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Becomrich:
nigeria would break up. you see, the north would discover they are minority and , do you think the not would want to be your slave.

look at this map, this is the state that would vote yes. to yorubas, edo, delta and bayelsa state to join republic of benin while the north bcome majority. The north have to think of themself first before they think of Yar adua govt. What do the north want. They have two option.

1 The north want to be a majority by removing the yorubas, edo, delta and bayelsa state into benin republic,
2. The north want yar adua to win while they remain minority forever. It like yar adua making the next generation of northerner slave to southerner, if he refused to remove the yorubas, edo, delta and bayelsa state into benin republic.

If they pick option 2, it shows the not are what nigerian call mumu.

THE AMAKA:
yeah im aware of that.
the niger delta militants have nothing to do with religion.
i dont fear them, i would rather be around them than some other lunatics up north where their "HATE" involves religion.
but im aware that you rarely hear about religion causing problems down in the south.

THE AMAKA:
thats EXACTLY what im scared of! i dont want anyone trying to kill me because im a christian. and i dont want to cover my whole body and PRETEND to be something im not.
i wish people could freely just walk around Nigeria as they please, whether you are a christian or muslim.
you shouldnt have to fear your life. ive always wanted to go to northern nigeria.
now i feel that is out of the question because my life might be on the line.
a bomb or a machete either one!      

Onlytruth:
Amaka calm down, bomb no go blow for ya head!

That is if your votes will count! PDP will destroy Nigeria faster than any bomb! You are stuck with this Yara-guy whether you like it or not till at least 2015. If you protest you will be "shot at sight". Naija sef!

platinumnk:
^^ once they come, few wanna leave

iz2much:
igba wo loti mapada wale remenber 4 nija u get iyawo

johnnygan:
@ idstar
dear where do we start 4rm?
U love this dude, fed his broke-a*s and almost put a roof over his head - or so u said.
He's been unfair to dudes chattin u up for security reasons. But u let them chat u up for private reasons.
But lik the proverbial lost coin, he rolls back to scenery.
That guy must be alladin.
So why don't u put that proverbial coin into a small chest and lock it up - throw the key into the ocean afterwards.
If i was God, i'd multiply his beauty by 10. I'm also gonna give him riches and multiply it by 10. I'll give him much fame and multiply it by 10. Lastly i'd give him 10 trustworthy concubines and multiply they beauty by 10 times of yours.
I'd make is love fo u 10 times sour. Yo beauty would remain the same but would depreciate to his eyes in the multiple of 10.
I'd get u both married but u must provide the cash.
And oh, when its sex time for u both, he'll induce sadist method by slammin yo butt continuously or other violent methods.
I'd make you love him in pains till u finally realize what love is.
The force i'd invoke Btw u 2 would be so strong that u'd pray for divorce but u won't get it.
When u finally remorseful, i'd make him stop and wipe his memory off wat he ever done to u. So u both can live happily ever after.

Tell me something hun, wat job u do?
U an hooker, LovePeddler, slut, workin girl, aristo or as dem sabi am - prostitute?
Hope u realize wat impression u are giving us here thou

davidylan:
Na dem send you go obodo oyinbo? Abeg its not compulsory to buy anything for anyone except your woman, if they dont understand then too bad.

Anyway you need to reassure your woman you're not going to up and run away with the next whitey or American with passport that you see. she's not immature, simply being protective of her turf. I would be secretly proud i have her if i were in your shoes. Best of luck with her and your plans.

davidylan:
Winter classes shld be over at most by the 22nd. Unless you're working you should have 2 weeks off till January, enough time to rush down and come back. But you're probably thinking of the cost no?

davidylan:
Winter classes shld be over at most by the 22nd. Unless you're working you should have 2 weeks off till January, enough time to rush down and come back. But you're probably thinking of the cost no?

oyinda.:
klassyguy seriously though, i will say that u are exaggerating her position on this matter. u seem to be doing everything right so i don't know why she is being so inconsiderate really. lol does she want to you to get married as soon as you finish school without a job? I mean if she agrees to sponsor it all and rent the home before you find your job then i guess you can consider that. lol otherwise she needs to take a chill pill as well.
face ur studies bro and don't worry too much about it. I mean, you're enduring your distance, she should be able to do the same as well.
don't mean to be harsh on ur girl but she's stressing u unnecessarily i feel. you two should schedule a really serious conversation and talk all these things through. it doesn't matter if you rain abuses on each other in the process, bring out tissues for your tears or whatnot, just make sure that by the end of that convo, u have reached a feasible agreement on the matter. lol
i wish u luck anyways

davidylan:
That's probably because you did not alert your program you would be interested in a GA to help offset part of the bills. In my experience i already had a GA lined up with pay even before i left Naija and so did a couple of folks i know.

Doesnt seem like she going with you was part of the original plan.

I guess you'd just have to go to naija this dec, summer is so far away.

posakosa:

It is obvious and apparent that both YOU and HER are young. Stop wahalaing yourself jo! Only God and Time knows what the future holds!


Finish School and get Focused.

davidylan:
The chic isnt immature, she's simply aware of what can go wrong when 2 people who love each other live apart from each other for so long. She's used to having the dude practically as a husband even though they arent married. she's probably finding it hard to cope without seeing him around.

If i were you i'd have done the introduction and gone for masters with her.

oyinda.:
awwwwwww
but for real. distance ruins plenty of relationships. i don't think i need to be telling u dis. lol so i'll just tell u to stay strong. since I don't know her or know her side of the story i can only say that she's being inconsiderate or a little selfish in this situation but i'm sure she doesn't mean to be.

I have a friend as well sort of in her situation except she's the one abroad. they fight a lot but their relationship is really tight ie she says he doesn't contact her enough etc even though they talk almost everyday lol but she so much loves him and cries sometimes that i feel really bad since she's my really good friend. i totally understand the pain so yea that's long distance relationship for u.

I really don't know what other advice to give you. maybe u can call her family once in a while to say hi like once a month or twice or so or get closer to them. so maybe she will start to understand that ur serious about being a family with her.

ThiefOfHearts:
Very soon she'll hear "I just need to get my papers from this woman, dont worry"

then after 3 kids with the "green paper woman"

"dont worry I will soon divorce her"


If you truly cared, you'd fine a way for her to also do her Masters in the states or UK, whichever

FL Gators:
sHE'S 23, SHE'S ALSO A STUDENT.

sO tHE MAN QUESTION IS, WHY IS SHE PERSISTENT ON MARRIAGE?

oyinda.:
oh that's reasonable enough @klassguy.

then she's probably missing u or being reallllly scared of losing u.
phone convos isn't the same as being there. time goes by really fast anyways. by this time 2 yrs from now u two will probably be married n laughing this off. lol don't stress it too much

oyinda.:
also, maybe u should go home this christmas instead of next summer since you're going home next year anyways. plan ur trips with even intervals. don't just disappear for 2 yrs and then visit twice in the next year. once each year is more even (i'm assuming you're graduating late next yr). unless your plans are set that is or you have a reason why u planned ur trip that way.

posakosa:
Can she come abroad too?! Maybe that her way of saying she wants to be with you!

oyinda.:
I totally understand u. u wouldn't create this topic n loking for advice if u didn't care abt her am sure.
she said she was ok with it.? so did she fully support it or partially? because i'm sure she knew the plan was for you to graduate in 2010, and i think it's unreasonable of her to demand a wedding the same year. unless she was just nagging you about the changed plan. i mean she doesn't expect u to quit ur program. lol
maybe she's just really missing u. send her letters and such lol and keep calling i guess to make it seem you're closer to her rather than half the globe away.

posakosa:
Well, she's afraid of losing you. You have to understand her perspective.

Be patient with her. Does she work ? Maybe you can do something to keep her busy, she can start pastoral school. LOL!

posakosa:
Nope, I just want the guy to see that it might not be totally her fault. She might be getting pressured.

Communication is key and he needs to reassure her, BUT SHE'S YOUNG TOO! SHOULDN'T SHE BUSY WITH SCHOOL AS WELL.

posakosa:
Certainly, Im sure that she's nervous u'll leave her once you obtain your degree,

I was also gonna ask, are her other mates getting married too ? It could that social pressure.

oyinda.:
she seems pretty young to be worrying about clock ticking. so the only other reason i was thinking is prolly because you're abroad, she's getting pressure from friends and family. u kno, men abroad are known to ditch their naija girl for babe abroad. maybe that's what's worrying her.
u just need to keep reassuring her i guess.

did she support your going abroad?

TOYOSI20:
@ OP

So far u are doing all u can from what u have stated, i feel like she should be able to see reason, . . . .

the bottom line is for both of u to sit and then come to a mutual conclusion on when exactly u are ready to tie the knot,  . . .

best of luck mahn!!

posakosa:
the fact they her parents have given you blessings doesn't mean that do are not pressuring their daughter, How old is she ?