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Samantha125:
So all of a sudden not all women are the same when they're childless, but get painted with the same brush the moment they become single mothers? Okay...

No childless woman wants to raise her husband's children from his previous relationships, but go ahead and keep consoling yourself...

Malagans:
It's well bro

Samantha125:
Those traditional laws are inadmissible in the court of law, so they'd be useless in this case.

I just don't see why you saw the need to reason with me for stating my preference from a woman's perspective when you didn't seem to be triggered by the op's preferences.

This is not about you, but about your children... Do those young girls that you're consoling yourself with love your children or just using you for their own selfish gain?

Because if we're to be honest, no childless woman wants to raise another woman's child or children from her husband's previous relationships unless if she's infertile and desperate ... We women are selfish in nature.

Samantha125:
You're not answering my question, are these laws that you're talking about written and recognised by your country's constitution?

It's like you're a member of the Single Fathers Association ...😂😂😂

Tenrack:
how can I reach you bro? Got an email?

Tenrack:
lol I am not even trying to get money from them

Tekashi89:
Hey guys, my dating life sulks, I haven't been really lucky with girls ever since my secondary School days. Since I was born I've only dated two girls and that was way back in 2016 and last year in 2025.
I tend to attract more guys, single mothers or older women (very old women tend to like me)
I don't know what's it with me that tends to push away younger girls (note I'm 180cm 60kg) light skin most people say I'm handsome. But I don't know why I can't attract young single girls.
Where ever I go I tend to attract only single mothers and when a young girl even start getting attracted to me I'll later discover that she acts that way to every other guy around so there's nothing special about me.
I'm thinking of going spiritual but I just thought I should post it here first.
So guys I need your advice on this issue pls

Samantha125:
Still, all single parents should get married amongst themselves, whether the father is an absentee or not, he should get married to a single mother as his child or children from his previous relationships will still be eligible to claim part of his assets upon his demise, I've seen this happening many times before.

At bolded, is this law that you're referring to recognised by your country's constitution? Because remember that unwritten laws are deemed as null and void within the court of law.

Samantha125:
He or she will be entitled to inherit an equal share as the rest of the legitimate children... If it was possible, single parents should only be getting married amongst themselves, but unfortunately, we can't control matters of the heart.

Malagans:
If u see us, show us some love 🙏

Malagans:
Truth.
I've suffered so much so long

Dtruthspeaker:
Man, this shows that you are weak and this is not the reason why men don't stress toasting a woman

Samantha125:
What if paternity DNA tests are conducted and they come back positive? The child can contest the will and inherit his or her share even as an illegitimate child.

kpankpangolo:
The surest way to the psychiatric ward is to follow what a woman/women say. I tried the chase thing with all my eggs in one basket. I bared my soul to one idiot four different times All four times, she labeled me a friend and knacked any and whoever. My older sister gave me brain and I cut off completely. This same animal in human clothing later told her friends that I didn’t put effort in her matter. So much for a waste of a full year.

If she likes persistence, she should learn how men chase and do so instead.

Samantha125:
3. Never marry a single father as well... For his children from his previous relationships will only pop out of nowhere after his death to inherit everything you'd have built together with him.

Jistibiri:
Every Woman Who Felt Pressured into a BBL Has a Story. And in Most of Those Stories, a Man’s Words Appear.

pressured into getting a Brazilian Butt Lift (BBL) carries a personal story, and if you listen closely, a man's words almost always echo through it.

In Nigeria's booming cosmetic surgery scene, the decision rarely comes from pure vanity or random trends alone. It often traces back to repeated comments that erode self-worth: "Your yansh too small," "You flat like board," "That one no dey give," or the classic group-chat jabs calling natural bodies "uncooked" or "builder's work."

These aren't isolated slips, they form a pattern of body shaming that makes women feel invisible or undesirable in dating, relationships, and social circles.

Actress Nkechi Blessing Sunday recently highlighted this exact dynamic, pointing out how men mock women for years over lacking "big backsides," then hypocritically preach "love yourself naturally" after the damage is done. Many women pursue BBL not just for aesthetics, but to escape the constant judgment that makes them question their value as partners or women.

The stories are heartbreakingly similar across Naija spaces. A boyfriend's casual insult about "small yansh" in private turns into insecurity that lingers, pushing her to research clinics.

A husband's ongoing comparisons to curvier women fuel resentment and the urge to "fix" what's supposedly broken. Even in public, men hype enhanced bodies while subtly (or not-so-subtly) dismissing natural ones, creating a culture where curves equal worth.

Recent tragedies, like reported BBL complications and death of Jessica, underscore the risks fat embolism, infections, long recoveries but the root cause remains: pressure from male commentary that equates body size with attractiveness and marriage potential.

Nkechi Blessing called it out plainly: men bully and mock until women feel they have no choice but to alter themselves, then shame them for the "fake" result.

It's a vicious cycle where clinics profit, women suffer physically and emotionally, and the original wound, those dismissive words gets ignored.

This isn't about villainizing every man; it's about recognizing patterns that harm. When a man's preference becomes an insult weaponized daily, it drives women toward dangerous procedures costing millions (₦3-6M+), borrowing money, or risking life all to feel "enough."

True body autonomy means decisions come from self-love, not external shame.

Ladies, your natural body isn't a flaw needing correction; it's yours to celebrate without apology. The more we share these stories and call out the hypocrisy, the less power those words hold.

For raw, unfiltered takes on rejecting this pressure and embracing natural confidence, check my page: https://x.com/africanneverdie?s=21

Entanglement:
A real man wouldn't want this type of woman because she can't keep her danm mouth close and looking for validation

A man will brought cars, house or stuff for his woman but no body will know but if a woman dear buy you something! The whole world must know that she brought you something!


Women doesn't gift from their heart!, they give to get something in return
Know this and know peace

Lovelink1991:
I dey tell you, a lot of Few women are taking the challenge of standing by their husband

DMCA:
see wetin frustration d do