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I spoke to my wife about this, demanding to know who this so-called uncle was that was lying in the same bed with her.

You sef nor get shame?
Asking your so-called, long-distance wife about WHAT YOU ALREADY KNOW. So, what did you want to do about it from ACROSS THE OCEANS?

She denied knowing what I was talking about at first, but when I told her how I got to hear, she changed tone, saying it was none of my business, and I have no right questioning who she can or cannot bring into her life.

Before nko?
Please, stop acting like a “marital novice”! You nor get your own “aunties” for yonder?

Sometimes later, when I spoke to my daughter, she told me their mum flogged the boys seriously one day for telling me things that they should not be telling me. I felt betrayed.

Betrayed? How? You ABANDONED YOUR FAMILY BY GOING BACK TO FURTHER YOUR EDUCATION . . . . And left the woman to cater for the WHOLE FAMILY. Why did she leave the US? Because, you spent all your energy AVOIDING GAINFUL EMPLOYMENT in Nigeria. The TRICK MOST AFRICAN MEN use to escape the bread-winning role of their so-called “religious marriages”!

Abeg! Let your wife come and tell her own version ke!

Men also cry!
OP!
So, this can happen to A MAN too?

Marriage, “godly kids” . . . sense of purpose, fulfillment, no adultery or “GENUINE ABUSE”. . . .

And you still FAILED?

Try an OPEN MARRIAGE like mine since YOUR GODS have failed you!

UNCLE AND AUNTY don dey enter the marriage with long distance as an icing on the “sham-marriage” cake.

Because the woman don “set” without you? Now, she is appealing? With a “beta uncle” as “father/husband”-figure too?

O gal don HAMMER o!

You want to tell us you tied your pennis to ya sukurutums all these years without having an extra-marital MALE or FEMALE COMPANION?

Abeg, re-arrange your priorities jor!
Let the lady “catch” her fun and experience “some variety”. When she is broke and available to return to this “marriage”, you can forgive each other’s “transgression” and continue from where you stopped REMAIN FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS, separate legally( and be free to mingle) or call it QUITS!

bukatyne:
What is marriage to you is going personal negatively?

This is a new level of cray

Adultery is sex with other partners while married
fornication is having sex when you are not married

So how can you avoid fornication/adultery if you are having sex outside marriage?

Yes, it was going personal because that was not what I asked you. You were going off-topic.
All these are off-topics please.
You deviated from the main topic: “PLACING THE WRONG EMPHASIS ON WORK”!

I expected you to stick to that main idea.

All these are topics for other threads and have no basis on this thread.

Simple.

bukatyne:
Me ke?

The fact that you spoke ten pages about your family FIRST with pictures is proof enough for me.

The thread was not even about family to start with.

The thread is not about family?
Who was YOUR TARGET AUDIENCE? WOMEN ONLY!!! As usual.

It is on placing the wrong emphasis on work at the expense of WHATEVER SHOULD BE ONE’S CALLING?

The same calling that could be WORK if one is lucky. . . . Lack of fulfillment from placing WRONG emphasis on earning a living.. . . . . Just RAMBLING!

Than you jumped to:


“Marriage is for companionship, preventing adultery and raising “godly children”?

Unmarried parents(single and divorced) can’t prevent adultery or fornication, and can’t raise “godly children”?

You got PERSONAL and asked me what marriage means to me AND I SHOOOOOWED YOU!

It is not about posting on NL. Some of us ARE LIVING IT! On our OWN TERMS and by OUR OWN CHOICES. Nobarrrrrrry’s BEEEEEZWAX!

ibkayee:
Lmao, realised I was calling you amazonjoy when I meant almond

I miss her too

Daz alright.
I looooovit.

bukatyne:
And when I did not answer you, you went guns blazing?

I like your style of engagement.

It is sure to produce the best results.

My style: If I mean something, I say it.

And I try not to read in-between the lines assuming for other people, that's why I question posters who bring stories here.

It is good you admit that none of my posts actually say what you have 'assumed'.

Stop the “twisting”.
Was I the only one you ignored?
I went about my business until your corny reply about “what does marriage mean to you. . . . Blah-blah-blah. . . We learn every day” off topic.

Then “my open marriage dis and sleeping around dat” ! ARGGGGGH! O gal face ya topic abeg.


WAS THAT THE QUESTION I ASKED YOU?

Asking meeeeeee what marriage means to me? Extremely offensive AND UNCALLED FOR, and so I let you have it!

Was that the TOPIC of discussion?


After almost 12 pages you still cannot state the aim of your thread, so I am entitled to my subjective interpretations with or without your help!

So please, do not make personal references to NL posters of whom you know zilch about their lifestyle or QUESTION THEIR LIFE CHOICES! Not ya BIBNEZZZ!

Face the topic of interest, learn to be a mature host on your thread, avoid tunnel vision, GROUPIES, and KEEP YOUR PERSONAL FEELINGS ABOUT ME IN CHECK. . . . Or I will return the favor.

Crying to moderators, supermods or Seun is not my style. I will HANDLE you myself. I don’t use GROUPIES either. Not my turf!
Thanks!

bukatyne:
See our efiko, efiwe o!

Children nor de tey big

Translated verbatim from my language.

Keep peppering them joor.

So you have a job, husband, kids and even have time for them

Carry go!

A trial will convince you! WITH PROOF!

TRIPLE FULL TIME JOBS!

bukatyne:
Our Chi-Chi dancing cultural dance that year has grown?

You bet!
In a VERRRRY OPEN MARRIAGE TOOOO!

The big sister!
Chi-chi #2!

All about the RIGHT EMPHASIS!
No matter what you think or claim to read ONLINE, some of us take WORK AND FAMILY EQUALLY SERIOUSLY!

We can afford to make choices that without problems or regrets!

Some new pictures ooooo!
Teaching my baby girl how to COOK!

“godly-children” my azzzzze!

Godly children that cannot COOK OR CLEAN THEIR BUTTS, but can only “phock pastors”’, do ASHAWO from BRAAVOS to KATTEGAT and carry belles for some “unholy ghosts”!

Not on my life o! Las las. . . . Dem go get sense by force!

ibkayee:
Lool you are jennykad (I think she joined after you) were characters

I miss her oooooo.
We fought like MAAAAADO!
Then became NL pals in the end.

The good old days. I miss them.

ibkayee:
Are you amazonjoy from the old nairaland? Pretty woman

Na real AMAZONJOY!
Absolutely! The one and only ALMONDJOY Seun and his croonies have been trying soooooo hard to annihilate over the years. Out of wickedness and envy!

Muchechecheche

Thank you jare!
Let me PEPPER DEM!

More old pictures!
Yes oooooo very old! 20 years+++++++
To prove WE ARE REAL! Not to be making EMPTY NOISE ON AND OFF NL FOR WHAT YOU CAN NEVER ACHIEVE!!!!!

If YOU GARRRRRIT. . . . FLAUNNNNNIT!

Who E Pain? Who E Pain?

Most of you come online and be posting thrassssh about godly marriage dis. . .heavenly children dat! Dem nor go let us hia word! FAKE MARRIAGES AND ALL. Whether they are married to GOATS OR COWS, no one can verify!

Phocking LIARS!

Hiahn! Online “flexxxxxxing”!

We dey HIDE OOOOOO!


Hiaaaaahn!

BOBO MI!!!!

Ezigbo ONYE-IGBO!!! CORREEEEKT!!!
God bless my SWEEEEET-OPEN-UNGODLY MARRIAGE.

Shior!

We see where the BULLION VANS OF BILLIONS went . . . . NI-ZOOOOOOO-RIA!!!

Dis Na real 10th-World-Country oooooooo

Mstick:
Thanks for this topic! This is just the type of love black men love. She stayed with me after I cheated, beat on her,had babies on her,broke,did jail time but she stayed so she's the best woman ever, I feel the worth of a woman in a black relationship is determined by how much hurt and humiliation she can endure.

Ever wonder why they claim to "hit big money" whenever a woman chooses to leave their toxic behind? Because they feel the only thing they can or should do is provide and crazy a enough they can't even fully provide for their women without her own support.


Virtuous women according to black men aided by the "Bible" and traditions that have taken us no where is just a walking, talking,money making,kids popping,human shield doormat.

I agree totally.
As for the “bible” and its “pastors”, all that can be promoted is a “RIDE OR DIE” mentality. It is better to be SINGLE AND MISERABLE. At least your problems are yours only!

Low self-esteem drives women to churches for the most parts, to look for a “drug” to “fix” their broken bodies and spirits!

This goes on from generation to generation.

bukatyne:
@KanwuliaExtra:

I can understand why you think someone else must have a pedophilic husband or an ungodly one or whatever:

Not everyone have open marriages where each spouse sleeps around or other immoral defects and baggage they carry around.

Let they say 'you project on others what you are.'

Soooooo ? This is what had been killing you slowly about my NL IDs?
YOU SEE ME DEY HIDE? NA WHO ASK YA?
Still enjoying my open marriage o. TO FORSAKE ALL OTHERS WAS NEVER IN MY MARRIAGE CONTRACT. Unlike YOU HYPOCRITES! How won’t you be spreading misery all over NL and offline?

#J-O-L-O-S-Y- - - ! ! !#

If I were gay, you would have sent “spiritual assassins” to my doorstep fa!

My GOD is not the same as YOUR GOD OF SPIRITUAL LIES AND EMOTIONAL PRISONERS! Amen!!!! WE ARE FREE-SPIRITED, UNGODLY-BEINGS AND DO WHATEVER WE DAMN WELL PLEASE WITHOUT CONSEQUENCES. E DEY PAIN YOU?

Eh Wo? Na only me waka kam dis morning?
You don go pray for my mata for ya mountain-of-fiery-LIES-church last night? Or your “sojas” don gif you liver to “fight back”? YOUR NL parrots don taya to post for you? Chai! Chai! Chai!

Are you tired of that your nauseating “WOE IS ME! I AM BEING CRUCIFIED LIKE MY LORD” NL persona? C’mon, let your true “light” shine!

That my post to you was deleted, why bring it up again? Must have gotten to ya huhn? Bitter truths.

Is it because it is still on your thread(Kamisha was smart enough to save a “portion of it” , knowing that HEAVY PUNCHES DIRECTED AT YOU WOULD DISAPPEAR LIKE MAGIC KE! (The usual tricks of your NIZOORIALAND-NL, ever-baised MODS/SUPERMODS against NL non-AssskissLickers. ). . . . You still felt the need to address it? AFTER THE POST HAD BEEN DELETED? WOW!

I did not state you have a pedophilic husband. I only likened your unrealistically-sanctimonious mentality to such a woman’s.

Do you know what an “analogy” means?

Please, look it up and learn to comprehend what you read. Your subconscious MEAN-SPIRITEDNESS is glaring for the whole world to see.

Keep exposing yourself! I am loving it!

This is the post that was reported by one of your croonies.


HERE GOES. . . . A more palatable and revised version.

I repeat:

BUKATAYNE!!!!

Yup! You are a NL case-study.
Do you understand why?

1. You are more dangerous than the CORONA VIRUS.You can kill both body and soul slowly, while you watch with pride and celebrate with “your god” that you’ve done his will.

You are the kind of woman that will watch her peDOphilic husband molest ALL HER CHILDREN (both male and female combined) and accept her fate as “the MISERABLE will of HER pastor and god”!

2. Keeping that dysfunctional marriage intact with a SATANIC HUSBAND and DAMAGED “godly-chikdren” is always gonna be A priory. Women LIKE YOU would not want the world to shame them abi?

MARRIAGE IS ALWAYS A DO OR DIE AFFAIR WITH RELIGIOUS STRUGGLE LOVE!

Are we surprised we had MEN like JIM JONES that can only support and LOVE WOMEN like you on and offline?

NL is very DULL! When you show up to provide the necessary avenues to STUDY YOUR MINDSET, don’t be flattered. You are only an OVERLY-SANCTIMONIOUS-CYBER LAB-RAT or GUINEA-PIG used to examine the inner workings of a biased and prejudicial mind against ANY LIFESTYLE different from your “godly” one!

PEOPLE WILL BE EXPOSED AND LEARN TO ONLY MAKE THE KINDS OF CHOICES THEY SEE FIT, DESPITE YOUR LACK OF SYMPATHETIC EMOTIONAL SYSTEM!

The consequences of INDIVIDUAL LIFESTYLE CHOICES is NOBODY’S BUSINESS. If they need help, you are NOT a therapist! They know where to go for help. Not on NL!

#TEAM UNGODLY OPEN MARRIAGE AND PROOOOOOUD#!!!!! 20 YEARS ++++++ AND STILL ROCKING AND PHOCKING UPANDAN!!!! Wey ya own? ABI NA HOLY GHOST YOU DEY MARRY?

Studies have shown that student who are neglected by parents are the most anxious, inattentive apathetic and aggressive, withdrawn from school or have to repeat class.

True for the most part. For children with CARING and SUPPORTIVE families with one parent, both parents or surrounded by an active, caring and positively interactive/integrative extended family systems.

Hence, parents need to understand how their actions can help generate the confidence, the curiosity, and the pleasure in learning and understanding what helps children to succeed in life.

Not all children are fortunate to have functional or living parents. Parents are not always around 24/7 and may have to work. Children are in orphanages, boarding/reformatory schools or are sent away by their parents to live with strangers or other family members because they can’t afford to raise them for obvious reasons.

To feel good!
It suuuuure feels goooood when no “beta” dey around!

A good “FORE ❤️ PLAY” initiative to get tinz rolling!
Just once in a while when I feel the “Big H”!

What are her good points?
Focus on them.
She has such a phobia and it may stem from her childhood or upbringing.

I am sure your church members already know what she looks like. You are proud of your family, she is not proud to show her face without make up.

Give her time and don’t push.

riches4me:
Huh! You are a troubled soul.

Uh-huhn!
Most women have strong opinions.
Having a strong opinion means having a strong personality aka CONTROL FREAK!


Did your wife just become like that? Or is it COVID 19 LOCKDOWN that has given you the FINAL opportunity to KNOW YOUR WIFE?
When it comes to home affairs, women run the shows. Yes, there has to be compromise if you can.

If she can’t change or you can’t accept the situation, you will have to work around her imperfections or kiss your marriage goodbye.

I have a STRONG PERSONALITY and everyone has learned to work around my “own ocd” with their “own ocds”! We tolerate and accommodate each other because at the end of it all, we all have our own little “pet peaves”. . . .OCD or not!
That is marriage!


Are you gonna tell us you don’t have your own wahala that causes people around you to get irritated or anxious?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qY2AJc5wgA4

MY OWN NOR REACH DIS KAIN KOLOMENTALITY O!

yettymuse:
My chest don block o .. yeeee! i don catch my sub!!

Abi na lie?

Those wey dey pay so-so TITHES, even with empty bank accounts nko?

What kind of family is that?
Are they all handicapped?

Abortion and murder are the same!
All na “Pro-Choice”!
Poor baby.
The will of “God”!

He needs “special education” simple.
You cannot treat him like his peers because he has a learning disability.

Stop comparing him to this and that. He is on HIS OWN LEVEL.

Punishing him sends the wrong messages by making him feel guilty and of YOUR IMMATURITY with children with special needs. You have to have compassion and understanding. You lack both. Please, tell your parents to get him a devoted, qualified and professional home tutor(not pedophiles please)!

He can’t be in a general classroom with a general curriculum please, to avoid BULLIES like YOU(his own family member) He needs A LOT of love, PATIENCE and an individualized learning plan with the basic foundation, IN HIS OWN LEVEL till he can catch up.

It is not his fault please.
DO NOT CALL HIM NAMES.and PLEEEEEEEAZE, STOP HITTING HIM!

crackkhaus:
You just dey type story.

You're the one who diagnosed yourself with OCD, not me

That you like a clean environment or love your own space, does not mean you have OCD... but since you want to put it to yourself that you have OCD, then na serious mental illness you get.

The cure for it is cognitive therapy or use of medications.

Go and argue this with the medical community and their years of scientific research, not me.

Na your opinion be that!
Yes! I have OCD! with FILTH AND CLUTTER.
I nor need cure abeg.

You can tell it is the OP that has THE PROBLEM.

You see the title of the thread?

From “STRONG OPINIONATED WOMAN” to “OCD”!

Hiaaaaaahn! Wetin we nor go read for NL!
Na crime to get “strong opinion”?

riches4me:
Pls nairalanders, I just want a general opinion on the best ways to treat a wife that has strong opinions about almost everything around the house. from the way kids should be trained to the cleaniness around the house when hers is to the level of OCD.

Is this not a TYPICAL WOMAN!S personality?

OP! Please, take your wife to your backyard and GUN HER DOWN! Simple,

Because they are miserable on and offline.
Some have very poor communication skills.
Others. . . Just envy your “swag”. . . . You are not miserable, petty or jobless like them!

COVIK BIRUS dey pepper body o. Many are out of work and are extremely HUNGRY!

Confusedgirlie:
No, he doesn't collect anything from me. We both give to each other. I think I give only slightly more than he does. He is a lawyer, and his pay is not that great. My pay is about 6x his own, and he knows.

OTURUGBEKE-BAJEEEEEE!!!!
Seeeee levels!!!!

This na real “STRUGGLE LOVE” 001!

Nne, abeg na “scrubs” you wan marry?