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I heard she's knocked up.

*Morenike:
Damn! He's fine!!

You say that about almost every African-American boy.

Nigerians love to suck their teeth as a sign of displeasure toward another person. Why is this?

Kenezi:
Garbage.

Well, if you think of well documented and proven history as garbage, then that's your prerogative.

Elody-Ann's words are just a bit off target though not too far out of scale. There are several distinct Sabian branches in which exist throughout Africa, and two of the most notable are the Amhara and Tigrean of Ethiopia who's descendants migrated into Ethiopia from present day Yemen, another nation with a well known stock of Sabian descendants. The original population of Igbo are descendant from the tail end of the Nile, on the eastern end of the Nile Delta, a well known area in were a rather large group Sabian descendants settled. So in a way some Ethiopians and Igbo are distantly related.

I'm really impressed by how well the Northerners have been able to maintain their ancient architectural developments, it's a shame that the south has not been able to do the same.

Yes, it's simply a mild form of albinism. This aint rocket science folks. It's just like any other type of ailment; some are born with serious cases of them in where its presence is very noticeable and some are born with variant minor forms to the point in were one may not really even take note that a person has it. The minor form of albinism has become so common over the millinia,  that most people don't even take note of it, and such folks are just known as light high-yellows and or red-bones,  which by the way is a term that once was stated as red-Igbo before being transformed into red-bone.

During the height of the presence of slavery in English colonial Caribbean and the US (North America),  it became a common thing for other tribal groups to mockingly refer to the commonly often lighter Igbo slaves as "Reds" for their often red complexion in which showed flush on their light skinned bodies after being in the sun all day. So whenever one was speaking of a fair skinned Igbo they would just say something like " Yeah, look at that Red-Igbo (bony) or bone" as it was stated depending on where it was being said. In the US they've always said red-bone, and in some Caribbean Islands they'D say red-"Ibo" and in some other islands they'D say red-"Bony". In time, as the populations began to mix,  this term began being addressed to all fair skinned black folks,  and lost its original mocking element.

African-Americans aka (Akatas) are an estamated 60% Igbo descent.

missshea:
Hello everyone, I would like to ask for some advice. My boyfriend is Nigerian, from Lagos, but has been in the states since age 16 for college. He is now 25, in last year of school for his second degree. I'm a white woman and am older than him, but not so much that it makes any difference to either of us. (i'm 30). Our personalities and mentality levels are on par with each other and we are each other's best friend. I'm educated, with my own career, and support myself, own my house, and pay my own bills (point is that i am not with him for ulterior motives, as i can take care of myself) We have been dating for over a year and now his parents have come to visit him today. He is their firstborn of 4, so I know that is a big deal. I know they seem to be very good people who care for their children a lot, and I know they want the best for him, and they have raised him to be a good and caring man. I anticipated them having some concerns over us, but not this much. When he picked them up this afternoon and brought them home, they saw our pictures together he has in his apartment, and of course his mom started asking questions, as any mom would. But when she found out my age from him, she and his dad reacted very badly and lectured him for some time and they told him they would not accept me or bless us if we married. Now, we have not been discussing marriage, but I know he has been thinking of it because of many small comments he drops (if he proposed to me I would say yes ) I love him so much and he is so good to me. We are very serious with our relationship to each other, we live an hour apart but we drive to see each other at least twice a week and usually stay overnights 2-3x a week.

So now, my boyfriend is very upset and disappointed and I think he was even crying when he called me to tell me what happened. He hardly shows emotion, like a typical man, and so I know this has hit him hard. He said to me that he saw marriage in our future and now he is not sure what to do. On one hand I am thrilled to finally hear from him straightforward that he is thinking marriage, but it's definitely a bitter way to know that he is now going to have to choose between me and his parents. He thinks it would be very difficult for me and him if we married without their blessing and is not sure he wants to do that. I know it was huge that he wanted to let me meet them because that is how Nigerian culture is, you only introduce a serious boyfriend/girlfriend to your parents.

After all this from his parents, he first told me it probably wouldn't be a good idea for me to come b/c his mom was just basically "on the warpath" as I would put it. She was making him take out all my stuff from his apartment and put it outside in the storage closet. I had told him though that I should still come (an hour drive) and at least meet them face to face and even if it is only for 10 or 15 minutes that I stay there, at least I did the mature adult thing and show them respect as well as my boyfriend. Then they could at least see me and maybe be less judging of me. So anyway he called me again to tell me that his mom said I should still come but that she just wanted to talk to me and tell me it is nothing against me as a person, but that it just is not their culture to marry a girl who is older. I am so upset and distraught b/c i didn't think it would be the issue as much as maybe my race or being american would be. He hasn't even told them that I have a son, b/c that would just be too much, I am sure. (my son is 7, and my boyfriend is very good with him and accepts him - bio dad is not in the picture at all - he is biracial)

Anyway, I haven't really been able to properly discuss anything with my boyfriend as he doesn't have privacy now because the parents are staying with him while they are there. I was already nervous about meeting them, but now I feel it is hopeless. What can I do when I go tomorrow to somehow get them to warm up to me?

It's because you'er white.