NATIONALPASTOR:


call me, I will advice you on what to do.

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cruchenuti:
You are not satisfying her sexually enough and you are here complaining.

Biko Mr man, go and do your Job joor and stop lamenting

Its not,sexually i m very active, and even at that,can it make her living adulterous life

I don't want to go into lengthy write up or details about the subject matter,and may not like in a situation i will be asked how am i sure of what i am saying or that i am leaving on assumption,NO!,but the point is that hear me loud and clear "i am more than hundred percent sure that my wife is cheating on me(living an adulterous life) and the challenge is what steps should i take to catch her red handed with proof.She doesn't sleep with them in our matrimonial home,she believes she is smart enough and playing the game the way it suit her.I am fed up with her adulterous life and need a divorce.Please mature advice.Thanks.

veave: you think its easy to be a house wife? try it and see... mtchwww... get her a house help... and stop whinning like a spoilt child joor..

it is not about being a house wife.It has been like that from onset.Just that i thought its something she can change as time goes on.Unfortunately its not,and such now annouys me.

My wife do fell asleep so easily.I begin to get annouyed over this act.This is because,in the day time,being at home she can easily sleep off and that will not prevent her from same at night.Most of the time she will lay on bed,the next minutes she will sleep off.The one that irritates me most is as a husband,having come back from work and after taking the night meal,then about to relax,i may raise a topic for discussion,hardly can the discussion starts than she fell asleep,i will be talking and after like some minutes,i will discover that i am discussing with an empty room as she had already started dozzing.This affects good communication because i feel that married couples do use most nights after their meal,will relax,discuss,share ideas even on days activities,etc.She is not working,otherwise one would have said that it is over stress.Most times,because of this,what i do is anytime i want us to discuss,i will tell her that she will sit on a chair instead of laying down before i can start talking,she will say i should talk that she is listening,but as soon as i start,the next thing is me talking to an empty house.Pls is this normal or what should i do?

@intbizoil:Thanks for your comment and advice.You have spoken well.Truly,not that i like doing that and not really that i used to do it often,but rather i equally see majority of men with young girls they are age enough to be their grandfather,and i feel why all these should be happening.I ask one lady i moved with why do she choose to always have married men instead of looking and have focussed on how she can get married,that dating a married man can lead her to be carried away forgetting that age is not on her side and the same married man will still dump you,she said she prefer having a married man,if husband come fine,if e no come fine.so i know that i did such,but i feel concerned about it,otherwise i wouldnt have used my self as an example,not that it was my wish to do so.Yes i did it,but what can be done to sterm this tide because i know this is very common these days,even married women dating single men.

@dasparrow: You are more than an Idi.ot and may hell and every form of destruction,including disease come your way.People like you are hypocrites and i pity your husband.What has your points has to do with the topic at stake.instead of you to give reasons and give advice to ladies of such as a campaign against such an act,you are here showing us that the pri.vate part ur hubby thought is his only,is rather a pub.lic part.Tell me any tangible point you have made now?,or what is bad in bringing up this matter which i am very sure is very common and even most married men and women here in NL know that what i am saying is true and many have engaged in such an act,or is it becuase i am the one that bring it up.Id.ot!.You will also tell me that a lot of married women are not dating single guys and instead of you to make a point,you are here talking nonsense.

@ Eneze1, so if you as a lady,i met you and toast you and told you that i am married,you will agree because you are not the one that ask me out?,do you even understand what you are saying,or are you trying to say "Single ladies,as far as you did not ask the man out,please date him".Always reason and look at a post critically before making a comment,if you dont know what to say,you read and pass like others

Personally,i cheat atimes though my conscience blames me after such.However,i have observed that these days a lot of single ladies prefer dating married men than even the single men.I have toasted some ladies which fell in love, and i have never fail to tell them that i am married,yet they will say no problem,that it wont affect my union.They will even guide you on how it will be done so that your wife will not catch or suspect us.laugh!.Another funny thing again about these ladies are that they will even at a point of having fun with them,saying that they are praying to get a good husband.I will ask myself,which kind world are we?,this one is chopping another womans di.ck and still saying that she is praying or that her pastor give her prayer points about getting married.Chop and clean mouth!.There is this one i m moving with and i later found that she had another married man she is dating and from cross examination she has been dating for years.I had gone to some places like clubs,etc and so you will see many young ladies fighting for one married man or the other.Why do most single ladies prefer dating married man to the extent that its now very common these days.

I will work on putting off my mind on her.I will desist from being so close to her even though I know she need me to .....,she use to tell me that she feels lonely alone in d house dat I shld come n even to take her out,n dis makes d urge to increase anytime we re together.Now all my mind is dat I want to hit d point to her about luv making.But I will stop all those things now by distancing myself from her.

I have dis single lady in our office whom two of us are very close more than other colleagues,to the extent that others think we are into screct love,but we are not,though I m married while she is very advanced in age and she used to claim very churchy that makes me to be getting afraid whether she will turn me down if I told her pointblank about lo.ve making.She stays alone and I do visit her,her body language somehow shows she also need it but may be afraid also n who first will make d advance.How will I go about it,our closeness in office no doubt has resulted this kind of lust and feelings( I beg for anybody not to insult me here).How will I play d game?,because I m still afraid if I make d advance and may be she refused,then probably she may tell other co workers in office and my integrity will be in question.

More than percentage of girls that serve in beer parlour,men doesnt come to them for marriage,or simply put,they find it difficult having a serious man to date them as wife.This is because men believe that beer parlour business girls are like prostitues who are only good for short time.Generally speaking,just like somebody posted here,if your friend having been looking for a way to divorce his wife,then the best way is just to establish beer parlour business for her and wait for atleast half a year,u will have a reason to divorce her.We dont need to deceive ourselves,more than half of women into this business have broken their homes.A real born again child of God can never go into this kind business.It is mini prostitution business whether you believe it or not.If any woman,girl that is into this business will sincerely tell you the truth about what happens in this business,you will know that it is an avenue for mini protitution.For some men that used to take alchohol,when you take it and seeing a woman in the bar whether married or not,who do you feel?,do you ever think on how you will induce and entice the woman in order to satisfy the next think that follows talking alcholic?,for the women,they can easily be carried away and see it as an enjoyment of life,and before you know it from touch touch to enticing her with money etc to meeting somewhere and no longer take the husband as anything because satan has manipulated her.My friend,the story is endless if your friend do not even suppose to dream of this business.So no other decent,responsbible and God fearing business can one emabark upon,except this satanic and useless business of family break up.

@ I.Chuka,

Advice appreciated.Though the bathing is not in the River, its just normal bathroom bathing which i think will comprise some mixture of thing with the water that will be used for the bathing.

@ Gohsen 360,I dnt know.I just state things d way I was told.

Nobody yet have given me a bible supportive point of what I asked off or convinced me biblically.

@ omo alata, I got ur advice.Though dis one is not cele church.

Please is it biblical if a pastor/prophet after counselling and praying for you told you that based on what he/she saw/revelation that your matter entails that you should do bathing(ie Spiritual Bathing as i understnad it)beause of some drawing back forces,what the enemy has done,etc,as a revelations he/she observed(had)in the course of praying for you.I am a man.Please is anything wrong with it and whether its biblical.I am not used to spiritual church activities.Please genuine and wise comments.Thanks.

@Kmariko and Valto,
while i appreciate all the comments and advice so far from people,i think it sounds so funny for you to be doubting the authenticity of this topic.I did not wish you were in this shoe and know how painful it is,but atimes you need to read and reason between facts and false,rather than trying to upset someone that is already angry.Thank you

@ Ms Pookie,
When first i discovered,i rushed and did it,it was negative.Last time i did again,it was negative.And the kind of fear this thing normally put somebody on when you want to go and repeat the test again can make somebody to faint and collapse.Its not easy atall.The heart beat alone.In fact i m not happy over the trend of things in this union.

THE STARTING POINT: Sincere advice please;
1.Dated a girl,we are from different tribes,love her and have never put eye on another girl all through our dating time and roughly after a year we agreed that we should marry if it things work out.
2.One day she informed me that one of her relations who is an envangelist told her that she is pregnant and should not temper with the pregnancy,otheriwse it will cause her life,i told her to go for a test,she did and confirmed positive.
3.I told her no problem,though since i m not yet financially ok for marriage,she should keep it,when i am ok finacially we can do the marriage properly,she refused and said we should do it now to save her and the parents from shame,we rushed and do the traditional marriage which up till today,i have not been able to raise money and complete the remaining marriage rites even the bride price has not been paid because no money.I cannot even save money to cater for all family needs,let alone completing the marriage rites,and she is not working.A year after we also did a court marriage,but no church wedding for lack of money.Its been a finacial pressure.

THE BREAKING SYMPTOMS.
1.Truly,there is no much peace in the union--most atimes quarrel and misunderstandings here and there.
2.I have been trying to convince her that we should be attending the same church,she refused-hence we have been attending differenct churches.
3.She dont want to learn my native language so as to familiarise herself with my tribe especially the aged people at home,i have tried teaching her but she is not interested.Anytime she travels home,she will be looking like a dump because at home its mainly native language.
4.She hide her Hiv status for me which i later discovered after some time that she is positive.-Love making has been so scaring rather than fun,though still make it with her but it had made me to look for outside atimes which wasnt my intention,and my conscience hurts me because i believe in faithfulness.
5.Till date,i m working but no single penny as savings.Monthly expenses is unavoidably more than monthly salary,no room to save money and establish another thing as a source of income.
I am very confused,that i am considering pulling out from this thing called marriage,though she do beg me against taking such action,but the above mentioned are there,this is not how i want to build my family.I am not finding joy in the union.Please i need a sincere advice.