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pansophist:
That is nonsense.

Probably some, or even many, but not most.

I mean, it is not a secret that men likes sex, just as women likes money. Men search for sex more often, probably because they do not control access to it.

But for a man to take an expensive trip to Nigeria for sex is senseless, when he can pay for it where he is. Which is far cheaper.

Alright. Thanks.

What's the purpose of putting this online?

Like my mother told me, so many women do not love their kids.
They see their kids as a drawback, as a drag that prevents them from enjoying their whorrish lifestyle.
As she told me, many women did not want to have their children and do not love them, and one of the ways to see this is that she leaves her kids at home to go whòre outside. This one didn't even let the kid at home.

How will thay boy grow up? He will either be attracted to hoes and whores his whole life since that's what his mother is. Or he will lose all respect for women since he can't respect his own slut of a mother (this is why some men are players).
This is a traumatizing experience. I hope that he has the maturity, strength, and support to rise above it.


This woman is an hyena.

planetx:
When I tell people here that 90% of Nigerian men married or single living abroad and flying into Lagos and Abuja on those British, Klm, Lufthansa, United and Delta flights are coming primarily for sex, and every other thing is secondary.

@pansophist, given your extensive travel experience and great understanding of human psychology, how true is it that most men who come back to Nigeria from abroad are doing so primarily for sex?

Gerrard59:
Baba is a Yoruba term to describe an elderly man. As I am not yet elderly, bros is preferable. Bros colloquially bro is used for young men in Nigeria. It also depends on how old you are (since you are referring to me).

Nevertheless, I appreciate the compliments.

Thank you very much. So, how would you say "bro", "man", or something like that in a local language?

In crude analysis, there are three layers of hotels/motels/guesthouses/inns in Nigeria. Location matters in how a hospitality outfit might be perceived. Using Lagos, a guesthouse in the heart of Akin Adesola, Victoria Island, would be considered classier than a hotel in Ojo/Okokomaiko. The patrons at that guesthouse would never want to find themselves at the hotel in Ojo, regardless of the nomenclature.

First layer: Standard hotel that relys on corporate guests, business travellers, tourists, diplomats visiting that area. Again, using Lagos for easy understanding: this includes the likes of Eko Hotel and Suites, LegendCurion, Marriot etc.

Second layer: the good hotels, which accept everyone provided the person can pay. These are scattered across every nook and cranny.

Third layer: the ones who serve midnight travellers. These are more of guesthouses and inns.

There are many classifications beneath what I have outlined. So, it is dependent on many factors.

I see.

Now, to your question: Hospitality outfits within the second and third layers can work with such ladies. But not the first. However, what escorts with voluptuous body sizes, beautiful faces, succulent breasts, yummy faces and legs coupled with charisma do is to lodge in hospitality outfits in the first layer to scout for customers. Obviously, because she lodges at LegendCurion, her patrons would be moneybags. This is called market positioning.

Wow, never thought about this. I knew that many women go to luxury places in the hope of being targeted by rich men, but I never thought about this dynamic for prostitutes in hotels.

To compete in the sex market, one needs to be proactive, spend money to make more money and offer dazzling sexual services (cum-in-mouth, cum-on-body, cum-on-face, anal rimming etc). This model works across all, but does not make say a hospitality in the third layer to be termed a brothel. That term is specifically meant for a place where men go to seek women to fvck there. A brothel does not cater to travellers or students going into a city to write an exam.

Yes, the sex market is becoming harsher for prostitutes with free porn, several online prostitution platforms (instagram, onlyfans, whatsapp, escort websites, ...), the increasing number of real-life prostitute alternatives (oloshos, students, "girlfriends", and the high levels of promiscuity.

Additionally, if I am to wager, I would say 50% of hospitality outfits (lounges, clubs, recreational areas, hotels, guesthouses etc) would shut down if Nigerian men become faithful or celibate. While 75% of restaurants would close shop if the same thing happened. The reality is that a lot of hotels (used here to describe a place where people lodge regardless of class) depend on the sexual relationship between the Nigerian man and his woman. Because Nigerian men term themselves to be polygamous, they have given themselves the right to fvck at will. It is why when people lampoon these sexual escorts, I am annoyed because I have come across MANY MEN who would do anything just to fvck. They cut across many industries: politics, academia, business, trading, corporate etc.

I agree, many industries depend on men's spending for the pussy.

Yes. In reality, any hotel can thrive by not pandering to prostitutes. Literally any. My parent, especially my mom, never liked the aspect of girls lodging whereas our competitors cherished it. That decision, though, sieved our clientele base as more refined men preferred our outfits because they were quieter, cleaner and more private. So yes, a hotel can survive without such.

Alright

The snag is that as a hotel, you cannot know what a man and woman, and sometimes man and man, are doing in the hotel room. The ones who do so are religious hotels (largely owned by religious bodies and prudish people) - they explicitly state that they don't accept boyfriends and girlfriends regardless of their ages. However, they rarely receive lodgers. Still, when they do, their lodgers tend to be religious clerics or standard lodgers regardless of gender, provided the lodger agrees not to bring someone of the opposite sex into the premises. How they can fight the growing tide of homosexuals is yet to be seen.

Is there a significant amount of homosexuals in Nigeria? Is it more gays or lesbians?
How is the growing tide received by the population? What are some key reasons of this growing number of homosexuals?

The demand for sexual escorts is constant. It never will plummet, regardless of the economic situation in Nigeria. In fact, the prices escorts charge would further plunge as the economy bites harder in Nigeria especially outside those locations I mentioned in my first post. This makes sex cheaper. As I said, there is a new 18-year-old girl every day in the country. I already explained everything here: https://www.nairaland.com/7684230/how-reduce-hook-ups-nigeria

Man's urge for sex is biological and eternal. It is a given.

The price of condom would not hinder or reduce its demand. However, poorer men might want to take the risks, which is ill-advised as the STI risks outweigh the ephemeral joy derived. My fear about the price surge in condoms lies more with married couples who use it as a contraceptive. Just like STI, the costs involved in raising a child one did not plan is something I would not wish on my enemy. Raising children is expensive. To such couples, I strongly recommend vasectomy or a more medical option for the woman, which has fewer side effects. Another fear is with teens and growing adults who want to experiment with sex. Because it is more expensive, ignorance coupled with youthful exuberance might compel them to do Nigga Raw (a one-time popular Nigerian musician), but the risks of an unplanned pregnancy does more harm than good to both parties, especially the female.



Managing my parents' hotels exposed me to how Nigerians see sex. I mingled with many people strictly on the basis of sex. I have negotiated with escorts in the middle of the night. I have referred escorts to customers and vice versa. I have coached and even done a simple math analysis for customers who bemoan how much they have spent but derived minimal joy. I have also assisted escorts to hide from wild customers who want to inflict harm because they have spent a lot. I have worked with pastors who headed big churches, and laughed and joked with senior civil servants and business people. I recalled when I entered a taxi to the city centre and saw the poster of a customer on his dashboard. I asked the driver who the man was, and he replied, "He is my pastor. He is a strong man of God. He is very powerful." Meanwhile, that man checked out very early from one of our hotels. I smiled afterwards.

I do intend to write a detailed article on the A - Z of sex in Nigeria and publish it on my website. But first, I fund research to answer certain hard questions Nigerians from all walks have about sex.

Don't let anyone lie to you; Nigerian men love sex, and they love it so much.

Thank you Gerrard for your insights and perspective. What is your website?

Wotowotoman:
Guy how old are you? Please stop being silly and asking stupid questions. You see this life wey we dey live, ain’t no rules. Anybody that tells you there are rules to follow ask that fool where the rules were written and made by who.

If woman give you wahala, if you like keep quiet. And then expect her to change automatically. You hear? Hiss!

If you cannot help a man, let him be. Don't shame him.

Skepticus:
"Naturally giving to women" Lmao

But when it comes to men, you guys are no where to be found. Miss me with this BS excuses to rationalize the pussy worship of worthless women (for the most part).

You obviously didn't UNDERSTAND the post before you responded!

#Bingo

Exactly. Guys will be more reluctant to give money to their male friend or brother than to a give to a woman.

If your nature is truly to give (which is good), then you would give to everybody: men, women, boys, girls, and elderly men and women. But, for some reason, these guys generosity is mostly manifested towards women. Yeah right...

Some men would lend money to their girlfriend before helping their own brother. Pitiful.

adambeatz:
Gentlemen people are suffering o, badly for that matter, this regime just made it too obvious, even the people who claim to fake it in order to make it have found faking it expensive. Left and right guys are delving deeper into fight or flight mood, same thing with women. Genuine people are finding out that if they stay good the might end up dying or worse get used by other people hence an option is become the bad guy. A guy that once had a good heart might be a wolf now because he has to place his survival above all else,you might think he is still that janded guy u knew only to do business and realize you were his prey.

Even most of the female gender know nice guys are running out, and the few with an intuition that's still alive know that good guys are scarce to find due to everyone been on fight or flight mood. If during buhari's tenure a book had to be checked 2 times, now one has to triple check and even randomly be gazing at the book to make sure it doesn't surprise you at any given turn. STD's are on the rise, lots of infection going round freely like jehova witness pamphlets, girls would rather use money to look hot instead of going for regular check ups, men would rather drink or f*ck than go for check ups.

I always have issues with my guys who have a bad habit of subconsciously putting their hands on their balls to scratch then when they see you dey remove their hands to shake you with that same hand. Me and hand sanitizer are friends every single day.


Gentlemen take care of yourselves so you can be less of a burden to your fellow guys, even if there is no money, make sure to be able to have a niche you dominate so no matter what nobody can point you fingers and say your completely useless. Cheers

Thank you for this message. I wish you well.

heartofcity12:
👍

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OliverTwistJr:
I'm sorry for the lengthy post but right now, I'm just shaking, I want to be a hard guy

I think that you should want to be a loving guy first. A loving guy to yourself.

Don't let that slut make you bitter. She is not worth it.

Nurture love for yourself, grow your confidence, and overcome your lust.


If you loved yourself enough, you'd not allow yourself to be played like that.

If you had enough confidence, you would not feel intimidated by any woman.

If you rose above your lust, you would not have dealt with that slut to start with or, at least, you would not have considered her for more than what she is: a slut that likes to play men.

Focus on yourself. Have a deeper relation with yourself. Understand yourself as thoroughly as you can. The more you understand yourself, the more you love yourself. Because you can't really love what you don't know/understand.

When you love something you want to protect it. When you love yourself, you want to protect yourself. And this involves avoiding manipulative sluts like the one of your story.

Adlac:
Great Student of Economics . Demand will be shifted to a Substitute with lesser price.

What is the substitute for olosho in the economy? Things like porn are just short-term remedies, can they be really considered substitute for olosho?

Emeskhalifa:
Kuku killam

What does "Kuku killam" mean?

NoonMasamune:
Imagine he actually makes this and sells millions of copies

Well, why not? If someone made a well-documented, accessible, entertaining, thorough, and down-to-earth analysis of Nigerian sexconomics, you think people wouldn't buy it? I wouldn't be surprised if he becomes a best seller.

Gerrard59:
Special thanks to Kipaji and efficiencie for the graphs and hilarious comments.

Baba, you are welcome.

("Baba" means "bro" in Nigerian pidgin, right?)

I have previously written here that my parents built their wealthy by owning hotels, which I managed. So, I know the economics behind sex in Nigeria. I have dealt with sexually starved men and seen the extent Nigerian men can do to put their heads inside.

Direct experience of the working of Nigerian sexconomics. Good.
I heard that the vast majority of hotels sustain themselves by "working" with prostitutes/pimps. The objective is that the prostitute take her client to the particular hotel. Is that true?

To the topic, Durex has always been expensive depending on the pharmacy it is purchased from. Because of these married men – the majority of men who patronize these girls are married – would not want to be seen with condoms, they rarely take condoms home. So, as a hotel, it is extremely important to stock them for customers’ patronage. As a business, I marked up the price by 200%. It is your choice as a customer to decline buying, but when the sex escort declines to have raw sex (a significant number did raw sex), they resort to buying the condom. I mandated the condoms must be sold in packs rather than sachets, but many men complained since they don’t get to use all the sachets. So, I bent to their wishes by implementing the sachetization of condoms.

The most affordable is Gold Circle, but as inflation hit Nigeria hard especially as the incompetent feudalist by name Buhari ascended to power in 2015 and continued for eight years, GC prices soared. But even as GC prices ballooned, so did Durex. There are alternatives like Kiss, RoughRider and many I cannot tell. I even had a customer who worked with USAID who supplied me with USAID approved condom. I had one who supplied me with UN approved condoms. They were free to me, which I sold at twice the rate of Kiss – which customers preferred.

Wow. Thanks for the insights. According to you, can a hotel survive and thrive without "partnering" with prostitutes/pimps?

Durex by patrons is confirmed to be the best and as it offers varieties depending on the user’s desires, it is covers everyone. But it is the most expensive which is easily assessible. There is one by name Ultra black something I cannot recall whose price was very high, but promised near-raw feeling. Near-raw because if it didn’t dey, it didn’t dey.


Whether promiscuous men will reduce their lascivious activities, that would not happen. I had customers who thronged in during COVID. Some men cannot do without sex – it is hormonal, cannot blame them sha. The use of porn majorly works with younger men, not older men who are the major customers and biggest spenders. The demand for sex is very high in Nigeria. The price increase will no doubt lead to an increase in STD/STIs as poorer men will want to risk it. But I strongly advise against this because the benefit in sexual intercourse with various women is very minimal compared to the risks.

So, like Prof. Guobe, you believe that the demand for oloshos is inelastic. The effect of the condom price increase on promiscuity is small. Guys will still take the risk. And this would lead to severe negative externalities like STD/STIs propagation. The situation is worrisome.

The economy does affect escort prices especially outside Lagos, Abuja and Port-harcourt. The prices of escorts has remained steady in parts of Lagos like Lekki, VI and some parts of Ikeja. The same applies to Asokoro, Maitama and Wuse 2. Increased supply of yummy, succulent and beautiful girls should bring down prices, one might think. After all, there is a new 18 year old girl every day. But there is this seemingly belief amongst girls that they would get one big spender, partly true in those locations. But as Nigeria receives fewer tourists compared to say South Africa or Namibia, the number of big spenders will decrease.

So, prices should reduce outside those abovementioned locations. Overall, demand would remain constant. There is a hooge demand for sex by Nigerian men. It is not going anywhere anytime soon. In fact, my advice to escorts is to position them for diasporan folks who will visit Nigeria sexually starved. Except for married men, very few Nigerian males who emigrated recently dey fvck steadily.

To them, £100 will be nothing. To you as an escort, it is everything.

👏👏👏 That's the most thorough analysis here so far, Gerrard. There are several factors influencing Nigerian sexconomics. I did not think about the place of hotels, location and travelers in the whole dynamic. Thank you for your input.

Blitzking:
Or perhaps the soliciting of aids from well meaning international bodies like to bill and Melinda gates foundation to subsidise the price of condoms in order to prevent a far reaching effects if left unchecked.

This is a tricky situation. The prominent prostitution market is a negative element of society and the negative externalities form this market are also negative for the society. We are choosing between two evils. On one hand, we protect the prostitution market, we avoid the negative externalities (increased paternity fraud, rape, cheating, STDs, ...), but we keep prostitution going. On the other hand, if we let the prostitution market fail (as prostitution is seen as a bad societal outcome), we have to deal with the negative externalities.

guobe:
You are the real Prof in this stuff omo see graph na.lol.

By the way, what does "omo" mean?

efficiencie:
There are other factors not being considered. Many believe only single ladies do this olosho business but many married women are also into this. Married women even seem to be more interesting supplier these days because men expect that married women will be wary of getting STDs considering that there is a high possibility of her being caught and she doesn't want to be caught. Unwanted pregnancy due to sex without protection will only be an issue when the married woman decides to get pregnant for whatever reasons best known to her and this will usually come at little to no cost to those who patronize them. Plus men also expect that this set of married women already have a fool, their husband, who is providing for her basic needs and hence such women tend to substitute more sex work for leisure. So, as the price of condoms and sex rise due to the hardship, inflation and exchange rate depreciation, one of the implications of this is that more promiscuous men may substitute more married women and porn for single women in the olosho industry and remain on their currently satisfactory level of utility. The social implication of this dynamic is too mind boggling to visualize.

Insightful analysis. I did not think about indifference curves. Porn consumption will skyrocket even more in Nigerian society.

With the advances of technology, sex dolls will eventually become cheap enough for a considerable proportion of the Nigerian male population to afford. This will completely disrupt the sexconomy of Nigeria.

Thank you for your input @efficience.

efficiencie:
You are forgetting that there is another side to this dirty coin. If the demand for olosho drops, the price of olosho too has to drop.

This is what we would expect from the law of demand. Nonetheless, as Prof. Guobe pointed out, the increase in condom's price is not likely to decrease the demand for olosho in Nigeria, especially from very promiscuous men. So, according to him, the demand for olosho is very inelastic. So, the decrease in olosho's price is going to be quite negligeable.

Plus you must also know that while the demand for olosho is elastic the supply is inelastic and that is bad news for olosho suppliers.

I get your point. But, I wonder--what makes olosho's supply inelastic? Isn't the amount of oloshos increasing drastically?

Promiscuous men can always fall back on porn and the millions of exotic women that post their nudes online. So the availability of this substitute makes the demand for olosho elastic and if this demand declines badly the ladies of the night will be forced into other unsafe and uncharted underground industries. Poverty is powerful.

I see. According to your analysis, the demand for olosho is quite elastic given the available substitute that is porn.
What are some example of these uncharted underground industries?

emmaodet:
Na WA oooo
See people dey draw graph on top toto and condom

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I read OP's post like a serious economics article

Can't wait for your book Prof. Guobe

guobe:
Tinubunomics does not have time for better things talkless of condoms.
The emilokon master is in his own paradise.
Even if Nigerians are dying in droves does not concern him
Nigerians should bear with the demon they created.

So, the government will not intervene to solve the market failure. Thank you for your answer.

Professor Guobe. In your analysis, you mentioned that many promiscuous men in society would start going raw. I would like to ask a few questions about that:

1) According to your latest research, what is the proportion of promiscuous men in society?

2) Do you think that the increase in price will discourage promiscuous men in the short run? What about the long run?

3) Do you see the increase in price as positive or negative? One might argue that increasing condom's prices can reduce promiscuity in society.

4) How is the increase in condom's price going to affect non-promiscuous men?

5) And what about women?

The price of condoms in the market increased and the demand has now reduced.
Prof. Guobe is concerned with the negative externalities on society at large. According to him, this increase in price will yield an increase in the proportion of unsafe in the populace. This could significantly increase the rate of STDs, unwanted pregnancy, and paternity fraud out there.

Prof. Guobe, what can be done to solve this problem? Would you suggest an intervention of the government? Do you think the market (the buyers and sellers) can solve it on its own? Or do you have a third alternative?

tochez24:
Women are not that hard to have sex with♂️

Once you shower a girl you like with care, attention and a little token here and there for food, body cream and the rest.

You will be amazed on how she will be relaxed and very comfortable with you!!!! Once a girl become comfortable with you as a guy, you can do nasty things with her you know without even dating or spending much on her.

It's only sugar daddies that don't have that time that are probably spending 50k to knack a girl🙄

Premium tears awaiting. I hope you learn before it's too late.

guobe:
As I went to buy paracetamol at the chemist which cost two hundred naira,my attention was caught by the price of condom and I could not hesitate but snap it.
Condoms are now being sold at 2500,5000 and 7000 naira a pack.
I was like alot of guys will go raw if they are not able to afford it.
Having sex in Nigeria is now very expensive especially for promisquos men.
The breakdown of expenses include condom 3,000,hotel 20,000,olosho fee 50,000,food and drinks 10,000 naira.Total 93,000 naira .
Promisquos men will learn and they will learn the hard way.

You spoke like an economics journalist analyzing the market. hahahahaha

When are you dropping the book ?

Sexconomics in Nigeria: a Changing Paradigm by Guobe, Nairaland editions 2024.


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What have I just read?

Sexconomics. If economics was about the market of condoms, dilldos, prostitutes, instead of generic things like apples and cars, economics would have been the favorite subject in school. Guys, would read advanced theories to decipher the economics of sex

Funny

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Hardy123:
Your point is well noted but the question i ask is this, how does one quench the natural sexual urges without sex or masturbation? Because it's a nature and one can fight it unless you are castrated. That's my question, you just danced around the question.

People can and do overcome natural sexual urges. There are people out there (in all parts of the world) that go years without sex or masturbation. My humble self went five months and a half (170 days) without sex, porn, or masturbation. I am a healthy breathing man who feel urges like just about any other man out there. During monk mode, these urges reached unbelievable levels. It was during monk mode that I discovered that a man can be erect from sun up to sun down. It never happened to me before. After monk mode, I went through short series of semen retention (2 months, one month, three weeks, two weeks, several one week streaks).

Here are some of the things what helped me overcome the urges (I may update it as time goes on):

1. Sleep

It is through sleeping that we recuperate our physical energy but also our mental energy. It takes a lot of mental energy to rise above your urges. You need to stay in high energy levels most of the times. And one of the keys to achieve it is quality sleep. When you sleep well and enough you have more energy to resist.

2. "And so what? I don't care."

Sometimes, when I had a hard on or a great urge, I would tell myself: "and so what? I don't care."
"Yes, I desperately want to watch some porn"
"Yes, I crave to fvck that hoe over there"
"Yes, I want to just grab the lotion and jerk the fvck off"
"And so what? I don't care."
"I'm not doing it."
"Yes, I know I want to do it. I don't deny that. My entire body is asking for it"
"But I'm just not doing it and that's the bottom line."
"Why? Because I said so and that's it."

This mindset helped so many times throughout the 170 days and even today.

3. Let some time pass

You will be surprised how many urges are temporary. Next time you feel some urges, tell yourself that you will resist just 30 minutes and see if after the 30 minutes you are still hor-ny. You will realize that a whole lot of urges can be dealt with that way.


4. Fasting

Fasting was quite helpful in my journey. A fast is good for the soul. And anything that is good for the soul take you away from soul destroyers like porn.


5. Get out

Next time you feel the urge, sprint out of the house and take a walk around the neighborhood.

My mother and China White would vibe together.

Haydens:
A woman’s greatest enemy is her fellow woman.

Women barely care or offer any form of assistance even to themselves.

When they’re in need, they run to the same men they “hate”,

Instead of running to the feminists who encourages their hate for men.

Women are the real misogynists but barely a few knows.

True. My own mother told me that "friendship is a scam."

My mother lived a quiet life without friends. She had some good female acquaintances she vibed with and had some respectful relationship with. But never "friends". In her adult life, my mother had at most one friend or two.

One of the reasons was because she was disgusted by the things other women were doing and did not want to partake into that. When she was in her twenties, it was a female neighbor who told her "stay there, continue to waste your time. You are young, you still have round beautiful shapes. Instead of using your bountiful assets before they expire, you just want to play the 'good girl' always staying at home. You will regret it" (tentative translation). This was basically an invitation into whorring. Ever since my mother "declined" the "invitation", she could feel some tension between her and that female neighbors. She was annoyed that she could not recruit a fellow whorre. But also, my mother was a mirror through which she could see her mistake. The neighbor wanted to bring another woman down to level. And failing at that made her bitter.

I remember a few years ago, I was watching a status of my old female classmates going on a girl trip. When my mother saw that she was the one that told me that these women are about to go whorre. That these trips are basically sex escapades. I remember at the time I was one defending my old classmates: "no, it doesn't have to be that. I think you're exaggerating mom". Then she said no, that's what it is about. She proceeded to tell me about the shenanigans related to that.

Now, as I write this, I remember something my mother told me that was quite shocking. BEFORE YOU TRY TO ARGUE, REMEMBER THAT THIS IS NOT MY POINT OF VIEW, BUT THAT OF A WOMAN. She said:

"Kipaji, when you see two women being close friends and always hagging out together, nine times out of ten, it is to whorre. They help each other out and protect each other's back in their hoeing."

Then I replied:

"let's be real mom, you are exaggerating. So women can't just be regular close friends?"

And she said something along the line of:

"What I am telling you is the reality. I see them out there. Kipaji, I don't what you want me to tell you. What unites these women is hoeing. That is the truth."

And she went on to expatiate her message.




A woman is just as good as her friends. If one of her friends is a whorre, she is. She may not be whorring as much as that friend, she may not use the same methods, but she is still a whorre.

Haydens:
NICE guys base their personality on COWARDICE.

These are not nice guys but coward guys.