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cuteruth:
All the comments posted are interesting.
one thing u guys fail to understand is that all ladies are always emotional
we always love a guy pampering us.
try to understand

na today?

answer na. there are many things women swallow. which one?

fntekim:
Refusing to swallow

Swallow wat if i may ask?

If we actually look at it, a babe's wahala actually keeps the relationship alive, keeps everyone on their toes. Imagine having a girl who will do everything u say, sit down, she go sit, comot ur clothes now, she go gree without question, u'll get bored. Even though i get annoyed with my babe atimes with her wahala here nd there, i actually do miss her anytime she's not around.

ndums:
thanks. i'm going to act on d pis afta sober meditation. more guys. i luv u guys. i was expecting some 2 call me a fool but it neva happened u guys are d best. thumbs up

Nlanders just yab and insult pple wen they feel thatthe topic posted has no meaning and sense. but don't get ur hopes up yet. i'm sure some of the sarcastic ones are still coming.

As for me, since u've realised wat the girl canand can't do, i suggest u tell her that u cannot continue. If she's so callous as to leave u wen u have nothing, only to want to come back wen she realised u have a high-paying job, she's just a frigging golddigger. How sure are u dat she won't leave u wen the chips are down? Leave her to her other lover jare. There are other young ladies out there who are not after money, but love, though u have to choose wisely. there are many of them out there that can pretend,

wen i was back home, i usually spend about 10 mins in the morning, another 10 mins in nthe afternoon, like 5 mins wen i drive in from work, then another 5-10 mins b4 i go to bed. that is averaging 30 mins. Everyday. and that includes even if i see her. and i usually see her every other day. even now that i'm no longer in the country, i ensure i buy at least a 20 mins card to talk to her abt twice every 3 days. she does the same too.

Owambe are these large parties organised for naming ceremonies, burials, weddings, whatever warrants big parties.

Im sure very soon one or more of these so-called legislators will go ahead and buy a boeing or airbus and begin to brag about it. Nigeria, what a waste.

Sometimes i wonder whether most of these journalists know what they report. Is this a private jet, or a jet for that matter?

I can't marry a girl who has no respect for me.

if she claims she loves u and still has feelings for her ex, that my friend is a serious matter. Just sit her down one evening and tell her u want her to sort out her feelings. Just give her some serious space, call her only once in a while, just let her sort her feelings out. if she still luvs u, she'll come back to u.

My biological mother does not want me
updated: Thursday 04-06-2009

Dear readers,
As human beings there are some things we cannot decide. One of such is choosing who gives birth to us. Such is the plight of today's writer. He learnt who is biological mother was after so many years but unfortunately, she does not want him. He needs your advice. Please read and counsel him.
Thanks, Monica Taiwo

Dear Taiwo,
A friend of mine gave me your column to read, she also encouraged me to write my story and send to your e-mail box, I hope you will be able to help me, so I can have peace.

I am not a young man; I am 36 years old, married with two kids. The funniest thing is that I met my biological mother just about a month ago, and her attitude towards me is the reason why I wrote this letter to you.

I was raised by my aunty, my mother’s sister, although she is a lot older than my mother. I never had a cause to ever complain. In fact, to be sincere, I guessed my mother was my aunty until about a month ago, when my aunty came over to my house, she excused my wife and told me about myself, my mother and also about the circumstances that led me to stay with her since I was born.

Not that I had any cause to complain, I was well taken care of, I attended the best schools, my “daddy” was a rich man, I had grown up brothers and sisters, I as the family pet I enjoyed my childhood, so you can imagine how I felt when I learnt that this woman I had always looked on to as my mother is only my aunty and that my supposed siblings are my cousins.

As I wrote above, mummy told me about myself. My mother who was her mother's last born, became pregnant with me when she was in her OND II, she insisted on having an abortion but mummy prevailed on her. With a promise that she would take care of me while she went back to school.

Mummy fulfilled her promise to my mother, which was how I became a member of her household. I was not treated differently; she took care of me like she did to her own children. Daddy was also very nice to me, that was why it was a rude shock to me the day she told me about my biological mother.

I had met her several times, I called her auntie, and she resides in the USA, and only comes home for holidays.

The only thing I noticed was that she was always arguing with my mummy.

Just as I wrote earlier, mummy called me and told me my supposed aunty is my mother and she would love us to be reconciled now because of any eventuality. Mummy is old, well over 80 years.

On this fateful day, she invited me to come with her to auntie’s house. Initially, I was not a part of their discussion, but later I was invited to join them.

Mummy repeated all she had told aunty in my presence and she told me she was my mother. Auntie flared up and started shouting at mummy and told her she had said from the very beginning that she wanted nothing to do with me. She said since it was her who was interested in having me she could have me for life.


I was shocked, I could not hold or take it any longer, I asked her if she hated me that much. I also demanded to know where my father was.

Her reply was that I should ask my mother, who wanted to keep me.
At this point, mummy began to cry. She told my aunty that she was a wicked person.


She opened up and told me that she had to plead with my biological mother several times not to have an abortion. My father also wanted to marry her, but she wasn’t ready. My father waited for her till she finished her HND II, but instead of going on with their relationship, she ran away with one of her numerous men friends to the USA. My father was broken-hearted. Eventually, he married another woman, he however, took responsibility of me, but unfortunately, he died very young in a car accident.

He left some things for me, they are held in trust, and mummy wanted me to know about my biological mother first before telling me about him.

My biological mother ignored the two of us and eventually walked us out of her house. I had to ask mummy why she behaved like that; I also told her that I myself would not want to have anything to do with her. Mummy said that is not the way the world is, she is my mother, and nothing can change that. She has worked and made a lot of money, she should give to me what is rightfully mine now that she is alive before her spoilt kids take everything.

Two weeks after our first visit, mummy said we would be paying my biological mother another visit again, what for? I asked her. She said she had spoken with her and we would go and take some things from her house for me.


I never knew mummy had arranged for a truck to wait for us there. I noticed the truck before we entered the house, but I thought nothing of it. As soon as we got inside, mummy ordered the truck driver and his motor boy to take some of the goods my biological mum brought into the country to sell as Tokunbo goods.

She tried to prevent the men from packing these things and it almost led to a physical brawl between the two of them. We took some things away, refrigerators, air conditioner, computers and some other things. I told mummy, I don’t need them, I am comfortable, I already have these things, she told me to go and sell them and make money for myself.

My biological mum had gone back to the USA, I tried to call her, but she won’t pick my calls. I was contemplating, calling my siblings and telling them our relationship, but I don’t know how they would take it. I also don’t know why mummy did what she did, is there more to this? I am not happy about all these happenings, please advise me.
A.K.O, Lagos

Culled from Nigerian Tribune.
Peeps, if u were in this man's shoes, what would u do?

why are we always flogging the same dead horse?

me thinks ladies just like someone who'll give them wahala, they want to have a feel of heartbreak, etc.

Guy ur english get as e be.

Fhemmmy:
Sad case, heard abt it on the news.
However, custody must be given to whoever love, and could take care of the needs of the kids more, but most cases, the woman always win, with the man on the hook for child support.
In this case, the man has been unable to get back the child, cos the man adopted the child when he married the mother and that made the "new father" to be in custody of the child.

but the woman in question is now dead. the case is btw the two fathers. I will support the kid going back to his real dad cos, though i don't know the systemm over there, there is a high chance of the foster dad marrying again, and then there might be some form of maltreatment since he's not the son of either. but i culd be wrong.

U see what some women put their husbands thru? i just heard on CNN now that the woman divorced the man in absentia in brazil, nd she has been married to the other man for the past 5 years. the kid is now 9 years old. the lower court has ordered the child be returned to his original father, but the caser has been taken to a higher court. ruling comes on wednesday. hw sad.