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Ballzproblem2:
no dey project yourself on me brother,have a wonderful day .

I see a lot of guys in redpill and MGTOW videos on YouTube talking about getting a younger woman because all the other ones are damaged (which is correct). But, a relationship involves two people. These guys say they want those younger girls but then I wonder, do these younger girls want them (except for money/stability)? And if these girls don't, what are they going to do?

So my advice is not to wait until you are very old and established to get the woman you want. Take her when you are young, at least at that point it less likely that she is just using you for resources.

Philosopher1979:
The ebanga sex video guy will soon become a darling to women. Many women all over the world will say they want to marry him. In fact women will star6 sending him fan mail. That gender is a childish gender

100%. They saw dozens of women enjoying themselves over that guy. They know he can put it down well.

Ballzproblem2:
I don't know for anyone here but I can vouch for my mum ,why? My father married her pretty young let's say 19-20,I plan to follow same strategy.To each their own but your best is getting yourself pretty young virgin,will this stop from cheating? Probably not but it reduces the risk.

Other factors depends on the ability of you to provide as a man and your bed game.EOD.

And how will you go about getting 19-20 year old virgins? You may want them, but do they want you?

jayAjoku:
[b]The first prostitute was made by a man. A man who couldn’t let go of the woman that didn’t sexually desire him so he decided to offer her tokens for access to her Vagina. When the woman realised she could use her vagina to survive and dominate weak men she couldn’t stop. It is men that have created the very prostitutes that they hate and Dislike and insult. It is still those same men that will secretly go and Pay the Prostitutes for sex. It is You men that have created entitled Women and Run girls it is men. It is men that are responsible for sexual infidelity in marriages and relationships. If Baltasar didn’t give those women the opportunity to cheat another man would’ve, it is men that created monogamy and monogamous relationship by succumbing to The Will of a woman that didn’t want to share him with another woman. It is men that have created and sustained the society we have today. It is a man’s world and men have allowed it to Rot because they don’t have the balls to be strong willed. No man loves Monogamy but it is men who have forced themselves to Live a lie by embracing monogamy. The problem is Men and the solution is also men.[/b]

A lot of women willingly throw themselves at rich men to get their money in exchange for you know what. I've had women throw themselves at me because of money.
You are wrong in assuming that women are innocent creatures who are lured by men with money and resources. Women have a brain, women have a mind. They are not forced by men who pay for their cat. It is an exchange they agree with.

ubunja:
Totally missed this one bro

I'm eagerly waiting for your analysis and interpretation of the matter

Dizzyyish:
When they see those women being exposed, by extension of having the same nature, the exposure makes them uncomfortable. Truth be told, it infuriates them (but most of them know better than to openly defend the exposed women - to protect their own reps).

It's kind of like a thief watching a thief get caught (but the thief watching feels themselves justified in what they do, like it's their right, but doesn't openly say so).

Good explanation

Dizzyyish:
Regarding this Balthazar issue - Women are just naturally depraved. Their function as childbearers and sexual beings means their utmost focus and purpose in life is towards the 'flesh'. That's why men for millenniums force morality on them, to mould them into something better than they naturally are, something better than what they'll turn to when you give them freedom.

There is nothing more outstanding and repulsive like witnessing the dark and sexual side of female nature. That's why they seriously hide their nature, package themselves like angels and hate being exposed (of all the NL threads on this Balthazar, count or recall how many female comments you saw).

Now that you mention it, I saw almost no female comment. I would say less than 10% of comments were from females.

Those ministers followed the "make money and women will come" route (https://www.nairaland.com/7465815/make-money-women-come-bad)

luminouz:
Did you guys see the trending videos of that Equatorial Guinea ANIF(EFCC-like) Director that was fucking women everywhere?

I watched one of the public displayed videos and that dude is basically what the redpill talks of. It's a proof that the redpill is valid.

Redpill is amoral, and the dude is a prime example of how women don't give a damn about your money, power but their own interests.

On the moral side, fûcking his uncle and cousin's wives was a bad move. He even fûcked a relative of the president. I'm kinda sorry for him because those shamed men would never let him leave the prison alive. But goddamn, that mudafucker can fûck!!!

@Ubunja, we absolutely need a breakdown of this situation from you.

luminouz:
Did you guys see the trending videos of that Equatorial Guinea ANIF(EFCC-like) Director that was fucking women everywhere?

I watched one of the public displayed videos and that dude is basically what the redpill talks of. It's a proof that the redpill is valid.

Redpill is amoral, and the dude is a prime example of how women don't give a damn about your money, power but their own interests.

On the moral side, fûcking his uncle and cousin's wives was a bad move. He even fûcked a relative of the president. I'm kinda sorry for him because those shamed men would never let him leave the prison alive. But goddamn, that mudafucker can fûck!!!

Brutal...

Philosopher1979:
The issue is one should try and find out if a girl really likes you before spending on her.
Maybe guys like this meet a girl online and start sending money to her account.
See its not his fault. We men have provider and protection instict. Mother nature and society wired us that way.
Is just that a girl has to like u first, I mean showcase devotion, perhaps give you a child before u can be this committed.
The issue is that with some men, money comes before anything. Just start spending on a girl without game.
I have a lot of ladies on my phone but only one showed a strong desire for me. In fact, she calls me everytime and is comkong to my house this weekly. I can spend on this kind of lady cause it shows she at least rates me. A simp will start spending on ladies that don't even pick their calls and get half loyalty.
Mlo abiola is an example. His first 3 wives really loved him and even joined him in his quest to be president. Kudirat even died fighting for his cause.
However, the wives that came later were only around because of money. Dna test exposed them.
So a girl liking you comes before money.
A lady that does not puck your calls or call you back does not rate you

I listened to a China White's video the other the day and she advised men to never spend money on a woman they are sleeping with. According to her, if the woman is not your wife, you are just shooting yourself in the foot by doing this. Here is what she said verbatim: "Only give a woman that's your wife money. This is the thing: women see men that give them money as objects. And that's when the disrespect starts to come when it comes to a woman, she will only see you as that. Do not ever give a woman money because once we receive the money from you and we're having sex with you, we think that's exchange, we think that that's what you owe us for us giving you sex. Now, am I saying don't take her out, am I saying don't pay her bills? Do whatever the fvck you want to do. But here is the thing and this is why I am telling you this: a woman will give her man money, especially when you got good dick. We don't be looking for money with the man thay we're having sex with and we actually want. [...] We don't have a problem with giving him money. We don't even ask him for money unless we really really need it."

Now, @Philosopher1979, I would like to ask you three questions. Do you feel a need to give money to the lady that visits you every week? What is she doing that actually deserves of your money? Why does money have to be involved at all here?

My own mother told me to never lend money to women. Once you give the money, forget about it. They will turn around circles to not give it back to you.

The very best YouTuber about female nature and sexual dynamics is China White.

https://www.youtube.com/@ThelionDen/videos

She is an African-american woman who gives men the raw game and information about women. What she says makes the redpill look like a joke. Even Ubunja recommended her. He too sees her as the best content creator on these topics. In some of her videos, China White explains why women don't really want marriage but control, why and how women cheat, the mindset of hoes, women sexual nature, games women play, damaged women, how to benefit from women, etc.

One of the highly discussed topic here is the attraction of women towards bad boys. People like CaveAdullam, emmaodet, luminouz, pansophist, pukkalo, heartofcity12, JESHAL, etc. have given their different opinions on the topic. There are all insightful but there's one problem: they all come from a male perspective. Don't you want to know what a real woman has to say about why and how women fall for bad boys? I summarized below China's thoughts on this question. In the summary below, everything quoted and written in bold are China's words verbatim. Everything below are China's thoughts, not mine.


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China White on Women's attraction to Bad boy


Women like bad boys because bad boys allow them to be who they are, their raw natural self. “He allows her to be as toxic as fvck, he allows her to be jealous, he allows her to manipulate. The bad boy actually allows her to be herself. You don’t.” The bad boy will take anything: the old, the young, the toxic, the hoe, the married bitch. But you won’t because you have standards (which is good). “The bad boy allows women to live their fantasies through him.”

Women are also attracted to bad boys because they seem to not care. “Women were raised to always focus on the guy that cares and is willing to give to his family.” So, when she encounters a dude who has no care in the world, he takes her breath away. It captures her attention the way the ‘good dude’ can’t.

Bad boys are also smooth talkers. “They will make the woman feel like she met a celebrity.” They are very charming. Their energy humbles women. They make them feel like if they miss him they are going to miss out on something amazing. “They try to make the women to believe that they have something that is so amazing” because they believe it in their mind. Make sure you teach your young daughter about all these games. These guys are out there to mess women up, get what they can get, and disappear. Bad boys are quick to retrieve their attention from women after she poured her soul into him, which makes them attached and go borderline crazy. Your daughter should not be easily impressionable (especially by words). It is also important to put your woman on game. Let her know about the games that men are playing out there. Women are typically receptive to these strategies when they are thirsty and unfulfilled.

Now, let’s talk about the woman who never dealt with a bad boy. She heard all the bad things about him: he is a criminal, he will break your heart, he is a loser, he is not a righteous man, etc. This creates curiosity for the bad boy, in a sense. While the good guy respects her, opens the door, tries to get her validation, and give her complements, the bad boy does not give a shit. Her approval is meaning less to him. The bad boy walks up to her with a killing intent. “He doesn’t ask for approval, he takes it. He goes after what he wants, he’s in then he’s out.” While the good guy tries to get her by treating her nice and being friendly, the bad boy will be quick to let her know that he is after her pussy. “He is looking at her like he is about to tear her ass up.” After being told her whole life that she should avoid the bad boy, the woman is confused when she feels so damn good being in the bad boys’ presence. “Her energy submits to him, and he knows it, and he goes in. He literally devours her.” The woman is perplexed: why do I want this ‘bad’ guy? Why am I so excited about him? Did my parents lie to me about the bad boy? “Now she has been imprinted by the bad boy. There’s no going back. She will never look at men the same.” This is why the average guy is a lame to her. This guy is trying to fulfill her needs and/or wants while the bad boy that imprinted her did not give a fvck. While the average guy is asking her ‘what do you need?’, the bad boy tells her ‘I know what you want. I know what you need. Whatever the fvck I want, that’s what you want.’ “He’s not asking for her approval, he’s taking it.”


Now, from a woman’s perspective, a bad boy is not always a criminal, a thug, or a street dude. To a woman, the bad boy is the man that “got the best of her, the one that she gave to and got her heart broken from.” It could be anybody: a pastor, a blue-collar worker, a CEO, a regular civilian, etc.

“If you are dealing with a woman and she has been with a bad boy, leave her alone. She’s damaged goods.” A woman that have been through a relationship with a bad boy cannot be in a healthy relationship with a man. “She’s been through the mud.” That is, he did all sorts of things with her and imprinted her. “There is no coming back from that.” She is tainted for life and will always have tendencies that pertain to her time with the bad boy. Her past tells a lot about what she is going to do in the future. She will always love bad boys. Your money, status, looks, or whatever, can’t do anything about it. At most, it will be a temporary fix. That said, it is possible that a woman can heal from a bad boy. But that takes years, it’s not something you do in a few months.

To China, bad boys are “men who had fvcked up mothers” or men who had their heart broken by a woman they cherished. They don’t put any value on women. The good guy, on the other hand, is a man that wants to love a woman. There is nothing wrong with this. But, he “gets fvcked when he goes after the bad girl, when he goes after the woman that will never respect him for what he brings as a man and what he values.” In a world where 80% of women have been fvcked up by bad boys, it is hard for the good guy to find a woman that can receive what he has to give. Men must carefully select their women. There are still women out there who believe in loving a man, submitting to him, and putting him first.


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Thoughts?

abba190:
what if i didnt get anyone that have passion for me?

I will address this issue.
The redpill forgets that most women just don't give a shit about most men.
Most men don't have any woman checking for them. A lot of men don't have any woman showing attraction to them. Asking these men to go for women who have passion for them is basically asking them the impossible because they don't have such women.
It is wise that a man must choose the woman who chooses him. But what if NO woman chooses him? What is he supposed to choose then?

And before you say "just improve yourself bro", check this out.
Firstly, look at the men women are going for (besides golddiggers/prostitutes going to rich men for money or services). Look at the men women are craving sexually. Are those men self-improvement maniacs? Most are just regular guys around the block. Most never went on any self-improvement journey. A lot of them are degenerate drug addicts. Many still live in the family house or rent some cheap place. Secondly, if by improvement yourself you mean wear finer clothes and get richer, the best you will get are gold diggers that will use for money before going back to the men they truly want to fūck.

Of course, one should self-improve. I am all for self-improvement. But as far as sex comes, I don't think it has much of an impact. Improve for yourself, not because you believe it's going to get you more sex (the girl you are dreaming about is currently being fvcked by a guy who doesn't even know what self-improvement is).

Tonnyray:
We become what we behold
-William Blake
The only things you ever behold are harlots, simps and divorcees.
May Light locate you.

That's a big issue with the redpill and the manosphere in general. Too much attention is given to harlots, simps, weak men and weak women.

heartofcity12:
No lie told

This is correct.
This is why I don't answer this kind of question.

NEUDUDE:
The worst is most of these girls will invite their ex that fvcked the hell out of them to a wedding you paid for with your sweat lol , some will even have last fantasy sex with the ex that didn't prove valuable to her by any means. Happened for real with someone i am close with. The idiot that paid bride price will be gallivanting lol and the chop and clean mouth guy will be on the front row laughing at the inside joke that's on the simp, it rarely doesn't end there, most of firstborns are really child of the ex

A lot of men raise children that aren't theirs. Many of them belong to their wives ex. Heard from a woman.

heartofcity12:
Yet men are crucified by women and simps when they want a virgin for a serious thing.. These women won’t stop sleeping with their exes even in marriage..

I am telling my son that if he doesn't marry a virgin, I am not going at the marriage ceremony.

I refuse to use the Channels feature as it is just another way for corporations to make us more addicted to their applications and waste our precious time on it.
It is just another money-maker for them. Just a way to exploit our propensity to get addicted to these useless stuff against us.

maasoap:
I wouldn't know for sure, I just grew in it. I remember my step brothers carrying me on their shoulders if we were trekking long distances. All of us eating from the same pot.

I think it mainly rest on the man of the house to put his feet down sternly and firmly, be in control of his household. And shouldn't be afraid or waste time in correcting anyone who might be going out of line. Be fair to the wives and their kids, shouldn't show favouritism even if you have a favourite wife or kid.

Thank you for the insights.

NaBanga:
The truth is that 2 wives, should have separate homes. Polygamy is not to be taken likely. A man who wants to engage in such, should be able to afford to provide for both wives fully, lest someone's child is "accidently" poisoned. I wouldn't give myself high blood pressure, but to each his own.

A woman that would poison a child is a demon. Such a woman would still be a demon in a monogamy relationship.

BluntCrazeMan:
You're actually supposed to build three houses..
One for each of them and their kids, and your own central house which is OPEN for everybody,, but it is officially your own house.
That was how our FOREFATHERS did it, and it worked.

But since you are planning to have only one building,, then you have to plan it in such a way that it has two wings.
(Two completely separated quarters on the TWO OPPOSITE SIDES of the building)
And the central portion is for everybody, and also where your own quarters will be located.

This is what I have in mind.

BigManny:
Though I've not been there, but I think it's easier to cope with two wives than coping with most entitled mannerless and manipulative single wives.

It is. Plus, people forget that in many cases, it is the first wife that encourages her husband to take a second one.

The most important is the quality of people you are dealing with, your connection with them, and the environment.

mozona:
three kitchen is good but you forget that they can poison each other food,
starting from the kitchen.

cos you cannot tell me that a polygamous home is a peaceful home no matter
how much you have.

There are great polygamous houses out there. Women who use poison in a polygamous setting are the ones that would use it regardless anyway.

gbassa:
You should build 2 kitchens based on my own experience. When we had a single kitchen, there was too much quarrels from my stepmums and they were doing the cooking 2 weeks each but after giving each a separate kitchen and later a separate flat, the quarrels stopped.

Thank you for sharing your experience gbassa.
How was the polygamous experience in your home in general? Would you say there was more unity than division? How did you see the wife that was not your biological mom? How did your father rule?

Elsueno:
Yes, if possible just build each wife a self contain with bedroom, kitchen & a nice veranda.

Then build a very big sitting room where all the family can eat & watch TV together.


Let me tell u something, even if u give them one kitchen, You MUST BUY different cooking utensils, gas etc for each. So why not separate it from the get go & save urself d trouble

Thanks for the input.
The very big sitting room is in my block.

shedy03:
Each wife should have her kitchen, living room, children room.
Hope you are strong enough to build the mansion.lol.

No, all children live in my block. I have three children's bedroom and they will be mixed among wife1's kids and wife2's kids. So, there is no such thing as wife1 kids on this side and wife2 kids on that other side.

SocialJustice:
Use one kitchen with a big dinning. The family cooks and eats together unless you want division in your family.

This is why I was reluctant to build two kitchens.

Konquest:
You made some valid points there but it's also good to get a second and even third opinion from folks and professionals alike in any field of human endeavor.

Then a man "walking" in his shoes can finally make up his mind (even though he already has his own initial ideas on what to do) based on thorough scrutiny of feedbacks so as NOT to get blindsided. So far, he's got a lot of good advice on this family-related issue and a significant number of men here have given very succinct feedbacks.

I can see the OP going far in his long-term polygamous relationships because he is NOT afraid to ask for feedback and he's willing to learn while not compromising the unity of his children who he wants to see grow up together as brothers and sisters.

That's what it's about. Thank you Konquest.

johnog4sure:
Oga build a second house, never put 2 women under one roof for the sake of your children. God will bring money for another house

Why do you think this, John?

InvertedHammer:
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Your house, your rules.

If you want input from strangers, that means that you are indecisive about your life.

You know your wives and what dynamics will work for all of you. What works for a peaceful home may not work for a toxic home.
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About the embolden, everyone wants input from strangers.
You have issue with your business, you take an online course made by a stranger.
You don't know which resort to visit during vacation, you visit a tourist website made by a stranger.
You don't know how to cook a certain meal, you watch a youtube video made by a stranger.
You have a sudden issue with your car on the road, you contact a mechanic (most likely a stranger) or you ask fellow drivers around (all strangers).
You don't know which investment to make, you may contact an experienced businessman who is most likely a stranger.
You want to design your house as optimally as possible, you reach out to an interior designer or a design website or some expert who is most likely a stranger.
You want to build a house but are not sure about the limitations of your land, you contact an engineer/architect (a stranger) to look at that for you.
You want to buy a new laptop but aren't sure about the specific one that corresponds best to your needs and budget? You go online or to a computer store and hear what strangers have to say about your case.
Even the whole of Nairaland, is a bunch of people asking strangers about pretty much anything.

We all get advice from strangers in this life. All of us.

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doncartel:
The wives may decide to poison each other or poison each other’s children.

A woman won't become a witch because of polygamy. If she acts like a witch in a polygamous marriage, it means she has always been one and was not in the good condition to get it out of her.
Plus, as I said, all kids eat the same food.

Imagine one wife turning the other wife’s child into an slowpoke through charms in the food.

All kids eat the same food. Plus, a woman that would do such a thing is an evil woman. Polygamy just gave her a terrain to exercise her evilness. A woman that is not evil won't do such a thing, polygamy or not.

The best polygamy is the Atiku way. Each wife has her own mansion very far from each other while Oga summons or visits them as he likes.

The issue with this is that it is hard for the kids to see each other as one. They will see the others as "the kids of that woman" instead of seeing them as true brothers.
What is "Atiku" by the way?