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Family › Re: ... by kittykat1(f): 12:31am On Nov 23, 2012

I did rather not talk abt it here. But well to do men do loose custody wen they really bleep up. Lemme tell u one. It happened to close friend of mine. The aunt was Unmarried and was rejected by the man. The woman left and had a boy. She later got married to man in the states ho adopted the boy legally. 30somethin yrs later. Bio-dad comes calling cos he has only 2 gels. Anyways his rejected son is now a medical doctor in the US. He went to her family and they told her the son belongs to the husband. He ent to court and they told him his son is old enough to choose.

Hat do u think the son did? Ironically he is the only son of his foster dad. He kicked his dad in the face and told him to go to hell. The man met his son and the son clearly told him that his only allegiance is to his foster dad and mom he abandoned. Its not nolly wood. Its real life.

I have others that are more complicated but wouldn't want to talk abt them on NLD.

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Family › Re: My Ex Wants Me Back ! by kittykat1(f): 12:00am On Nov 23, 2012

Annie1: No , I wasn't .. I just haven't met the right person , I've dated, but most men r after one thing .. N they think I'm crazy when I say no sex before M , I get the r u kidding me ? With child ? Purlssss look n they waka Loool

Be strong and keep waitinG. The rite man will come. It sound cliche but its so very true.

Family › Re: ... by kittykat1(f): 11:56pm On Nov 22, 2012

Coogar u r just being a partriachal Naija man. You have never experienced this so just stop being theoretical. I told u to come offline and get real life gist.

Family › Re: ... by kittykat1(f): 11:45pm On Nov 22, 2012

coogar: anyman who marries her inherits my own blood? in nigeria?
somebody wake me i am dreaming ....... the same nigeria with green and white flag? dem never born the woman!!! hell - not in my lifetime!

Yes sir na so. In this same Naija for life. Meet ppl with real life experience. Come offline and I will gist u and show u examples.

Family › Re: ... by kittykat1(f): 11:38pm On Nov 22, 2012

coogar: ^^^
in the nigeria i know, the father of a child is the father of a child - wedding or no wedding.....that's what our custom and tradition believe - the judiciary system is so poor nothing reasonable would come out of it - it's the survival of the richest or who can bribe more. if i impregnate any woman now and disappear into the thin air in nigeria, that child is mine anytime i decide to find him/her.......that's the reality, people!

Not so true sir. I have had personal experience. Its all abt information. In my own place the unwed mothers family owns the child. When she marries, anyman who pays her bride price takes the child with him unless the man refuses.

The courts are very grey on this and like u said bribery is usually the ay forward.

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Family › Re: ... by kittykat1(f): 11:03pm On Nov 22, 2012

I have witnessed cases in Nigeria. Traditionally the child of an unwed mother belonGs to the woman. She has a right to choose the father. Secondly getting a record of the fact that she as asked to abort the child will kick the case outta the courts.

I alays advise, keep records, emails, text messaged, phone convos. You will surely get something the court will admit.

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Romance › Re: Guys (men) Please Can You Translate This? by kittykat1(f): 10:43pm On Nov 22, 2012

Babe, some peeps have started writing thrash he and u don't need to relpy them all.

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Romance › Re: Guys (men) Please Can You Translate This? by kittykat1(f): 5:36pm On Nov 22, 2012

Sweetlemon: lol! Thanks! We ve known each other for only 2 months sha. I don't think he's gay. We have mutual friends and they told me his sex life is still kinda active although it has reduced cos he's quite a busy man. Only that he doesn't have a gf and he said it's cos @ this stage of his life he no longer wants a gf cos he can get sex anytime he wishes but he's just wants to buy a bed

D pix is clearer now. You werent expressing it wella. U sef! U no be good stroy teller.

D guy doesn't want to have sex with you. He is considering you as a probable wife material. He hasn't said anything yet so dont assume that what I said is true. Just keep being nice and also leave ur options open.

Stay cool.

Romance › Re: Guys (men) Please Can You Translate This? by kittykat1(f): 5:26pm On Nov 22, 2012

Its too earyl to talk about marriage but ur emotions are already there. You need something to distract you so that you don't keep thinkingg about him too much.
He hasn't made up his mind like u ritely pointed out and mite nveer make up his mind. Its 50:50. Just guard her heart jealously

Pls run from the sex demanding guys.

Family › Re: My Ex Wants Me Back ! by kittykat1(f): 5:00pm On Nov 22, 2012

Annie1: Thank you , I will .

Its a painful process. I know what you are goinG thru but you must excise a cancer, else it kills you.

How do you cope as a single mom for 3yrs? Why haven't you found a new man?

I love u and I hope to read ur success story in futuer.

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Romance › Re: Guys (men) Please Can You Translate This? by kittykat1(f): 4:46pm On Nov 22, 2012

Sweetlemon: He just says I should wait till he buys a bed and that he. Wants us to build a solid friendship with trust first. That he will let me knwo when he's ready to buy the bed

It depends on you though, as for me I prefer men that are straightforward. I like his take on the sex thing but I don't like the fact that he is keeping you in suspense. Try and meet more nice guys like him so that you don't sit around and keep wondering. Its not always wise to keep aitinG for a man to make up his mind. Keep makinG ur own plans until he makes up his mind. If u r still single then u two can mingle but if u hv met another sweet Guy then its his loss.

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Romance › Re: Guys (men) Please Can You Translate This? by kittykat1(f): 4:22pm On Nov 22, 2012

I am 100percent on ur side babe. I am only trying to help not judge u one bit. Did this man tell you that both of you are in a relationship?

Did he ask you to marry him?

Family › Re: My Ex Wants Me Back ! by kittykat1(f): 4:17pm On Nov 22, 2012

Sweethrt, I feel ur pain. Forget this man. If he is really seperated from his wife and its over, he should get ur two families involved.

Push him outta ur mind and focus on finding ur own special man.

Romance › Re: Guys (men) Please Can You Translate This? by kittykat1(f): 4:01pm On Nov 22, 2012

Sweetlemon: He also said at this stage of his life, he didn't need a girlfriend anymore cos....

Romance › Re: Guys (men) Please Can You Translate This? by kittykat1(f): 3:35pm On Nov 22, 2012

When a guy says he doesn't need a ggf at a particular time in his life. He means it. Pls don't hurt urself aitin for him or tryin to convince him. The man means what he said.

If I were you, I wld start looking for someone else to spend my emotion on.

Romance › Re: Guys (men) Please Can You Translate This? by kittykat1(f): 2:56pm On Nov 22, 2012

Take him for his words. He doesn't want to have sex with you period! Are you now forcing him to?

If he wants a relationship with you then it means he wants to wait till marriage.

If he doesn't want a relationship then he is a morally upright man.

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Family › Re: Why Are You Still Faithful To Your Spouse ? by kittykat1(f): 1:19pm On Nov 22, 2012

POTUT: For me, I don't find any other woman sexually worthy anymore. An ex once tried to chat me up two weeks after my wedding and I turned get flat down, even though she was very good when it was going...perhaps the best, but a strong canceling anchor hooked me when I said "...I do".
Paper attraction and first looks will always be there...but a sixth sense should hold everyone back, because when you look back after the act, you'll truly feel worthless inside, even if you don't show it.
Couples who cheat on themselves simply take their marriage for granted.

Hugzzzz

Literature › Re: TAMISHO - My Story. My Life by kittykat1(f): 12:51pm On Nov 22, 2012

I love you.

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Romance › Re: Why Do I Find Older Ladies Attractive by kittykat1(f): 1:45am On Nov 22, 2012

I guess u r more matured than the young ones you meet. Maybe you probably grew up with ppl older than you. I have a male friend with the same issues. He schooled with ppl 4yrs his senior and as a result he can't stand younger ladies.

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Romance › Re: Hot Girls Dont Make Good Wives? by kittykat1(f): 1:42am On Nov 22, 2012

I will be very different. What do you really mean by hot?

Your own experienece might be diff from mine. I concur that wisemen always look out for character 1st and physical attribute is secondary. The emphaisis is on wisemen. There are follish men who prefer hotness and its only when they enter the soup that they realize their mistakes.

That is not to say that there are no hot ladies with good character. There are lots of them but they are few. On the other hand there also some ordinary looking women with wor wor character.

Just like some ladies will say that good looking guys don't make the best of spouses. Its not really true. The cover of a book doesn't always dictate the content. My Oga is hotter than what I ever dreamt of and he is one guy that I would want to be with again if there is a second life.

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