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Deep!

StacyO:
I'm still wondering if its that moniker honestly
The same style ah ah

If it looks like a duck, swims like a duck, and quacks like a duck, then it probably is a duck!

StacyO:
Just like a guy I met sometime ago,came out from God knows where smiling.
Guy: Hello its been a long time
Me: confused (do I know you before) but I didn't say it out tho.
Guy: It happens,so don't worry too much.
There's something in your hair (starts touching)
Me: still confused
Guy: I'm So so (name)
Me: still confused
Guy: Can we go somewhere for lunch
Me: Are you mad? (Tho I didn't say it out). Still quite
Guy: Can I have you number?
Me: I'm already near my house,my dog will deal with you.
Guy: bye bye we'll chat some other time.

Me: ode


It doesn't work with everybody ooo

Don't be surprised, na one of these NLders be that.

I hope more females will contribute to this thread by narrating their experiences.

Throwing more light on the 'greenlight' approach.
Not every female that 'supposedly' gives the greenlight will end up having any form of affair with the recipient of the greenlight.

Females are very complex beings.
They're naturally erratic/unpredictable!

On the other hand, you'd be surprised that there's this one female that seems to hate your guts for no particular reason.

This happens especially in a group...maybe your course mate, colleague at work etc.
Reason for this behaviour?
She's probably been waiting for you to come say hi, and for some reason, you haven't.
Speaking from experience, not assumptions.

Just shoot your shot!
If it hits the target, fine, if it doesn't, you aim for another that tickles your fancy.
No time, no time...

Erection can be triggered by anxiety, fear and of course konji.

Let's not jump to conclusions, maybe he was anxious.
I'm just saying...

obiekunie2:
Men! look at this image!

POWER!

ife di n'ikpu!

if you know you know!

Nwanne, ikpu esika!
Ka o diba!

lilwetdick:
Nigerian women and men all living in poverty and forming ferminists and Mgtow, there is nothing i wont see in Nigeria

You see ehh...
In fact, I lack words to describe the foolishness of these people.
Na copy copy go kee them all.
Mtcheeew!

Harlequeen:
I opened this account because my main one is pretty popular.

I've had this issue and don't know what's wrong.
I can't seem to get into a new relationship. I am now 25, about serving, working a normal job

My dating history is not too rich. I dated just one guy for 2 years, i became sexually active with him, we enjoyed each other, but things didn't work out. I tried to be better, have moved on, and he has too. This was mid last year. I have been celibate since then not because i don't like sex, but because i had time to think, i read a lot of books, listened to a lot of relationship counselors on YouTube, reddit, Nairaland and so on. I decided to approach dating differently, with my head and not my heart . i would vet men out who were not in line with some basic standards, to avoid fuckboys and meet high quality men. He should be well spoken, either with a career or into trade, accomplished, way older by at least 10 yrs(no i don't have daddy issues, i just like mature guys because i think like a mature person) he could also have plans to leave the country, because i plan to do that also.


Here's the issue, the men that express interest in me do not fit this criteria. They seem to have no plan for their lives. I get this impression that they are broke, they recycle the same lines all the time, i usually see their bull sh1t tactics a mile away. some are in the army(i can't date men in the armed forces, they lifestyle is not what i want for myself, cannot date doctors either for the same reason)others are artisans, some are plain hustlers who just do whatever to eat. I have a soft spot for ambitious men, and i have not seen a lot in the area that i am in. I have been advised by my friends to try highbrow areas like lekki or VI or go to church, but i don't believe in religion.

But whenever i see these men, i am not attracted to them. I have even tried online dating with some male nairalanders, but i get disinterested easily. I get turned off when someone asks for my normal pics, it is quite frustrating. There's that fear that some of these men could use my pics to masturbate or one other creepy purpose. I block them if they ask for nudes. But the issue is, it is quite exhausting to keep chatting with someone without seeing them in person and some of these guys just want to smash and run which i won't allow. No man will have access to my vagina and womb without investment and commitment. Eventually it becomes hard to keep up communication and we just fizzle out like that.

I am not under pressure to marry from my parents, infact my dad says he won't allow his daughters marry until they clock 28 and i am the first. He wants us to have a career and a life before moving with a man. I just want to know if what i am doing is right?

To be honest, i just want some words of advice and encouragement, you can ask me questions if you want. This approach of mine? Is it the right thing? Am i being too smart for my own good? Am i afraid of commitment?

Words of advice?
Trust me, you won't be needing any advice when you're almost clocking 30 or above.
Your standards will automatically drop like a plane falling out of the sky.

Till then...
Keep looking, I hope you find what you desire.

Mad people everywhere.
Smh

Apt!

As a lone wolf, was in the club chilling by myself, while scanning for a nice and free bird to rock with.
Out of the blues...
Three white boys came and sat close to me.
They were all chatty, trying to hold a convo with me.

As a nice person, I obliged...
Mostly nodded and smiled to whatever shit they were chatting, so as not to appear rude and unfriendly.

Oh boy...
Before I could nod one more time, na so one of them just caressed my nipple.
No be person tell me say make I find my square root.
This happened in Stoke-on-Trent.




Fucking f@gs!

Riele:
I wonder what makes you think that i'm affected by some trash called insults from some myopic males .

Don't attract negativity ? , from whom ?

Those retards up there ?

Ok then, tough cookie...
Have fun!

Riele:
Did you just type " Open thought-provoking thread " .

Isn't this thought provoking already ?

***

Thanks for your concern . I understand your stance perfectly .

But i'm good .

I don't think you'll be good when you get bombarded with scud missile - like insults.
You think you have a thick skin, isn't it?

We've seen your type.
They come and go when the heat eventually gets too hot to handle.
Don't attract negativity.
You may not likely withstand it.

Now, run along with your micky mouse PJ and catch some sleep.
Don't forget to cuddle that Teddy bear while you're at it.



Little girl...

Riele:
Lol .

I do that all the time .

I'm just utilising my spare time .

Then utilise your spare time judiciously.
Engage brain.
Open thought-provoking threads.
You don't need this.

Riele:
Too young for what ?

Shouldn't you be studying?

OP, why the insults?
To what end?
Gain popularity?
Appear tough?
Besides, you're too young for this.

Ariza:
Good luck on your figuring out.

Thanks!

Ariza:
See guys growing wrinkles and cramps in their brains just to figure out the so much shamed Nigerian Ladies Jokers!

There's nothing really to figure out.
It's the amateurs that have some figuring out to do.
Besides, not all naija women are dodgy!
There are some that are worth figuring out.

cerpvad:
A girl's response to your approach is what shows she likes you or not.

Fear of rejection from women is what makes you wait for the ones who give green light before you can approach and talk to them. No girl turns you down if your approach is good and pleasant enough.

Last word: APPROACHING IS NOT EQUAL TO CHASING.

Thank you for your time.

Spot on!
You've said it all!

I'm glad there are still REAL MEN on here who just don't jump on the bandwagon.

OK lemme drop my own experience.
So back in the day, we lived at Aba, and we had this close neighbour.
His name was Chima (May his soul RIP)

He was older than I was then, he was like a big bro.
He liked playing pranks too.
In fact, there was this one time he scared the shit out of me and my other friend.
He dressed like a ghost wearing a white overall.

Anyway, to cut long story short.
We eventually moved to Owerri, and I was still in secondary school then.

So one day, out of the blues...
Chima visited!
How he knew and was able to locate out house, I had no idea.
His visit was very brief!

Fast forward some months later, I was told that Chima died in a ghastly motor accident!
Then I was wondering...
Could it be the ghost of Chima that found its way to our house?
Till date...it still remains a mystery to me.

Even as I type this, I feel goosebumps and shed a little tear.

Lol @ bra size.
Just when I thought I've heard it all...

Korllami007:
You are not giving us proofs to know you are real female since you are acusing female monikers in which you are included also. Bringing this up by creating a thread makes you a prime suspect because it seems you do want eyes on you by letting yourself off the hook.

Come to think of it, there are some females too that use M also, who are they trying to scam? I can even mention two monikers I know of.

Spot on!

Ladycewhy:
you and i know how the showing face works here,lol.I dont even care what he thinks. There was a thread on this forum sometime in 2015 about what nairaland ladies who put up their picture were advertising lol. So i choose to stay faceless.

You're so 2015.
This is 2019...
Get with the times!

Ladycewhy:
Take it serious or not,na you come know.I cant remember mentioning you specifically,someone else will take it serious,so swerve.

Well, judging by the comments so far, it seems no one has really taken it seriously because you're faceless!

Don't get worked up yet, I'm only engaging brain with you.
Chill...

Ladycewhy:
i choose to remain anonymous on my face . And i will suggest you stick to the message except you are trying to derail this thread because you have fishing accounts hence you want to shift attention from the message by trying to discredit the messenger.

Your message would have been taken more seriously, if the messenger had a face.

Ladycewhy:
you see this is where your nativity starts to show.many of these monikers have female profile pictures ,lol na so una take dey enter trap so.

The few usual suspects on here don't have female pictures.
And if some actually did use a female picture, then there's nothing one can really do other than to find out the hard way, or be smart about it.

But the point is...
Show your face!
It's easier to just select the 'f' option than going through the pains of choosing a random female pic to disguise as a female.
To me...you're probably a guy.

Ladycewhy:
why will i be doing something and be warning people against it ? Doesn't that even make sense to you?

Well...
This is naija, anything is possible.
Besides, if you're warning people against it, what have you done to differentiate your 'f' moniker from the rest?

A profile picture would've put that doubt to rest.
So as far as I'm concerned, you could also be a guy disguising as a female.

And please don't tell me anyone can use a female picture to disguise as a female.
Atleast, make an attempt!
That's where I'm coming from...

Ladycewhy:
argumentum ad hominem .

Circumstantial ad hominem

You think say na only you sabi.