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Roseey0:
I can't believe that aspect that he abused you financially and still didn't allow you work.
Either you just didn't want to work or
You weren't matured enough to handle this. I am guessing you married a man far older than you and was never your friend. You got that all wrong again. Yes he is older, yes was not my friend and yes, he abused me financially and refused me a job. I got a banking job, he said no, I won't have time for my kids. I got a teaching job, he said no, they pay peanut. I got a job with a humanitarian organisation, he said no, it requires a lot of travelling. Why won't I want to work? Even being a stay at home is a bigger work itself.


I use to be scared of being a house wife, because I saw many dependent unhappy house wives while growing up. I decided if I wasn't financially independent marriage wont cross my mind.
In the quest to become independent, I built my doggedness, patience and perseverance. After marriage I had to relocate to join my hubby. I was so scared of becoming dependent on a man but then I married my Friend so it won't be that bad. I prayed a lot too before making that decision to finally settle down . I dont even need to ask, for him to see there is a need and money is disbursed asap to solve it.

Having been independent myself I understand how burdensome it could be for another party to be cashing out on you for favourites. This restricts and guide my asking.
I won't be a burden forever and he knows that. I understand things may go south with him too, he has a lot going on from his family end, so I am trying soo hard to leave the housewive status as soon as possible.

Even if I asked all the questions in this world
I would still never have asked towards this direction wen though we dated for 3ye

solid3:
You divorced too? Pls share your experience if you don't mind.

Daboomb:
You are sooo wrong!

Things like Money become important like you put it, because your marriage is already failed and dead, in the first place.
If the marriage was what a marriage is supposed to be, then one spouse money, is also the money of the other spouse.

As a matter of fact, the working spouse works hard for only one reason: To please and provide for the other spouse!

My wife works but l cant sat categorically how much she earns as of today, because l dont really care as long as she is fine (l know she earns well) but she tells me that she is not contented unless she spends from my own sweat!
So, giving her money has become a ritual sort of. She does not really need it but she still gets it. Women...ehn!
if she were to stop working today, she will still live the way she lives when she was working; because l will ensure that happens.

I have seen marriages where, for the sake of proper upbringing of the children, one spouse who was earning less but has a very good relationship with the children (husband), agreed to lay-off work for five years (bathing, feeding, school runs, lesson runs, e.t.c) were all done by him while the wife was at work.
Her salary is transferred into a joint account and both have access (including ATMS) to the same account.
It was never an issue because both understood that they are doing it for their family and their marriage.
It also never made the wife disrespect her husband such that everyone envied the man so much and heaped praise on his wife... for being the symbol of motherhood.

Maybe you were disrespectful of the same man whose income you depend on? (Just guessing, l know that when marriage goes wrong and love flies out the window, a lot of nasty things can happen).
But dont use your own bad situatuion, as a yardstick to generalise here.

Toks2008:
Why sorry? shuts happen in life and you either let it weigh you down or you learn from it and move on.

Why else do I want to marry a financially independent lady? it's because I have learned a big lesson from my previous marriage

Adonis86:
Still remember how Franca Brown maltreated him in the movie 'Atrocities'... Scrub the floor... Lolz...

veragistonline:
You're most welcome.

cc: RoyalRoy

eternalcity:
will 40% of the expenditure to her
Wedding is not for the man only.

hinwazaka:
I thought she was a benin girl.
Am sure Bello helped himself to her b**bs before making his decision. #Wh0re

Naughtysite:
He is not confused. He is searching for TRUTH. It is scarce. Many men of God preach Money, Success and Prosperity. While some preach theology and christian sacraments. How many preach JESUS ?

They are illiterates when it comes to preaching, Teaching and expanding the word of God. Some of them have spiritual gifts and just want to prophecy and perform miracle to bamboozle their hearers and extort money.

You who has been sitting in Catholic do not even know what is happening outside. You will likely start your own search when trouble knocks. Though don't pray for that.

Young03:
Pastors, priest i fear una

because say na london,come naija and c them fucckin prostitutes

NCAN abort mission biko

JideAmuGiaka:
Your wife is more spiritually matured than you are. You had better allow her join a living church.

Kondomatic:
Your point is?

Drabrah:

They're siblings, both sons of Adelove, a veteran actor of the 70s & 80s, those days of stage play.

Henryyy:
She no even fine
@katier00 his brother.