maclatunji: ^Excellent! JazakumLlahu Khayra.

wa iyakum bro

Sunhanallah! How great Allah is!
I once listened to a tafsir on suratul fathia, but it it was not complete. Hoping to supplement this with it. May Allah increase us all in knowledge and eeman.
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tpia@:
I don't think Islam really mandates people should not pray within their own groups and social systems per se, someone correct me if I'm wrong.

The major place where everybody- irrespective of tribe, colour, nationality, ethnicity, etc -is supposed to pray and socialize together is when you go on hajj, not so?

In as much as that may be true, Islam also also does not say we should refuse to pray in a particular mosque based on tribal or ethnic differences. You can only refuse not to when e.g. the practices in a particular mosque are against your aqeedah

Salam alaykum,

Sissie:

True, we need more marriage seminars for both the married and about to. We also need marriage counselors. Fortunately for me I have been able to attend some, I know some organizations that organize such.

Many people are scared of getting married and what it holds, we've heard too many sad marital tales and some of us have witnessed it.

Salam Alaykum @ all,
I think faith also has a big role to play in this. Putting our trust in Allah because we are doing (or about to do) what he has commanded us to do. Nobody is ever sure how good a new undertaking will turn out, we just strive to do it the best way we can and hope Allah bless it. Same applies for marriage in my own opinion

As-salam alaykum, I got hold of this book “To Be A Muslim” and I thought it fit to share this part with you all. The book generally talks about how a muslim ought to live his/her life in accordance with the dictates of Islam as an individual and also as an active member of a worldwide Islamic movement. Below is the excerpt;

The Responsibilities Of A Muslim Brother / Sister
In his educational discourse, Imam Hassan Al Banna outlined more than thirty responsibilities of a member of an Islamic Movement. These responsibilities are obligations to himself or herself, family, and community. He said:
“My honest brothers (and sisters), your pledge (bai’ah) requires to carry out the following duties. Once you have done so, you will be strong and as hard as a rock.”

1. Recite the Quran, at least a juz (1/30 of the Quran) daily. You should finish a reading of the whole Quran in no more than a month and no less than three days.
2. Improve your Quranic recitation by listening to good reciters and taking lessons in recitation. Set aside some time to study the life history of the prophet (sirah), and the history of Muslims. You should read a lot of books, but a Humatul Islam is a must. Also you should read a lot of ahadith and memorize at least forty, if possible, from the collection of Imam Al-Nawawi. Last but not the least, you should study the basics of Islamic faith (aqidah), Islamic law (fiqh) and its branches.
3. Have a medical check-up regularly and have a doctor check any ailment. You should take care of your strength and refrain from anything that will harm your body.
4. Avoid excessive use of coffee, tea and other caffeinated drinks, and abstain from smoking.
5. Practise cleanliness in every aspect of your life, e.g., house, clothing, food, body, and work place. As a matter of fact, Islam has been built on cleanliness.
6. Speak the truth and never lie even once
7. Fulfil your promise and commitments and do not result to lame excuses.
8. Be brave and wise. Bravery requires one to talk frankly about what is true and right, to keep secrets, to admit one’s fault, to be aware of oneself, and to keep oneself from getting angry.
9. Be serious but your seriousness should not stop you from enjoying jokes and laughing.
10. Be modest, careful, and sensitive to good and bad things by expressing your happiness when experiencing good and gratitude when encountering bad. You should ask for a less prominent position, although you deserve or have a higher one.

11. Be fair in judging according to sound evidence. Your anger should not make you ignore the good in others and your blessings should not make you forget the bad in others. You should speak the truth even to yourself and to your closest friends, even though it may be painful to do so.
12. Be active in community service. You should be happy when you have a chance to a help others by visiting a sick person, helping the needy, and offering charity.
13. Exhibit sympathy, generosity, and forgiveness. You should be tolerant, flexible, and gentle. You should be kind to human beings and animals, have good relations with the community, preserve the courtesies of Islam, be gentle when talking with young people, respect elders, give up a seat to those who need it more, respect others’ privacy, and neither condemn nor insult others.
14. Improve your reading and writing skills; increase your knowledge of the Islamic movement (Ikhwan Muslimin) by reading about it. Read newspapers and magazines. You should have a personal library even it is a small one. You must increase your knowledge both generally and in your specialty if you have one. You must be able to understand the problems concerning muslims in sufficient depth to develop your own solutions in accordance with our ideology.
15. Work to earn money no matter how rich you are. Give priority to ordinary jobs even though their pay is small, and also give your full attention to this kind of job no matter how high your qualifications are.
16. Do not work in the government, but do not reject an offer of work in the government, even though the pay is poor, and do not quit unless the work is against Islam.
17. If you are given a job, work wholeheartedly, and honestly.
18. Demand and respect the rights of your brother and yourself.
19. Avoid gambling and unlawful sources of income.
20. Do not take interest (riba) in any dealings and you must avoid the circumstances that may lead to it.

21. Contribute to the material gains encouraged by Islam by promoting private industry, especially Muslim-owned and employee-owned enterprises.
22. Support da’wah by contributing some of your wealth to the Islamic movement. You must pay the minimally established amount of zakat on your assets because this is the right of those who should receive it.
23. Keep a small amount of your income for emergency use. Never overspend on luxury goods.
24. Strive as far as you can to keep alive the beneficial practices of true Islamic culture and eliminate secular culture in your daily conduct. Some of these practices are to greet everyone with salaam, speak the Arabic language, read the sirah, wear modest clothing, maintain regular hours of work, and rest, and observe the rules of eating and drinking, and follow the etiquettes of visiting, in accordance with the sunnah of the Prophet (saw).
25. Avoid all newspapers, magazines, clubs, gatherings, and schools that oppose the principles of Islam, unless your reading and activities in such prohibited institutions are designed only to promote the good and oppose the bad.
26. Always remember Allah, the Almighty, and the day of judgement. You should look for every means to seek the blessing of Allah, the Almighty, with high spirit and self-esteem. You should always seek to be closer to Allah through voluntary prayer such as night prayer (qiyam al-layl), and fasting at least three days a month. You should use the supplications of the Prophet (saw).
27. When you clean yourself, always follow the rules and regulations. Always maintain wudu (ablution).
28. When you perform your daily prayers, do so on time, and always fulfil the rules. Pray in the congregation and at the mosques as much as possible.
29. Observe the fast of Ramadan and go to on the hajj as soon as you have the means.
30. Regularly make the intention to go on jihad with the ambition to die as a martyr. You should be ready for this right now, even though its time may not have come yet.

31. Regularly renew you repentance, ask for Allah’s forgiveness, and avoid every kind of sin. You should set aside a special time to evaluate yourself before going to bed every night. Always keep track of your time because time means life. Do not misuse your time. Always fear Allah guarding yourself against evil, and keeping away from dubious things so as not to fall into doing the unlawful (haram) things.
32. Avoid lustful thoughts, emotions, and occasions of sin, for example by restraining your gaze from haram things, urging your emotions to focus on good deeds, and keeping your heart and desires away from all that is forbidden.
33. Do not eat or socialize where alcohol is used and consumed.
34. Do not take immoral people as friends and avoid all places that may lead to sin, such as bars.
35. Avoid all evil forms and places of entertainment, and in general avoid the environment of arrogant and extravagant luxury.

Culled from the book “To Be A Muslim” by Fathi Yakan

sino: This is deeply touching, messages like this makes me sober, these are Allah's slaves just like you and me, do we really care about those who are suffering?

Even if we cannot donate a dollar or two, even if we cannot forsake our comfort for the front lines, at least, we can always remember them in our dua's, in the earliest of dawn, when Allah(SWT) keenly listens to our plea.

Oh Allah, help us against our oppressors, help the weak amongst us, help the strong amongst us who strive with their all in your path, forgive the dead amongst us and the living, for you are the oft-forgiving most merciful. Ameen.

Aamin ya Allah

Inna lilahi wa ina ilehi rajiun.
May Allah the almighty forgive him his shortcomings and grant him jannah.

May he also grant you the fortitude to bear his loss.
Ojo a pe si ra o.

Sissie: Divorce is an option.

Just wondering, can you really take it to that level if your man decides to marry a 2nd wife?

I heard some people saying they wil observe the sun in a basin of water. Is this safe?

Lataaro! They've finished the game. 2 - 0

First I have to look for the key to my locker, dust all the cobwebs, straighten the dog-eared leaves, then...
As for me I've already set my sights 4 next year, this isnt ending any time soon.

GOAL!! These boys have started again o. Uruguay 0 - 1 Nigeria

@All, what are the rules guiding the use of birth control/ family planning methods. How do one go about it? Or maybe its not allowed in Islam??

Hmmn, i've always wondered what my reaction will be if something like this happens to me. My prayer for the lady is may she never lose her fervor for her faith. Amin

ummsulaym: Viewing this topic: lanrexlan(m), deeteeneey(f), ummsulaym(f), kayword(m), demmy66

I don catch una today o *dancing*...

Lol... No be only you dey gbadun dis thread o...a lotta people do.
I hope the "catch u" does not mean am doing something bad?? :-D
By the way, i like that name 'Haritha'

Bac in those days I used to remember sallah as a period of buying "ready made" clothes. No festival is ever complete witout with my plastic paper- surface wristwatch n googles

Plus it is everly sure that I will hav mor money than I've had over the past year. A lot of uncles and older cousins coming n going will surely drop some "aganran" notes.

Now the tide is changing and am the one doing the giving these past couple of years...

I can say that my childhood memories of sallah are the sweetest because there ar no worries except to have fun.

deols:

She goes in with her youth. A young body, mind.

If he divorces her as an older woman with no source of living and with nothing- no money!! How fair is that..Seriously.

when her making the home, bearing and taking care of his children are the reasons he has been having it good at work.
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its not lyk the woman herself is not working. What if she contributed more 2wards the breaking up sef.
Surely there ought to be compensation but slicing it equally is a bit harsh on the man to put it mildly

@op, so what is usually the first thing doctors do in such a situation? And how do u compensate for the lost blood too?

Having gone through all These posts, what I av surmised is that it goes either way, part religion part culture (wit d culture part determined by our perceptions of how a home should be run).

Religion:- It is not compulsory for a woman except d husband insists

Culture:- The woman is supposed to take care of all those things. Inability to do this is seen as a kind of negligence of her primary duties.

Thus it really is going to be a back n forth thing since it is a reflection of our differing postures on this issue.

But all the same it has been as funful (dont knw if dat is correct tho) and illuminating as it could be.

deols:

There are also many others who read without posting comments..I believe it gets helpful many atime.

Indeed. Even though I dont usually comment, this is my number one thread.

Bro mac already outlined what i wanted to say, albeit more succinctly.

My own position as regards how to tackle this issue of the elders is to focus more on ourselves and those coming after us. Even if the present is not that okay, at least we'll know that the future holds promise.

I don't think these babas can change because there is this mentality of "we've been practicing islam before you were born''. In other words, what knowledge do you have for you to tell them they are wrong.
I was at home during the last holiday and a friend of my younger brother told me his parents were complainin that school is radicalizing his elder brother. Why? Because he started keeping beard and his trousers are now above his ankles after gaining admission.

If we practice the right way, then these 'old' ways will gradually become phased out.

onegig: Amin.. My advise is for that person to have his will signed before hand.

Why? If i may ask

It has been said. A lot marry christians due to societal or family pressure of not getting married on time. But i think the reason really has to do with the person's eeman.

Thanks @ all for your contributions.

I recently listened to a 'waasi' about the advantages of early marriage. The speaker cited an example of a man marrying two wives on the same day. My question is it allowed in islam?
If it is true (to both brothers and sisters) can you do that or accept that?

Sissie: Hmm, I would be in shock for sometime, then angry at him, accuse him of being irresponsible for denying it (knowing fully well he did the deed), and if there are others I want to know, wont stop him from playing his role as a father. I will punish him one way or the other (after 20yrs of marriage I sure would know how to do this I.e ignoring him in the house,give him silent treatments, cold shoulder) I will still do wifely duties but not with love but coldness, who knows I may even threaten him that I want a divorce, if I am satisfied with the punishment and he has apologized fully well for that, LOL I will forgive him, life goes on.

Classic..

Salam alaykum, pls it seems I am having problems posting. It say "unexpected error..." this is d second time this is happenin this mrning. I first noticed it yesterday.

busar: Tbaba no be only you oh . My dad wife just gave birth this morning. Alhamdulilah

Seems like this is a week for babies. :-D Cngrats to messrs tbaba n busar.

Royal Roy:

Welcome Dr.Kayword.
You didn't tell us who your favourite nairalanders are!
Which football club do you follow?

Oya come & answer before I offer you popcorn & chilled coke!!

Me i be manutd fc fan o. I like to dey watch as dat VP vamoose ball inside net.:-D
My fav persons ask say make i bring that your 'guguru' with epa first. The coke too must be 'orobo'

Erm erm, been following dis thread 4 som tym, but wen i started seeing my favorite persons here, i decide 4 my mind ' i must to join'

I am kayword - as in letter 'k'+ 'word'. K begins my name and d 'word' is a literal translatn of d name.

I yam a very shy person, i think a thought like ten times before spurting it out. Omo yoruba ni mi, village boy for dat matter. I am an underg at a uni in d southwest- hope to b a vet medico in a few yrs time IA.

I love to read, almost anytin readable, subject to my varying moods, emotions and interests. I hav a quite broadened horizon. I like football a lot, i play and i watch man united evry other weekend. I do watch tennis too #federer.
I am a muslim in my early twenties with a loving family to boast of.
Wt else?? Waitee, i dy com bac...

Sadly, majority of what has been said here recently do not reflect how a religious page ought to hav lookd lyk.
All said, i think those who have issues should learn to settle it between themselves.

This particular thread has been really educative and enlightening, lets not let it regress into a page of accusations and recriminations. May Allah forgive us and purify our souls. {Aamin}