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Be strong and move on. From the responses you see, you can see that in Nigeria, women are always blamed when a relationship goes wrong. I do not blame you cos I can relate to your situation. That's Nigerian men for you. Polygamy is openly accepted in Nigeria and so the ppl never blame the man when he cheats.


I feel your pain dearie. For your own good, leave 9ja men alone. You ar not emotionally trained to handle their dramas. Unfaithfulness is legal in 9ja. Please find your own ppl. Thanks

Scam. Scam. Scam. Pls run for your lifes

=))º°˚˚˚°ºнaĦaнaº°˚˚˚°º‎​=)) this is superstory. Don't be surprised that na her mama dey send am. Thank God say u get brain run.

Idowuogbo: u still lurveeeeeeeeeeee me rite?

4 live.

Idowuogbo: bless u! bless u nikky!

come, mama lemonade! seriously na so ur body dey do u? d dude is obviously taking tins slow and u hia making a fuss out of nada? if na fuckkk and go come now, u'll still open a thread spewing bullocks out of ur burnt anuz! jeeez!! *sighs* some hornnny azz gals mehn....

Ur comments fit raise a dead man. U will never change.

If he is in PH, PH babes have snatched him. Sharp babes.

Its possible that distance contributed a lot. I won't be surprised if there is another chick somewhere. Serzly. Its her choice. Marriage is marriage whether court, trad or white even black. All na legallly recognized.

Its a 50:50 thing. IMHO, since she never get belle make she leave am find a man loving enough to take her to the altar.

Insecurities do not help relatioships at all but some men too are matured enough to handle any sort of insecurity from a woman. This man no get time at all.

Poster pls don't listen to pll tellin u that if she is too Good that she is fake. There is no easy way to tell honestly. This question is meant for men who have marriaGe experience not for youths just theorizinG. Some men have left a woman cos she was too nice and felt it in d bid to seduce them only to reGret later in life.

Honestly Generalizations are not easy. There are also despearte 21yr olds. If u haven't seen, I have seen. My exes Gateman exposed that she came to him for help to kill me. So bros be careful. Meet reponsible married menand sample their opinions.

claremont: I would use a female age as a determining factor. If a single black woman (Nigerian or not) reaches the age of 28 years, she becomes either desperate for a man, or she becomes a feminist (lesbian/bisexual). Since being a feminist is not really popular in the African culture, we can safely conclude that single black African women who attain 28 years and above become desperate to 'settle'. This hypothesis is yet to be proven wrong.

Ask downcasted and his Gf. AGe is not a factor at all.

edelweiss: thanks sister! I kinda moved on, but not trying to get into a relationship, but making my self a much better person, financial independence,setting my priorities right, I have a mate, just a mate, dunno what else to call it, I have been so scared to even care for any man again, and am just here telling myself not until I fall in love again will I be obligated to any man again. So am just confused.

And u stillwant to go back to the same person that destroyed your self confidence? Hmmmm.... Listen to yourself lady. I don't think you have grwon strong enough. Plsssss o run as fast as you can. If you are having problems findinG someone then you are allowinG your old fears to stop u. One relationship counsellor adivises that one shd meet at least 40 men before you settle. She didn't say date them or have any sex. Just meet them, have conversations without any romantic inclination. This helps one build self confidence and removes desperation cos u r now used to havin men around u but u know in ur mind u don't want them for a date. By the time u loosen up and see that all men aren't monsters u will be better positioned to meetin a Good man.

Pls spend ur time doin other worthwhile thinGs than allowinG that joker into ur life.

DamosDamos: @kitty Kat are u saying a girl cannot be secured without Sex? U are getting it wrong.
@poster, ur man is jst one of d good guy out there dt have plans 4 u and neva want to bother yu abt sex. He doesn't want a sex driven relationship, I wants friendship n love to drive ur relationship. But his method might be in 2ways : he's self controlled (if he's not used to it b4) or like he said sex is not a problem (means he has girl he can fling wit and datz probably JFF thg.) think abt it.

Bro u are one of those that don't read well before understandinG. I told the lady I don't like his keeping her in suspense cos he doesn't want to define their relationship and if u had read a bit more, u would notice that I told her to run from pre-marital sex. I am one of those ppl that blvs that if a man is askin for sex then he is not ready to settle down. Even if I maybe wrong but I don't support pre-marital sex and don't paint me black Mr Man.

Pls u lot shd leave this lady outta of this. She has done what u wanted her to do and u r still crucifyin her. The naggin is becomin too much. Pls mods close this page. As much some of u claim to be righteous, God doesn't see u all as such.

U give us a bad name. Chnage from ur ways and pray the u can sustain the UK guy relationship.

This type of topic is not for the romance section. U have undergraduates, jambites and even secondary skul kids replying u. U shd hv posted in the family section.

1. The brother kept quiet cos he is ashamed of what he did. A married man trying to have a relationship.

2. U didn't sleep with him since u were a vrigin till marriage.

3. Its not easy for most men to handle this kind of stuff.

I would have said don't tell him but ur brother inlaw could use it against u one day. Now if u tell him, ur hubby will wonder what else u hid from him and he could doubt u forever.


Be very wise as you make your decision, weigh the Pros and cons.


If I were d one, I wld hv told him d day I found out they were related since no sex was involved. U can tell him that his bros one toasted u but nothing serious happened after u found out that he was merried, u decided not to pursue d relationship. He will ask u repeatedly if u had sex. Knowing some men, he cld ask u to be detailed abt the relationship.

Babe, this is not the best place for such advice.

minute: Is it right?

NO!!

This is clap trap and you know it.
If you are to be friends one day( and you will not btw)it will happen in the far future.

Get a life right now Ms wonderful!
let him go and move on.

Here's an idea. Why not get an education, develop some interests besides your ex, and become
a person a guy WANTS to be with??

Who told u she doesn't have the best of education already? She is a self earning professional who knows her onions.

Coogar what do you gain by the attack? Does it solve Annie's issue which I blv is more complicated than we r arguing here.

Annie, I sent u an email.

2sexy: it all boils down to ignorance and fact is they never liked you as saw that as a lever to ease the offload.

Anyway, the earlier the better.

The earlier d better joor.

Yes

They said they didn't ant to suffer hat my dad suffered. Back to sender I say to them. The last parents said they want to contaminate their lineage with cancer genes. MOFOs.

2 of my relationships failed cos I revealed that my mom had cancer. Then everyone includin some of my spiritual advisers told me that I shd have hidden it. Today I don't regret it cos I have someone who knows all abt me and doesn't feel its an ish. So u will meet a wonderful person soon.

coogar: life is all about winners and losers.
who lost when the man married the other woman? no one is asking that question but you want to know at whose expense if the mistake is erased?

just so you know, the last time you got your job, someone out there was heartbroken, sad and thought of suicide! when you laugh, someone else is crying for the same situation!

women who marry baby-fathers should think deep before making rash decisions cos moments like this can spring up!

Its a complicated world. The funny thing is that some of the women are even aware that the man still loves the baby momma and do their best to get a ring. Forgetting that these sort of complications will arise.

Anyway human beinGs will keep beinG selfish. To each his own. I don't have anythinG to advise aGain cos I have seen a lady fiGht with another lady over a baby daddy. Infact she prayed daily for the baby momma to die just to wear a ring. At the end of the day, she wore the ring but baby daddy decided he wanted his ex back.

Who we go blame now. Now Mrs is runnninG allover the place crying to who will help her chase away the Jezebel baby momma away forgettinG she stole d man at first.
Women!!!!

Erase the mistake at whose cost? I agree with JK. This is a mess. I don't know how the other oman would be feeling now.


What of the baby involved. Poor kid.

Ask the mods to close this thread unless u want inuslts from slow ppl.

I no say u no ggree but 9ja women r gettin liberated whether we like it or not.

Joing baskemouth and co will leave me bankrupt. I am not talented in that area. Na why I tell u say come offline. I will give u ppls fonenumbers to call and confirm.

In dis same 9ja, a woman trickishly got her hubby to buy all his properties in her name and dared him to divorce and loose all. 9ja women are wising up. Women done turn agbero o.

U r leaving in the past 9ja is changing. Women dey give men quit notice these days for house wey the man rent. Na only mumu women dey allow men abuse them these days. U think say we no dey watch Oyibo movies. Dey dia na

Another way d man can win is by making peace but If its by force and the woman and her family are ready for him. Just fogerrit.

Coogar the only way the dad can win if the mom is well informed and connected is by kidnapping the child. As long as the woman knows her onions and has cash, she will win. Who told u she can't lie, manipulate and cheat her way through it. Ask ppl that have beeen thru it. U r just theorizing.

Coogar, d dad applied to a Naija court not an american court. The man came back to Naija sa his sorry old dad and told him to go to hell.

D 9ja cases I can't tell all here but its similar too. D father was told to allow the grown child make her choice and she chose her mom due to d nature of ickedness the man showed them in d past. Do u expect d court to arrest the kids and force them home to the runaay repentant father?