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ajalawole:
she refuse every attempt bro. She always say she wasn't ready. Her dad was the mean reason she leave my place, her dad have 4wives so he hardly stay at home and I don't know him, but I know her mum very well, her mum entrust her to me because I get her job where I was base... When her dad find out she was with me, the dad started to bring up issue and threatened to send the mother packibg that was how she went back the the village. I went to the village to ask for her hand in marriage, her mum told me my ex should be the one to tell her dad that she is ready for marriage because "baba Loni Omo" (father owned the child)... I do everything for her, but I have to let her go when it seems am forcing myself on them

You did well

ajalawole:
I was thinking same. Who will even get married at 23yrs... At that 23 er should be in uni.. Which parents will leave their 20yrs old daughter to get married at that age.

Well he said he graduated at 21 and probably served immediately and got a good paying job also. Me I can't argue that. Na him know if him dey lamba. But from his story it seems his family supported him all the way so it was kinda easy for him to be married or else na lamba but again na look and pass I dey

LeeSmart:
Lol funny brother. Got admission at 17 and graduated at 21 while wifey was in 200lvl she took in and gave birth to our beautiful daughter and the following year we got married.
My family is too exposed to force someone into getting married sir.

Good for you 👍

ajalawole:
I will be 40 in 2yrs and am not even in any relationship by now,even tho my ex stay with me early 2020 lockdown and she stay 8month. Her staying make me learn alot, you have to be patient with woman in marriage, you can't control them anyhow, if they say no just listen.. My ex was teaching then, during lockdown she will gather kids in my area into my apartment to teach them, and some woman don't want to spend there own money, the only thing my ex do was filling our gas when my ATM card was having issues. She get Married this year tho. She should be 35yrs by now

Hmm... Na wah for you ooh. 8 months amd you no fit put on her 9months compulsory assignment? You're still young sha. Find a good girl and do the needful but look very well make one on evil assignment no come deceive you, pretend as good only to turn against you when she don get the belle ooh. They too hardcore these days

LeeSmart:
23 while wifey was 20

Either you're not telling the complete truth or you didn't complete your education. You can't go through Nigerian educational system and marry at 23 as a man. Except you give her belle then them force you "pay for her head". So tell us the complete story

Keepamsafe:
When I bumped into this thread and stumbled on her comment and how proud she was displaying she married a weak man. I shook my head in disappointment.



Women naturally are highly sexual beings. A woman in her pure state that loves a man, will Fvck the shit out of him. Only his presence makes her wet.

But here you can see this married woman as she said she is, weaponizing sex to a so called husband. Lol. I don’t pity the man. Shes lucky she married a pushover.

NO WIFE OF MINE WILL TRY SUCH WITH ME.

Imagine your wife coming out to say such trash and boldly for that matter.

Puke

Exactly. It was her who picked him and not the other way round. She only expertly manipulated him into thinking and believing he was choosing a wife, whereas a wife was choosing him based on his weak attributes

marlow1962:
Let that man go, he doesn't deserve the suffering he's in all in the name of marriage.
You don't want to give it to him, when he's feed up and goes out, you begin to cry.

I would say he probably deserves the suffering cos no way he didn't see the signs from the onset but some guys would still go ahead for whatever reasons only to suffer the consequences later

spiceadole:
And after the wedding, the lady chooses when to sleep with you.
This year, I haven't had sex.. I'm married, I live with my husband.
I can stay for the rest of my life without having sex.
Can he? Definitely not!

You don't understand the quote. Your husband most likely chose you knowing you weren't good for him from the onset but was banking on "she would change with time" it's not the same as two people walking and working in agreement with one goal in life.

Starz825:
Still doesn't give leverage

After you choose to marry her, she will still decide when and how to give the cooochie

Nah you don't get it boy.... A man makes the choice on whole he will marry based off of how she meets his needs. It's not about picking a bride. It's a simple saying but it's deeper than your eyes can see

Before a man makes that final choice, he knows exactly what he needs and wants from the union and they both will be on same page definitely

WantsandMore:
If a married woman discovers her man distancing, she should treat him to steamy sexual desires and intercourse... Men are like little kids, a little candy and you see big wild smile 😄

If there's already a disconnect it won't work out. At best it will be mechanical sex. That's where a lot of women fail. You think because we get erections for you it means we're in love? Lol you don't know man. We fit wipe our enemy just to release and no feelings whatsoever attached

Nnakatsan:
I was talking to a friend recently and she opened up about something that shocked me.

She said her husband had changed… less attention, less affection, always on his phone.

At first, she thought it was just stress. But over time, the distance became obvious.

What struck me was this — nothing “big” had happened.
No fight. No major issue.
Just slow emotional and physical disconnection.

It made me realize something…
Most marriages don’t break suddenly — they fade quietly.



I’ve been thinking a lot about this lately, especially how attraction and effort change after marriage.

For those who are married — what do you think causes this?

You don't need to be married to know this:

Constant disapproval, dismissal, denials, disrespect and when our efforts are underappreciated or not appreciated at all, When we keep giving and she keeps on receives without giving anything back etc, these things gradually pushes us away as men and there's hardly anything women can do about it when that line is being crossed over and over. We adjust, adapt and accept the new norms without fighting or trying to make it work when the women are nonchalant and hell bent on having their way.

Lol it's mostly "nothing big" but those constant small drops of errors without true repentance that creates the vacuum, and when a man is gone he's gone for good even if he's physically present in the same house or even sharing same bed. Then he would care less what you do and who you even do it with. You become dead to him no matter your prayers on Shiloh mountains or God seeking you do it will never work again cos even God will be on aware with all the proofs of how you stripped him off his manhood and leadership position.

Tell your friend to carry her cross gallantly or wait for k0b0 jun-kie to come and tell you the usual feminist version most females love to hear that further pushes them outside to where the grass in VERY GREEN

Might be a skit but I know a lot of girls like this, I have even overheard them discussing it. No matter the amount I send I always attach receipts nit for anything but in case of network issues or loss so you will know it's not from my end. The only time I don't share is if I don't have your wsApp. These girls are just too empty. I wonder the type of guys who wants to impress such?

Na simps I blame sha

spiceadole:
I'm not holding him captive.

If you are too nice to a man,he will despise you and show you pepper.
That's what I know.
Men are not wired to appreciate women who are too good to them and vice versa
The goal is not to be the victim.

Well, I guess we are living in fkd up times. It's why I'm not even keen on getting married but having kids. Life is too short abeg and I intend to make the most of it being happy as much as I can. Still try dey give am soft landing sometimes if you can please. Being a man is hard enough on its own.

Na CityBoy dey him eyes to join

Diamond098454:
Cool and you?

Have a great weekend ahead.

Great and you too, enjoy your weekend

eteebanky1:
Number one citizen is back

Welcome GCFR.

Ordinary senior manager

Diamond098454:
Hahaha hahaha hahaha
Bad guy

How you dey my PH girl

Lol so na this one senior manager kiss Camilla for

Instead of senior manager to wipe am wein no good to straighten the British on why as a member of the commonwealth we are still considered as foreign nationals under British law... They just dey scam us dey chop free deve sha

This wan don finally mentus

God
Why did she have to do this. That's a full grown baby there.

spiceadole:
If he is not happy, he knows what to do

You can't be this mean in real life... I think you're probably just acting here. Na wah ooh . The thought of your personality off of here makes me cringe. No woman can be this heartless. Just set the poor man free please.

spiceadole:
Yes.
I am done with childbirth.
Sex is not food

Haaaa! I remember you now. The one who doesn't even try to make her man feel happy, so you still deny him sex too? God abeg ooh.

Impressive

eepeepook:
Yoruba boys and baby hippos is a love story as old as time.

🤣🤣

ErnestNc:
My guys chop me rawwww... Omo dat girl use me play . She no gree come my side. She dey always talk say make we comot .. She almost use billing kpai me before I ghost am

Hahahaha... Na cos she know say you dey drool over her and put her on a pedestal. She be wicked girl when for use you till you tire for life

Samantha125:
She wants to give you a son so that she can start chasing your daughter away, it starts like that... ... You sound so naive and no different from those baby mamas that you guys are always castigating on this forum.

But anyways, good luck...😃😃😃

Chase her away how? I sound naive? Stop spewing garbs. I only mentioned that cos you make it sound like no single lady can/ will play step mother, not that I was ever entertaining the thought. Someone I used protection on every time we met even though she always disapproved? I'm not steeewwpd.
Just stating that having a child out of wedlock doesn't stop a man from finding love again with a single lady if he wants to.

ErnestNc:
Bck in 2020 I could recall one time , there was this new beautiful girl in my street whom i admired so much. Lets call her Amina, a corper. She had skin like milk and hourly glass shape that made all the boys drooled.

Her walking steps made her backside giggle with every pace in time. I was barely 23 and was a fvcking simp. Each time our eyes met, she would smile sheepishly as i waved at her , while she giggled her behind as she walked past elegantly. In my head i was like "omo this babe don dey dread me, be like say things go sup". My next game plan was to take her number and i did.

One day Amina walked past and my friends called my attention , " oboi that banny don dey pass again". Prior to this, i had informed them of my intentions to block her. But that day i was reluctant , cuz i was dressed like a servant as she had seen me in that clothing thrice before. I would be appearing like merlin..u know...

My greatest desire that period was to please her and give her a good treat . I didnt mind if we had nothing, tho i wanted some . Watching her facial expressions alone was satisfying as she was drop dead gorgeous.

Eventually i got her number on a good day. We got talking and i opted for her to come over and she agreed. I bribed my roomie to clean up the house and get lost .
He did but at the 11th hour before her arrival, she canceled and preferred we stayed out or go somewhere nice, which i obliged.

We sat inside Final Fantasy at Choba for a drink. She was soft spoken and even the tone and sound of her voice melted my heart each time she spoke my name. I guess i was in love .


In that moment she received a call and she wasnt comfortable as i read her expressions. It seemed she was questioned about her whereabout and her response went like this. " I'm at final fantasy..i'll be there soon, i just wanna get shawarma and drinks. dnt worry i'll get for u too ''.


By this time, we'd spoken for about an hour and she had the sudden prompt to leave, but asked us to go get shawarma and food for her friend. prior to getting the shawarama, i had paid for our food and drinks(2 plates of beef rice and 2 chi exotic and extra turkey, plus a take away pack for her friend) totalling 21k.


Mind you, i never bothered to ask if her friend was male or female. I assumed it would be a female friend cuz ladies would barely buy things for guys. In my simp mind i was like "make i run some 1 or 2 for her friend, so i go get some rating".

We got to the shawarma stand and while we were there, i saw her waving at a c300 benz. unknowingly to me , it was the male friend who called her. She ordered two shawarma and i told the guy to make extra one , and i forgot to tell him the extra one was for me. As she was about to pay, i brought out my card and offered to pay, she smiled widely , it pleased me...how foolish of me . He put all three in one nylon pack and handed it over to her .


It wasnt his fault, he thought we were going home together(i wished), and because of pride i couldnt collect that one extra shawarma back ..hahahahaha . i been mumu sha. She hurriedly collected it . I was expecting a hug but Amina shook me saying " i had a nice time. You're such a sweet soul. see u later, that's my friend over there. bye".

She hurriedly left and got into her friend's car . I felt like the ground should swallow me. Did i just buy food for a girl's boyfriend? They zoomed off probably to go do some pounding .... yh it was her boyfriend . sHE told me later on. I actually bought a pack of rice , 3 shawarma and drinks for them. Money wey i been plan to use sew native and buy pams...omo e waste. . i for just carry olosho , e for no cost me reach like that.

Lol guyyyy.. your men supposed gather flog sense enter you. Whaaat :
From the call you supposed done know say na control things na chai. You for still try run her later despite her having a boyfriend. You just allowed her use you for free. Them go laugh you tire on top bed that night no be small

Samantha125:
There's more to step-parenthood than just having a cute baby.

She might be your angel, but it might not always be the case to those young ladies of yours, but go ahead and keep deceiving yourself, it's fine.

Lol why you like wahala. There's always someone for everyone and I will find the one who will love me and my pretty little angel despite anything. One even said she wanted to be the one to give me a son. But in reality I'm not even looking for all that. I love my life, and I just want to get better everyday for my princess

Dated this girl one time who flirts a lot and sees no harm in it but if she finds me talking to another girl all hell will break loose. I had the last straw when she asked me to accompany her to a mall to get a phone. So I went downstairs to eat something while she was looking at phones ran into one pretty smallie I used to know but we somehow lost contact, she works at this particular mall. Started talking and catching up on old times. Smallie was a whole kinda sweet vibe. I didn't know my girl was just somewhere watching me.

Next thing na fury and fire, bombarding me with angry questions on top shouting oooh, what is this? Who is she? What are you doing? Come here All at once smallie had to make way cos this my girl na wahala. I didn't want to go crazy like her, so I took her to a corner of the mall and warned her never to ever address me in such a manner. The smallie was just looking at me with pity, like this bros done enter one chance. Babe apologized and we went home.

Another evening we were out with some of her friends and I was drinking when I noticed she was talking to another guy somewhere and she gave him so much attention, laughing and smiling and chit chatting about whatnot for long and when she came to me I reminded her of her behaviour, guess what?

She said she's a woman and I'm a man, she's allowed while I'm not. Like she can flirt while I can't. Lol, girl when done already tire me sef. I just ended everything right there and then in front of her friends. Had to make her look and feel steeewwpd cos she really is a steeewwpd person.