safer to tactfully assist them to avoid as much R-Rated scenarios as possible. Your chances of growing old with peace of mind is on this one.

Not scared, just concerned.
Tactfully assist them to avoid what kinds of contents?

Contents they have already seen with their friends in school?

Children that may already be sexually active with themselves and others?

This na America o! You go juss dey waste ya time!

Vyolet:
At Op, parents may have known that some kids say age 13- 17 already know adult stuffs but rather than encourage them and make them see things like they are not bad, why not allow them be their age and watch series meant for their age while with you or while away from you?
It is your duty as a parent to guide them right.

Not possible. They are quite skilled in manipulating parental controls of EVERYTHING they lay their hands on. I can’t leave with all that cat and mouse game. I can’t block them from YouTube. . . The worst of the worst.

DanseMacabre:
I think it's a great gesture from you. Chasing them away when watching such will only serve to alienate them from you emotionally. And then I'm ninety percent sure they've already been exposed to such.

Big ups.

Thanks a lot. Your response very unequivocal and I appreciate it.
I have removed ALL restrictions from their profiles. It is virtually impossible for me to filter or screen ALL content at this stage. Now, I know they KNOW more than they understand as children. I can only keep educating and keeping watchful eyes.

Zeinymira:
Remember married was married 5 times. Maybe she's an ex.

Hehehe

An ex that shows up after 4 season?

Isssorite. Make dem nor phock up like Season 8 of GOT o!

So, Na who give an belle?
When Berlin don die almost 2 years ago?
Na IVF?

Tiger King!
With correct breakfast in bed.

Another JUBRIL don land!
Busssshari go soon show!

Confirmed!
Melissa Gates was right!

Ok, here goes. NL is a “venting platform” and I will explain why I allowed under-18s watch my R-Rated TV series with me during this lock-up-and-down “CORO-ERA”.

We are spending more time than EVER as a family and sometimes we want to be together in front of ONE TV.

The issues I have had are as follows:

1. I can’t keep chasing them out of my bedroom if they need to spend time with me. School is closed for the rest of the session and everyone is HOME most of the time for social isolation precautions.

2. All the really interesting and imaginative movies or TV series have some degree of violence, foul-lingo or nudity involved.

3. I interrogated them ALL and found out they knew about some, if not all kinds of age restricted scenes and language. In fact, some children have been suspended from their schools from time to time for “cursing”, “smoking”, “sexing” or “grabbing”! Yup!

I am not new to social isolation, since it has always been my lifestyle from the get go. However, the present times we live in have stretched those standards to the limit.

I got hooked on MONEY HEIST, OZARK and PERSON OF INTEREST and watched the entire series with the whole family. Boy! With mixed emotions I asked myself if I had gone too far.

At the end of the day, I felt better they were watching such themes with me than with their friends especially as all are above puberty and can practically be “parents” at this stage.

We share our feelings afterward and I try to ascertain if any emotional or psychological casualties have been created. They all seem fine, like I am really late in the game.

Let’s be real. These are children that have access to TV, social media, YouTube, phones and tablets. Not to mention exposure to other children from different backgrounds.

Are we deceiving ourselves? Where do we draw the line? Is is realistic to filter what our children watch on TV, or do we give them the options and educate them on the consequences . . . . Later?

What harm can be done if you do or don’t?

Person of interest!

The woman has only “nuisance value”!
Only to make noise. Attention-seeking de-wor-wor “frog grandma”!

And. . . . With no undue respect, your beloved GEJ was a SPIRITUAL DUNCE!

An understatement.
MUMU First Class with DISTINCTION!

But the God Father of ALL political stupidity is OBJ!!!!

He is now another “CLONE” from EL SUDANI!
You will never hear of the death of any Northerner in power henceforth!

He go soon show. . . .

Absolutely correct!
But they will ALWAYS blame colonialism.
Greedy selfish BASSSSTARDS!

Illiterates and TOUTS in power calling themselves leaders.

To use you as guinea pigs of course!
As they cannot figure out why “dirty Africa” is not recording deaths by “COVIK” in thousands and millions nko?

As they are befriending you, they are injecting you with real “MEGA COVIK” and analyzing your “DOGOYARO-IC” - filled serum to see if they can use your DNA to manufacture vaccines for their peepo!

Some barry don collect money from them to use Nigerians as experimental subjects!

Chinese of ALL PEOPLE?

Afamed over to you o !

You think JUbril is in Nigeria?
Allah don catch am stranded in India, on medical leave. . . . Prolly rotting away in some morgue. No chance to hurry to Sudan to get another “dullard clone”!

You go wait taya o!

Nmeri17:
I refuse to believe you passed up the opportunity to play on the words "sa/sir loot"

Thanks for helping me out.

Sleeping with his cows. . . .

I think the “North” got this covered!
JUBRIL from SUDAN rules!
Buhari don quench tey tey na.

obiekunie2:
farooq saw the light immediately after the grand scammer was sworn in.

majority of us who were deceived into campaigning for the evil scammer in 2015 instantly saw him for who he is after taking months to appoint only his brothers into his cabinet and greatly regretted our error and started warning nigerians that bubu is far from whom he wants us to believe he is.

but then it was already too late - the evil man has already taken over the throne and the powers.

Like Sowore!
We must all deal with the consequences of our choices and actions. Ex-Jibrilians included.
The worst is yet to come.