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Come i don't get it, where exactly are u from? as in which of the three tribes?

ok my bad. i shouldn't be calling him names. but i keep saying it, as long as he remains president, and except a miracle happens, nigeria will remain as it is. degenerating.

atimes i think the boko haram thingy is to blame for this present arguement about splitting the country. one wonders if obasanjo's 3rd term agenda wasn't a bad idea in the first place. even though the man has his own issues, i'm pretty sure things would not have been this bad if he remained.

Becomrich:
nigeria would break up. you see, the north would discover they are minority and , do you think the not would want to be your slave.

look at this map, this is the state that would vote yes. to yorubas, edo, delta and bayelsa state to join republic of benin while the north bcome majority. The north have to think of themself first before they think of Yar adua govt. What do the north want. They have two option.

1 The north want to be a majority by removing the yorubas, edo, delta and bayelsa state into benin republic,
2. The north want yar adua to win while they remain minority forever. It like yar adua making the next generation of northerner slave to southerner, if he refused to remove the yorubas, edo, delta and bayelsa state into benin republic.

If they pick option 2, it shows the not are what nigerian call mumu.

u shld know that most northern nigerians are not educated, and as long as mr pot-smoker remains the president, they will continue trying to intimidate the rest of the country with their so-called crisis. dem be mumu.

by the way, what are the red dots?

i feel once they can tame those black mallams from the north, everything will die down.

THE AMAKA:
yeah im aware of that.
the niger delta militants have nothing to do with religion.
i dont fear them, i would rather be around them than some other lunatics up north where their "HATE" involves religion.
but im aware that you rarely hear about religion causing problems down in the south.

The north is all about their own selfish interests, all being covered up with religion. later they'll say all muslims are terrorists.

If not for the fact that their leader is a pot-smoking mumu, how do u think they will survive? if they split up, what will they rely on? tomatoes?

THE AMAKA:
thats EXACTLY what im scared of! i dont want anyone trying to kill me because im a christian. and i dont want to cover my whole body and PRETEND to be something im not.
i wish people could freely just walk around Nigeria as they please, whether you are a christian or muslim.
you shouldnt have to fear your life. ive always wanted to go to northern nigeria.
now i feel that is out of the question because my life might be on the line.
a bomb or a machete either one!      

Amaka, if we actually look at it, its the northern parts of nigeria that are really yelling about religion, that's where most of the so-called religious crises take place. I believe the niger-delta pple are just fighting for their rights, and once that is settled, things will go quiet down there. besides that, when did u last hear about a crisis in the south-west or south-east? it shows the incompetence of a leader who cannot even control his own pple.

Onlytruth:
Amaka calm down, bomb no go blow for ya head!

That is if your votes will count! PDP will destroy Nigeria faster than any bomb! You are stuck with this Yara-guy whether you like it or not till at least 2015. If you protest you will be "shot at sight". Naija sef!

If PDP shld win, everyone will know that the election was rigged.

One wonders in 2007 that obasanjo's government was bad, that we don't want him anymore. but it seems this present pot-smoker is making things worse. it wouldn't be nice to have a split nigeria. certainly this guy is not going to win in 2011, cos nigerians no go gree anymore. it's going to be serious come 2011.

a nice and round set of 34ds.

Insecurity.

If we actually think of it, if nigeria shld break up, which tribe do u think will suffer the most? which will bear the brunt most? it is obvious that everyone wants the hausa pple to split from the country, going by all the crises being carried out in the north, but if they finally split up, dnt u guys think the igbo pple will also want to re-enact biafra too? i just pray that if indeed that time comes, the country shld split-up with no bloodshed.

platinumnk:
^^ once they come, few wanna leave

Me i wan leave, cos there is something i started up back home and want to use the experience i'll gain from my masters to develop. At least if job no dey, one shld create jobs for oneself and for other pple too.

iz2much:
igba wo loti mapada wale remenber 4 nija u get iyawo

Like i said earlier, i'm planning on going home in summer next year. immediately after my finals.

Funny enough, she called me in the middle of the night, apologising for everything. she called me again wen i was having my jog this morning too.

johnnygan:
@ idstar
dear where do we start 4rm?
U love this dude, fed his broke-a*s and almost put a roof over his head - or so u said.
He's been unfair to dudes chattin u up for security reasons. But u let them chat u up for private reasons.
But lik the proverbial lost coin, he rolls back to scenery.
That guy must be alladin.
So why don't u put that proverbial coin into a small chest and lock it up - throw the key into the ocean afterwards.
If i was God, i'd multiply his beauty by 10. I'm also gonna give him riches and multiply it by 10. I'll give him much fame and multiply it by 10. Lastly i'd give him 10 trustworthy concubines and multiply they beauty by 10 times of yours.
I'd make is love fo u 10 times sour. Yo beauty would remain the same but would depreciate to his eyes in the multiple of 10.
I'd get u both married but u must provide the cash.
And oh, when its sex time for u both, he'll induce sadist method by slammin yo butt continuously or other violent methods.
I'd make you love him in pains till u finally realize what love is.
The force i'd invoke Btw u 2 would be so strong that u'd pray for divorce but u won't get it.
When u finally remorseful, i'd make him stop and wipe his memory off wat he ever done to u. So u both can live happily ever after.

Tell me something hun, wat job u do?
U an hooker, LovePeddler, slut, workin girl, aristo or as dem sabi am - prostitute?
Hope u realize wat impression u are giving us here thou

Come man yi, are u the guy in question? dis one wey u take vex attack the poor girl.

davidylan:
Na dem send you go obodo oyinbo? Abeg its not compulsory to buy anything for anyone except your woman, if they dont understand then too bad.

Anyway you need to reassure your woman you're not going to up and run away with the next whitey or American with passport that you see. she's not immature, simply being protective of her turf. I would be secretly proud i have her if i were in your shoes. Best of luck with her and your plans.

Im not saying am not proud of her. infact, she's the best thing that has happened to me after my family and white amala with abula and goat meat.

davidylan:
Winter classes shld be over at most by the 22nd. Unless you're working you should have 2 weeks off till January, enough time to rush down and come back. But you're probably thinking of the cost no?

Besides naija is not somewhere u just "rush" too, knowing that pple are there waiting and wanting their shares of "what did u bring from obodo oyinbo". dis one wey i no get money.

davidylan:
Winter classes shld be over at most by the 22nd. Unless you're working you should have 2 weeks off till January, enough time to rush down and come back. But you're probably thinking of the cost no?

I'm not thinking of the cost. infact it will be much cheaper because i would just use the return ticket. but i'm still insisting i can't make naija. its too soon for me to go home.


[quote author=oyinda. link=topic=310654.msg4363701#msg4363701 date=1250468315]klassyguy seriously though, i will say that u are exaggerating her position on this matter. u seem to be doing everything right so i don't know why she is being so inconsiderate really. lol does she want to you to get married as soon as you finish school without a job? I mean if she agrees to sponsor it all and rent the home before you find your job then i guess you can consider that. lol otherwise she needs to take a chill pill as well.
face ur studies bro and don't worry too much about it. I mean, you're enduring your distance, she should be able to do the same as well.
don't mean to be harsh on ur girl but she's stressing u unnecessarily i feel. you two should schedule a really serious conversation and talk all these things through. it doesn't matter if you rain abuses on each other in the process, bring out tissues for your tears or whatnot, just make sure that by the end of that convo, u have reached a feasible agreement on the matter. lol
i wish u luck anyways[/quote]I culd be exagerrating her position, but wat i could infer from all our discissions on the issue is that she doesn't want it to be long after i arrive that we get married, which i told her is impossible. besides i gave her a 6-month window as we have to plan well in advance. and i plan to do that b4 i leave. i mean start planning.she's just being naughty thats all.

davidylan:
That's probably because you did not alert your program you would be interested in a GA to help offset part of the bills. In my experience i already had a GA lined up with pay even before i left Naija and so did a couple of folks i know.

Doesnt seem like she going with you was part of the original plan.

I guess you'd just have to go to naija this dec, summer is so far away.

I can't make naija dis december as i have winter classes. Besides the skool i am, they don't really have positions for International students in GA positions, and with the term i came in, the only time there would be vacancies would be in fall.

posakosa:

It is obvious and apparent that both YOU and HER are young. Stop wahalaing yourself jo! Only God and Time knows what the future holds!


Finish School and get Focused.

i no young oh!!! i'm >25 but <29. my dad got married at my age.

davidylan:
The chic isnt immature, she's simply aware of what can go wrong when 2 people who love each other live apart from each other for so long. She's used to having the dude practically as a husband even though they arent married. she's probably finding it hard to cope without seeing him around.

If i were you i'd have done the introduction and gone for masters with her.

But how wuld we have sustained ourselves, knowing very well i don't have a job yet? i'm doing the masters as a full-time student. and i haven't been able to get a GA yet.

[quote author=oyinda. link=topic=310654.msg4363606#msg4363606 date=1250467150]awwwwwww
but for real. distance ruins plenty of relationships. i don't think i need to be telling u dis. lol so i'll just tell u to stay strong. since I don't know her or know her side of the story i can only say that she's being inconsiderate or a little selfish in this situation but i'm sure she doesn't mean to be.

I have a friend as well sort of in her situation except she's the one abroad. they fight a lot but their relationship is really tight ie she says he doesn't contact her enough etc even though they talk almost everyday lol but she so much loves him and cries sometimes that i feel really bad since she's my really good friend. i totally understand the pain so yea that's long distance relationship for u.

I really don't know what other advice to give you. maybe u can call her family once in a while to say hi like once a month or twice or so or get closer to them. so maybe she will start to understand that ur serious about being a family with her.[/quote]Baby, i do that too. i talk to her sisters, her brother, i even call her mom every now and then and she too calls me once in a while.

ThiefOfHearts:
Very soon she'll hear "I just need to get my papers from this woman, dont worry"

then after 3 kids with the "green paper woman"

"dont worry I will soon divorce her"


If you truly cared, you'd fine a way for her to also do her Masters in the states or UK, whichever

And u think i hadn't thot of that as well? b4 i even left naija, i had told her that i wuld have loved it if we could come here together. but wen she brought up the issue of her not leaving the country with a man whom she is not married to, we decided that i just go and finish up.

FL Gators:
sHE'S 23, SHE'S ALSO A STUDENT.

sO tHE MAN QUESTION IS, WHY IS SHE PERSISTENT ON MARRIAGE?

Guy she's not a student. she's working right now.

[quote author=oyinda. link=topic=310654.msg4363508#msg4363508 date=1250466122]oh that's reasonable enough @klassguy.

then she's probably missing u or being reallllly scared of losing u.
phone convos isn't the same as being there. time goes by really fast anyways. by this time 2 yrs from now u two will probably be married n laughing this off. lol don't stress it too much[/quote]I know she's missing me badly. This is a girl that was weeping like a baby the day b4 i left, wen i gave her the ring. My younger bro even told her that it was good she didn't follow me to the airport. I told her then that no matter what, God sparing our lives, once i finish, i'm coming back for her. I send her mails every now and then, cards, texts, etc.

i even decided that maybe during my graduation, she can come. but i'll still go home b4 then.

[quote author=oyinda. link=topic=310654.msg4363464#msg4363464 date=1250465637]also, maybe u should go home this christmas instead of next summer since you're going home next year anyways. plan ur trips with even intervals. don't just disappear for 2 yrs and then visit twice in the next year. once each year is more even (i'm assuming you're graduating late next yr). unless your plans are set that is or you have a reason why u planned ur trip that way.[/quote]Naturally, i was supposed to have gone home this xmas, but my classes don't end till mid-december, and even if i go home then, i'll not be able to spend much time with her. besides i just got here in april. that's why i decided to shift my visit till next summer wen i'll know i'll have time for her.

posakosa:
Can she come abroad too?! Maybe that her way of saying she wants to be with you!

i told her that she can't come right now as i don't have a job yet. besides it's just for sometime.

Maybe i've just spoilt her silly. back home, any problem she has, so long as am available, i help her out. any small thing, she'll call, nd i'll have to pet her. anytime she's in town, and i close from work, i usually go pick her up, take her home, and drive back. and our houses are at two opposite ends of town.

[quote author=oyinda. link=topic=310654.msg4363436#msg4363436 date=1250465346]I totally understand u. u wouldn't create this topic n loking for advice if u didn't care abt her am sure.
she said she was ok with it.? so did she fully support it or partially? because i'm sure she knew the plan was for you to graduate in 2010, and i think it's unreasonable of her to demand a wedding the same year. unless she was just nagging you about the changed plan. i mean she doesn't expect u to quit ur program. lol
maybe she's just really missing u. send her letters and such lol and keep calling i guess to make it seem you're closer to her rather than half the globe away.[/quote]I call her almost everyday here. if nothing, i talk to her about 25 mins each time.

posakosa:
Well, she's afraid of losing you. You have to understand her perspective.

Be patient with her. Does she work ? Maybe you can do something to keep her busy, she can start pastoral school. LOL!

Yes she does, but she wants to leave her present job for another.

posakosa:
Nope, I just want the guy to see that it might not be totally her fault. She might be getting pressured.

Communication is key and he needs to reassure her, BUT SHE'S YOUNG TOO! SHOULDN'T SHE BUSY WITH SCHOOL AS WELL.

I'm sure it is not pressure. all her folks know me and support me. she just likes hearing me say the same thing over and over again.

about skool, she finished skool. we met in NYSC camp. i initially thot she shld start her masters right away, but she said due to all these strikes here and there, and not knowing whether i'll decide to remain here for sometime after skool or come back home(still trying to decide myself, but that is till next year), she wants to wait till i finish.

posakosa:
Certainly, Im sure that she's nervous u'll leave her once you obtain your degree,

I was also gonna ask, are her other mates getting married too ? It could that social pressure.

funny enough, she's the youngest out of all her friends, and none of them are getting married right now. infact, even her older sister is not yet married.

[quote author=oyinda. link=topic=310654.msg4363364#msg4363364 date=1250464452]she seems pretty young to be worrying about clock ticking. so the only other reason i was thinking is prolly because you're abroad, she's getting pressure from friends and family. u kno, men abroad are known to ditch their naija girl for babe abroad. maybe that's what's worrying her.
u just need to keep reassuring her i guess.

did she support your going abroad?[/quote]What other reassurance shld i give her? i've been hammering it into her head since that she's the one i've decided to take as my future wife. I'm the kind of guy who wasn't the really outgoing type. not that i was boring. i had my fair share of female friends back in skool, but i never dated any of them. even my last GF, i never loved as i tried so much to love her but couldn't wen i met this present babe, i saw all i wanted, all i had outlined for myself in her. besides i'd told her from the first day that i'll be going for my masters at some point. she said she was okay with that, as long as i don't leave her for another girl. we've been dating since 2007.

TOYOSI20:
@ OP

So far u are doing all u can from what u have stated, i feel like she should be able to see reason, . . . .

the bottom line is for both of u to sit and then come to a mutual conclusion on when exactly u are ready to tie the knot,  . . .

best of luck mahn!!

Unfortunately i can't do that cos im in US and she is in Nigeria. . . . .besides we keep on talking abt it and i've told her that once i finish skool nd get a good job, we'll settle down as soon as we can. that's why i said the first half of 2011.

posakosa:
the fact they her parents have given you blessings doesn't mean that do are not pressuring their daughter, How old is she ?

She is 23.