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Most marriages pass through this selfish and fragmented phase.
Apparently, there is a major psycho-social disconnection from both sides.
One person cannot make this work.
I suggest professional counseling, not family intervention.
Love is only ONE ingredient in marriage.
There are more than 50+++ others and none is present in this disunion from what I can read from you.
You have a less than 10% chance of getting back on track, that is if you ever had the right foundations.

All the best.

Beautiful!
Health is truly wealth.

Yebosola:
The problems with dimwits is if anybody write epistles, the unintelligents takes it hook,line & sinker once is Tinubu's thread,we are still 2019,tomorrow is January 2020,leave Tinubu till he declare his intention for 2023,stop using panadol for someone's headache.

Abeg, let us “dimwits” post in peace.
Thank you for your imput!

*rolls eyes*

I blame your wife for telling you about her friend’s personal life.
Now, you want to pass judgement on your wife.
I have always maintained the decree that MARRIED people should not have SINGLE, WIDOWED or DIVORCED friends for reasons like this. Different HUSTLES, different RUNZ!

Your wife needs to learn to maintain boundaries.
If she must keep friends, she must learn to keep their lives out of her matrimonial home and vice versa.

As for you, I don’t blame you much. Don’t face your “manly bizz”, keep tying wrapper and gossip worse than womenfolk.
If your male friend were cheating, would you judge him in the same manner or tell your wife?
I blame your wife for having a “lose tongue”
That is how women dig their own graves by telling everything to their husbands thinking they are fostering trust.
Men have very shallow and petty minds generally-speaking.
Anything you tell them(hussies) WILL BE USED AGAINST the wives at some point in the future.

Can the wife’s friend ever come to that house without being under the scrutiny of sanctimonious, matrimonial gossips aka judgmental hypocrites?

Music to my ears.
Asiwajuju! Ow market?
Time to run back to South-East and South-South abi?

Ntoooooooooooor!!!!!

Serious miscalculation o!

Whoever has the better or best chance of getting a better job fastest and with the least amount of stressors.

Not a matter of who earns more or less.
Not a matter of gender.


A couple in a healthy relationship or marriage can very easily discuss this and explore ALL avenues to arrive at an agreeable decision.

Unless the relationship is marred with strife and selfishness.

Why does the title only address “career women”?
I smell implicit gender bias from the OP.

Please, try to stay GAINFULLY EMPLOYED.
Husband-Spirit-Monitoring nor be work.
Shior!

If your husband be Neddy Nwoko, you for dey NL dey disturb us?


You can only monitor A POOR MAN’S phone ke!
Dimmmit! For this 2020? ? ?
Abeg, upgrade your status biko!

If you do not face your life, you will definitely repeat the sins of your father.

Your father is a serial LOSER and cannot associate with anything positive in life or death.

It is a pity you still feel you owe him any measure of love or respect.

While I admire your forgiving and accommodating persona, I also dislike the manner you choose to allow your father to cause you so much unhappiness.

Are you under a spell?

Hmmmmmm!!!
It is a wah!!!
Trump! How SHYTE-HOLE market na?

Tinubu looking for a new Northern Zombie to support for 2023.

You are going through a test or phase every married man or woman will definitely go through.

Rule #1. Never date a single person if you are married. You are stepping beneath your rank and file.

You need to stop that crap right there and now. He has nothing to lose and you have EVERYTHING TO LOSE.

It is not love but LUST.

You are playing a dangerous game and you are a novice at it. Nothing good can come out of this 'crush' you have on this 'boy toy'.
He has nothing to offer.
Abeg go find beta 'frog' chop!
If your marriage crashes. . . .it would be shameful to point in the direction of a 'RIFF RAFF' as the cause!
Please, play the game of MARITAL CHAMPIONS WHO CAN CHOP AND STILL KEEP THEIR MARRIAGES!
First, you must GROW UP! You need to think with the head above your waist.

Not here to compete for the 'single mother challenge'.
Just a few questions and clarifications.

If the husband or partner dies and you become a single mother, how do you change that?
Many couples are divorced, not married or separated, but they enjoy active co-parenting.

So, how do you define a 'single mother'?

Some women are married, but the husbands are not visible physically, emotionally or financially in the lives of the children.
THEY ARE SINGLE PARENTS!

A single mother in the strict sense of the word is any woman who decides not to KILL her child because of societal stigmatization.
If she decides to keep her child out of wedlock, and the father of the child is active in the child's life, she is NOT A SINGLE MOTHER!

The real single mothers are mostly widows and women with TOTAL absentee father figures for their children born out of wedlock.

Single mothers raise their children ALONE with no help from the biological sperm-donors/husbands.
They made a choice to choose LIFE not death.
Some would regret having children out of wedlock, just as some regret having abortions to stay out of being stigmatized by single parenthood.

A woman MUST choose and deal with the consequences. You cannot go back in time and change the present!

I nor need any NGO to tell me.
Not an option.
I don't care if I am married to zillionaire!

What a blessed man!
Na this kain Looter I dey like!

Like God, Allah is very 'changeable' o!
The word is sometimes not 'A' and "Amen'!
Old testament Koran vs New testament Koran.

This life is tooooo sweet to be miserable.
Too much to see and do.
Only depressed people will see being single as a disability.
The reason there are so many dysfunctional relationships.
Na by force to be in a relationship?

Oh yes.
I have 2 EXTRA-SPECIAL GUYS I turned down, I should have married.
Boy! They were sooooooooooo crazzzzzy about me for some unknown reason.
But was not meant to be. I was not ready and decided to go with someone else.
Gosh, I had some serious contenders I swear.
We married others but still kept the fire burning(on the side) till we got tired!
Still in touch till today but the flames have long burned out.
I really do not like to date new guys. . . I love to re-cycle OLD FLAMES, because we have a history.
Wetin I wan discuss with new 'flame'?

Let us just say we all married the wrong people and decided to 'manage'!
But, live is still goooooood. We are not 'unhappy', because we all have good lives.
I have learned to be content with what I have and don't have.

Make dem carry dem wahala dey go jare.
Been there. . . . . rocked 'em all.
No regrets for what you don't have. I ain't that depressed!

Breaststroke:
Your posts/comments crack me up so good, it was a pleasure to actually see you here tonight.

Thanks.
Feels good to be back like old times.
Sleep dey cassssssh me for work. . . . this is a gooood way to pass the next 2 and a half hours till I close.
Catching up on re-cycled family issues.

Breaststroke:
You are back Lol

Oh yes o. . . . was so busy putting my house in order.
Remodeling tins and getting rid of LOTS OF JUNK!!!
I don settle well well na.

Did the penise grow over-night from eating too much 'akpu'?
If she take the tin born 3 children, why is she suddenly 'tired' of the 'bigness'?
Anyhooooo, if it doesn't fit, YOU MUST ACQUIT!
If you can find someone ready to take your 'unleashed dragon', please go for it.
Sexual compatibility is very important in any level of relationship.
You don't have to force yourself to endure any kind of suffering in any relationship.
This marriage of a tin. . . .is not a do or die affair.

Na by force to stay married?
If it is time to say 'I DON'T' for whatever reason. . . .please, feel freeeeeeeeeeeeeee.
When you venture out of your marriage, you can either find greener pastures or a swamp.
If you no waka, how you go know?
Bottom line, live with your decisions.
As for affecting the children, or the 'insignificant others'?
Better to have one dysfunctional parent than TWO under one roof!
They children will learn to find their own ways.
Nor be by force abeg!

What exactly is our business?
My imput?
Not my gaddem bizzzzzz!

In 3 years time. . . . the lessons WILL NOT BE LEARNED OR COMPLETED because of TOO MANY CARRYOVERS.
As long as you EVER supported the Daura President, you can never graduate to receive partial of full credit of sense!

Ask Sowore or Atiku or OBJ!

calling for a revolution to overthrow the democratically elected government of Nigeria

What happened to 'LOOTERMONI' tradermoni/peoplemoni program?
Short-man devil con-artiste!
Twa!

Good Lord!
What a re-union.
Una well done ooooooooo!

MILITIA MAMA. . . BABEELOVE. . . .ALMONDJOY . . . .BLAZAY. . . .MGBEKETOTO. . . . CALLOTTI. . . . .KANWULIA. . . . et al. . . . dey kamkpeeeeeee!!!

Happy holidays.

My best years on NL. . . . .2007-2009!
The rest. . . . . .na. . . .WTF?

My greatest joy. . . . I NEVER MARRIED A NLander! THANK YOU MY H-AGNOSTIC GAWD!!!!

**** STILL WAITING TO SEE WHAT SEUN'S WIFE LOOKS LIKE*****

BAD, USELESS, CLUELESS AND WORST!
What a cursed country!

My wonderful family!

Keeping COZZZZZZY!!!!

Super HYPOCRITES o!

Empty vessels.