Now I am a woman without a reasonable doubt and I truly understand the womans liberation from being in an oppressive male dominant society throughout the world where women are raised and forced to live our lives according to their standards of a woman and more. ( I also know this to be more of the Caucasian womans struggle, more than the African woman)

For me it's different though, I was not subjected to male dominance in my household or community, instead I was taught greatness mostly by men. Of course male dominance is different for African American women due to the conditions of our men and where we live. I seen it but i was not subjected to it. We almost crave a man to be forceful in some ways but not restricting. Our men say that we are too forceful and that we act like men. (Very true in most regards)

Some of my friends who were born in Africa tell me about how lot's of men in Africa are possessive and controlling. Is this the freedom that you are speaking of? 
I'm trying to understand because other wise it sounds like the influence of the European or Caucasian woman, which we know that her image has influence us so much that we have blue eyes and blond hair.

Help me understand?
Wisdom please

One thing that I noticed in the last 5yrs is how many men are not afraid to say they are lonely, Even the play boys.
The one's I've come in contact with don't see it as a negative thing but a natural thing when the most important aspect of human relations is not being fulfilled.
It doesn't seem to be the same way for women now a days.
It seems that women see being lonely as a self esteem issue where they are not happy with them selves. I wonder about the truth of that.
It seems that the world is or had raised women to be independent of men till the point of her feeling that she can do without him or that her needing him is a sign of weakness.

I thought men and women were made for each other?

God doesn't have a woman or a wife.

I'm puzzled

Any thoughts?

It may be easier to seperate the needs from the wants .

And even being clear because sometimes what we think we need may not always be best.

Usually people who get pimples have very sensitive skin.
My skin is so sensitive that I can only use natural products, which is best anyways.
All of the animal fat's, artifical coloring and smells and perservatives are destroying our skin and stripping away the bodies nautral oils.

I would not advise using soap on the face and private area's.
Be as natural as you can be and drink plently of water.

As a teenage I used to have pimple so bad I used to get called 21 Bump street. My face looked as if I had a rash.
It went away when I was about 22 as someone said before, but it does re=appear at times when I don't drink enough water.

When the outbreak gets Bad I use Neutragena face wash to help fight the ance, then back to water to keep it under control.


1) Wash your face with pure water warm enough to open the pours on your face.
2) Wash you face again with cold enough water to close the pours on your face.
I mean the pours won't close completly, but just enough to protect your skin.

If all fails, go to see a dermatologist, They specialize in this area.

Where's Seun??

These men are interfering with this post again. On the other hand they are confirming the things we dis-like the most. Stupidity and more

I don't think that being single makes you lonely. I just think that when you're single with no special friends in your life, you will become lonely at some point.

Being single and having someone that you sleep with, have fun with, with no attachments is a completely different thing.

Y Yocum Brother, All praises due to Allah.
May Allah reward us all for our efforts in this life time.

Yes Amin,

I just left Chicago about 2 weeks ago attending a Ramadan Session. Had I known you I could have invited you out and built with you sister.

Firstly it is important to have an Qu'ran so that you may read and connect with the religion for your self, In America Yusif Ali is the best translation.

This site www.Islamiccity.com. has information about the prayers, the Prophet, the religion, the prophet' s wives and almost all of the basic things you need to learn about the practice of the religion. This site also very balanced in it's teachings of the religion.

I feel like this is not okay. I want to be able to be real with you and not make this thing out to be about reading a Qu'Arn, speaking arabic and dressing modest and making 5 prayers.

It's hard for me to fill you out. If you are interested, will you tell me where you are with this religion. You said that you were new to it right? Okay What do you want to learn? are you Nigerian?
Culture doesn''t really matter but people are free to choose their cultural practices of Islam. I asked that because maybe you want to know about how your Nigerian culture praticed Islam.

It's different for many cultures and all of the pure parts of the cultures are accepted by Allah

I am considered an African American woman. I practice the religion in the correct form, i just wear my cultural clothing as an African woman and I am comfortable being who I am as African woman. I do not look Arabic, I look African and not just by skin color. There are many things that I do not accept of the many cultures in the religion of Islam because I am happy with my own cultural practices.

Have you heard of Iman W.D.Mohammad? A great American and international Muslim leader respected by most scholars and powerful men around the world and of course the people.

As a woman it's criticlly important for you to know the religion. There's too much (his Islam) out here istead of the pure Islam. You need to know things so that you are not oppressed by weak men or women. Allah respects women more than most men know. You must gain the correct knowledge and understanding of the religion so that you excell to your highest potential of human development.

There so much to know, but it all happens when it is time. It's not a rush, it's not hard, it's not a burdan it's beautiful.


WELCOME SISTAH,

Is that A muslium country

Walikum As Salaamu, Sister I'm willing to share what I know. Where are you located?

Thank you brother, May Allah protect , guide and bless us all and keep us from the hell fire.
Ramadan is such a beautiful time for Muslims, if we're looking at it with clear eyes.
May Allah accept our prayers,May Allah bless your EID. It was a beautiful journey.


As Salaamu Alaikum,

Be well and stay blessed

kikelomo:

@ Kenya.A break...girl i think you have said it all. But the painful truth is that i'm afraid there isn't a man without at least 3 of these qualities. So tell me where u get your ready made men from o! i might just have to go shopping with you.

I don't shop I just look . Yeah I know that alot of our men are damaged and there aren't any ready made men. We just have to choose the most important qualities that we truly want and need in our lives. We have got to start looking at these men for the long term, will he be a good father, a good provider, understanding and so on. For me I'm looking at all of these things and more. I believe that it's out here somewhere. I'll be flexible on some of them but not too many.

WesleyanA:

kenya, i had to take my time to read your POST

Is that a  bad thing sis?

These posts made me laugh so hard because they are so funny and most of all I fell you sistah's.
Hate is a very strong word for me so I'm going to use other words.

I can't stand a man who-


1) Has no sense of responsibility. (Get your own place, car and money) Build a life for yourself, something you could bring a 
    woman into instead of you living off of her, then complaining about she doesn't respect you. How could she? Be a man and be responsible for 
    yourself and your life!!!!!!!!!!!

2) Has little to no sense of respect. (The world does not revolve around you or your functions) You can not walk this earth making your own rules
    to life and everything in it, not believing in guidance because you think you give it. This life came with rules (learn ,respect and manifest them).

3) Has no sense of accountability. ( there is consequences for all that we do) Take care of your children (all of them equally) be accountable for
    them, they did not ask to be here despite the mother. Don't blame the white man or anyone else for your era's or short comings, Be
   accountable for your self. Get up and try again, keep it moving.

4) Has deceptive intentions. (Everything you do comes back. remember someone may treat your sister, daughter, mother or niece that way) Stop
    with the drama because you don't know the damage you cause to the emotions just to get your thrill of spinning a womans head,
    sometimes it's hard for women to recover. If you just want sex then just say that, you might be surprised that she only wants the same thing. Be
    real clear and upfront, she will surprisingly respect you more and may go along with the no-strings attached. If you're not sure what you want, 
    then say that. Don't say you want a woman then runs when she appears or it's more than you imagined.

5)   That lacks balance. It's alright to be intouch with your feminine side and show a little sensitivity, but brothers please stop allowing these
       women to run all over you making a fool out of you, disrespecting your manhood. It's embarrassing and shameful. The other side is brother need
       to not be so bossy, controlling and obsessive. Give her space to grow into the woman she's going to be. If making a woman was easy
       then none of us would have problems with our mates. It's not manly to be controlling, it's arrogant and abusive. There is a balance to this that
       must be found and manifested.   

6)  Does not have a sense of direction. How do you honestly expect to guide, maintain and protect your family if you have no vision, limited vision, 
      UN-realistic vision or a vision that lacks substance? You must qualify yourself to lead by your functions of productivity, not your mouth. You must
      have active aspirations that are motivated by right intentions. You must review your plans and be open to change of plans.

7)  Does not have consistency. You must be consistant in what you do. You must have follow up. Yes things happen and things change but you
      have to be consistatant enough to follow through with at least a phone call to make others aware of the change. Stay within your means so
      that you can maintain consistency. If you are not consistant then how am I to establish reliability in you? I can't, because you are spearding
      your self too thin. Don't say what you desire, say what you can do with the hope of fulfilling your desires. This will be best. 

   Communication. Listen I know that most women love to talk and we may even think too much for most men. We honestly can not help it. In my 
       oppinion, women need security on a high level, she needs to know what to expect so that she can prepare. She needs to know that you
       respect her mind firstly. She needs to know that you are her friend and that she can talk with you about things openly. She has to have this 
       communication with you in-order to secure her nature in many years.

Okay I'll give it a break. 

Guy's you need to step it up and get the truth out here. These post are very few and I have read many of your other posts so I know there is much to be said. Tell us what you hate about us!!!
So what if a woman snaps at you because of your response, Say it anyways. How else would we know?

I can't stand the emotional drama that women seem to live and die by. I could never process that part even though I'm a woman.
UGGHHHHHH that bothers me. Yes, i know it's apart of our natures but it's still managable.

Yeah men need to truly consider the nature of a woman before they take on more than one wife.

Men who allow their desires to lead their lives will always be unsatisfied. Men who marry for beauty will not be happy because theirs many beautiful women in the world. Men who marry for sex will be un happy because someone can always do it better and so on.

In Islam men must consult with their first wife before taking a new wife. His reasons have to be discussed, not approved by the first wife but discussed. Discussed because taking on another wife has to be a community and ethical thing. It can't be because he's tired of his first wife or because he wants more beauty or sex in his life. Again it has to be about community and it must be ethical.

During the times of Prophet Mohammad men took on more wives because during the times of war the men were killed and many women were left alone without maintenace which is damaging to women and community. So these men fulfilled a community need, not their personal desires.
Considering these things will only help the men who want more wives because the decision could drive him crazy.

Justthought i would add.

I would say No, A man does not need more than one wife, yet he may need or be dealing with more than one women in his life on different levels.

Yeah I know, but read my explanation.


Let's take a look at polygamy in the religion of Islam.

In the religion men are granted up to 4 wives.
Allah says clearly that one is best for you and that if you take more than one wife you must treat them just and fair. In the same Qu'arn Allah also says that you can never treat them just and fair.
So for me it is clear that one wife is enough and preferred by Allah. This is all Qu'Arn.

I stand by this with the belief that it is not likely for one person to posses all of the right qualities or characteristic's that we may want or need in our life.

I say this because I see polygamy in a different light. I see it as being more than marriage. Again clearly I believe that marriage should be between two people. For me polygamy is a natural thing that happens everyday on many levels.

I believe that I would be sharing my husband with other women on different levels. I have to be woman enough to accept the fact that I don't have every quality. I am secure in who i am and the qualities i posses. I would have to accept and trust that my husband choose me for the most important qualities that he needs. Yet i must be conscious that When my husband is out in the world he may be needed by other women for support on an spiritual, material, emotional, financial or mental way.
She may need advise, she may need help paying the bills, she may need transportation or something, My husband may need another womans wisdom in dealing with me or other matters, he could be in business with a woman or anything. The other woman could be his mother, his sister, his daughter and so on.

As a woman and sister I would want to help my sister out as much as possible.  I would want my husband to consult with me about major things such as how he chooses to meet the needs of these women, when he meets the needs, and most of all his level of support (in order to protect everyone involved), and in some cases it may be who he does them with because we know that some women will try to tempt men into doing wrong things, due to her own needs. Men do this too. Most defiantly we will evaluate things to better know what level i may need to intervene and deal with the sisters.
I truly think it's very ethical for community life. I think it's un ethical for me and my husband to be living decent, yet the sister next door singled with children is struggling. We should be able to help her. I want for my sister what I want for myself. We would also help her find a husband.

Now the other part is that I will not share my husband on a physical level. No I am not with that at all. The physical intimate part is to be shared with me and me only.  I'm very selfish in that way for sure and it's justified. A sister needs to find her own husband for that. No hugs or anything lest i throw a huge fit that will upset his world. Trust me, he doesn't want that because I mean business about mines, I'm not playin any games with no women or men about my turf. Women are very Territorial about their men and I'm okay and accept this about myself.

This works the same for women, it's just not as indebt because the male is out in he world more than she is. At least he use to me and in my oppinion he should be on the front line.

Sorry most times i don't realize that i type so many words. I'll try to keep it shorter. lol

Well tonight i didn't read all of the previous post.

It's funny that I ran across this thread because as of late i have been comming into the realization of me being lonely. I struggled with this because when you think of lonely you think of being UN-happy, depressed or things like that.
Clearly I'm comfortable, stable and happy with my self. 

Not to be arrogant or anyting associated with it but i acknowledge that I'm 28yrs old, no children, I have a very good job, F.T. student, I live on my own in a nice place, I take good care of myself in most regards, I'm beautiful inside and out and i have great stride and a beautiful personality, I'm single with no special male friends,I have a great community, family & social life, I'm established and accomplished in some ways, I have so many good and great qualities, of coarse i have my not so good things about me.

I'm focusing on these things just to point out that I have allot working for me that i am grateful for. Yeah I know, the typical person Will say just focus on your life and keep moving along, you're on the right track and so on. I do believe these things, however I am a human being and when nature calls, she calls. As women and men we can only reach so many levels on our own until we reach a dead end. The only way to turn the dead end into a new road is with our significant other. We can only do so much on our own. This single life i live is driving me crazy and the longer i stay single, the harder it becomes for me to connect with someone. It becomes harder because i have so much time to think about everything else as a priority, wen i should be seeing family and community as more of a priority. I'm grateful for the time alone because it has truly helped me enhance my character and now it's time to move to a new level of my life with someone else to share and grow with.

It's not about sex, money or materials completely. I said completely because yes, being with a stable man, who's able to maintain, protect and provide is very important, but there are other factors.
It's about the balance, harmony, the future, enhancement and just plain ole life.
So yes I'm lonely, but not UN-happy with my self, just my current circumstances. The bottom line is that I'm ready to love and when we reach this stage in our lives we are lonely until it's fulfilled.  I don't like this lonely life. I have all of these beautiful things inside of me with no-one to share them with. I want a family and all. Yes,  the maintenances going to be work but I'm willing.

I'm sleepy and just venting but i do believe these things.

I would say that if we are looking at G-d as being the creator of all, the all knowing, most merciful, the one who controls all, then yes Allah and G-d is the same in that sense.

If we are looking at how Christians or others look at G-d in the trinity then I would say NO they are not the same.
Muslims do not believe in Allah being made up of three and do not associate Allah with anyone or source, not even Prophet Mohammad (PBUH).

If we are looking at the terms in the context of the language terms then I would say firmly NO.
From my understanding the term G-D is also associated with human beings, in the sense of man being a supreme being. In the Greek mythology men are associated with G-d in the sense of a human being mastering or perfecting a certain science. Women are also associated with G-d in Greek mythology as being goddesses, women who have perfected a certain science. According to the Webster dictionary G-d means a human being, being worshiped as the creator and ruler of the universe.

Even the term Lord in Christianity is known to be another name for G-d. Yet this term is also associated with human beings. In America any property owner who leases out his property is called The Land-Lord being attributed to having ownership of something or according to the Webster dictionary a man having rank or high position, one having power or authority over others. 

The term G-D in Islam is known and understood to be an attribute of Allah. A attribute is an characteristic. Example I am considered to be optimistic but this characteristic only describes part of my make up, so it does not define me completely, nor does it stand on it's on because there are many other aspects of me.

Muslims accept the notion that Allah has granted man rulership over certain things, such as the earth. In Islam Man is known as the Kalifah (The leader or ruler) meaning the ruler of the earth. Rulership is very different from being the creator.
In Islam man is to be the Kalifah of the earth, meaning that since Allah has made mankind the highest form of creation living on the planet earth, mankind has a responsibility to take care of the earth, being the guardian of the earth but still not the creator of the earth.

Allah trusts Man to co-create and rule over most of his own affairs according to Allah's will, yet that does not put man in the position of being the creator of everything that exsist, because man can not and did not create the sun, moon, tree's and stars.
Man will die before he reaches the sun (due to the nature of fire), man will be sucked into the moon before he reaches it (due to nature gravity of (pull).

Allah has many attributes that Muslims use when describing Allah, during prayer and salat, but when addressing Allah in the most proper form Muslims use the term Allah.

The term Allah means the "All in All".
This term is inclusive of every form of creation and existence leaving nothing out, so it is qualified to stand Alone.

So these would be some of the reasons from my understanding of why G-D and Allah is different in many ways.

You are well received and I thank you for your responses.

I later realized that most of these things were the same, just in different forms of control and mis information. I just really believe that many of our family systems are destroyed, especially here in America.
My belief is that it starts with the woman. The woman is the first teacher that a child knows, she's the nurse and almost everything that a child knows and strongly depends on to grow health within.

I am seeking to correct myself as much as possible before i produce children, the rest i will have to grow into as i grow into my womanhood more.

Outside of your response to me, I'm interested to know what your idea of a strong woman is?

I am not exactly sure what I believe a strong woman is anymore.
All of my ideas of being a strong black woman has been challenged in ways that has caused me to look at myself and challenge my beliefs.

Some of my ideas were

She stands her grounds.
She keeps her man in line.
She makes demands and ultimatums.
She set's the tone for everything.
She doesn't let her man walk over her.
She doesn't show any weakness in her position.
She can be alone without a man.
She can handle things on her own.
She takes care of herself.
She stops the drama before it starts.
She will fight to her grave.
She will not be insulted or have her intelligence disrespected.
She does not compromise.
She has to be on top of everything.
She's brilliant, organized, ambitious and successful.
She's powerful.
She has great stride.

I have had to truly reflect on myself and my past relationships in a very open and honest way to be able to see that some of these beliefs has been the cause of allot of this-stress in my relationships with men and just friendships with people.

I have had to throw these beliefs out of the window and start over. Most of these beliefs are defense magnetisms that came from negative or bad experiences with people and relationships with men. These beliefs gave me a false security in my womanhood that actually left me feeling very vulnerable later in life when they were being challenged.

I must say that I am glad that my ideas were challenged because it has helped me feel more relieved of the burdens of upholding the images of a strong black woman. Now my ideas are different and more realistic.

Any thoughts on this?

wow you all had so much to say about this subject. It's so touchy. I'll tell you one thing it's sad because things are happening all over the world. This world is in transition rightnow and for certain the world is under serious judgment right now that man can not escape. We should be thankful for the mercy that has been extended to us as humans. We make so many era's in life everyday underminding G-D as if we created ourselves that we should be so much more thankful of each breath that we take. Life is beautiful.

I would say good night lady.

What what you do if you realized that you were the most powerfulliest person in your country?

Yes you are right, I apologize, I must have mis-read something. Thanks for the Clarity, be well everyone

My take is that this was a terrible disaster and there are many lessons to be learned from this alone.  We plan and then there's the plan of God, so with that in mind there was nothing that we could have done to prevent this from happening. Everything that happened was supposed to happen. It's a very disturbing reality for many because lot's of lives were lost and many people affected all over the world, but it is real.
My heart goes out to the many people who suffered directly from the tragedy. I know that people of all different nationalities were affected because I have a genuine love for humans. I have a very special love for my people that I can not explain. The reality is that the majority of the people affected were African descants. That hit home for me.

I'm a little disappointed when I read these threads and read how people are separating themselves as Nigerian Africans from the other Africans who are affected from this tragedy.  Did we not learn anything from slavery? The separation in our minds was one of the biggest contributions of why I am sitting here in America with an English Native tongue, not knowing exactly where my roots come from within Africa but still having the dynamic African spirit. This is such a disgrace to me. I am not saying that people should not have a sense of their cultural practices and love for their specific cultures I'm just saying that we are all in this together.

Africans all over the world have the same common cultural practices that binds us together and can not be denied. Their are some African Americans who sincerely love all African people because we understand what happened to us and that we are one. Only the ones without proper understanding are ignorant and hate themselves. 

Listen, For me when I seen my people there in the water without proper help, food, water, babies hungry, families spread apart, dead bodies floating and more I could not help but to cry from my soul. I would have given my life to say a child's life, it was so sad. I feel the same way when I read, see and hear stories about things going on in Africa because I know there is a generational war against our existence.
The saddest part of it all was that those people on T.V looked just like me. and no matter what I thought of their social or economic class i knew that they were my people. I was hurt by the fact that we as African people were not able to help ourselves but only depend on a government system that openly in the public let us down and did not help our people for days.
Remember when the Tsunami took place there were U.S troops and U.S help all over the place within the same day of the event. Now here we are in the U.S where the president lives and major resources are and people did not get help for about 4 days. This is Insane and not acceptable. People were arrested and shot for looting!!  I couldn't believe that, can you?
I can tell you straight up right now, I would have been one of the first persons breaking into stores trying to find survival supplies for my family and children, especially since I'm without food or water and everything i had was gone.

if this did not open up the eyes of African people all over the world who were sleeping by the false notion of the dominate culture, then I don't know what will and May God help us all.

Most important God sent a strong message to all of us Africans all across the world about our current conditions. Just as God has sent messages to other nations. We have really got to establish a Universal connection between us and look past our difference in-order to survive here. While many individual countries may be doing alright, there are many other countries in Africa and other Black nations that are suffering greatly. African's are the Majority of the world, how are we being dominated by the minority of the world?

This is not about Black or white, this is about right and wrong and about the original guardians of the earth taking our rightful place in setting things back on track. I believe we are able to do this because we have had much time to study our era's of the past and have bright leaders of the future who are ready and able to carry things on.

And now they are anticipating 3 more horrible hurricane's such as Katrina to hit the U.S.
May God have more mercy on us all.
I believe that we can pray, but also we can organize food drives, clothe drives and traveling opportunities for people who would like to relocate and start their lives over, education opportunities and more. I'm sure many people do not want to return to that place of such brutal pain. If people got together and brain storm their idea's, I'm something will come up.

WE WILL NEVER RISE ABOVE THE CONDITIONS OF OUR PEOPLE. IF ONE IS DOWN THEN WE ARE ALL DOWN.

I love you guy's, please don't be offended by my passion.

See here's a real problem.

Sometimes you have people who don't value them selves as Black men and Women. Although I understand, it still bothers me. It bothers me when Black people are afraid to love them selves without including others. It's as if we go into a deep depression or someting if we focus on ourselves and not other ethnic groups.

As soon as you have discussions about our own issues and try to bring unity about for the betterment of our people. We're labled as black supremacist and hate groups by other Blacks.
These are the blacks who want to work so hard to show the white people that they are the good blacks and the others are outcasts because they reject the notions of the dominate culture of the white world.
I don't even like being around them type of people because you can't have a conversation with them without them thinking that your being racist or narrow minded because you want to focus on the love you have for your self and your people.

White people or Pink people and other groups does not always have to be included in the love we have fr ourselves. Yes we are all human but the truth is that we are different in many ways and that has to be acknowledged and respected in this life. Let's be real with ourselves and not blind ourselves with illusions of this rainbow color of love thing.

Were you a rainbow when the African lands were being Colonized by Europen descendants? and where African's were sold into the U.S and basically washed clean of everything even their native languages and cultural practices and memory? No we were not and it's the same way now, it's just in a different form.

We will always be one in the way of being humans but it's just as important to recognize the fact that Allah has made us different in color, language and culture so that we may learn from each other. And you can only learn from that which is different from what yourself or what you currently know.

So let's stop jumping on each other when we have a preference to love and be with our selves instead of others.
I don't criticize anyone for being with any other ethnic group. Were I live in Minnesota it's so common to see black men from Africa and America with white women that you would be surprised if you didn't see it.

And sistah's I'm not trying to win any extra points with the brotha's. I just thought I owuld show a little kind love, since we expect for them to treat us with the same right?

I'll miss you , get your work done and we will still be here.


Sistah's I kind of feel a little bad for our brothers. It looks like they have been slammed pretty hard. Let me switch it up a bit.


Brothers!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I think you are one of G-D's most beautifulist creation walking the planet earth. See it's been this way since the begining of time. Original brown man, you have definatly gotten my attention. Your vibe is so strong that you make the earth move with the rise of your beautiful brown eyes. Your full lips make the sun set on the west of the Nile. Brown man made from the beautiful African sand. Can I take your hand and walk into heaven with you, repeating the words of love as I say I do. I do for eternity spend my natural life with you. African Man made from the beautiful African sand. You are apart of my reasoning for living, my inspiration and cause for Queendom celebration. You are my incentive to go on, helping to keep my head and spirit strong. Rest your head upon my shoulder and relax your mind. I am the arch in your body and the verticles in your spine. Beautiful brown man, Made from the sacred African sand.


I LOVE YOU BROTHERS

Point well taken, I too beleive that some people are more prone to certain things than others and more than likely it's ethnic culture related. There are many people who use the word love and truly have no sincerity in it. Again some things are more commonly found in some people than in other's.

Back to the point.

It's been a while since I read this. My apologies for not responding sooner. I appreciate all of your comments and support.

Hey everyone

This is a sticky thing but it happens all of the time.

The first thing is for the woman to clearly examine herself, finding out if she is giving off any mixed signals and indications that it's ok for this behavior. It could have been the smiling and giggling when he speaks to me or the way I bat my eyes at him or anything and these things have to be considered. If she is clear then I would clearly state in behavior and words that I am not interested in him.

If the man continues to come on to her then I would make my Husband aware of it and it's great protection. You never know what may happen and just in-case you want to your family aware. It would be harder if he found out on his own.

I would say that if the woman wants to keep her job then I would start keeping track of every offensive incident by writing down date's, times and explaining what happened. The end result is to file a sexual harassment complaint, this guy is a creep and may have done this to many others.

The easier way is to find a new job.

If this guy is your Husbands friend I would firstly be insulted. I would defiantly make my husband aware of if because his friend is clearly not being a good friend to my husband and there for can not be of any good to our family.  Because they are friends it would make it hard and may cause problems, but family come first for me, weather my husband believes me or not I have to protect my families best intrest first.
This could be especially hard for the husband to find out on his own and would damage the trust.