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[b]Hey everyone,
I finally reduced the hair just for the sake of peace. Infact I wouldn't have reduced the hair of not that my dad forced and followed me to the saloon.
I finally reduced it to a mini afro. I noticed he was always grumbling about it there. infact, he was trying to tell the barber to take it lower than I wanted, till the talk in the saloon was getting too much because I also telling the barber what I wanted. He then ordered that I cut my hair every two weeks so as to go to the saloon again. Exactly after 2 weeks, he gave me money and said that I must go and cut it. I did not want to, but seeing that the previous haircut was not looking good to me again, I decided to go for the "fade" hairstyle on a lowcut. My parents said it looks like agbero hairstyle. I like the haircut and everyone is also saying its looking nice, even my boss at work except my parents. They ve now ordered that I cut it on Friday. This is very annoying to me cos they are making it feel that I don't have a choice of my own again. Yesterday, my boss who is a close friend of my dad, had the same hairstlye. My cousins also keep it. I want to tell my dad that, but I don't know how the African mentality of respect will see it.[/b]

Damn, I never knew people are suffering like this. me dey even complain of my 7k per week

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Seun:
The Meaning of Life


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S6_9QmM6TfE

wonderful video(1st one) I must say.
The best atheist video I have seen.
Everyone needs to watch it
I have always been trying to open a thread for the message it portrays, its just time to handle opposers, I don't have.

PastorKun:
Actually it is twisting scriptures to justify and extort monetary tithes from income that is wrong and evil. Tithers are mere victims of the elaborated and institutionalised fraud.

I actually meant tithing of today.
Infact, that one is a small thing. They ve even invented, Chelsea/arsenal/manu/.....fans thanksgiving and also state thanksgiving.
Its beats my imagination to see matured qnd grown up fellas falling for this.

I feel grateful and thankful having a normal belly with someone else's belly like that. I am not better than him.
What is more painful is that he was also a normal young man a few years ago.
Like everyone has said. just be strong. believe its a phase.
I am thankful to all those that donated something.

For me,
1. Greatest love of all by whitney houston.
This song is so classical that it will keep you in spirit and excite your emotions. The pathos is so strong.

2. dance with my father by Luther vanderose.
If you be been listening to too much pakurumo and your waste and you are tired, you need this. you wont get tired. This song is really special.

3. For once in my life by Paul williams.
That is epic tenor with light baritone that ignites feelings, passion and brings back memories. Paul williams killed it.

4. All of me by John legend
Be sure that children of next 2 decades will be asking who is john legend. This kind of song is usually performed by geniuses.

5. someone like you by Adele.
So soft, so tender, thats the feeling this song gives you. There are no heavy beats to invoke dance and all that, no talk of fame, no pride. This is pure class

So what are your Top greatest songs? it may be moee or less than 5. What songs do you think will stand the test of time for a long period?

Greatest love of all by whitney houston

I ve always had this issue in mind and I am yet to get a reasonable answer.

Tithing is wrong

zizazizu:
Just cut the damn hair! There is no need wrestling power with your dad in his own house. What are you doing in the house for 4 month sef? R u nt supposed to be in higher institution or sth? Don't draw rain that u cannot baff in o!

internship and I am going from home

leonard509:
dat pic don old

Hehehe, you don finally cut am

slap1:
Obey your father if he gives you money for the haircut. If not, kindly tell him you like afro and it makes you comfortable (and try keeping it lower, for now).

Don't children have rights to anything all.

leonard509:
I'm 19, my bro is 25 amd they still don't want us to keep afro

But from your pictures, you are keeping yours.

GboyegaD:
When next he complains, politely tell him that is the hairstyle you want to carry. You could say something like "Daddy, since I started keeping my hair, it has been more conducive for me. More so, I go about with my comb so be rest assured it will be tidy at all times." You don't have to argue and I can assure you, the way you present it is what will matter. However, if he is still insistent, get your mum talk to him or just collect your pocket money for weeks and go sit in school.

I ve thought of this long since, but in my family, nobody disscusses matters with my dad, unless he asks you. Worse is now when you want to oppose his instructions. I don't know if its similar to someoneelse's home. Infact, i think. saying it politely will make them more authoritative. My mum is against the hair, but she doesn't command me again and I am at going to be home till January.

I really want to know. I am 20 and will soon be 21. I am keeping afro of 4months which i usually shape and trim My dad is always complaining about my hair but I will pretend as if I will cut it. But I don't want to cut it and will eventually not cut it. Sometimes I feel that at least, don't I have a right of my own to choose the hairstyle I want? He just said that whether l like it or not, I am cutting it this weekend. I am getting annoyed, but I don't want to do what I will regret. I think I am old enough to decide that I want to keep my hair, so what is the age I can say that I don't want to cut my hair and it won't look bad?

Edit.
4 yrs after, little boy has grown beards and keeps it cool. Now on a trademark fade with a good shave. Moved out of home last year for life in the West. Now a part breadwinner to my siblings. Life tho. Moves quite fast... Dad remained stubborn, still drove me to the salon the final day I was leaving the house. Thanks to my parents for the lessons, but still shouldn't force me to cut my hair. I liked it.

When you have someone that encourages you,
supports you, scolds you, appreciates you, respects
you, advices you, reminds you of what the future holds,
plays with you, cares about you, loves you, makes you
smile, tells you the truth without looking back, and most
importantly draws you closer to God. Please tell me what
else you want. Because I have all I need. You make me
happy, your are more than awesome

Eerm Anna bannana or what do you call your name, Have you forgotten that when you. were dating ebuka that lives down the road. He did ten times of all these. So why did you leave him even after the Pleas?

hey mods pls
www.nairaland.com/1945947/personal-experience-how-develop-yourself

Hello guys, I am in my final year and I want to keep updating my knowledge n eee especially power. But I am not yet narrowing myself, I want to continue expanding my knowledge in all undergraduate engineering. Please advice me. I am not interested in pay for now. I need to lern more.

alentyno:
OP for your own good don't I repeat don't touch that book!

why?

EvilBrain1:
@OP
It doesn't have to make sense, that's why its magic. Don't you understand how magic works? Let me break it down for you: When the priest prays over the consecrated host, it becomes the body of the lord. Yet it still looks like a biscuit, smells like a biscuit and tastes like a biscuit. If you put it under a microscope, you won't see cells or extra-cellular matrix, all you'll see is magnified biscuit. Yet it is still the lord's flesh because Jesus said so and so did the catholic church. You have to have faith.

Its just like when people go to church for financial breakthrough. The pastor prays over them and they receive their miracle. Yet when they get home, their are still as broke as when they left (minus the tithes, offering and lost earnings from the work they could have been doing while they were spending time in church). Their landlord will still be disturbing them and their children s school fees will still be unpaid. This doesn't mean that their prayers haven't been answered. After all they prayed in Jesus name so they must have received bountifully and are now, in fact, filthy rich. It Just means that Jesus is magic, so when he answers your prayers you cannot use your carnal mind to see, hear or detect the positive change in any way. You have to use your imagination.

Faith is the evidence of things there's no evidence for. Jesus is magic! Remember this and it'll all make sense.

Hehehe, you said my mind there

This thread should not die

freeradical:
The holy eucharist as you know is the paschal mystery. It is the one miracle that happens everytime @ mass when the words of consecration are pronounced. If you do not believe in it there is no point receiving it because you will only receive condemnation to yourself. You don't have to understand the mysteries of the kingdom of God for you to believe. That is what Faith is. For those that study the word of God and the knowledge of it brings them to understand it makes their faith even stronger. Christ @ d last supper didn't say this is like my body when he broke bread and gave to his disciples. He said this is my body. Take and eat because it has been given up for you. You can see here that if you do not accept that the bread is the body of christ then it follows that you reject that Christ's sacrifice for you on the cross(which is what he meant by saying the body is given up for us). Everything about the catholic faith centres around the holy eucharist. That's why I said it is the paschal mystery. Everything from the holy mass to the sacraments to the creed leads up to this. That is why as a catholic if you are not receiving holy communion u are @ danger of losing your soul. You cannot receive this eucharist if you are in sin. You need to be in a state of grace and believe in its power to save your soul b4 u can receive it. Anything short of this you would be receiving condemnation on yourself.

Personally my unshaking faith in the catholic doctrine is because of the prescence of the eucharist. No other xtian denomination is that blessed to have this blessed sacrament. Yes, others may have variants which isn't the same as the real thing. So you better wake up and understand what the church teaches before your ignorance will cost you your own salvation. Abi you wan argue with Christ himself? God bless you as you see the truth in this post.

What if I came to you with a bottle of coke and a slice of big treat bread give you a phrase like "this is the body and blood of Jesus ..... and some prayers" Then tell you that you are about to drink a spiritual/physical person. How do you feel when drinking the coke and eating the bread? Come to think of it; is the body and blood you are eating physical or spiritual?

freeradical:
Na Jesus talk am ooo no be the Catholic church...."If you do not eat my flesh and drink my blood you have no life in you for my flesh is real food and my blood is real drink. Your ancestors ate manner in the desert yet they died but if you eat my flesh and drink my body you will have life everlasting". Even the pharisees wanted to lynch Jesus after he said this. You are supposed to be a xtian and believe not a pharisee that doubts.

Crazy, I want to know how you believe that. I clearly remember the night before my first holy communion, wondering how the bread and wine tastes, imagine something special. But to my suprise, there is nothing amazing about it. What is strange is how people believe it.

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who even does the selection for front page materials?

As for me, I am born catholic, baptized with first holy communion and confirmed. But still, I cant get to believe how that bread and wine becomes body and blood. The thing about all these magic and mysterious beliefs is that it just has to fit into your fantacy realm otherwise there will be doubts. Especially with the case of catholic transubstantiation. I am having a hard time comprehending and believing what was previously bread and is still apparently bread becomes body of someone, who is dead or a spirit or immaterial. The magic is not even appealing cos the priests only says a few confusin words in which you are not sure whether it should be taken literarily a directly talking to us or they are simply restating what Jesus told the desciples. Its so confusing and very doubtful.
The second is when I am being told to say one hail mary for someone who is maybe ill or people in disaster. I am like confused that is it when I say the words, that the prayer gets redirected and spiritually rephrased to mean mary help those people?
Really confusing. I know many others here have those doubts, so lets share them

Seriously, sometimes I want to know who the mods really are. I m seeing loads of nonsense on the front page everytime. Its only when I go into different sections, I see useful information there. What kind of mods do we have? Most of the rubbish on front page are curled from the romance section or celebrity sections. To the mods out there; the quality of threads you put on front page determines the type of people you want to remain active on nairaland. Look at these two topics on front page:
Genevieve Nnaji Vs Tiwa Savage: Who Is Hotter And Classier? «
» After Bitter Divorce, Juliet Ibrahim Says Marrying Again Is Still In Her Plans «
How are these important? Of what use is this to the public, Is it informative? On that genevieve/tiwa thread, how is that of relevance to nairalanders in general. If we wanted to see pictures of genevieve and tiwa, what happened to google image search?
Pls mods, explain to us what qualifies threads for front page because there are much better topics that could be talked about or could be helpful to the public than many rubbish I am seeing there.

I feel so weak not being able to Help. I am still a student. I tried putting myself in your shoes and I know I am privileged to be where. I am.
If you really want to continue with School, you can ask your townsmen, showing them evidence of your admission. It could be one to one or you could find out when they hold meetings. I know of my boss during IT from igbanke. They usually send out allowances to their youths in various schools based on performance. So you could try that option

I wanted to post this on a thread which talked about cramming affecting one's performance
https://www.nairaland.com/1945797/need-third-class-degree but I felt it required a new thread.
This is one of my very personal experiences which I am sharing with everyone and I strongly believe that it will help a lot of people having similar problems.
I am studying currently electrical/electronics in a prestigious university and currently in my final year.I had a very difficult time in my second year when we were introduced to circuit analysis. Why? because I wanted to read an eletrical textbook and understand electrical engineering fully with it. I actually have this desire to be the best electrical engineer I can be. If not for the harsh situation in the country, I really want to be part of the inventors knows in electrical manufacturing companies wherever they are.
My first challenge back then was that I will be fighting myself all because I am reading about circuit theories and I still don't know the importance of resistors and yet I see it in every circuit diagram. I perfectly understood the theories in ohms law, but I never stopped asking what are the uses of resistors. The difference between voltage and current was a battle for me and when to use each term. Many of my mates then did not know and up till now do not know, yet they raked up the best grades. It continued through many courses. This caused ne to be thinking and worrying. I then realised that whenever I picked up any electrical question question on my head, I think of the answer, or check it up, it never leaves my head. Especially when I really wanted to know why and what causes shocks. I learnt all about what potential difference and current truly meant.When I began electronics was another hallenge for me. My inquisitive person did not let me rest till I figured out that you cannot analyse transistors, the same way with other dc circuitss containing battery. I learnt about the constant current source only perculiar to transistors.
No knowledge can be more retained than the one learnt out of developed curiosity. There were times when I looked at switches and connections at home and I felt silly for not knowing their electrical working principle. This became more of a personal research to me. It then began with me reading every textbook slowly. I ask questions at every line. It was slow reading and very frustrating at first, but my mind has adapted quickly to all that.
My biggest deciding factor was when I nearly failed a course on induction motors and machines all because I was trying to learn the theory and and working principle of an induction motor and its parts when I have not seen an induction motor before. Yet every textbook tells you that induction motors are used in many industrial applications. when I have not been to a factory before. It was frustrating. I know some students had/have this challenge. I first felt annoyed that lots of people crammed a whole lot of chunk and diagrams they got their good grades while all my efforts in truly ssimilating this course gave me an E. But during the holiday, after spending a month with the road side rewinders and 3 months with electrical contractors, I can now explain the categories of all types of motors and generators and their specific uses. No one actually sat me down to teach me anything. I just did started applying theoritical definitions anfd formulas with wha I was seeing. I was very inquisitive with myself and my imagination has expanded. Those who know me well will tell who is typing this.
The basic truth is that the education system does not help in any way. Its a total joke. I felt some unexplainable joy when I taught a first class student in my department the breakdown of all motors and generators, uses and applications. I also explained the "whys " to every use and application, especially induction motors (its starting methods). This Guy I am telling you of got an A in machines and has been getting A's in subsequent related MACHINE courses. The problem I realized is that there is no interest and the schools have deprived students of developing any interest in courses. How many electrical engineerig graduates understand the wiring of their houses and understand faults?. How many can fix sockets and plugs or even, know the electricalworking principle of these sockets and plugs? I was doing something tinkering in the hostel, I then told a coursemate to use a tester to check a wire and to my suprise, he was scared of touching its metalic cap, saying that it might shock him. And these people got good grades in circuit analysis practical. It now seems apparent that people are not good in machines in my school, so the lab grading is about who has the most voluminous plagiarised work. Its a pity.
I personally, during my industrial training worked with an electrical automation and control company. I have learnt and personally installed different motor starters especially direct online and star-delta used for the the control of motors. The joy in doing all these and seeing its application cannot be explained. Maybe because, the nigerian education system deprives us of this, I do not know. I have taken the choice to learn every remaining course in my final year with deep understanding. I am devicing a plan to make it also get me good grades. But if my inability to cram and pour in a short period of time affects me, then I am still happy. This write up is for those who truly want to learn in their vaious fields, irerespective of the certifiate awarded or the grades. The encouraging aspect is the fat that the little tim espent in 2 engineering companies, the engineers know that I am good and there is potential without askin for my school grades. I have also learnt that escuses don't change anything. We want to be engineers, doctors etc. Technology is moving everyday, we go into companies and see new advancements. Its the same engineering we(and the inventors) are both practicing yet we dont understand some "simple" basics. I know some students who had to use youtube videos to aid their understanding of courses. So, Its all about the sacrifices. Lets make them for the better.
I would have loved to talk about how learning truly works. There is something called active and passive learning. Most times when we read a book, we are simply READING or passively learnin, but when we are STUDYING; being inquisitive and drawing conclusions, we are actively learning. Like I said, I would have liked to explain more on learning, but I dont want to bore you. So, for the little, I have put up, your contributions are highly welcome.
Mods pls your enouragement is needed by putting this on the front page.

our education system needs serious review, if not a totl overhaul