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Better go to a lab or medical center for professional counsel and don't play kite with your life

Simple. Adam and Eve knew Cain would need a wife and continued child bearing. He married Adam's daughter later in life


The Bible doesn't mention irrelevant things to Christ because the Bible is actually the genealogy of Jesus tracing His-story from the beginning, through the blood lines leading to His life. Hence anything too distant from this epicenter is determined as tale and not too relevant

Deduct diesel cost from your daily accruals na. You don't want to spend money Abi? The average block seller uses diesel at least 10-30k per day. There's no alternative.

IrepChrist:
Christ assigns pastors as his representative to feed the flock.

He told Peter to feed his flock.
Christ is a great shepherd and our Lord.
He assigns shepherds to feed and guard the flock.

Don't mind him. God bless you. You must doscern those who wish to bring ridicule your ministry looking for loopholes to puncture your doctrine.


I read through everything you wrote from start to finish. And it is the totality of how it should be. May the Lord continue to bless you with wisdom. Shalom

My waist o

LagosInter:
Thanks

Can you be kind to delete/erase all I typed. We don't like it thrown to the public just like that

nastynic:
Did he beat her? Did he cheat?
Bruh broke up quietly,
He knows what he can handle and a career woman is not one of them simple

Did he meet her jobless? What happened to your comprehensive abilities ?

Cypress042:
Ya man you spoke my mind

Not at the age of 35. No time

This guy just dey whine una destiny sha

Sirchiboy:
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Suggest profitable business

Many. I have a 20 - 40M business I'm running. Come and meet me in person with your consultancy fee. Then we talk as men. I'm in the SW

Sirchiboy:
I want to relocate My younger brother who finished school some years back.
He has been jobless and I plan to use part of the money from land I intend to sell to sponsor him outside.
Please suggest good country.
He is 35 years old

Why not setup a business for him with 3 Million instead

Highly likely. GEJ has been acting coy. You can't skip the primary of your party for any reason if you're loyal. This is strange

peepydelano:
I remember this same silly line from Zzor/Iyaebe lol

Is Zzor also Iyaebe ?

nastynic:
Think about it bruh,
The highlight of that whole post is that she got an increase in salary, My speculations are, he realized that she was earning more than him and we know what happens when women earn more in MOST relationships.
Attraction diminishes slowly, only few women retain respect and love for their man in such a situation.
Now I'm not judging the female in this context cause it's not my business, I'm just stating observation from real life samples. Tbh I respect the dude for calling it quits regardless if y'all think he is insecure, hater, narcissistic etc. Bruh actually knew what he could handle

So she should be static. That guy has serious personality complexes that needs psychiatric care. Same goes for every guy with such mentality. Anyone opposed to growth is a witch. Simple

NekkyCee:
You have not met me that's why.

Are you taken ?

LagosInter:
How exactly does this work?

Simple.

Wahala be like bicycle. There you go managing your broke life on peace only for your peace to be disturbed unecessarily.

Phones can be tracked once he has the IMEI and the serial number of the phone. He should check for the receipt and the culprit can be tracked. Easily at that self

DaveDGreat:
I now see your point. Apparently his fingers has been burnt before and he doesn't want a repeat. Chai.

That's why we can't blame anyone too much. The dating pool is now a mess. A terrible one

OvertheTop:
You mean with all these your Great Strategies that You are Dishing out Confidently and Practicing , You have Not Settled down(married) anyone of your catch....and you are still changing them?

That means your strategy is Not functional in getting the best to settle down with.

I agree. However, with the crop of ladies out there, dating and marriage isn't dependent of oneself alone. Strategies and all can reduce problems and issues, but when it comes to forming a tango, it takes two

DaveDGreat:


Omo! I don't even know what to say again. That's why it's best not to blame people till you walk in their shoes. So sorry for all that happened.

She saw my determination and zeal to marry her. Knew my family from first to last and saw us in church and knows our committment level to sound morals and ethics. Knew without a doubt I could take care of her. But she went to bed someone during the period. Now, does this sound rational?


It's why the man in this story too is also careful. There is the belief that if a woman gives up her work, then it shows higher loyalty and true loyalty to the relationship. The man too has his own point

Glozaglobal:
Dude is no ‘’narcissist’s’, dude is in love but knows what goes on in the corporate world in Nigeria!!! Corporate prostitution, as the MD’s or Chairmen of most companies in Nigeria are sleeping with both single and married women in their organizations. Poor corporate practise that goes unchecked. As they feed on the women's ambition (or what do you ladies like to call it), use what you have to get what you want. Women in Nigeria are shameless!!!!!! The truth here is no one knows what hanty has done to get the offer and what price Hanty will have to pay to keep the offer. But bros perhaps wants to start a family with Hanty, but has from his experience of being in a managerial position pictured speeding of legs on large office tables and many hotel beds in the city. Ambition, offer, pay increase , benefits, promotions all come these days with paying a price. It’s sad the narrative looks like the man does not want the woman to succeed or progress but it’s far from it. He just wants to continue to date a good girl or marry a woman that’s for him alone and not a boardroom pass around. Think!!!!!!

I agree with you 100%. I won't do anything with a corporate working woman. I will never try it, make I no go marry prostitute. But the truth is since he has such problems with such women and loyalty down the line, why bother to date from the niche? Can't he find women in non-working confines ?

GreatVocalist:
It seems you failed to look beyond his words. I think the main problem here is the feeling that you don't think he's capable enough to fulfil his duties as a man. He offered to take care of the needs, and he didn't ask you to quit your job.

It's surprising how his feelings for you depreciated, right? Yeah, one of the things that attracts a man more to a woman is her ability to listen when he speaks. Your constant and firm rejection of his suggestions doused the fire. He even suggested you took the first offer which wouldn't take you far from him. Meaning another reason is he didn't want you to go far from him, he treasured the closeness. Yet, you refused.

He was perturbed with the thought that you would hardly listen to him on important matters if he had decided to get to the next stage with you. So to him, you chose your career over his authority as a man.

These are natural laws that God has set for humans. We can't change them. Sometimes, you have to let go of some ambitions to make things in life work out for you. A man who wants to be the lord of his house won't take in a woman who doesn't listen to him. I don't think it was really about the salary. If it was, he wouldn't have asked you to go with the first offer.

Talk is cheap. There's a level relationship gets to, a woman would quit even a 2 Million Naira job for example for the relationship. This isn't such moments. That guy is insecure and has complex issues

DaveDGreat:
Chai! The points you highlighted are true though. Things have turned 360 degrees and evil now seem to be the norm.

I also noticed that "true love" is scarce these days and where there is, one may be scared to show it because of past experiences.

Las Las, Na God go help us.

I have been involved with a lady, she saw all the qualities and all, the intellect, prospect, hustle and all, she yet went to sleep with someone who had pretentious outside. Our chemistry and attraction was of the charts. At least I've seen multiple funny things with women to not take them seriously easily

nastynic:
Let it be known that career women are the worst spouses for marriage and there is data to back that up.
There is nothing insecure about that, it's not even the advancement that is the issue, it's the character that comes with it that is the problem, now that might not be you but dude is just looking out for himself to avoid issues in the future

Okay,career women are problematice, why try to date from that mix. Why was it okay until the salary growth? Be objective brotherly. After devil, I fear career women,but this situation, the guy's motive no pure brotherly

DaveDGreat:
Well methinks you're taking dating as friendship or a "little above friendship"

As a man, I can be friends with many ladies and feel nothing for them. But these doesn't always go well for women (except the current dispensation) of ladies. So if you mean one can date multiples, would you deny there would be some form of emotional attachments along the line? What if she falls in love with 2 or more guys since she's dating 7 guys? You see where the wahala can start abi?

Whether sex or not, you just can't minus emotions from dating especially when ladies are involved.

Whom do we blame ? Some years ago, you get date just one person and boom, that person is the right one. These days, you may be friends with fifty ladies and not one is a good match?

As evolving species, are we not to evolve with the times and season and change the narrative and orientation so we can survive and adapt better?


You will date a lady, have the best of intentions, she will know you have all the qualities you desire, yet go back and sleep with another. With all of these kinds of nuances, should committment not be reduced by a quarter and spread across multiple options?


Of course the best way is to find a fitting match and committ wholely, but it's easier drilling for crude oil than finding one

DaveDGreat:
This generation has gone astray......agreed.

Nevertheless, it isn't a justification to have many dating partners. It's a recipe for disaster one way or another.

We don't know what dating is then. Dating is inexclusive of committments to begin with. So by this definition,what does it imply ?

deytoongee:
As much as I get the idea of this but how practicable is this? Can you totally exhaust all the possible future events and cover all of them especially within a limited time frame? Would you inform all three parties that they're in a love "rectangle" in this case? What if you don't find up to three people who have taken interest in you? How do you set boundaries with three people? How do you give all three people an equal playing ground when they are clearly different individuals with different realities?

I'm really curious to understand this model of dating.

Set timelines. Within weeks with some people during discussions one can know this one would not work. Others will not follow this rule. While it has it flaws and deficits,it will help avoid time wasters

Unshackled:
stop being emotional. Kiss the hard truth

Hypocrite. Go and marry your road side girls.

Unshackled:
stop being emotional. Kiss the hard truth

Hypocrite. Go and marry your road side girls