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Op reminds me of man who doesn't know how to express love. Gary something, relationship counsellore said that unless u speak ur partner's love language, ur exercise of love is in futility. Learn ur wife's love language. Its all in the mail she sent to you.

DailyNews: Lolz....still laughing at your claims ma. I won't say much again on this, let the men defend themselves on this but trust me, no industrialist have the time to cook, reason u see them hiring the best chefs to prepare meals for them so who are u trying to fool ma? The most expensive meal was served where? google it. who prepared it? more than 3 chefs flown from different countries, & who ate it? Super rich guys, they didn't cooked it. A rich busy rich guy can hardly have time to cook, ask anyone, I hope some maybe here if at all they will open up.


Cooking I insist is a natures gift to women, keep running away from what God blessed u with, lets see who will get tired.


and for the record: men can do anything to make money, & haven observed that today women are running away from their God-given gift, cooking, which now gives room for easier career development, hence u see more men venturing into cooking for a career, hence d reason u see more men dominating the cooking industry in most restaurants of today.


If u dnt know how to cook ma, pls better go n learn frm ur own good & do teach ur female children hw to cook good foods too for d sake of my unborn sons plz dnt want them marrying girls with cooking-phobia, cos it stinks!

For d record I am a great cook. My culinary skills r not d subject of debate but ur ignorance. How many rich industrialists do u know? How many realyy accomplished guys have u had d privileGe of being close? Some men have their hobbies as cooking. And I can mention some nairaland handles of men that cook better than women and r succesful but that wld expose my identity. My aim is to let u know that u r ignorant of a lot happening in d world. If in d environment u Grew in only females cook, u need to move around and Get more exposed. Men cook also in other environments.
Whether its Good for men to cook or not is not my point. My point is that stop spreadin lies that stupendously rich men don't cook. They do and don't see it as biG deal. Some do it for fun while some Grew up in situations where it was ok for a man to cook or there was no sister at home.


U don't have to concot lies to prpaGate ur male chauvinistic and primitive stone age ideas

DailyNews: If the quality u look out for in a man u desire to marry is ability to cook, then be ready to marry a pauper cos no industrious man have the time to be running around kitchen to please a woman he calls wife, when his mates are out there immersn wealth & power! change ur mindset pls, cooking is a natures gift to women, stop twisting nature for ur own good. dnt join d bandwagon, dnt listen to lazy girls screaming I CNT COOK thinking its classy, it isn't classy at all, it SMELLS!

GROSS SHOW OF IGNORANCE. The best chefs is d world are predominantly male. Women pls don't crucify me. In many classy restuarants I hv visited around d wolrd, its usually a man that is d proud chef. Also many of my male friends are wonderful cooks. Some even cook better than their wives or gfs. And guess what, they mega-rich. OwninG expensive estates in choices cities in 9ja. Estates that have minimum of 3-5 houses. Also a lot of my colleagues in a male-dominated industry are grt cooks.

I am not supportin or disputin her fact b ut DN, u hv to widen ur scope of experience b4 comin to NLD to postulate laws and theories that don't exist except in ur own world.

lefulefu: so dammy no even buy common blackberry for u on ur birthday?
ahhhh he no try at all ooo

He bot notin on my b-day o. Not evn chinko blackburry.

Anyway we hav settled. He sent me d key of bmw x7. It shd arrive nxt wk. He is now callin and textin. I think I shd forgiv him now.

[quote author=Mynd_44]Can someone take this to the front page please[/quote]must everythin be on front page

Since when did sex mean that a woman loves u?

190: OP Hold on make i quick rush one wrap of Egbo!!

Report for my ketchen sharp sharp

U Give men a bad name. Pls remove the clips. Even if she is not a virgin. Have u heard of repentant virGins? And the babe was evn molestd and u came here and put the tape. That's relly insensitive.
Plss leave her, let her find a more mature and caring man.

Majority of ladies that I know that married at age 18 to 23 were never in committed relationships and they were not havin sex. Infact most of them had at least 2 men, wooing them reGularly before they chose. Its usually the ones that stick one person that marry later. I am not sayinG that marryin late is wron but I am just makin somethings clear. The scenario, is not d u r my bf or my gf scenario. Its a case where the men visit you, better if its public place or ur family is there. You visit him too(if u like Go and open ur kpekus - I didn't send u). The man doing this is usually not less than 28yrs of age cos they are d ones matured enough not to think of only kpekus and bf/Gf. This is not the I love u so we have to hv sex relationship. Tthis is d relationship for ppl who want to get married. And of course he knows that he is not d only one askin her hand in marriage.

Bush 9ja ppl, dating is not sex and its not commitment. Pls meet every real and sincere relationship adiviser they will tell u same. Even in our generation IZUKWU, some ppl still marry without much dating and are successful. Even the less d shaggin the closer to the altar you will Get.

Ladies don't let men decieve you. Why is that most times a lady will be in a longterm relationship of abt 5yrs,get jilted only to be married after 2 or 3 months?

I still say it again, even though I am loosin my voice from shoutin, dating is not shagginG and it doesn't mean shit. Unless the man and woman inquestion are both immature kids. @ poster. And kids sis laffin, I presume u are both younG ppl still in d unibversity. U r d last ppl to Give advice.

laberry101: Daim., woman did she sAy the guy was poor? Or are you concluding that on your own ?

If yes! How can he now do those things that she actually acknowledge in her poster!
Women ! How do you guys see this thing called marriage?

Na say time no dey female side, find one man hook or na say you love am and you are too damn sure you would be happy spending the rest of your God given life with him?

Don't know about you though but I think we are all entitled to our very own opinions ... So .... Whatever it is , stay positive And be happy!

I will still refer to waec aGain. Since when did calling someone "poor guy" only refer to his financial status. I guess I am proven rite now that u all are biased. U only see what u blv and therefore even if the truth were spoken u will twist it to suit ur bias. In ur mind u blv I want d babe to cheat, rush into marriage and do all sorts. Meanwhile I am advising her to live her dreams, which is marryin when she wants to. Pls stop being a kill-joy.
By d way, "poor guy" meant I am sympatizing with d bf. Nansense

@dBard; I am with u on bad choices but I don't agree with u on dumping d weddinG guy.
FlinG d love spectacles#i totally say yes to that#
Do not meet other #i say NO#
Note don't have sex but meet them. The lovely thinG about meetinG men just for the sake of knowinG them and beinG friends is this, it remove the feelinG of urGency. It helps a woman not to mount pressure on her man.

OFF topic: most times women in exclusive relationships, keep themselves like nuns and mentally reject admiration from other men. Babes pls enjoy am wella, the thing increases the price of garri in d mrkt.

I don't think u hv a case here unless he has used d same pattern and cheated on u. My ex used the same pattern.
He wld tell me abt a lady he met in church who is aprayer warrior and wants us to go to fellowship toGether. Or abt a gal who needs my IT skills to repair her lappy. Or someone he gave a lift. Or a classmate that needs career counselling. Or his ex that need money or educational counsellinG. Then he will say the all like him but he doesn't send them. At the end of d day, he was knackinG all of them.
I didn't tell u dis to make u insecure o, its just for some ppl sayin the man is transparent. It cld just be a smarter way of coverinG up.

With hindsight, I would say just blv him until he gives u a reason not to.

carefreewannabe: becoming a doctor is easier than ending up with a good husband and I mean it seriously.

not only learn to distinguish good men from bed men but value and respect yourself so much that you by no chance find it necessary to mess with "bad boys".

however, if age is the factor that makes you rush into a marriage, you may end up unhappy. very unhappy.

To each their choice. If she wants to marry early cool, if she wants to wait, still cool. I won't stop anyone from achieving their set goals. Some ppl rush in and are not happy while some wait and still are not happy. The main issue is shine ur eyes. If u close ur eyez and enter, u r on ur own. Whether u r rushinG or movinG slowly shine ur eyes.

I blv that to be a doc takes minimum 6yrs. It doesn't take that long and same amt of sleepless nites to selct a good spouse if u know ur onions.

carefreewannabe: you will stay in a cage when you give in to the idea that a woman must marry before the age of 30 because guys say so (according to you)

and she is not desperate because she wishes to marry but she is desperate because she tries to put pressure on the guy because she wants to marry before she reaches a certain age. and that is not a good thing.

Since she has seen a ready man or men, why force her to remain with the poor guy and kip mountin more pressure on him.

For everything u want in life, u must have ur goals clearly defined. Its only when u don't have goals that u sit around and hope that somethinG happens. If u want to be a doctor by the time u r 25 what do u do? U go to skul, study, take ur exams and pass them. U don't loaf around, neither do u get busy with developing urself as a nurse or teacher and hope to be doc by magic.

If u want to get married, do the same thin. Read, meet men(abi na woman u wan marry), learn to discern good men from bad men, learn to be a good friend, wife and mother. In addition to this also work on ur career that's if u wanna be a career oriented woman.

U don't just develop urself and when men come u ignore them cos waitin for someone who isn't ready. Or u r hopin that d man will come to bedroom or study and meet u. Puhlease OP, I hope u hv got my drift.

Any woman who is married and is still after her ex needs to see a shrink and a marriaGe counsellor.

freecocoa: Wait, if he doesn't want to marry her, what is she still doing with him since she desperately wants to ge married?

[quote author=uj_sizzle]Did you even read the topic freecocoa? He keeps setting dates and keeps postponing.[/quote]He may not want to marry her. Also he may be like 190 who has 7 babes on his list and she is no. 3

Does she kip waitin since she wants to move forward.

fluid26: Son? From *sir to *son? Half-baked?

Typical.

You said you believe the lady is not the easily-itched type, but her previous post debunked your claim. She does have sexx with whomever she's currently dating. How far are you willing to go with this inconsistency. Again, I'll let it slide.

Twice you've avoided the last questions I asked. I'll take it that you've reached the end of your tether and cannot proceed any further.

Because u kip missingg d point. She erroneously thot I wanted her to shaG dem. And I set her straight, in a subsequent post. Also fallinG in love is not d issue in choosing a spouse. U use ur head not ur emotions. Thatt u want to marry someone doesn't mean u shd be crazily in love. Real love Grows and usually is found in d middle not beGinninG.

D thing is d more we try to be forward, the backward we are. No one is tellin her how to make her bF marry her. That's not the point.

I now understand the reason for massive failure in waec, when ppl cannot understand stated point buts always interprete it to their own bias.

Dating is not sex. It means meeting someone more often and learninG the person.

And then let evry party know that d Game is not exclusive. There are other ppl that are Comingg too.
U shd be only exclusive when u r officially engaged. This is courtship. At this time, ur families will be aware and the youngg man must have made signifixcant steps towards marrying u.

Tell me how many ppl wey Gget exclusive shagmate cu-m bF married them. If ppl will be honest , most ladies don't end up marryinG their longtime bobos in 9ja. Cos wen marriaGe reach, the bobo will chanGe criteria.

laberry101: Can you imagine!!!!

Oh yelz , very good clap for you self, she should really ask him for marriage and all that.

If he refused., show him d door! If he accepts and takes her for a wife, and then probably ends up being a wife panel beater? Or turns her to his personal punching bag... What happens then?

Chei I fear something oh, I swear!!!

This is wat waec examiners call OP : off point.

laberry101: I remember telling you on one of our threads involving matters of the heart, that love doesn't exist anywhere around the boarders of the country's surrounding Nigeria, leg alone Nigeria herself!

How can somebody say all that stuff about her long relationship , her man doing things good or bad and still is confused between that same her man and some dude she just met and barely knows from a wedding she attended!

Would u now agree that ( some) Nigerian females are so desperate and eff'd up on this Love issue?

I most DIVINELY Hate this... With so much passion, NO offense young lady, you did well to seek this advice but the only thing I can tell you is do not be desperate for any reason, that new dude is good and obviously has a way with words and that's why you are confused, BUT...

Go to your God, he alone has the answer.

In 9ja love doesn't exist until he is bold enuff to marry you. Chopping punany without commitment of marriage is not love. If its love, why would the parents refusal make d man leave d babe sharp sharp. Or finding out she has a ddreaded disease in her family or that she is of a diff religion. Blv me love, marriaGe and romance in 9ja is played in a very confusinG manner. They want to d bf/gf like oyibo but when I reach time to marry dem go remember culture. But dey forGot that culture said don't shag her before marriaGe.

fluid26: Now, that's some massive contradiction. However, I'll let it pass as it's not my focal point.

What happens if/when the guys discover her ploy?

Read my post again. Ayam happy that u see that I do not support free access to jerusalem.

I also do not support backyard runs. U must tell them from d beginnin. Bros eh! See o, u r not d only seeking d key to jerusalem. D title deed goes to d person who pays bride price first.


U will aslo find a post where I told her to super glue jerusalem. Read well son before u comment half-baked.

fluid26: We're adults. We know it's almost always inevitable to share your body with someone you're attracted to...let alone someone you see a future with.

What happens if she gets caught? If the *pawns discover her strategy of double-dating?

Some women are disciplined sir. Not everyone has a scratch in btw her legs when she is attracted to a man. I blv Op is not among those that get itchy easily. A woman must allow herslef to be wooed by many men, if she decides to become public spe-rm bank in d process.n that's her biz.

fluid26: If her *brain couldn't help her ascertain her man's level of seriousness, will this new level of double-dealing help in any way? Will her brain function better as a result of sharing her body, time and resources with two different men?

She is confused because d man no 1 is takin her for a ride. If he were serious, she won't be confused. And again re-read all posts. No one here is propsing that she shares d sanctity of her body. We advisin her as any good mother and friend would. Give other ppl a chance, since onboard bobo isn't sure yet.

And the irresponsible men that impregnated them.

dBard: please jump in, marry. We are always here t advise if tins go awry..smh at ppls desperation..

We told her compare and contrast. Moreover she didn't say she was jumpin in. Free her joor.


By the way who said that marriage of 2weeks courtship is less successful than that of 5yrs courtship. I keep saying my mama and papa met only twice and in public places before legalzing there uniOn. Yet dy didn't divorce or cheat on themselves. There is really no hard and fast rule in dis things. Its about d ppl involved.

fluid26: How long should the *comparing and contrasting last? When exactly should she decide to dismiss a candidate? At the point of wedding the other?

Her brain will tell her. When a man is serious, d babe will never be confused.

k2039: [color=#FF0099] [size=13pt]@kitty kat now I know why dammytex wont take you back
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Lmao... OMG... Laff don kill me hia...what makes u think we hv not settled in d bedroom since? I smell envy.

Casie J: [color=#006600][/color]


ℓ̊ tried that I̶̲̥̅̊n̶̲̥̅̊ my previuos relationship but it did not worked out so ℓ̊ hated double dating ℓ̊ can't d̶̲̥̅̊☺ that, ℓ̊ feel irritated dating two guys, becos ℓ̊ don't have two heart †̥☺ love, ℓ̊ only have one even if ℓ̊'ll keep the other as a normall friend he would like †̥☺ demand for sex which ℓ̊ can't, ℓ̊ like doing things with one person so as †̥☺ know where my problem come when it happens.

One mistake 9ja babes makes is equating dating and knacking. Dating a man doesn't mean that you shd shag him. Hold ur ears very well. Be friends and know them, use super glue and close ur jerusalem. Carry bullet proof cover ur boobs. Learn them. If that one wants sex, he shd pay ur bride price.

Casie J! Casie J! Casie J!

How many times did I call u? U r not desperate! Na when u join the long queue of women GoinG to meet babalawo and burnin incense and candle by the river u go blame urself for listenin to d ppl callin u desperate.

If u see a good man and u r ready marry. Love is found in d middle and not at the beGinning of a relationship. What u have at d beginning of every relationship is attraction, lust and infatuation. Love comes with knowing the person and willing to commit. The one wey dey disturb is ready to settle. But also check am welll to be sure he is real and not efulefu.

k2039: [color=#FF0099] [size=13pt]What happens to the guy he is in relationship with,since it doesnt mean being in relationship with them
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It depends on how u define relationship. Many guys of these days put babes on a loooongG thinG all in d name of relationship. They derive joy in have 3-6 chicks committed to them and bangin them with fake and vague promise of a non-existent future. Its left for a smart lady to be able to detetc if the man is really exclusive and serious. If he is blv me the babe won't be confused. Most men will not be serious with a lady but only start cryin after a serious man has married her.

Infact this generation of men and women sef done confuse and scatter the whole idea of commitment and integrity.

Especially in our own environmnt, I can't say for other nations. I hv been with lots of guys who tell me that they hv not made up their mind abt their babes. Meanwhile d poor chic is claiming she has a fiance. Most of these guys are responsible and maynot even be cheating.

One situation was so bad that they had dated for 4yrs and d lady had done 2 abortions and lost her fallopian tube in the process. Granted d bobo dey shower her with cash but this mumu told me in confidence that he doesn't love her and doesn't think he will marry her. And dis babe was carzily in love with him. And she is above 26. I wept that day for women. Moral of the story. Bebes shine ur eyes.