I was saying how the battle was still going on in this room. I thought you men were given some tips on wooing women?

Fella's what happened? You guys fell off of the map. lol did us ladies hurt u ego's?
poor things.

Still at huh

I would like to have more boy's than girls.

Just for clarity.

Good qualities and character can be found in any ethnic group or race no matter what. But as I stated above , for me it's about the survival of the Black lineage

No woman knows the Black man like the Black woman and no Man knows the Black woman like the Black man.

Truly it's about a persons personal preference. Yes we all bleed the same and we are all human but we were made of a specific color for a reason. I'm not completely sure but I have idea's.  I used to be bothered when I see black men with white or non black women but hey it's their choice. I'm choosing to stick with my Black men. I have moved from African American's only to know being open to the Black men all over the world because we are one.  I love Black men even though some of you are crazy just like us Black women.

For me it's about the survival of the Black lienage.

I have not looked outside of the Black man and I have no intentions to do so. I believe that God gave the Black man all that I am in need of. I may have to search but it's defiantly there. (I preferr darker black men)

The survival of the Black lienage is more important than my personal preference. If I marry a non black man then my genes are weakened through my child because men have very strong genes. I'm not saying that black people can't produce very light babies, I'm saying that if I stick with a Black man I have better chances of producing Black babies and building on more black love. Producing people who can and will make productive, positive contributions to our larger culture being Black (God willing). I do not like the word Black!!!!!! I use it to be less complicated.

[Damm I think I am too old for this forum, no wonder most of the babes were complaining about my post. Sorry O!, before I spoil any one here I would have to go through all my postings deleting some and editing others. Seun what is the easiest way of listing all my post.

I feel so guilty all of a sudden
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Personally I think it's cool that you are here. Wisdom is much needed and I love your posts

As  a woman I appreciate honesty, respect and someone who's comfortable being them selves. when you're pretending, it shows and it's not attractive. For me we have got to be friends no matter what, so if you approach me as a friend then you may get somewhere. You guys should take notes from women.  Women asks general questions first in a very friendly way to test the grounds to avoid rejection, maybe even a smile will help break the ice but not staring. You might scare her away.

This guy once approached me and he must have been so nervous that when he opened his mouth to speak he drolled and he stuttered, No lie. I felt bad for him because he was trying so hard and it took everything I had not to laugh because it was funny and cute (I laughed later). I still turned him down cause I was seeing someone other wise he may have had a chance to talk with me atleast.
I'm nice to guys though, sometimes if I see them struggling I would just break the ice and have general conversation to help them feel better and show them that i'm human. I'm not cold hearted normally, but i have my times.

but hey you men aren't the only ones who deal with rejection. I've been rejected so much that I look at the ground now a day's

Ok Matrix

I was talking about business ownership yesterday and one thing we discovered was that the customers are the one's who truly run the business because they keep it alive. Without customers any business will die. opp's I think it was mentioned already .
there are some very interesting points about self employment that will be usefull to anyone seeking to enter self employment. I surly Will consider what has been said.

Strategies to exit employment to enter self employment are defiantly key.  Thanks for putting that out there.

It does depend on the person and what their goals are because our perceptions and realities are very different. I guess I don't truly see how a man will truly ever grow beyond his everyday living by working a job. Sure there's benefit's like health care and retirement plans but what about creating real wealth for your family and building your communities capital with quality businesses that the community will benefit from years down the line?  One good aspect about working a job is that you can count on a consistant amount of money each month if there's no lay offs.

I see that lot's of men responded to this one. I'm impressed with this. I think that it's real to say that everyone can not be an employer because then who will work for you? all of the women and children? The other side of it is that many people are very inclined to be business owners, I'm one myself. I choose this topic because where I live here in America many African American men complain about working for someone else. I do understand and I thought the answer for most of them would be self employment.  Most of the brothers that come from Africa that I come across have very good work ethic and are self employed. I was just wondering what you all thought about men being self employed. It seems to me that it would fit better with your natures, your ability to grow more and hopefully be very ssuccessfulin building true capitalfor your selves, families and community.

Did I forget to mention coordination? You guys are not very coordinated. You wuold forget your heads if it wasn't tied to your bodies.

(Sorry) seun for responding out of turn. I'll watch it after this

Men are so silly at times, you guys are like little babies in a strong need of affection. As soon as your woman leaves you for anything you're crying like babies and have difficulties coping. You can't pick out your own clothes right, you can't do much on your own without women holding your hands re-affirming you babies. That's why you guys want us at home so we can be there for your every little need, poor babies

You guys will never learn. The only reason women are in the kitchen is because after sex we are trying to find you energy. Food after sex seems to work for about 10 mins longer. lol

Keep in mind that I live in America so my veiws are mostly based on my experiences here and the social and moral structure of this country with some global education.

As I said if you are a poet then I'll surly know it, can anyone dance to the sound of romance

Being in pain is different from lasting some good rounds. lol

For me I would say no because it's too much of a risk. Sure their no sin in it but because there's no sin doesn't mean that it's the best thing to do. It can be difficult at times to separate your personal life from your professional life. What happens if you start having problems? you see each other at work and your not talking. Everyone knows your business now. What if one of you becomes jealous of something and make a big scene at work? what happens if you break up and still have to see each other when you may want to heal? what if one of you starts seeing another person at work? I mean not to just look at the negative side of it but there is a lot to consider. Where is the time for your personal life to exist outside of each other. You spend 8 hours a day at work and then I'm sure more time outside of work. Personally I don't want to see my husband that much unless he's sick and needs help. Even when he's retired I would hope he has a Hobie that he does regularly to keep him interested in his self so that we don;t smother our relationship.


that's is just my take and yes I have had an experience of dating a co worker and it didn't work out but that's another story and I didn't consider any of the things I mentioned.

Outside of the religious and spiritual things because we all know that God is the master of Love.


For me Love is what it is. Love is not one thing and it always changes.  It's not always a happy feeling or sad feeling. Sometimes love is strange and we don't understand it.

There are principles for everything and love has them too. I can't name them all but I can tell you what I think. The best love I have experienced with another person was unconditional. Accepting a person completely for who they were no matter what I thought about their life choices.

For me love is duty, respect, honor. I may be missing somethings but this is what comes to mind.
No matter what's going on in life. If you love someone then you will fulfill your duty, you still cook dinner or wash her hair even if you're upset.

No matter what, Love will always bring you to some level of respect for each other even when you're mad. You don't stay mad for too long.

No matter if your partner is laid off and feeling down and the world thinks he's a bum, you still honor, respect and support him and strive to nurture him back into his place even if you are disappointed with him. You don;t look down on him or her.

Also loving some one and being in love with someone is completely different.


Keep it moving