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There was this film i watched sometimes back, but unfortunately i was not able to finish watching it as almighty PHCN carry dem wife comot.

Rita Dominic was in that film. the setting was in a village. she was in an athletics club and one guy who was always shouting "MASSIVE" had eyes for her, but she was in luv with another guy, one loner like that. Joke silva was the guys grandmother. i've forgotten the name of the dude, but the guy was framed up by the "MASSIVE" idiot, where the RITA was attacked nd her camera nd chain was stolen. They found the camera in the other guy's room, nd therefore she slapped him nd left him to be in the arms of "MASSIVE".

Along the line, she found out that it was all a setup, nd wanted to apologize to the other guy. the settings was at one waterfall.

The guy later was dropped from the athletics team, the coach was sacked, but was appointed to coach another team. he then called the young man to join his team. this young man was fond of playing with his fish, whom he called "LONELINESS".

does anyone know the title of this film? where can i watch it online?

i'm older than 25 but younger than 29.

i will tell her abt it. thanks.

Besides im >25 but<29, nd as a woman, i believe u shld know that some of ur fellow womenfolk can be devils atimes. i lay emphasis on the some b4 it turns into a gender war, sank u fery mush.

Oya i don update am, u don happy?

I'm in USA now . I neva update my Profile

U are a big fool for even thinking i wanted to do it. Did i tell u i was considering it? Arsehole.

[b]i know the title of the thread can be confusing, but wat it depicts is not actually wat it states. Here is the thing:-

I've been dating my babe for the past three years. During our first year, i met some of her friends. they all seemed to like me. My babe met some of my folks too. that encouraged me to keep up the relationship,

My babe has a friend who lives in USA. This her friend, for one reason or the other, doesn't seem to support our relationship. The friend keeps on telling her to stop seeing me, that there are more mature men out there who can take care of her, that wat does she want with someone who has no job nd just wants to start his life, that hw long does she want to wait for me. These things annoy me alot, it almost caused an arguement between my baby and i. But i know, not everyone supports a good thing. everyone has his or her own reasons.

My babe nd i steadily built our relationship to a level where i've proposed marriage to her. She accepted happily. along the line, i got an admission to study for my masters degree in the United States. everyone was so happy. My parents nd i then went to meet my babe's parents. At least to let them know wat was up between the two children, nd this is wat we want. they all came to an accord that wen i finish my masters, hopefully i'll get a job immediately, nd then they'll start the processes for the marriage.

I left for my studies. My babe nd i kept in touch, i do call her almost thrice every week. We kept our relationship going.

One evening, i got a call. It happened to be my babe’s friend. She said she was going thru facebook nd she saw that we were in the same skool. She got my phone number there too, so she decided to give me a call. I told her where i was nd she came to meet me nd i got to see her for the first time. I didn’t want to bring up any issue about her not supporting me nd my babe’s relationship, so we talked on some other issues.

Things kept on going for a few weeks. Anytime she came into skool, she’ll give me a call. We’ll talk for a few minutes. Sometimes we’ll meet at the cafetaria nd have lunch together. I told my baby that i met her friend as we were in the same skool. My babe was not too comfortable with it, but i told her not to worry, that nothing was going to happen.

One evening, she called me nd told me she was not feeling well. She said i shld please drop her off in her apartment off-campus. I picked her up infront of her faculty nd she gave me directions to her place. The following morning, she called me again saying she was shivering overnight, that she puked, nd that she wants to go to the health services center for treatment, but she was too weak to go. She said i shld pls pick her up on my way to skool. When i got to her place, i met her in bed. Her flatmate was just about leaving, so i waited in the sittingroom while she got ready.

I was watching the TV when i felt her hands on my shoulders. I turned around, nd there she was wearing only her pant and bra!!! I was so shocked. I stood up and said “Bukky, wat are u doing?” She said ever since she broke up with her boyfriend, she has been yearning for the touch of a man, she luvs me, she wants me to take her there nd then on the carpet. While she talked, she unhooked her brassier, nd let it fall, exposing her big breasts. I told her i culdn’t do it. She pushed me hard nd i fell on the couch, then she fell ontop of me, forcing her lips on mine nd grabbing my hand nd pressing it to one of her boobs. I pushed her hard nd she landed on the floor. I got up, grabbed my keys, nd left the apartment.

She later called me but i refused to pick her call. She kept on sending me text messages, telling me she luvs me, that i shld give her a chance. My baby is so far away, what do i think she would be doing? do i think she'll be patient enough for me to come back. I called her nd told her to quit playing her games, that i'll not fall to her temptations.

yesternite, she sent me a mail, telling me whether i like it or not, i must sleep with her, or else she was going to tell my babe back in Nigeria. To make matters worse, she said she was also going to call the police nd tell them i raped her if i didn't comply. If i dont want any of this to happen to me, i must f@ck her nd keep on f@cking her. She gives me three days to think about it.

I’ve never met such a Jezebel in my life. I’m at a crossroad. What do i do? I dont want to cheat on my babe, but i know wat rape is nd wat it amounts too, especially in America. [/b]

I was just about posting this same topic. all because they were trying to claim their rights. Corruption is everywhere in Nigeria.

There is a thread i created sometimes ago in one of the sections. i can't really remeber what title i gave it, but i'm sure i'll recognise it when i see it. i tried using the search button nbut couldn't find it. how do i locate it on nairaland?

with the kind of babe i have, i don't put condoms in my wallet. ours has been a no-sex relationship since we met, nd anything like dat in my wallet, she'l bring the house down.
i remember a time she saw one in the back of my car, nd i knew what i faced from her then. i guess making sex a part of one's relationship is sometimes a good idea.

what is honor killings?

can u see the kind of handcuffs our own Nigerian police are using to handcuff criminals? this is not a laughing matter @Aloy.emeka. How do u think other policemen around the world will react if they see these kind of pictures? Its really sad, i feel like crying for the country.

Typically everybody has given up on the idea of having anything "free and fair" in Nigeria. Corruption has really eaten deep into everything in the country. Even the few who tried to make things right are either frustrated out of their efforts or killed. See what happened to Nuhu Ribadu. i'm telling u, if things keep on happening like his case, there is no hope for the country. its so sad.

virgie:
@ Poster,
I think you are really feeling a bit insecured with your cousin being around your 'baby'. Why dont you let her know how you feel and besides, is your Cousin the only doctor in your area?

I talked to her about it and i let her know how i felt about it. Trust my baby and even ladies in general, she was first proving stubborn by saying dat she didn't know why i was feeling bad and she felt the reason why i was reacting like dat was because of what she told me did to her. But she later apologised, saying she will not do it again.

@micheli89, that is what i call her all the time. okay next time, i'll call her my girlfriend. does that satisfy u?


@Sapphic,

From what you are saying, it was a phone call and I am assuming that she called your phone and you passed the phone to your cousin. Why complain now?

I gave her a call that day, and since she was out of town, he said he wanted to say hello to her. Dats why i gave him the phone. It was when i heard him mention what he said that i later asked her and she said she told him so so and so.


And if it was his phone she called, how come they now have each others phone numbers?

they don't. i made sure of that right from the time she told me he was making passes and eyes at her.

Moreover, why did you not trash it out with your cousin when he went to her place after you told him not to?

First, i wasn't in town that day. i had travelled out of town, and i had told him NOT TO GO. Secondly, when i came back, i told him outright that i didn't like it, and he shouldn't try it again.

I believe that YOU are the problem. Take control of your relationship and cousin. . . so far there doesn't seem to be a problem, though from what you say, there is the potential for one to crop up

Thanks alot.

Vonny:
Klassyguy

After years of pretending, you've finally found love. Your family adores her and vice versa (which is very crucial for any relationship to last and work). You don't love your ex, you never have. Telling her you'll think about her pleas for your love is like breaking her heart, and using it to play bball with your boys. After you've broken up with a girl, never ever tell her 'you'll think about it', this is nothing but false hope and it will drag the process of moving on (on her part). My suggestion to you, is to cut all forms of communication with this girl. It's been 3YEARS since you guys broke up and she still hasn't healed. Moreover, she's THREATENING YOU and I quote "She then started threatening that whether i liked it or not, i was hers, and it’s either i marry her or no one else," WTF? Why are you still talking to this girl? Why does she have your number? I hope to goodness she doesn't know your address, because If she's threatening you, you can only imagine what she'll do to your baby (the woman who has taken her place). I strongly believe, that for your own safety and sanity (and your baby's too) you should cut off all communication with this girl. She's a hazard to herself, and your relationship.

omega25red:
change your number and never call her again. If that doesn't work do what sistawoman said talk to her family and let them handle it.

That doesn't mean she should start telling me i'm not a man who cannot handle my own shit. Bringing in family members for something i can handle on my own. I came here for other peoples advice to know how to handle a desperate person like my ex. For someone i've not seen nor heard from for over 3 years, what attention giving is in that? What attention did i give her in that way? Is it wrong asking for advice again?


Thanks for the words Vonny. To answer ur questions, i don't know why she still has my number as i have deleted her's form my fone a long time ago. I had to tell her that just to get her off my neck, and it was what came to my mind that i said. i haven't talk to her since then as i refused to pick her calls. It's a good thing that i stay in Abuja where my present girl also stays, while my ex is in Ibada. i go to ibadan once every 2-3 months and i don't even let her know i'm around. Si why she's still into me after all these years beats me. besides i haven't seen her for more than 3 years now.

Yeah. I do remember the frigging B@*#H, the slut who i gave my heart out to, whom i didn't mind her badly spoken and written english(gosh, now that i look back, i can now understand the phrase"love is blind", who started thinking i was a small boy when she started hanging out with the ever popular "Poly-Ibadan" girls, who connived with her mother to spoil and dent my reputation when i had a little misunderstanding with one of my friend's family(they later got to know i wasn't at fault), and who, after i had seen the light and finally ended the relationship, got pregnant for a baker(yes!! baker, a may-bread) in one of the bakeries in the neighbourhood. the BITCH later aborted the pregnancy and tried coming back to me, but i gave her the boot. the last i heard of her, she was the local slut of her school and had gotten pregnant for someone else and had gotten married to the poor and unfortunate chap.

**spits out in disgust**

[b]I've always wondered why some ladies tend to go beserk anytime they see celebrities, especially males. The other day i was watching the P-Square concert in Sierra Leone, and there was this particular lady who was crying her eyes out. One of the twins later brought her on stage and she clung onto him like her life depended on it.

This thing is very common overseas, where some ladies go mad at the sight of stars(look at the MJ videoes). I used to think it was only over there such things happened until some years ago when i started noticing it here. It has therefore brought out this question - what is it with ladies and these so-called stars that they cannot handle. Naturally, my own view is that they end up turning into putty and getting F@*ked by them. i have several examples to prove it. One even happened to one of my close friends here(in her case, it was a well known DJ in one of the popular radio stations).

I don't know whether this has been discussed before, but incase it hasn't, i table it infront of the whole house. Ladies, why do some of u do that?[/b]

[b]Before i start, i would want to say this:-

- i need advice from you pple, and as such i wouldn't like anyone insulting me or saying anything out of the context. If you happen to feel the urge to yab or insult, i kindly ask you pls save it and leave the thread. Thank you in advance.

I broke up with my ex sometimes ago due to some reasons known to me, but for those who care to know, i actually didn't love the girl initially. i thot i did, but i later realised that i only dated her to get back at one other girl who cheated on me by getting pregnant for another guy. I was so hurt then and this girl came at that moment. With time we got closer.

Along the line, i realised that this girl was literarilly throwing herself at me, making it so obvious that she wanted me. Any small thing, she'll always want to be around me, rubbing herself against me anytime we come close, calling at every opportunity, never giving me space. I tried talking sense into her to at least slow down as i didn't want to use and dump her, but the babe no wan gree.

about three years back, she called me one eveining and told me she was coming down from lagos to see me(i was in Ib then). She arrived my house that evening, and to cut a long story short, we ended up having sex that nite and the nite after. Since then, she had always been bothering me, coming to my house at the least opportunity. She even came one evening when my dad was at home. I had to drive her back and lodge her in a guest house that nite.

Anyway to cut a long story short, i broke up with the girl about two years ago due to all these possessive behaviours of hers(always checking my phone, any girl's number she sees, she'll start raking that i'm dating her, she also had this annoying habit of referring the girl i dated before her as "her rival". She raved and ranted, but i had to hold my stand firm. She then stopped calling me since.

I got hooked up again with my present girlfriend(the air-hostess chick in the other thread i created sometimes ago). We got along and we celebrated our first year together sometimes last month.

Now my problem is this - last week i had to leave Abuja where i presently work to go get my transcript in skool. i was getting down from the bus when i heard someone call my name, i turned round and who will i see? My ex-girl. we greeted each other, chatted a bit, and then we went our both ways. She later called me that night, saying she had missed me, she still loves me, blah blah. . . . . . .i told her we were history and that i already have another girl in my life. She then started begging me to take her back, she'll change her ways, etc.

Ever since then she has been on my neck. She even made me promise that i would come see her in skool and that she wants us to talk things out. left to me there is nothing to talk about. Tomorrow is the day we fixed when i'll go see her. i don't want to go, but at the same time i want to tell her straight to her face that IT'S OVER, since she doesn't want to listen. What do u all suggest?[/b]

[b]Thank you all for your responses. I just want to make a few things clear to you all and to those who misquoted some of the statements i made earlier:-

- Some of you were of the opinion that it was a "choose me or your job" kind of situation. Let me tell y'all that i never, ever think that way and i will never impose myself on the girl. It's she who will make the final decision. We had this discussion sometimes last year when we were first going out newly, and i asked her then that what does she feel about being an air hostess. It was she herself that told me she never liked the job, that she wouldn't want to work in this country's aviation industry, etc. Now that she told me she got a job, what i only told her was that i didn't feel too comfortable about it, and that i'll prefer her to be on the ground with me rather that flying around in the Nigerian airspace, but if she feels that she wants to go for it, i'll have to sit back and prayy everything works out well. Everyone knows hw unsafe our airspace is with the level of decay which had occurred in the sector over the years.

- What i meant when i said i "told her my mind" was what i have explained above. I'll never use my selfish interests to spoil her dreams. She asked me for her support and i've told her that when we see (possibly today as i'll be heading back very soon) we'll talk more on the issue and we'll then have a joint issue and conclusion. i'm not that kinda guy who just imposes things onto my girlfriend, even if we were married. I always like to hear everyone's side of issues first. What i intend doing later on today is when we sit down and talk, we'll weigh both ways and whatever comes out will be our final decision. She too told me on phone yesterday morning that she has mixed feelings about the job and she doesn't know whether to accept it or not. Whatever happens, i'll surely give you all the updates.

I hope i've made myself clear. Kapish, everyone?[/b]