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SAMKHAY:
...but they never progressed to sexual intimacy, as I exercised self-control.


I am 34 years old, married to my 31 years old wife since 2020. While we are still trusting God for children, I have remained faithful to her throughout our relationship, since dating, courtship and marriage. I mean I have never had any affair with other lady/woman since I met her in 2018 till present. However, I am currently facing a serious issue and seek your counsel.

In September 2023, my wife's 21-year-old sister moved in with us due to challenges she faced while living with a relative. I genuinely care about her and my wife's family as a whole. My wife, a hospital worker here in Port Harcourt, often works night shifts.

In October 2024, an inappropriate incident occurred between me and her sister, a hug escalated into an intense kiss. This happened twice more in November, but all these three times, they never progressed to sexual intimacy, as I exercised self-control. During the last incident, she asked if it would be wrong to engage in further intimacy to have sex, instantly I realize the gravity of what I was getting myself into. I immediately set boundaries, the next morning we prayed together, asking for forgiveness, and since then, no further incidents have occurred, not even a single feeling.

However, I have noticed a shift in her attitude towards me. Recently, she has become disrespectful, and despite multiple discussions with her, her behavior persists. This evening, after reporting one of her actions to my wife over the phone, I later tried to have a conversation with her. During our conversation, she became defensive, disrespectful, and expressed her desire to leave the house. She confronted me about our past actions, insisting that while I reported her wrong this evening, I should have also disclosed our actions to my wife, even though we never engaged in sex.

I pleaded with her to keep this issue dead, as my wife does not deserve to know about this betrayal, she deserves better from both of us. She has calmed down for now, but I am deeply troubled. My wife is returning tomorrow morning, and I want to ensure this matter remains resolved and private for the sake of my marriage and trust. I would appreciate sincere advice on how to handle this situation and prevent any further harm.

If you can't exercise restraint and self control as a married man, you have failed as a man. Just have this at the back of your mind.

Send that sister in-law away before you lose your home. How you intend to cooperate with your wife to achieve that is up to you. I'm not the one to give you scopes on how to do it.

Wouldn't you rather put a call thru and get this car?

kingreign:
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You'd love this car. You're just a few calls away from owning a very well maintained car.
All tyres bought brand new in December 2024 so that you won't bother about another set of tyre for at least the next 3 years.

Such a beautiful deal.

ticker:
When I m driving on the highway I noticed my steering wheel is vibrating. It is a Honda Accord 2003, and automatic transmission

Many things can cause such vibrations.

Unbalanced tyres, bent tyres and rim, worn out inner CV joints, bad ball joints, bad tie rod ends, over inflated tyre.

Pls check with competent technician and have it fixed.

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Well maintained 2014 corolla S for sale.

Engine, Gear, suspension, AC, electrical, interior all intact, body is okay. Brand new tyres installed in December 2024.
Location: Abuja
Price: 12.5m

Call: 07034581213


SOLD

Port443:
Drove this baby from Abuja to enugu in about 6 hours, I look forward to beating it back to abj. A sweet ride indeed

Wait, I'm just seeing this....
Na Lewis Hamilton you be?
Ha, reduce the speed o. It's too too fast. For most normal passenger cars, Abuja to enugu thru the Ajaokuta route is 9-10hours (6am - 4pm time) due to the bad roads.

Port443:
I still believe that my driving wasn't the cause of the issue cause I moved in convoy with a 2013 highlander v6 and a prado v6. None of them experienced the issue, not even once. I was even the one that struggled to keep up I don't believe the RX is not that strong compared to a 2013 highlander and a 2015 prado

Na you no sabi drive the way those convoy guys dey drive. That RX would out pace those two cars by wide gap.

remi4ever:
Hello Guys.

My Car is a Honda Accord 2009 the 2.0L variant (R20 Engine).

Whenever I turn on my AC on idle the car vibrates, rpm drops to as low as 500 and the car shudders intermittently like it wants to turn off, also there is a drag when accelerating when the AC is on.

If I get close to a road bump, I will have to turn off the AC quickly because the whole car vibrates and drags until I pick up pace again.

I do not have a CEL , and I have also cleaned the throttle body, PCV valve. My engine air filter has been cleaned, too. Without AC, everything works well and it moves fine.

This car uses the DBW (Drive by wire) and I understand that the ECU controls the Idle rpm.

conner44 jceesquare kingreign nurey macmilla

I guess you were the personw with the blue European spec accord that went ahead to get a 2009 accord from KD or so yeah?

If yes, pls DM let's meet and check the car.

remi4ever:
No, for a different car.

Thanks for the clarity.

2cribz:
Quack

You validated my earlier comment about your failed parental upbringing and about how ìdíọtić you are.

2cribz:
Shut up quack

I blame your foolish sex starved parents for not strapping up with a condom and not taking Misoprostol or even performing a D&C when they had you in the womb thus brining this waste of skin born troway to the world to constitute nuisance to sane human population.

remi4ever:
Abuja o. I've visited your shop twice at kubwa.

you visited my garage twice for this same issue?

Boysking1:
Please what is the name of this fish I kill today?

Stingray.


Becareful of that tail. It has a very sharp boney part that's as sharp as a bayonet. When disturbed or threatened it can use that to fight.


Remember Steven Irwin?

A stingray attacked him and punctured his heart with that same tail mechanism thus leading to his demise.

Meklex:
the culprit was the MAP sensor. All fixed now.

Lexus do not use MAP sensor. They employ the use of MAF sensors. Glad you found solutions to the challenge. If you replaced the MAF sensor, pls replace ethe engine air intake filter. It most likely had been clogged with dust and that would be the most likely reason you had a MAF sensor failure.

remi4ever:
Hello Guys.

My Car is a Honda Accord 2009 the 2.0L variant (R20 Engine).

Whenever I turn on my AC on idle the car vibrates, rpm drops to as low as 500 and the car shudders intermittently like it wants to turn off, also there is a drag when accelerating when the AC is on.

If I get close to a road bump, I will have to turn off the AC quickly because the whole car vibrates and drags until I pick up pace again.

I do not have a CEL , and I have also cleaned the throttle body, PCV valve. My engine air filter has been cleaned, too. Without AC, everything works well and it moves fine.

This car uses the DBW (Drive by wire) and I understand that the ECU controls the Idle rpm.

conner44 jceesquare kingreign nurey macmilla

Location of the car?

Macmilla:
Why are you this uncivilized? Why do you always talk like an illiterate? Please, if you don't have anything reasonable to say, just keep quiet and let reasonable people talk.

As in ehn. You just hit the nail in the head point blank.

lordpopular:
I live in Lagos

I'd suggest you get it from Lagos. It's cheaper there.

lordpopular:
@kingreign @abbeyismo do you have an idea of how much I can get a replacement gear currently

Location matters, wheres your location ?
If you want me to inquire, inspect and purchase on your behalf you can feel free to DM 07034581213.

lordpopular:
Hello, please I need help with my car,

My car was flooded last year and it affected my gear. I took it to a gear specialist and it was fixed and started working.

Last month I noticed that when I am increasing my speed from 40 to 60, my car does not respond immediately. It drags or jerks.

I took it back to my mechanic and I was told there was issues switching from gear 2 to gear 3 and that it skips gear 3 and goes to gear 4.

What could be the cause of this and what next steps should I take.

Car Model - 2011 Camry
Gear - 22 pin

Replace the gearbox and rest.

Abbeyismo:
😂😂😂😂😂 why you dey run na

I no wan recommend and then my name go full nairaland front page when e no go as e plan. I dey avoid palava

munchies:
Please can you recommend a competent gear expert in Abuja for my Honda car?

No sir.

Komtak:
Where can I steering rack and shocks for Nissan Murano 2005 model. I dey Bwari. Thanks

Go to Zuba or Apo spare parts market.

Houseofglam7:
May their souls find rest.

Find which rest? From your post, I you sound like a terrorist sympathizer.

May their sould roast in hell.

Bomaway007:
Happy New year everyone..pls l need help with my 2013 Camry..At first l was hearing a sound that always comes up in the afternoon when the weather is hot l will hear a sound for like a minute or two after l start the car and put on the AC and press the gas pedal ppl say it’s belt and not big deal but the real problem happened few days ago l was traveling and saw my temperature gauge above the middle l pulled up immediately and open the hood l saw my coolant reservoir full to the brim I let it cool down and I checked again then I saw the coolant in reservoir boiling then after some minutes again when it as cool down I can’t find any coolant in the reservoir and the radiator is low in liquid l called a roadside mechanic who said l needed to by coolant he bought the coolant and fill the radiator and also the reservoir to the marked point and I was able to drive the car to many destinations with the temperature gauge normal the second morning I checked again the coolant in the reservoir as dropped to the middle but radiator was full then I bought another coolant and topped the coolant reservoir again to the normal point and drive the car that day but the second morning l checked again and I can only see just small coolant in the reservoir below the lower mark what could be the problem my car AC work perfectly good…can this problem be caused by the serpentine belt and many mechanic said l should remove my thermostat is that a good idea ??

You do not have to remove your thermostat if it's good. Have someone competent check the following compnents:
1. Radiator cap to ensure it seals properly and holds pressure and also relief pressure as should.
2. Radiator for leaks and blockage.
3. Thermostat to ensure it closes and opens at the right temperature range.
4. Water pump to ensure it's not worn out.
5. Head gasket to ensure it's not blown.

fineboynl:
I experienced this problem early this year. I woke up in the next day only to discover my honda accord wasn't responding to Fob keyless entry. At first I thought they stole my car battery or the battery was dead. Until I open it with the key and noticed the battery is intact then i start the car. It starts at once but the buttons on the fob not responding.

So I thought maybe the battery on the fob is dead. Just because I used it the previous night. It was what I used to lock the car. So I open the fob and removed the battery then test it with my tongue.

It has some little low charge. Then I put back the battery. The car makes a sound immediately I put back the battery. But when I pressed the buttons it didn't respond. I removed the battery several times but it doesn't that sound again or respond to press.

So I just leave it till I will buy another battery. Yesterday I bought a new battery and When you insert battery it blink red light just once. But the car doesn't respond. I have removed and insert multiple things it doesn't respond.

What could be the problem. I need help

Try reprogramming the keyfob

Exceed15:
U just spewed rubbish. Any man who takes your advice is next in line. Meanwhile I never mentioned going physical. If a woman is taking away your Peace, kindly show her the exit door. Simple!

Whole heartedly supported. No need to show love and compassion in place where wickedness and evil is propagated. Walk that wicked demon out the door!

Love800:
You can overlook it. The key is, stop behaving like an animal to her. Dont ever go physical. Always conceal your thoughts. Even if she misbehave, just smile and calmly let her know that what she did was bad. Engage her in conversations! One day she will just tell herself that despite all the evils am doing, this man still handle me nicely. She will creep back to you to beg for forgiveness.

Life is very simple. We men should stop making it look tedious and foolish!

Very foolish write up.

A violent wicked person bears no records or thoughts of the good deeds of others. They'll naturally find faults so as to propagate their wicked dastardly acts. Only a fool will keep being silent and nice whilst waiting for repentance of the wicked. It never happens, it rather ends in the unfortunate demise of the innocent fool.

@dominique, come see, so you can decide on what to day in defense of your gender while you spit on the man's grave.

dominique:
I've never seen you preach this to the fear woman comrades littered all over the forum or you want to tell me you've not been seeing their putrid posts all over the place. You men think it is ok to stereotype all women as evil but when women do same, you start foaming in the mouth. If nairaland men don't remove the logs of their eyes, I will continue to give them a taste of their bitter pill

You sound embittered and terribly hurt little wonder it took you a few days to respond to my post albeit in a rather insulting manner towards me.
I must categorically state it that I owe you nothing and I'm not the cause of any problem or anger issues you're experiencing. Pls deal with your anger and bitterness.

SMH.

dominique:
Too many women getting killed by exnir soon to be ex husbands it's gut wrenching. One even called in that her ex husband is on his way to harm her but the police said there's nothing they can do. About 15 minutes later, the ex husband arrived and killed her and other occupants of the house. The rate at which men harm or kill their wives, ex wives and even girlfriends is disgusting to say the least yet they expect us to believe that women are the evil ones. Not that there are no bad women but they pale in comparison to bad men. May God continue to protect us from this evil, violent gender.

This is very unnecessary
Violence isn't a gender specific thing. It's a personal thing. Any person could be violent, address the man as a violent person not condemning his gender. Besides, I have read about Nigerian ladies killing their spouses for very lame reasons, and if we are to go by that, we would start saying the female gender is evil and violent too. But no, it's a personality issue not gender issue.

The answer is simple. Nigerian men knows how to treat women right and satisfy their cravings.
Sadly, alot of Nigerian women do not know how to treat their men right, and always equate everything to money, and self-centered behaviors (no offense to any Nigerian woman that's not into such shenanigans).

MrCork:
…Remember…. No smile is as beautiful as the one that struggles through the tears and a smile is an inexpensive way to change your looks even if u are ugly, very ugly or very very ugly...…but please remember.... You are not fully dressed until you wear a smile.


.....2014.....LETS GO!!!!!

I still read this with a smile.