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 Religion / Re: Begging In The Church by kennybabs1980: 8:59am On Sep 13, 2017 |
judedwriter:God bless you Sir. |
| Family / Re: My Wife Set My New Car On Fire, How Do I Settle This Issue by kennybabs1980: 6:15am On Sep 13, 2017 |
Na lie joor |
| Religion / Demands For Money And Other Things By Worshippers In My Local Church by kennybabs1980: 10:03pm On Sep 12, 2017 |
I started pastoring a small parish of a big Pentecostal church in Akure in 2012. We used to meet in a small location in a housing estate until 2015 when we relocated to our permanent site, a location that's about 10km farther than our former site. Most of the worshippers in the former location refused to relocate when we moved because of the distance and associated stress. That means we have to start the parish all over again. So we have been having very low attendance which has been improving since about 4 months now. The new site is a new community occupied mainly by people who have just moved to their personal houses. More than 60% of the plots remained undeveloped for now. One major issue here is the rate at which most people that attend the parish sees the church as a place where their needs must be met. They keep coming up with one demand or the other every week. Their demands include food, money and now that school is about to resume, school fees and books. Parents will teach their little children to go and tell stories of how they can't resume at school since they don't have school fees and books, elderly people even come around to ask for money and food, this situation is becoming very disturbing and worrisome. How can people see a very small church of less than 40 (90% children) in attendance as a source of supply of all their needs? Our parent church don't get involved in funding the small parish, we are the one who returns our tithes and offerings to the national headquarters every month. Offering in the church is small, adults come around to put N10 or N20 in offering bag and later send their children to go and ask for N10k assistance, I got pissed off this evening when a small girl who attends a public secondary school came around to ask for school fees of N10k and books of N10k for herself and same for her 2 siblings making a total of N30k. We bought exercise books and gave 4 to each pupil just last Sunday with pencils and biros and between then and now, they have bombarded the church with demands of well over N100k. Where do they really want the church to meet their demands? The church is operating under a temporary shed we put up in 2015, we've not been able to continue with serious building project due to paucity of funds. We (I, my wife, my assistant and his wife) have been trying in the areas of giving out food items, money, drugs, clothes etc to these people yet its one demand or the other on a daily basis. I see these attitude as unwholesome, disturbing and unfair. I need serious suggestions on how to really handle this situation as it is already dampening my morale. Matured and spiritual suggestions welcomed, thanks. 5 Likes |
| Religion / Begging In The Church by kennybabs1980: 9:54pm On Sep 12, 2017 |
I started pastoring a small parish of a big Pentecostal church in Akure in 2012. We used to meet in a small location in a housing estate until 2015 when we relocated to our permanent site, a location that's about 10km farther than our former site. Most of the worshippers in the former location refused to relocate when we moved because of the distance and associated stress. That means we have to start the parish all over again. So we have been having very low attendance which has been improving since about 4 months now. The new site is a new community occupied mainly by people who have just moved to their personal houses. More than 60% of the plots remained undeveloped for now. One major issue here is the rate at which most people that attend the parish sees the church as a place where their needs must be met. They keep coming up with one demand or the other every week. Their demands include food, money and now that school is about to resume, school fees and books. Parents will teach their little children to go and tell stories of how they can't resume at school since they don't have school fees and books, elderly people even come around to ask for money and food, this situation is becoming very disturbing and worrisome. How can people see a very small church of less than 40 (90% children) in attendance as a source of supply of all their needs? Our parent church don't get involved in funding the small parish, we are the one who returns our tithes and offerings to the national headquarters every month. Offering in the church is small, adults come around to put N10 or N20 in offering bag and later send their children to go and ask for N10k assistance, I got pissed off this evening when a small girl who attends a public secondary school came around to ask for school fees of N10k and books of N10k for herself and same for her 2 siblings making a total of N30k. We bought exercise books and gave 4 to each pupil just last Sunday with pencils and biros and between then and now, they have bombarded the church with demands of well over N100k. Where do they really want the church to meet their demands? The church is operating under a temporary shed we put up in 2015, we've not been able to continue with serious building project due to paucity of funds. We (I, my wife, my assistant and his wife) have been trying in the areas of giving out food items, money, drugs, clothes etc to these people yet its one demand or the other on a daily basis. I see these attitude as unwholesome, disturbing and unfair. I need serious suggestions on how to really handle this situation as it is already dampening my morale. Matured and spiritual suggestions welcomed, thanks. |
| Family / Re: His Wife Visited White Garment Prophet Without Telling Him by kennybabs1980: 10:20pm On Sep 10, 2017 |
This marriage thing is becoming more complicated everyday. How can a wife attend a prayer house without telling her husband? Something is wrong somewhere in that family which must be urgently resolved otherwise that family is at the brinks of total separation. |
| Family / Re: His Wife Is Selfishly Asking For Joint Bank Account. by kennybabs1980: 6:40pm On Sep 03, 2017 |
Raeynique:Oh my bad! Edited pls. Its the same woman who bears that name too. 1 Like |
| Family / Re: His Wife Is Selfishly Asking For Joint Bank Account. by kennybabs1980: 6:34pm On Sep 03, 2017 |
wwwkaycom:They are presently developing a project at an estate in Mowe area of Ogun State, Lawrence told me she hasn't contribute a dime to the project. 1 Like |
| Family / Re: His Wife Is Selfishly Asking For Joint Bank Account. by kennybabs1980: 6:33pm On Sep 03, 2017 |
[quote author=wwwkaycom post=60098772]What she wanted is just to gain control of the man. She will curtail his expenditure and possibly prevent him from taking good care of his extended family. How can a woman complain about a little gesture shown by her husband to an uncle who sponsored his university education? That guy must stand his ground but use love to explain things to her and let her know she have nothing g to fear. Let me ask, have they built their own house? |
| Family / Re: His Wife Is Selfishly Asking For Joint Bank Account. by kennybabs1980: 6:21pm On Sep 03, 2017 |
darlenese:Here is a woman who did not disclose her salary yo her husband, spends seriously on her own family and bought a corolla in 2015 without involving Lawrence o, her husband just believe their marriage must survive at all cost, I don't really understand what she stands to gain in a joint account when her husband is even going beyond normal to take care of her, their 2 kids and her extended family. 2 Likes |
| Family / His Wife Is Selfishly Asking For Joint Bank Account. by kennybabs1980: 6:00pm On Sep 03, 2017 |
Lawrence and Esther got married three years ago. Lawrence is a quantity surveyor while Esther is a nurse. When they got married in 2014, Lawrence was managing as a Quantity Surveyor with a facility managing company in Lagos on a meagre pay of 40k per month while Esther has been working with a Lagos State maternity since 2010, she earned more than double of her Hubby's pay. When they got married, the issue of joint account came up after they attended a family seminar in a church where the wife of the presiding pastor advocated joint account for couples. Esther told her husband it's not a good idea at that time. They lived peacefully together until Lawrence secured a better job in one of the foreign missions in Victoria Island. The pay is now close to half a million per month. All of a sudden, Esther now came up with the idea joint account between couples, stating all the advantages. Her husband has consistently reminded her that she was against joint account few years ago. This is causing serious issues among them to the extent that she complained to her Hubby's friends including my humble self on how her husband have failed to carry to carry her along on how he spends his money, how he spends lavishly on his family, and particularly how he bought a car for his uncle. Lawrence said this uncle sponsored his university education and he only show appreciation now that the uncle is retired from the service of LASG by buying a Nigeria used big daddy Camry for him when he has to hop from cab to danfo whenever his wife who is still working drives their only Primera car to work. I see Esther's attitude as pure selfishness, here is a woman who did not disclose how much she earned to her husband until early 2017 when he secured the embassy job. Lawrence is insisting that he will continue to pay the bills of the family as he has been doing since the got married in 2014, his wife also claimed she was contributing her quota as a supportive wife which Lawrence did not deny but insisted joint account to him is unacceptable now that he earns better. What is this joint account thing? Is it applicable to couples only when the husband earns more than the wife as Esther is making us to believe? 2 Likes |
| Family / Re: He Trained His Brothers But They Aren't Helping Him Now. by kennybabs1980: 7:23am On Aug 25, 2017 |
Amajerry83:That's if they pick your call na, my wife's younger brother have even blacklisted our numbers. 2 Likes |
| Family / Re: He Trained His Brothers But They Aren't Helping Him Now. by kennybabs1980: 7:20am On Aug 25, 2017 |
Huh! Spirit of ungratefulness is everywhere this days o. People get one benefit from others but reciprocating is always a problem. My wife trained her younger brother too, today he isn't looking back to assist any member of their family even though he now has a good job. My wife still has to use her salary to take care of the younger ones even though her brother which she trained now earns big and drives good cars around. Jimmy should forget them, thank God the new government in Ondo State is paying salaries, he should pray things improve so that very soon he'll pay back his debts and face his life. These young guys are not thinking the way some of us think o. 2 Likes |
| Family / How Do I Handle This My Father's Relation by kennybabs1980: 8:09pm On Jul 10, 2017 |
I have this relation of my dad who is presently giving me a big surprise. He's my dad's cousin. As a university student in 2004, I had serious financial need of ten thousand naira. It was for my final year project. This man was a director then at Ondo State civil service. I came to this man all the way from Abeokuta after writing a letter to him 2 months before that time. I didn't know his phone number then since GSM was relatively new. I got to his office and he welcomed me. Before I could explain myself, he told me that he saw my letter and that he wasn't the person I should write that kind of letter to, that he wasn't a close relation of my late father. He now gave me the name of 3 people whom he considered as my dad's closer relations who should be able to help me. He also told me my late dad contributed immensely to their education hence they should be the ones to sponsor my education. I have not met any of these 3 before then even though my dad told me about them and how they have not been forthcoming in reaching out to him even through mere letters after he assisted them in getting education upon the death of their own father who was my father's elder brother. I told him I didn't really know them since they lived in Lagos, UK and US. I begged him passionately to assist me since I had nowhere to go. He said these closer relations of my dad will never be responsible if he decide to take over what should ordinarily be their responsibility. I left his office dejected and sad. He gave me N200 which I rejected. I went to my mummy's relations who were mere peasants and petty traders. These people were able to raise N1850.00 for me that day. I went back to UNAAB and pleaded with my supervisor who gave me another project that required much farm labour but less money. I graduated, did masters degree and is now gainfully employed as a lecturer in a federal institution. The crux of the matter is that this man who refused to help me has become a burden on my neck. He's now retired. He had 2 boys with a particular woman in Akure, his first marriage produced 3 girls who together with their mother have abandoned him for marrying another wife. He introduced me as his "son" to these boys who are presently at FUTA and Owo Poly respectively. He told them to ask for anything they want from me. I have tried my best to support them, but I told them I'm not supporting them because of their father but because they'll reach their destination irrespective of whether I assist them or not. They also complains to me of how their father have not been so responsible to them financially since he's now a poor pensioner and how their married half sisters don't even like seeing them. I told them that I'm only contributing my quota to their academic pursuit and not necessarily because of their father who didn't rise up to the occasion when I was in a dire strait. Their father have added another dimension to the whole thing since early this year by calling me to ask for money, because he said he now starves since Ondo State government have not been so forthcoming with pension payments. I told him that his two sons are on my neck, I haven't given him a penny since he started calling in February. I actually wanted to sit him down and remind him of that sad episode in his office but my aged mother and my wife have been prevailing on me to forget it. Honestly I don't feel I should give him my money. His wife have been showing a lot of appreciation for the little I'm doing for the boys but this man have never mentioned it for once. The wife will come around and help my mum run errands, wash her clothes, nice woman. I prefer to give my money to his wife and anytime I do anything for this wonderful woman, he will call to remind me of the money he asked for from me. Please, how can I handle him? 1 Like |
| Politics / Re: Dogara, Reps Shun Senate’s Battle With Presidency by kennybabs1980: 7:57am On Jul 09, 2017 |
President Buhari caused it all. Why would a president opened his eyes wide and allow a character like Saraki emerge as Senate President. A man that had no regard for his father who made him who he is now but back stabbed him even to the point of death. |
| Religion / Re: Bishopric crisis: Mbaise Catholics say no to the Pope by kennybabs1980: 9:42am On Jul 01, 2017 |
Even Nigeria, the so-called Zoo is more united, Biafra is as divided as a divider 4 Likes |
| Family / Re: She Brought In Another Man To Her Matrimonial House, Her Husband Caught Her by kennybabs1980: 3:19am On Jun 24, 2017 |
MrBrownJay1:correct! Why not just divorce her straight. |
| Family / Re: She Brought In Another Man To Her Matrimonial House, Her Husband Caught Her by kennybabs1980: 2:29pm On Jun 23, 2017 |
wwwkaycom:Konji na bastard. This has nothing to do with neatness or decency. May be the hubby is not fucking her hard. 3 Likes |
| Romance / Re: He Is Getting Married On Saturday, I Like To Share His Love Story. by kennybabs1980: 9:44pm On Jun 22, 2017 |
akaahs:yeah, he clocked 36 last month. |
| Romance / He Is Getting Married On Saturday, I Like To Share His Love Story. by kennybabs1980: 9:01pm On Jun 22, 2017 |
Tunji my nephew has always been a special guy right from his primary school days. I lived with my elder sister who is his mother so I know almost everything about him from childhood, he has always been my guy. Tunji has taste for good things, dresses, shoes, bicycles, storybooks etc as a young boy. He will save his pocket money to buy dresses and good storybooks while in secondary school, no wonder he is a lawyer today by God's grace. Now on his love story, Tunji befriended Layo right from 1997 when he was in SS111, I remember telling him that he was too young to have girlfriend then at 16. He continued with this girl who was then in the same class with him. They completed secondary school that year and Layo went to University of Ibadan to read Economics while Tunji was admitted to read Law at OAU. He completed his degree at OAU in 2004 and Law school in 2006, thereafter he started working at the Court of Appeal where he did his NYSC, while Layo began a career pursuit in the banking sector. Layo eventually started dating a big guy who was a customer of her bank and ditched Tunji in no time. Tunji nursed his wound for sometime and moved on. His next move was so funny. I asked him how far about his relationship early in 2008 and he gave me the most hilarious and seemingly impossible answer ever. There was a young SS111 girl named Ebere in his street then whom he usually took in his car to her school that was along the road to his office in Abuja. He said he's going to bring up the girl and marry her. I saw it as madness and tried to discourage him because of the age of the girl and the number of years it'll take her to complete her education but he as usual stubbornly stood his ground and started following up on this girl. Taking her to her school everyday, giving her gifts etc. In no time the parent of the girl no longer have any fear wjen Tunji gives her anything or does anything for her. Ebere completed her SS111 in 2008 and got admission to Kogi State University in 2010 to read Accounting. Tunji waited for Ebere to complete her university education, she graduated in 2015, completed youth corps in 2016. She now works in a private firm in Abuja where Tunji also works and lives. I attended their introduction in her daddy's house at Gwagwalada in March, my Aso Ebi is ready, by tomorrow, all road leads to the family house of Ebere in Agbor, Delta State for the celebration of this wonderful story of love. I am happy for my meticulous nephew who is finally getting married to his beautiful small girl of those days (now a very big lady) that I almost discouraged him from going after, he waited patiently and the girl didn't misbehave, I pray that God bless their union. 1 Like |
| Religion / Re: Reject Donations Above Members Income, Osinbajo Tells Religious Organisations by kennybabs1980: 6:38am On Jun 19, 2017 |
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| Religion / Reject Donations Above Members Income, Osinbajo Tells Religious Organisations by kennybabs1980: 6:04am On Jun 19, 2017 |
The Acting President, Prof. Yemi Osinbajo, has asked religious organisations in the country to investigate members earnings and reject any member’s donations that exceeded its monthly income. Osinbajo argued that religious houses should inculcate in their members honesty and integrity and corroborate efforts of Economic and Financial Crimes Commission (EFCC) and other anti-graft agencies, in exposing anyone found spending beyond his means. He stressed that if religious houses embark on this, looting of public treasury or private organization pulse will reduce because those who engage in misappropriation of public funds does that out of greed, and not for any political objective of keeping a war chest for the future. Osinbajo, who urged the religious organisation to embark on the check at Father’s Day celebration held at Aso Villa Chapel, Abuja, lamented that many former public office holder that looted Nigeria’s treasury often justify their action on plan to engage in future political activities in the country. The Acting President said: “Every time that we come to church, we are told about giving. But we need to talk more about honesty. We need to talk far more about honesty. In the same way we talk about giving, we need to talk more about honesty because just like His Eminence said, Nigeria’s great problem is not the absence of prosperity. It is as he so eloquently put it, that we have enough for our needs but we don’t have enough for our greed. The greed of many is what has landed this country where it is today. “It is the greed of so many; many who have been placed in position of authority. It is their greed that has landed us where we are, where it is difficult to do the sorts of things His Eminence saw in Washington and so many other places. You cannot steal half of the resources of the country and expect to build the sort of things you see in other places. “And if the church says you are not allowed to steal and we will ostracize you in our midst if you did. If what a man has does not measure up to what he has, if we found that a man has more money than he should have, if a man is earning a salary of a civil servant or a public servant and he has houses everywhere, we have to hold him to account. But he must be held to account in the church. “He must be told first in the church we will not allow you here. If the church says we will not accept you here or that we will expose you if you are stealing the resources of the country or stealing the resources of a private company or other establishment where you work, then we would not have the type of problem that we have in this country. If only the church does so. Just the church,” he added. Osinbaho hinted that many arrested for misappropriating public funds often claimed that they steal because they wanted to have an arsenal for future political exploits, saying, It is a lie. It is greed. In any case, even if you want to do that, you have no right to do it. His message from the pulpit certainly strikes a chord against the backdrop of the avalanche of corruption cases the President Muhammadu Buhari-led administration has been pursuing since inception of the Government. Though the campaign had suffered some setbacks lately, with controversial verdicts by the court that tend to let go the accused but the Acting President argued that the religious houses in the country must preach against such act immediately. Osinbajo, who however spoke on the Father’s Day celebration, stressed that the role of every father should be to build a virile nation that could stand the test of time. “In other words, the role of the father is supposed to be that of building nations, building generations. And Abraham is the example God set for us; of a man who God wanted to be the exemplar of the type of conduct that God expects of fatherhood; a man who will teach his children and children thereafter the way of righteousness and justice and the way of fear of God. “Just as Christian fathers today, it is our duty as God spoke concerning Abraham in Genesis 18:19, it is our duty to build up a generation of righteous men and women, a nation of just men and women who fear God and puts God above everything else. And I believe that the Almighty God will help us. I just pray that the Father of fathers, the One who has called us, one who has saved us will bless each and every father here today in the mighty name of Jesus. The Almighty God who is the great Father of all fathers will ensure that we get everything we need to make our families, to make communities truly great and to make our nation great.” http://www.apnewsng.com/news/reject-donations-members-income-osinbajo-tells-religious-organisations-/ 1 Like |
| Autos / Re: 2004 SOLD SOLD SOLDManual Accord 6months SOLD SOLD SOLDUsed @950k Fixed by kennybabs1980: 3:53pm On Jun 17, 2017 |
Your location? |
| Car Talk / Re: Who Can Tell Us The Name Of This Car? by kennybabs1980: 6:10pm On Jun 14, 2017 |
pls tell me the name of this car
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| Politics / Re: Betty Akeredolu Sweeps Oja Oba Market In Akure (Photos) by kennybabs1980: 7:57pm On Jun 10, 2017 |
angels09:The former governor owed the 5 months, remember it was 6 months, Gov Akeredolu paid August 2016 arrears after he took over government in February. |
| Education / Re: What Did You Do To Be Self Dependent Financially As A University Student? by kennybabs1980: 12:14pm On Jun 07, 2017 |
Home coaching for primary and secondary school students 1 Like |
| Politics / Re: Osinbajo Does Not Have The Full Powers Of The President – Fayose by kennybabs1980: 10:06pm On Jun 03, 2017 |
Idle governor, your state is boiling and you still have time for Osinbajo who is busy on his duties. |
| Politics / Re: Osinbajo Must Never Contest In 2019 If Buhari Dies – Doyin Okupe by kennybabs1980: 10:03pm On Jun 03, 2017 |
rollybest:Baba o, I sight you, you're highly carried.
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| Crime / Re: Man Who Tried To Kidnap A Child And Grandma Arrested In Gbagada by kennybabs1980: 9:58am On May 31, 2017 |
That nigga should be dealt with and killed using the jungle justice way because our accursed policemen will release him after doling out some cash. 5 Likes 1 Share |
| Politics / Re: Osinbajo Signs Two Bills Into Law by kennybabs1980: 11:13pm On May 30, 2017 |
IhateAfonjas:In that case it means the most important personality in your family will see misfortune very soon, prayyyyyy!!! 2 Likes |
| Politics / Re: Osinbajo Signs Two Bills Into Law by kennybabs1980: 11:09pm On May 30, 2017 |
IhateAfonjas:It means that a misfortune is about to befall you. You'll need 7 days fasting and prayer to cancel it, your prayer point for the 7 days is just one, that God should heal your heart of evil thought against others. 3 Likes |
| Events / Re: Nigerian Man Marries His Ethiopian Bride In The US. Photos by kennybabs1980: 11:54am On May 29, 2017 |
Boob or flat tyre? |
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