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pode:
Them go use otapiapia kill you

What is otapiapia?

tiswell:
@op,see a perfect example of the impending calamity(s) you'll expect👆.


May God be ya strength broda,cos e nor go easy fa

Such a woman is not fit for polygamy.

Noahsailingark:
Simply build two separate houses. One house for each wife and her kids. You can be switching houses.

No. I don't want to create clans/groups/divisions with my kids. So, all kids see the two wives as their mother, and they all eat the same food, and they all sleep in the same rooms.

Sunny91:
If bedroom has separated them let kitchen don't my reason was let the kitchen unit them daily.

I see your point. Thanks.

Ara21:
For me, this is the best comment so far.
If you can make two bedroom flat for each wife and their kids it will save you stress, they only see each other when they want to.

The kids stay in my block. And they are mixed. I don't want any separation between my children.

Sk5050:
Build two kitchen and make sure the wall in between the two flats is tick enough with separate passage/entrance to avoid too much interface.

As far as I am concerned a woman that refuses to see her co-wife is a bad wife. Each wife will have her quarters but they don't mind seeing each other around.

maasoap:
That's not the case all the time, we that grew up in polygamous family can attest to it. Things might have changed these present days but it wasn't always hate and jealous when people like us were growing up in polygamous family. It was the best

Precisely. There are a lot of good polygamous houses out there. In some of them, it is the first wife that asked for a co-wife.

Please maasoap, what do you think your father did to dissipate hate and jealousy and foster joy and unity in his house?

Kajaard:
Op if you want peace in your house build two separate kitchens for each wife.

Women don't get along with each other unlike men. To make it worse these are two wives that will be envious of each other and hate each other as well.

Thanks for the advice. I was asking because I have seen cases where there is only one kitchen and it works.

pocohantas:
So if you marry wife wey no sabi cook or likes too much pepper, my innocent kids go follow una dey chop am? Don't foster your unity with my kids nutrition, your Lordship.

This is the kind of woman that is not fit for polygamy.
Sister wives should help and complement each other.

Sheuns:
If possible build two separate flats for them.

That's the plan.

Reminderz:
lol I use to tell people that it's not in the amount of wife you marry, but the type of wife.. you can have more than one wife and have more peace of mind and happiness than the person with only one wife... if you marry a bad wife, prepare to get your life ruined...

you can have more than one and your family will be fine and stable than those with one, it all depends on the kind of wife you marry and the foundation on which you built your relationship, not necessarily the amount of wives...

Well said

Reminderz:
like I said it works as a psychological trick... btw, make sure you engage your wives in things or activities that makes them relate with each other, don't let separate kitchen means they won't have to relate with each other... learn to encourage love in your family... eat together, cook together and go on a date together... give them tasks that would involve them both...

Thank you man.

A great way to foster inclusion and unity is to impose that on the kids. There are three kids' bedroom in the house and they will be mixed. That is, we won't have the bedroom of wife1's kids and those of wife2's kids etc. Plus, all the kids' bedroom are in my building.
Also, all the kids will eat the food prepared by the wife of the day. If this Tuesday, for example, wife2 is cooking. Then the whole house will eat wife2's food. Wife1 is strictly forbidden from cooking something else to give to her kids on the side. One wife is not allowed to take her kids out and leave the rest at home. Plus, they will all go to the same schools, celebrate ceremonies together, treated equally.

I want all of my kids to see themselves as brothers and sisters, not step-brothers and step-sisters, or half-brothers and half-sisters.

dkidd:
Of course build it in a way that their paths will hardly cross. They should have their separate quarters in the house while u have urs as the boss. So everything na based on control V

Thanks, dkidd.

But, I don't really understand your last sentence...

OLUJIME:
please my people i really want to know why men ask their girl if she is a virgin before going into relationship or marriage with them.

PLEASE I NEED YOUR REPLIES.

They want to be the one that make her transition from a girl to a woman.

CaveAdullam:
The conversation I had with a Nairalander a few minutes ago.

PS: There are a couple of nuances I didn't dwell on (got tired of typing). Any addition or rebuttal will be welcomed.

Thanks.

Nice piece Cave.

Threedoorsdown:
If the women are not troublesome and they understand each other and are quite close, build one kitchen. This way you keep your wives close and your future children closer.

If they are not they above, u better build separate flats for them sef befor dem use wahala kill u

Thank you. There are other polygamist men with one kitchen. Some work fine, others not so much.

Kelklein:
If you can, make the house semi-detached so that each person stays in her flat.. You know the way they build tenant flats but still in one building.

That is my plan. There will be the main building where I live and each wives' building next to me. Here is a rough sketch to explain what I mean

ComputerOperato:
Best comment.
Op build 3.

And if you have two wives, best add one extra to make them 3.
E get why.

Why do you think this?

Reminderz:
yes, if you can afford it fine... if you can make it 3 also, then do it, makes them wonder if there is a third one in the picture... and also make them satisfy you and bow to your authority...

Thank you Reminderz.
But I currently don't have any plans to bring in a third wife. What would be the use of a third kitchen, then?

PerfectStranger:
You must be a happy man. Make it 4 if there's space, you might need extra 2 wives in future

Can you elaborate on this?

epondudu:
Bro build 3 kitchen, speaking from experience.
You will thank me later.

Bro, what is your experience?

decatalyst:
Build 3 kitchens
Build 3 sitting rooms
Of course 3 bedrooms
3 toilets
3 veranda
3 water tanks
3 walkway



And 3 brains

I understand 3 bedrooms, one for me and one for each of my wives.

But 3 kitchen with 2 wives? Could you explain?

Danielnicks:
By that logic you should allocate the same feeding allowance to them, stock both kitchen equally, eat the same amount of food from one kitchen in the next kitchen, so one wife won't say she cooked a lot for you that's why her stock finished faster.

You're obviously building a house not a home. And years later you will wonder why there's a wall between both factions. Yes, I called them factions, because that's what you're creating.

Only one wife will cook per day. If today is wife1's turn to cook, then she cooks for everybody, and everybody, including wife2's kids, have to eat her food.


Could you elaborate more the embolden?

DrFunmisticGlow:
build separate kitchen for each of them. Let their foodstuffs not mix so each wife can Cook for her kids separately and for you on occasion. It might be best to bring up this topic to your wives and see how they react.

Also the kitchen should have ample storage room for foodstuffs (a pantry). It is a must.

In my household, each wife will cook for everybody: me, her co-wife, and all the kids. I impose this to foster unity among the children and collaboration with the wives.
For example, let's say today it is wife2's turn to cook. Then, she will cook for the whole family, not only her kids. We will all eat her food that day. And I forbid the other wife to cook something else for her kids and have her kids eat something else. No. This would create "clans" within my household, which I do not want. I want all of my kids to see themselves as brothers and sisters not as step-brothers and step-sisters.

I'm building my home for me and my two wives.

Each wife will have her bedroom.
Now, I am wondering whether I should build one or two kitchen.
What do you think?
Input from (current or future) polygamists and women would be appreciated.

Life is hard for everybody in Nigeria. Even animals are not having it easy.

The beautiful message in the screenshot above is one of the main reasons why I left the redpill.

The redpill encourages men to lose themelves in the hope of winning women.

Focus on what truly matters at the end of the day.

Proserpina:
If a woman can disregard your opinion on something as big as childbirth then she will never take your opinion on anything. The lady is still in her "I " world , you will be making a mistake to form a "we" world with her. Let it go bro.

Well said.

uzomakanaki:
Good day Nairalanders.

What could make a lady date her fiancee's colleague? I'm done with ladies for now. This a bad experience.

I got a job for my now ex fiancee in the organisation where I work. We dated for 2 years. She was posted to a different branch office not far from mine.

A year on the job I began hearing rumours that she's going out with a senior colleague of mine in the same office with me. Those that I heard it from didn't know we were dating.

I confronted her and she denied it. I was not comfortable with her response, and one day she came to spend the weekend with me, I decided to go through her chat, I could not believe what I saw in her chat with this guy in question.

They've gone far to the extent of having sex with themselves which was said in the chat.

The next morning I confronted her with evidences of what I saw in her chat with my colleague, she became furious that I had no right to check her chat, with no sign of remorse. I was broken and at that point ended the relationship.

I've requested for a transfer out of that branch, cos I want to deal with this guy. Cos he's fully aware we were dating and have met us on different occasion outside.

Since the break up with my ex, he has been avoiding me in the office.

I never saw a dirty attitude in her at the early stage of our relationship, I never knew I was ready to marry a full blown LovePeddler who's looking for a platform to sell herself.

But for the guy I'll deal with him.

Man, vengeance is not the way. Even if you are hurt, even if you were scammed, please do not retaliate with violence. Let them be and keep your heart light.

Don't try to do anything bad to that woman or your co-worker. Let them go and be free.

Forgive them for yourself. So that you can have peace of mind and move on to better things in life.

Holding a grudge will just hold you back. Free yourself from that.

All the best!

Insightful thread.

The huge number of women having babies and cheating with jobless nobodies would beg to differ.