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My daughter says that she's found out that they decided to get back together and get married while working on the loose ends of the relationship do to Rihanna getting pregnant. Apparently, just a few days after the beating incident Rihanna found out that she was pregnant. It was then that she finally decided to answer chris's calls and begin communicating with him.

Are there any internet forums like this one out there in which is specifically targeted toward folks who like in Lagos?

Someone post a picture of her up.

tpia:
what are you saying that you've never said before? Deafening others with your ululations.

abeg comot my name from your mouth.

So you're not Yoruba, ey? Are you a Fulani or Hausa?

Igbo

ezeagu:
Yoruba
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Yoruba?, Heeeelll, no!! You must be nearly blind to think she looks anything like a Yoruba girl.

I just found out today that Yar Adua is really a Fulani and not a Hausa. Though as is often the case, since he's one of those Fulani who's upbringing is pejoratively Hausa based, people simply refer to him as a Hausa or Hausa-Fulani. Humm, interesting. This explains a lot about the guy that I've been questioning in regard to him being addressed as simply a Hausa.

Brandy has more class as well.

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Jermain and Wife Janet

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Kanye West and wife Alexis

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Nelly and Wife Ashanti

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DARREN SHARPER & GABRIELLE UNION

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Nas and wife Kalis

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Will Smith and Family

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Forest Whitaker and his Wife Keisha

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Michael Strahan of the NY Giants and his Fiance Nicole Murphy (Eddy Murphy's Ex-wife)

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Meagan Good & NFL star player Thomas Jones

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[img]http://Eva Pigford & Lance Gross[/img]

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Omar & wife Keisha Epps

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Tyler Perry & wife Gelila Bekele (Ethiopian model)

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Alonzo Mourning (NBA star) and Family.

chiogo:
@poster, who cares if they marry their fellow AAs??

Aww, KG's wife is cute!! and umm, Steve Harvey's family is just adorable,

And does Allen Iverson's wife look black to you? tsk! he even put chris and rihanna, lmfao, what a joke!!
I've been asking myself the same question. I first saw her on their family show, "Fatherhood". They supposedly started dating since high school, even went to prom together. I guess gangstas like good girls.

Yes, AI's wife is an African-American fair skinned women, of some obvious distant mixture much in the same way I am and millions upon millions of other AA folks. So what are you talking about? They began dating back in high school in Philly.

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Allen Iverson and Family

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Carmelo Anthony and Fiance LaLa

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Shaq and Ex-Wife

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Kevin Garnette and his Wife Brandy

A lot of folks have this misconception of that most or even a significant portion of Black-American male entertainers have white or other non-black wives, girlfriends or fiances. This is FALSE, by a loooooooooooong shot. The vast, vast, vast majority of them have a fellow Black-American mate, and the majority of the remainder have a black mate of another ethnic background. Most serious reports done on this issue have already proven this, though seeing is believing and as just a general free time event of mine-- I've been scanning the net for pics of AA male entertainers of all types and their mates, and was actually kind of surprised myself at the outcome. The outcome was that, the reports are right; the vast, vast majority of them have black women. Now as for famous African and Caribbean men in the west; well the situation is a totally different story to that of their Black-American counters. They are coupled with White women by a very large majority. Shame, shame.

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Titans quarterback Steve McNair, pictured with his wife, Mechelle, was named the Philanthropist of the Year Wednesday at Baptist Sports Park.

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Former Titans RB Eddie George and his wife, Tamara, were among the celebrity judges helping to select the 2005 cheerleading squad.

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Michael Jordan and Ex-Wife

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Denzel Washington and Wife

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Morgan Freeman and Wife

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Snoop Dogg and Wife

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Chris Brown and Rhianna.

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Obama and wife Michelle

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Usher and wife

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P.Diddy and Ex-Wife

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jay-Z and wife Beyonce

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Steve Harvey and Wife and kids

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I thank you three for your comments.

biina:
IMO it a combination of several factors
1. Most naija girls I know overseas would prefer to marry a nigerian but feel the naija-raised guys are too irresponsible. Unfortunately, while most naija guys are prone to cheating on their wife, he is still committed to his wedlock. On the other hand, the western raised guy doesn't need to cheat, as he will abandon you without a second thought if he feels he has vested interest elsewhere. This is due more to a societal view, and not an individual's preference. The average guy is not monogamous in nature, and the question is just how he achieves it: series or parallel. My advice is for girls to work on how to keep the promiscuous naija man in check, which I feel is easier than tethering the non-commital guy. In the developed countries, relationships and wedlock dont attract the same weight they have in africa.

2. The competition is keener: Black men are desired by ladies of other ethnicities, who are willing to either tolerate (or feel they can curb) their unfaithfulness. These other women are more aggressive in their pursuit of black men, and while the naija girl is still playing hard to get, they swoop in and cart away the guy.

3. I dont know why, but guys from other ethnicity always seem less interested in black women. Unfortunately, black men seem to be equal opportunity employers.

4. The naija man, deep down, usually desires a naija woman. [size=20pt]At the slightest sign of 'akata' tendencies, they will rule the girl off the marital list.[/size] Hence caucasian ladies who exhibit traits of an african woman are usually successful in marrying naija guys (and often than not get them to behave properly).

5.  Global strive has made less men available at the marriage age. Given that there seem to be more men available at marriage age, monogamy implies that some will be left uncoupled. Survival of the fittest.

While the african man is far from perfect, ladies need to be sincere in what they want and be clear on what price they are ready to pay for it.

If mothers would train their sons better, men would be less promiscuous. Unfortunately, typical of women, they sing one tune as a wife, and a different song as a mother.

What do you mean when you say "Akata tendencies"?

Why is it that so many Africans have western names? Don't you'all like your native names?

Yeah, my daughter tells me that she's seen on the net somewhere that he's bought her a diamond necklaces and bracelet along with some other stuff, contacted her and sweet talked her up really good. His mother sent her flowers, and then she forgave him and they soon after met at a private location outside of LA.

DaPhoenix:
You really are in a difficult situation but you ought to have explained the circumstances to your wife first - that is a given. You really have no other choice but to do the respectable thing and pay child support till your daughter is 18.

Please read all that I've written before commenting. I've been paying child support to her for my daughter ever since the mother and I broke up when our child was 1, and she's now 13yo. Me paying child support has nothing to do with this situation, this is about me sending the mother extra money on top of the child support, so to help her pay for some of her bills and other expenses in which the money she makes from work, I give her through child support and that in which her Ex husband gives her, doesn't quite cover.

Please do not insinuate that I'm some kind of dead beat dad in this situation. My daughter spends many days out of the month at my home, and out and about doing fun stuff with her brothers and sisters, my wife and I, and even her little 3 year old brother from her mother-- comes and spends a lot of time over at the house with her at times.

They, my wife and I's kids all get along very well and love spending time with each other. My wife loves having them over to the house, especially my daughter-- in that she comes and keeps an eye on her little brother and sisters while the wife and I are busy doing chores around the house or holding meetings and such. She's a big help to us both.

Damn, my wife started calling him Chris Beat-A-Bitch-Down Brown.

KarmaMod:
*waka*

Way too young to die from Aids

Karma, take your Wowo bush behind self out of my thread.

Busy_body:
Don't you think the small fact that your ex-wife's ex-husband was in on it too, surely would have made it easy to tell your wife? Why didn't you tell her in the first place anyway?

Perhaps you should reread my situation starting from my first post. I was never married to my daughters mother. Also, her Ex was not in on anything. He became informed of the situation after being summoned to court after failing to pay his full court ordered child support amounts. The issue of a payment restructuring came up do to her fall in personal income, and it was brought up in the hearing that I was helping her out with paying extra benefits to the her. It, was then that he found out about it and later called me up to thank me.

In addition to what Davidylan said, your wife is not selfish, and it is not about the fact that you can afford it financially, she just feels betrayed that you could not trust her, thats all.

I never said she was selfish in any regard. I just didn't feel as though she'd react too positively to this situation, in which I felt as though I really needed to step up and act upon. I didn't want to be deterred from the task. I know that my not telling my wife about it was wrong though at the time I felt it was right, and meaningful.

Don't rest on your laurel yet that she has forgiven you, because women find it hard to let go easily and tend to have more grudges than men, you still have a lot of grovelling to do, and don't be surprised when she starts acting funny too.

Please, I'll just buy her something fancy and she'll forget about it in a week. You know Igbo women. 




Just Joking, don't scold me, O!!

KarmaMod:
jealous of what? Bastards?   Or do you not know the definition of a bastard? Children out of wedlock. This wasnt even near wedlock sef. Spawn of a drunken one night stand.

Claim to be in a "marriage" yet hiding your randy ass information from her. Ode.

I'm going to argue with your ignorant ass today.

*Hauwa*:
kb1, not that it matters. is she a nigerian?

No. She's African-American.

Karma, shut your mouth and stop being jealous. I take care of my family very well. None of them want for anything. I spoke to my wife about the situation just a while ago over the phone and she's ok with the situation and said that she was just a bit heated that I didn't tell her about it. She knows my daughter's mother very well, and how good of a mother and general woman she is, and is just as wanting to help her out in her time of need as I am. This has much more to do than just with my daughters involvement in the situation, like the fact of that her brother and sister are very close to my wife and I as if they were our own niece and nephew and their mother is our good friend. We can easily part with some money to see to it that they can live with piece of mind.

tpia:
arent you supposed to be paying child support anyway? As long as your daughter's under 18. Most women would at least get that to help them care for the child. You dont want the mother to feel she has to go to court and force you to pay, though hopefully things wont get to that level.


You should have told your wife when she first asked for money, and also informed the lady you'd discuss it with your wife first. For all you know, your wife could even send her some money herself.

Tricky situation, I must say.

Tpia, I pay child support. Actually I pay more to her in child support for just my one daughter with her than her Ex husband is forced to pay for his two kids with her, do to my financial standings. But with her ex not able to pay his full share of payments do to being laid off, what I'm basically doing is giving her the access money that she's not getting from her Ex husband.

Her situation with her Ex not working-- was fine for a while until her employer was forced to cut salaries down not too long ago.  She's currently attending interviews for a better paying job, and her Ex is also working hard on getting another job as well, though due to the nature of his business offerings around this area of the nation are slim in his field of work, so he's being forced to move to another part of the country to get a position.

This is bothering him a lot, because he'll be so far away from his kids. He called me and thanked me for sending his Ex the extra money, and offered to pay it back once he's gotten back on his feet, but I turned the offer down and told him to just focus on getting himself together for his kids and not to worry about the money. He's a good guy fallen on bad times.

kayusa:
Gees,
Naija guys won't change from what they've been known for.
I hate to say this but these guys blabbing their horns on this trend is just hiding from the truth.Naija ladies born in western countries don't have a problem but I think it's the guys because how in the world can Tamedu or chinedu come over to US or UK and Expect Mojisola or Ada who was born and raised in the west to act like a village girl.It's never going to happen.They are both different although they have the same roots(African) but their orientation to life and back ground is diffrent and also these guys just come here to hustle make money and go back to someone they can slave,beat,slap and cheat on.I have seen it too many times.
This girls here won't take that from you.You try it yur ass is going to jail.
I am one person who Shawn the way our men behave because it's barbaric and should be discourage because we are in a new age where everyone she be treated with respect and dignity no matter their nationality or background because this ppl we are talking about may have Nigerian parents but technically they are not because they know little or nothing about the culture.
Food for taught.

Yes we can, yes we can, yes we can.

When I was a teen I made a very poor decision by sleeping with a girl unprotected after getting a bit drunk after a party. The girl got pregnant and 9 months later I had a beautiful daughter who I love very much. Thank god that we both had very understanding and cooperative relatives who helped me and my daughter's mother get through the experience, and we both managed to go on to successfully complete high school and College, though not as a couple. We barely new each other prior to the time we hooked up and had sex after that party, and in all likelihood we wouldn't of been interested enough in eachother outside of a drunken youthful state of mind in which we were in at the time we stupidly decided to go and slip out of the party to have sex.

Our emotions toward each other were purely based on looks and spare of the moment events and desires, and after that unfortunate night we soon found this out about each other with little delay of time. We just don't click in a way in which would allow us to have a successful lovers relationship. Don't get me wrong, she and I both are great decent people, though just not compatible in the right ways. We tried hard, really hard to be in a lovers relationship for about a year, but it just wasn't working, and we went our separate ways shortly before starting college. We remained cordial toward each other though, and I am intensively present in my daughters life-- so her mother and I are on solid terms, and I still have deep care for her in that she is the mother of my child and a generally overall good women who is fair and honest with me.

Well, now comes the part in which I've started this thread in regard to. About two years ago, she divorced from her husband and now do to the economic crunch,  she's fallen on a bit of hard times financially, and so she's of lately been calling every so often on my cell asking if I could help her pay this bill and that bill. Well thankfully I'm a pretty financially stable guy, and am in a position to comfortably help her out in these difficult times until she manages to stabilize herself again. By the way, she has a 3yo boy and a 1yo daughter by her Ex-husband, and our daughter is now 13. Her Ex got laid off from his job a while back and thus is not able to pay his full child support payments and or his court ordered share of the mortgage on the house she and the kids live in. So, I'm really feeling bad for the girl,  and want to help her out as best I can.

I've been keeping it unknown to my wife that I've been helping my daughters mother out of lately, though just last night while I was in the bathroom my cell rang while sitting right next to her and it was my daughters mother; my wife answered so to say hello and tell her that I was indisposed at the time, and in the process they began a bit of a chat in where my daughters mother thanked my wife for agreeing to help her out with some of her bills lately.  Can you Say BUSTED!! Well, my wife was classy with the surprising new news and simply played it off as if she knew all about the situation and was fine with it,  But once off the phone, she chewed my ass out over it!!

To say the least, she want's me to stop,  but I told her that I wont, in that It's not hurting our personal financial standing in any way, and I'd rather have her come to me to get help than to go through god knows what to get the finances, and face having the kids be effected negatively by such situations. By the way, she's (my daughter's mother) a very fiscal conservative person who doesn't spend excessively on anything, and she'd only ask for it if she REALLY needed it; so this is even more reason that I feel comfortable giving her the money. So what do you'all think, should I continue to give her money until she gets her situation together and or obey my wife's wishes by not giving her anymore money?

After seeing that last large, close up pic of Genny that was recently posted--- I'm going to have to change my vote and say that Brandy is definitely more beautiful. Genny has bad skin and a weird face shape. 

All of these guys look straight Igbo.

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You Nigerian dudes have some serious nerve talking about how uncultured Naija girls in the west are, when you fools cheat on them like no ones business and do all kind of other uncultured and sleazy stuff behind their backs. Get out of here with that bull ish. What, you expect them to be faithful and cultured with you, while y'all are able to go all out and do god knows what? How ridiculous and selfish of you to think so.

You reap what you sow. I cant even count on 10 peoples fingers how many times I've heard about some Naija guy, had a wife and kids back in Naija who he was hiding from a second wife over here, while having a girlfriend on the side somewhere else.   Naija girls in the west won't marry you or are cautious about doing so-- simply because they know how conniving too many of you'all are, better than anyone, and thus they have wise enough to take their time and choose wisely and or to simply play the guys as they have been playing them for so many years. Payback's a bitch at times.  

We African-Americans have nothing to do with those young Naija girls and guys shaking their asses around in those videos, so don't attempt to pass the buck on the failure of Nigerian parents to properly monitor and train their kids on to us. We have our own crosses to bare. In this day in age it's a struggle for parents of all backgrounds to properly ground there kids with all the negativity in which the world media is spreading around the world. African-American and all other types of American parents have been battling this type of stuff for a long time now, welcome to to world of media driven culture take over and the fight to subdue its effects on your children.