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geesilver:
..... Go tell her that make she bit your ear ...

ROFLMAO

Matheusmartin:
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Satan, undefeated and unbeaten in heaven. God had to throw him down to earth for humans to try their luck.

You told you this lie?

obynokoko:
I think she is a mad woman.were you forced to pay tithe or give offering.pls take her to hospital for mental evaluation

Does she have to be forced before she can demand her money back? She didn't get what she paid for so why are you denigrating her for exercising her right as a dissatisfied customer?

CBDC:
Sometimes life and human relationships could put you in that situation. She is visibly angry.

She should be pacified and reminded she didn't give the money under duress or compelled by force. She gave willingly.

I hope God will bless her inturn and provide for her needs and want.

She didn't get what she paid so she has a right to demand it all back.

Eagle360:
This is funny
All the sermons she heard, all the encouragement words, the chair she sit on, who will pay for it?
Man spend tithes and offerings, all these are use for the work of God to progress.
Buying fuel to power generator, purchasing of microphone, drum set e.t.c are how the tithes and offerings budget goes.

Where for Bible God tell you say that suppose go on His account?

Broveens42:
The problem with nija christians is that they inherited an abstract religion that's why they can't even understand what yeshua said..
Love. But u see them trying to add up so many unimaginable things to sound 'intelifoolish'

I mean what's so difficult with this charge;
"Do unto others what you will have them do to you"

Jesus Christ is God's New Covenant Law, am agreement promised by God through His prophets with which to bless the nations of the world with.- Jeremiah 31 vs 31 - 34 - the Law in the Kingdom of God.

The Old Covenant Law of Moses is instead God's agreement with those who have the blood of Jacob coursing through their veins, as Law for living in the land of Canaaan - Deuteronomy 30 vs 15 - 20

12 “Do for others what you would want them to do for you. This is the meaning of the Law of Moses and the teaching of the prophets. - Matthew 7 vs 12

So, as you can see in the verse above, Jesus Christ said that in reference to the Old Law which He came to fulfill, not teach you to follow.

*Always pay attention to context when reading from the Bible, even from the Gospel of the Kingdom of God.

Babastrong:
now i know you're not an in-line reader. I said suggest your best solution for the op. Afterall, i didn't force my suggestion on her.

I am trying to understand the reasoning behind your suggestion is why I ask.

Scopgel1:
Lets say me and u we viewingthingsfrom different angle. Am putting her on a saver side to save her marriage bcus she already knows what the problem is so why the road that leads to a broken home. A question is Is divorce the answer ? Many people here are facing worst issues in there marriage but keeping the marriage gives them reward later " as far as violence is not involved though "

My major issue is with the assertion that she has to submit to a man who according to her is currently cheating on her, in order to make the marriage work. Why does she need to submit to that in the name of keeping her marriage together?

Why not ask her instead to stand her ground so she can get that which she desires in her life.. the right to be considered an equal partner in her union?

Should one submits ones very own soul to that which it is against simply to avoid divorce? There are equally many examples of people out there who submitted and ended up regretting it too. So there is no one size fits all in this issue.

Babastrong:
anyway, as an happily married man with kids, this is what i think as solution. If you have better solutions, feel free to suggest them. End of discussion

Seems the Op expected to be considered an equal partner in her relationship, or at least to have a say, but is currently being denied that which she wanted. Your suggestion is that she deny herself even more in order to please the man's ego. Is that really what you consider advice?

If this was a daughter of yours, would you advice her to submit to a man who considers her say worthless in marriage?

Scopgel1:
Simple marriage is about 2 people from different backgrounds so all men have ego as the head of the family since u understand his problem was bcus of his background why not find a way to work out things and make ur marriage work. My sister out of 100% men out the only 10% are ready to settle down. Pls save ur marriage and ignore that ur X

All men have ego as the head of the family?
Women have egos too... so why does her ego not get accounted for in this?

Save a marriage that is run by an ego? Why? Aren't you pretty much assuming every marriage out there is defined in the same exact way as you define yours?

Babastrong:
then if she can't beg and submit to her husband, tell her pack out. Omode nse.

Why is that the only alternative that you see?

Franzinni:
well ok. I hear you. Loud and clear. Even if I have my thought on the matter but I hear you .. whatever message you were led to communicate.. I get it.

I will take your advice and study the teachings of Jesus to be able to tell what voices I hear .. I hope I am right ? If I am not please let me understand more ... I guess I was using a hardened heart but now I will listen ... please go ahead.

STUDY you say?

Well, as it turns out, the only way to gain understanding of the Truth is, not through studying but by using of the understanding you already have of Him - doing of what He said.

So rather than study, may I suggest instead that you read through the Gospels, as if you were reading a novel, and paying attention to do as you read what you comprehend Jesus Christ commands that His followers do.

10 The followers came to Jesus and asked, “Why do you use these stories to teach the people?”
11 Jesus answered, “Only you can know the secret truths about God’s kingdom. Those other people cannot know these secret truths.
12 The people who have some understanding will be given more. And they will have even more than they need. But those who do not have much understanding will lose even the little understanding that they have.
13 This is why I use these stories to teach the people: They see, but they don’t really see. They hear, but they don’t really hear or understand.
14 So they show that what Isaiah said about them is true:

‘You people will listen and listen,
but you will not understand.
You will look and look,
but you will not really see.
15 Yes, the minds of these people are now closed.
They have ears, but they don’t listen.
They have eyes, but they refuse to see.
If their minds were not closed,
they might see with their eyes;
they might hear with their ears;
they might understand with their minds.
Then they might turn back to me and be healed.’

16 But God has blessed you. You understand what you see with your eyes. And you understand what you hear with your ears.
17 I can assure you, many prophets and godly people wanted to see what you now see. But they did not see it. And many prophets and godly people wanted to hear what you now hear. But they did not hear it - Matthew 13 vs 10 - 17

As the above states, the more you use even the basic understanding you already have , the more understanding will automagically be given you.

As it turns out, this is the same teaching as that taught by Jesus Christ using the parable of the Ten Talents in Matthew 25 vs 14 - 30 which basically states to recieve more of anything that has to to with the Kingdom of God - Love, forgiveness, understanding, Truth, Faith etc., you have to use what you have..

29 Everyone who uses what they have will get more. They will have much more than they need. But people who do not use what they have will have everything taken away from them. - Matthew 25 vs 29

Babastrong:
I can see the case of from frying pan to fire here. You're going back to your Ex? If i may ask what did he do before he became ex?
your tit-for-tat will surely land you in fire from frying pan if care is not taken.
my advice: 1. forget your ex, he's not the best person to return to in this situation.
2. Control your emotion, try to figure out the root(s) of the problem between you and your real husband not ex ooo. Pls dig deeper here,don't look at the surface. You may be the problem yourself.
3, sit your husband down, beg him even if he's at fault.
4 try to love what you husband love( may be s*x, submission or affection for parent, etc). Try to see the world through your husband eyes but act with you brain not emotion. A lot to say but i think these will help.

3. Why does she need to beg him?

4. Why does she need to submit to what what does not agree with?

Simran94:
Women have really suffered and will continue to suffer in the hands of African communities.

A man cheats on his wife but doesn't feel any remorse about it by confessing to his wife, yet people are blaming her for her husband's wrong-doing. How can anyone say she should ask her husband why he cheated on her? Really? Will this same energy be given to a woman if she cheats on her husband?

I just wish Prenuptial agreements will be signed into law in Africa, this is the major thing that will reduce the rate of cheating. At least, if you don't want to loose your money to your wife, you would learn to keep IT between your legs!!!!

One reason why I always says Ladies should be financially dependent before going into marriage!!!

Does it need to first be signed into law for such an agreement to hold in marriage even today? I think people simply need to be made aware that it is an option already available to them.

berrystunn:
Continue till the devil takes you out of your marriage.

Your ex will use you and drop you...
Note that your body is not as he it's before...

Go and fix your home just because of your kids... Hide your selfish interest somewhere.

How do you conclude that it is the devil that will take her out of the marriage?

Scopgel1:
What if you are the problem of the marriage?
Have you tried to be submissive to ur husband ?

Why?

Franzinni:
ok ... the Almighty is love. But yeah you are right .. to the degree that you so prescribe. I don't challenge your assertions.

I say you go back to the Gospels to learn the Truth of Jesus Christ so you can begin even now living in continual submission to and obedience of His teachings and commandments.. the work we are called to do by Him.

Note that I am not preaching any one else's Truth to you but His very own Teachings and commandments so you can forge a stronger bond and relationship and also learn to identify the lies when they come at you.

lilvicky68:
Even the mental health professionals in Nigeria are all depressed..no customer..
Instead na pastor imam or babalawo dey advise people now..

I wil never recommend anyone who is serious about their mental health to Any of those. Never!

Franzinni:
it. All. Falls. Under. The. Umbrella. Of. Love ...

You get?

Jesus Christ! Common dude! Catch up!

Without love everything falls apart
You get .. I agree with you on the fact that it more than only love but... Love is the glue that holds them stAnding ... If you don't get it I will just have to settle. But hey I get your point and it's very valid. Nice one.

No it does not.

* Holiness/Perfection does not fall under Love.
* Faith does not fall under Love
* Truth does not Fall under Love
* Righteousness does not Fall under Love..
* Understanding does not fall under Love.
* Eternal life does not fall under Love
......
God is Love and He is also all of the others. Attempting to reduce the other aspects of God so you can uplift that which you prefer is against God.

There is no without Love or without Truth or without.... God is everything and He is the glue.. not Love. So, when God speaks His Truth , you are expected to submit to and obey it. Not twist it to fit your idea of what it instead. Pay attention to Him rather than try to force Him to conform to your own standard.

Ayomikunle1996:
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If you are depressed , please go see a mental health professional.

jesustheissue:
What sort of marriage is this? You discover your husband is cheating and decide not to mention or bring it up with him. Next, you seek out 1 of your exes for emotional support. Haba, where do you think that would end up especially as you say he is now a free agent, conveniently divorced and 'away'.
It's obvious you and your husband went through minimal or no marriage counseling, it's also clear that God did not feature much in your link-up or day to day life. I humbly suggest you go back to both so you can move ahead. Making vows to live together for better for worse before God and men should no longer be trivialised!

God no send una any of that nonsense in bold.

Kanbe:
Right, she should run a DNA test on her husband to return the favour

ROFLMAO

Franzinni:
I think you are deliberately trying to let me start bashing my head on the wall ... in frustration Hahaha!
In the two things Yeshua spoke about, what was the main point ... ah...ah..ahhh!!! Just wait one sec... it is ....LOVE... for the Father, and for your neighbors... but it is ...Say it with me
Love...
You get ?
Love
Or is there another thing after you distill it down ?
That is what I thought ... it is Love.

Bashing your head when all I have said are the teachings of Jesus Christ are written to you in in Gospels which you don't seem to have spent enough time in even as you continue to claim His teaching is only on the two greatest commandments of the Old Covenant Law of Moses.... Jesus Christ also told you that those two laws were were sum of the Old Law and the Prophets, not the sum of Him though.

God is God of Laws and Jesus Christ , God's New Covenant Law/agreement in the Kingdom of God, God's own Truth, taught you of more than just Love.

*He taught of understanding the secrets of the Kingdom of God. - Matthew 13 vs 10 - 17 and Mark 4 vs 21 -24
*He taught of salvation from the condemnation of Sin, Death, which He gives to only those who will become born of water and born of spirit(not to be confused with the Spirit of God). - John 3 vs 16 - 21 & John 6 vs 25 -33
* He spoke to you about entering the Kingdom of God through the right door, this only accomplished through continual submission to and obedience of His commandments and teachings. - John 3 vs 1 - 8 , Matthew 7 vs 13 - 14 and Matthew 7 vs 24 -29
*He spoke to you about Holiness/Perfection without which no man will see God - becoming a Son of God by knowing the Truth of God. - John 8 vs 31 - 44
* Jesus Christ spoke of doing God's Will under the lead of the Spirit of God - abide in Him and He will abide in you.- John 15 vs 1 - 11.

God is Love, but He is also Just, True, Holy, Wisdom, Faithful, Merciful etc. You make a mistake when you try to reduce God and the things of God to only that which you are willing to accept.

Jesus Christ's teachings and commandments are found written in the Gospels for those who are ready to know the Truth of God

promiseland245:
Husband and wife has been living happily together for about 12yrs with their 3kids.
But for some reasons, the mother-in-law to the wife isnt in good terms with the wife.
Mother-in-Law trickishly carried the three kids for DNA test and it showed the children aren't his.
The result was unveiled to the man and out of annoyance, he divorced the wife.

The Question now is, who broke the home.
The wife?
The Mother-in-law?

(Fiction but definitely someone's reality out there)
The Husband?

The mother-in-law ofcourse

Franzinni:
bro the message of Yeshua is love...

When asked which is the greatest commandment, the Christian New Testament depicts Jesus paraphrasing the Torah: "Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind," before also paraphrasing a second passage; "Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself." Most Christian ...

His message is more than just about love for you. He came to give you God's Law on how to Live.

What you listed there are given you as the two greatest commandments, not the two only commandments.

So, unless your plan is to end up like the Pharisees, who focused on observing some of the laws, ignoring the others - Matthew 23 vs 23 - i suggest you begin to pay more attention to what Jesus Christ in fact taught His followers to do.

Franzinni:
Yeshua walk alone ... which the Father till his death that should say a lot about walking alone with your maker ... There was an established religion before Yeshua was born and he was hated for trying to let people see that love is enough

You don't need to be anything .. just love became if you love your neighbors as you love yoself considering you actually love your self then you won't lie,cheat,steal and all love alone has pacified all sin... do you get.

I am sorry what?

Jesus Christ is God's New Covenant, the agreement He promised His people with which to bless the nations of the world with - Jeremiah 31 vs 31 - 34.

Jesus Christ said His followers are those who live in continual submission to and obedience of His teachings and commandments, and those who are His friends are those who do as He says - John 15 vs 1 - 14

Jesus Christ came to save teach a new Law and doctrine. Unlike the Old Covenant, the New Covenant consists of about 60 something commandments, about 13 or more, blessings, about 20 something curses, 2 seals, a ritual, 2 promises, and 1 eligibility requirement - His yoke is easy and His burden is light!

Yet here you are suggesting that one need not do anything to follow Him?

Franzinni:
you got it wrong ... I don't care what people call Him see people are creature of habit and they will resistant vehemently any thing that contradicts what they have accepted to be normal.. I don't need to change anyone, I only am sharing what I found out and my beliefs. Simple.

Common how will you even think I..lol, small me will expect people to call "God" what I want ? It's a personal race bro. I am only sharing my journey. Please if you fail to understand anything I have said pleas understand that it is a personal race and I don't need company. My Father is more than enough on my journey in life.

Here's my puzzlement..... the same God who gave us Jesus Christ, His Law, now telling you to doing something not even included in His Law, Jesus Christ.

The walk is an individual one but God's Law and Truth is one, Jesus Christ. So, why would God add a new rule where He said , on the cross, "it is finished"?

PlanktonX:
There is this very popular Nigeria female pastor, she preaches under the tutelage of her husband church and she teaches sound doctrines concerning the roles of women in taking care of her homes and satisfying her husband. I encourage them to pay her a visit for biblical Counseling on sex in marriage.

Sex in marriage is a very important part of marriage that both party must understand, and it is a factor that God put in place to solidify the oat of marriage. Above all it is created to be enjoy by the couple.

Interesting, so your answer is that the woman submit to indoctrination where sex and satisfying her husband is concerned?

Nevermind that she already submits, no, you want to teach her to do it in a way that will better satisfy her husband, even though it probably won't change her not enthused by it all?

Franzinni:
phew ... it's a hopeless venture .. bro I am not asking anybody to call Him anything, I am only stating what He asked of me .... Me!

God is a title so is esu, and shaitan, if you want to put it like that ... bro I might not have a point to you, and I don't fight it. I too didn't know the things I know now until I found out today. And because I know how much people don't want change, I didn't want to even post it but was compelled .. and I did. Take what you can leave what you want... it's all evens out in the end.

You posted this to get people to stop calling Him "God"?

I am simply trying to ascertain why He supposedly told you these things about a mere title.

Zuchey91:
Our upbringing is totally different, he comes from a family where women are supposed to be suffering and still be silent...this I found out after marriage...and I come from a family where women have a say.
I know how it would end if I tell him about it and I am not ready to go down that road. I am tired of the constant quarrels.
I can say I have gotten to my elastic limit and I have no strength of fighting for this union anymore in me.

I see!

1. You need a way to deal with your hurt though. Have you considered getting counseling for yourself... from someone who is willing to listen to you and not judge you? You need to heal to a point where you are able to better understand how to move forward without having your emotions lead the way.

2. You mention you are not fully independent. Are your intentions to leave when you become independent? Or do you plan to work on the relationship?

3. Leave your ex out of this. The way i see it is any person who knows you are married but does not respect that boundary does not respect you.

Franzinni:
it's in the details that you just posted ...
But to be straight ... it is the name the pagans of old called their deity and was slowly adopted into Christianity .. simply put.
Now I guess you will say what harm is there ? You know you are referring to the Almighty when you say God. Then why don't you say Satan and still be referring to the Almighty, it is not just a word ...
The English language is full of spells. Try and break it down and you will begin to see the pattern ...
Lets do a small example...the word information.. in formation.
Once you get the knowledge you become in... form...ed. which mean that knowledge will put whoever understands it in formation.
Sounds crazy I know but try to pick apart words and you begin to see that a word is not simply a word. There is some power behind it.

Now I only speak from my limited under... standing. And don't claim have all the answers.

1. What human language out there is not full of these spells you speak of?

2. The word "God" seems to be a title, even as used by the original pagans, and not a direct name. Even the words "Almighty" and "Father" are both titles. So are you saying that He prefers we use the title "Father" over the title " God"?

Or you saying He abhors our use of the title "God"

Zuchey91:
I need matured inputs please.

I am a married woman, with a child.
My Marriage has been really rocky. Quarrels every now and then. What basically causes the problems is our differences, we just don’t understand each other, it wasn’t so visible during dating...although we did not date for long....but being married, it has been from one issue to the other, right from a week after our wedding.
I have always contemplated leaving, but I am yet to be fully independent.
Sometime this year, I found out he has been cheating (I was not surprised, but I was heart-broken) my discovery strengthened my resolve to leave the union.

In the process of nursing my heartbreak, I reconnected with an ex, we got talking and he helped my heal ...I did not tell him what I was going through at the time...I was just enjoying the attention he was showing me.

1. You mention a lack of agreement between you and your husband. Can you give an example of what it is you argue about or can't seem to see eye to eye on?

2. You mentioned he cheated and you were hurt by it. Why not open up, in a non-confrontational manner mind you, about this to him. There is a communication wall that has developed between you two and until that wall starts to come down, nothing is going to change between you two, is what I think here. And you bottling up your hurt isn't making it any better at all.

Marriage cannot survive when both parties isolate themselves emotionally.

3. Leave the ex out of this abeg! The last thing you want is to emotionally cheat on your husband. Two wrongs don't make a right!