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@Naija Sisi,10x hun. I just hv to move on with my life,I mean does he expects me to come crawling on bended kness with tears filled eyes,noses dripping n all dat.Hells NO!!!!!!!! In as much,as I wish we cld resolve d whole drama,am an independent woman and blivs dat whteva is mine wld stay mine.Suffice to say dat boy(not guy now) is not mine, lol
@Brocassie,maybe u rite or wrong.But one thing is certain dat I wasnt complaining abt his lifestyle,infact I was luvin it,cos am an ARIES n u knw we party hard n make frds easily. So I needed d break from my old self n was ready to make it work with my man,but guez he wasnt dat ready for d committment as much as I tot.Like I said b4,its all gud,mine wld surely come n quick too.All d best with ur gal!

This post got my attention,cos my 8month old rship is abt to end or just ended, My man is sooo into himself n just wants everything to be abt us, He's like dis,I dont bother myself with things dat dont concern me,he luvs just sitting at home after work n wkends,infact he doesnt like company,asides mine n some of his close frds, which he rarely visits/allow come visit, Anyways,we had a lil misunderstanding n he's dragging d issue n not owing up to his manly responsibilities n am like in oda words,wht re u driving at, He popped d words n till date am still stunned, dis is a guy,I rilly luved n made so much sacrifices for, too bad,cos in as much as am hurting,he's lost a PRICELESS GEM! SO DIS GUY DID BREAK A CARING WOMAN'S HEART AND I WONDER Y? ITS ALL GUD, GOD KNWS BEST, !

@poster,doubledating,in its real sense,aint kool.Seriously it shouldnt be encouraged,but then pple hv different experiences with life.So plz let's not be judgemental here,to y'all folks tryin to do.I hv had bad relationships n as it seems,am currently not dating n its affecting me,cos I feel so lonely.Wht do u profess for a lady dats bn hurt too many times n still bn asked out by a lotta guys,so I shld stay alone or wht give my heart to another joker will be step on it.If I decide to go back to d dating game,just dont ask,

@Lord_reed,I rilly wish I cld tell d story,but its just too stupid a story to tell becos he handled d situation so amateurish,as in very very amateurish!He even called lastnyt,trying to get back in my good books n all,telling me hw he went to church n was told by a renowned man of God,dat he has lost his crown,whteva dat means!Anyways,when I hv pulled myself together,I'll definitely tell my story.

N:B- How do one quote?,bn trying to quote a reply n it doesnt follow.Steps plz!

@sisikill,I feel u girl, cldn't stop laughing at ur reply,so true n so funny.I mean who wld stay if a man refers to his ex dat way, Gosh too many syllables, hv tears in ma eyes!Now on my part,I wld kill(exagerrating here) my ex if I ever set eyes on him again, Oh my God,I so want to rip his heart out n just cause him so much pain,dat he wld beg to die.I wish he wld lose his job,b broke for years n just rilly suffer n he wld look for me so bad dat he wldnt find me,when his evil deeds had caught up with him n he needs my forgiveness!U guys hv no ideal wht dis devil's incarnate did to me n plz dont make me go into details!Am so hurting rite dat I cld bust outta anger n grief, sobs!Sorry abt d outburst folks,but seriously,if d break-up is cordial,then they can stay frds n dats it.Otherwise,if its like mine,then they shld stay so far apart from each oda!Dats it,

HYPOCRITE!
That's why Africa never progress. Huh Huh Huh Huh Huh Huh
Too many bootlickers abound everywhere.
Imagine getting all wholly eyed for a man who bastardized the destiny of millions and has NEVER OFFICIALLY REPENTED NOR SHOWN REMORSE.
Imagine tagging himself an EVIL GENIUS! Angry Angry Angry Angry Angry Angry Angry
Shio!
Shed crocodile tears like IBB [your mentor] &OBJ did when Gani passed on!
It's only a matter of time before IBB gets a silver bullet in the mail with his name written on it!
@ochukoccna.Hw dare u call me an hypocrite!Yes n yes wht the babaginda's did to our nation,was rather cruel.But then again who made u d judge.Are u God?Judge not so dat u will not be judged.Am just saying dat we shld respect d dead n let her b.U had d chance to get back at her when she was alive,atleast u cld hv written an article on d newspapers or smtn or even created a thread on NL,to showcase d ills done by d babagindas.So y didnt u,while wait when she's now dead.Atleast channel ur anger at IBB n not d dead wife.Anyways,I rilly did laugh when I read ur posts on dele giwa n gani.It was rilly funny.So hatin swthrt!Happy New year!

May her soul rest in perfect peace.Amen! To IBB n family,may Allah give u d fortitude to bear dis great/irreparable lost.

@ochukonaa,very funny!U shld b remorseful n not wishin her husband dead too!

Truly truly,der's nothing in dis wicked world.Her last words were rilly touching,hv tears in my eyes rite now'''I have finished d book''. Dear carol,may ur gentle soul rest in perfect peace.Lost a colleague/dear frd 2days ago,a frd also lost/buried her brother yesterday,can only imagine wht d family is goin thru rite now.To her family,I say may Almighty God give u the fortitude to bear dis irreplaceable loss.Amen!

@zeedee,no shakes.Just make sure u invite us sha!

@poster

TM,like many has said here is a very important,but not rilly a do or die affair!It depends on both families and the intending couple.Personally,I wld love to have my TM done in my hometown,Y?Cos it goes to show dat I hv gone out der,found a man who's proud to identify with my pple n has agreed to follow me home(my roots),to show n tell my pple dat she's here n she has done wonderfully well for herself.Wht am tryin to say in essence is that,TM is a way of apprecaiting ur wife n her pple,it is a way of expressing ur love n fondness to her esp.Frankly speaking,its rilly a stressful event,but d truth is its worth it!Asides d fact dat its part n parcel of our traditions n culture as africans,we just have to be proud of our ways.If an oyibo,can agree to come back home n marry his ni gerian wife in her hometown,wht more,we the custodians of the culture.Summarily,if u can afford it,I think u shld go for it.Do it for ur wife to be,who am sure u love n cherish,n also for the part of u being a true african/nigerian and outta respect for both families.Am sure she wants to hv her TM,even tho she might agree with u not to,if u dont want to.But deep down in her heart,am sure she wants it.Hell,infact am looking forward to my TM,more than my white wedding.Call me old-fashioned,but its a day,I get to show-off,get all attention,look beautiful in my african ensemble n all.Will rilly feel like an african queen dat day,with my handsome king by my side.All d best!

Me too, 5th April. Nice to knw I hv some buffday mates on NL!

I rilly think I hv met d guy 4 me , But!

Now y wld u want to break up with a very nice guy

Guez u aint feelin it anymo,d luv n all those things dat gives u butterflies in ya tummy re all gone or was neva der in d first place?

Simply put,go ova to his place or beta still u guys shld go out (so he doesnt strangle u when u tell him,need pple around,safety first),try not to look so appealing,hold his hands n look him in d eyes n tell him dat,u re sorry but its all over.Say thus: Mention his name. Cowboy,its hard to say,but I just hv to do this,cos I cant keep pretending. I want out of dis rship,then inject,its totally me,it has nothing to do with u.I just dont knw whts come over me.U re such a wonderful person n am sure u wld find a girl who wld give u all d love n attention u need bla bla bla bla, Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm,smtn like dat sha.Goodluck!!!!!!!!!!!!!

@axeman85

Nop,am not Oluchi, Me name's Kcee.

Regarding d dowry thing,my folks aren't asking much from my aunty's fiance,cos like I said,we re not selling off our daughter. Asides that,we (my family,esp. my grandpa n dad) re trying to correct the wrong impression pple hv abt Igbos n high dowry,esp. to other tribes wanting to marry thier daughters. I cant caterigorically give u a ball part figure as per how much they re asking for,but my aunt said d fiance didnt wince in agony over d list/dowry stuff. He simply smiled n said he wld be seeing dem sooner than they expect!Finito!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Guez dat settles it?

So to all ya folks out der,don't be afraid,Igbos girls don't bite instead they give good loving n make beautiful wives n mother,I knw I can get a testimony in here, Am I rite or am I rite?

@poster

First off,u re not n I repeat not asking for too much n just like someone else said,u re enduring too much! Am writing dis with a heavy heart,cos am goin or hv just bn thru same lane,which ended on sallah day(friday).My ex(I call him dat now,cos dats wht he is 4eva n eva,so help me God!) n I,hv bn dating for a couple of months n bliv me,he's always busy,busier than a busy buzzin bee!At first,it was nice,hvin a hardworking bf,so I told myself.Sobs!!!!!!!!!!Even on wkends,I dont get to c him,wld go ova to his place n cook my ass off without him even being der to eat.Anytime I invite him for any event,he finds one excuse or anoda.My niece's buffday,which meant alot to me n my family,I invited him,with high expectations,wanting to show off my bf to my folks n frds.Did he show up?NO!!!!!!!!!!!!! I cld go on n on,but dis is not my thread.On friday's event broke my back n I had to call it quits.Cos I was tired of lovin n wanting someone,who doesnt even hv my time!Am hurtin rite now,cos it was a big decision for me,but I had to take it,cos if not I wld end up giving my self HBP! So sista,take a cue from me n bounce,cos dat guy aint worth ur time,love n resources.He's gonna continually give u xcuses for every damn thing,at one point,it wld look as tho u were forcing urself on him n as if ur life depended on him, Rilly wish u wld hv the strength to move on,instead of stayin n gettin a hard hard heartbreak eventually,cos u knw men,when he eventually makes money,babe u re old skool to him,d good times u guys shared,ur challenges in d rship,he's gonna throw it outta d windows.I hope not tho.All d best!U cld go on ur knees n seek His face.maybe d Holy spirit will touch his heart sha!My 2-cent.

I think growing financial is more than all the other stuff. I m from the North but in love with an igbo girl but am almost getting frustrated cos all kinds of demands im not use to.


Growing financially is one big part,YES!But then,der's more to marriage than just be financially stable.Quite agreed,marrying from most parts of Igbo,can be a little bit demanding,but you can always negotiate with ur in-laws to be.Maybe u hvnt heard it b4,but u surely can.If ur girl truly loves u,both of u will put heads together n work it out.I had a frd who was trying to get married n her pple,not particularly her parents,gave dis exhausting list n d guy almost went berserk.Wht did she do,she went back to her parents n told dem point blank to cut down on all d unneccesities n bliv me they did.My point is,they wld try to frustrate u n all,but it all boils down to d one u love.Go back,talk to her family,am sure they wld c reasons with u,cos frankly,d economy is really bad n nobody wants to throw away money unneccessary,esp. young couples or intending ones. My aunty is gettin married to a guy from  Adamawa state n we aint stressing him much.cos we knw times re hard.Abi them go drink garri after wedding??So my candid advice is to work it out with ur girl n in-laws to be.Do I make sense plz?

Note: It will also make sense if ur spouse is workin,will actually cut down on d expenses during n after ur wedding.Abi?

Am 24,and my mum is already singing marriage in my ears.Let's say I get married next year,which by then,I wld b 25yrs old. Is dat considered as being marrying late

@Poster,maybe u shld speak for urself,sisters n girlfrds!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Lol

Like most pple here say,we (Igbo Girls) appreciate marriage more,when we re matured psychologically,emotionally,financially, etc. Really come to think of it,how many Igbo marriages,if I may put it so,hv gone down d drain(divorce),none dat I knw of,atleast speaking from my own perspective. So lemme correct d impression n if possible teach n bring to ur wacko head dat we dont marry late!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Ok? Gud,glad dat u now get it. Did I hear u say thank u ma?Sure,u re welcome dearie!

Simply put,u re just too chicken-hearted for a 9ja guy,(didn't use d word MAN,cos u re still in d making,based on ur thread), 0oops! D fact dat ur girl is beautiful,shld b a plus n smtn to be proud of,not scared of.Wldn't want to bliv u don't fit into her class, lol, Plz do us all a favour,STEP UP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!