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Loved to be born Born to live Lived to love Loved to live Lived to die Die to be remembered Remembered for love.... Life in a vacuum!
What will you live for? What will you die for? What will you be remember for? Life in a vacuum!
Today mark a year you left this world but you still remain fresh in our heart. Your smile give us hope that you're happy and resting with the Lord. We all miss you so much..........

please guys I need your help. Am planning to open a small bakery, but don't really know how much it cost. Please I anyone in the house in such a business? Urgent please...

D O B n exemption certificate issue. my email koolsnoop2@gmail.com

Rest on brother

I've never insulted anyone on this forum, but i have to. This ACF president is a fool to say that the law is illegal. He should also know the sharia law in the North is illagal or has he forgotten?

Kano and bad news..... hmmmm

KANO - Suspected kidnappers have abducted and slaughtered a 10 years old boy identified as Musa Salisu in Kano. The deceased a primary 6 pupil was abducted by unknown assailants by 2.00pm Monday at Naibawa quarters in Kano. Master Musa Salisu was sent on errand within the neighbourhood around 2.pm when yet to be identified hoodlums abducted him. More details soon.....

I thought he claimed no one can get him? Omo eko indeed.

what! this guy is my birthday mate.... rest in peace man.

Anthony
Bayero University Kano
B.Sc, Geography
2015
OYO State

wow! soooo lovely
i love it

Not right at all. Is she your slave?
i just wonder how some men think and behave.

[color=#990000]very painful bro, but i think you can still do other things rather than wasting your time hunting for jobs.

tnk bro. this is really educative

wow! I'll like to serve in this state o

theplushist:
Her Pen Name is City Girl and she is from Kenya
http://manly.ng/nigerian-men-are-co
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eyah, i can really see the frustration in her. the lady is pained, maybe naija guys don do her one chance b4.

Congratulations dear. also graduate last week, but I don't have cake to celebrate it. can we share that your cake together?

Breakups are bad enough. Getting broken up with — that’s another monster entirely. Getting dumped comes in many forms — outright rejection, being left, being cheated on, being broken up with. “Heartache” is a pathetic term. Better than heart-ache is heart-death. “Ache” implies slow, deep, and dull. “Death” is violent, consuming, and paralyzing. Heartache is a relational migraine without Advil. Getting dumped is a relational burn victim without anesthesia.
Things You Say to You
Danger is on every side of being dumped. One of the greatest dangers is believing that a breakup says something about our value; about our intrinsic worth.
The greatest challenge in being dumped is not to heal; it is not to get over it; it is not to be content with singleness. Such burdens are placed on us by well-meaning, misguided advisors. The greatest challenge of being dumped is to grieve well, while not being overwhelmed and indoctrinated by the voices that deafen us to hope, to light, to God. The greatest challenge of being dumped is to welcome our emotions as real and insurmountable, and to face all hatred and bitterness, toward self and others, with joyful defiance.
Here are five deafening voices we need to defy when we’ve been dumped.
1. You’re unlovable.
“They were right to dump you.”
“You’re ugly.”
“You’re insufficient.”
We take metaphorical sharp objects and jab ourselves until we’re too numb to cry. “I’m fat.” “I’m not funny enough.” “I’m not good enough.” We compare ourselves to others. We look at all of the perfect 10s — the eloquent, successful, well-dressed, well-groomed, well-off, well-behaved, beautiful people around us — and we look in the mirror and give ourselves a number: “4. I’m a solid 4.” Therefore, unlovable.
2. There’s no one else like them.
“No one can make me feel the way they did.”
“They were perfect.”
After getting dumped, everything reminds us of the ex. That tree. “They loved trees.” This book. “They pretended to read books.” Everything. They’re now an emotional intruder — by their unwelcome departure they have made themselves unwelcome ghosts in our hearts.
3. You’ll be alone forever.
“I’ll feel this way forever.”
“I fail every time. And it’s all my fault.”
Even more frightening than being dumped is the prospect of being alone forever. The logic feels fairly simple. “Of course,” you think, “If I’m unlovable, no one will love me.” If someone as great as your ex would dump you, then everybody worth being with will inevitably do the same — so the voices say.
4. You will feel this way forever.
“I lost my shot at being happy.”
“Nothing can overturn this feeling.”
There is no bodily location of the despair. More like someone tied a searing hot anchor to every internal organ. No sunlight can come in. Hope is hedged out. Being broken up with is like getting dropped in a maze, and always ending up at the same wall: rejection. You submitted your request for love to the universe, only to be returned with bright red block letters: DENIED.
5. God is punishing me.
“If I had only established better boundaries . . . ” “If we had only prayed more, God might have . . . ” “God, next time, I’ll do better.”
It’s simple. Worse people than you have great marriages. And better people than you are single, who don’t want to be. Your present marital status cannot be calculated or causally related to your behavior. It is an obvious mistake to think that the feelings of rejection offer you clarity into the mathematical equation that God uses to determine your circumstances.
But that truth may not sink in for weeks, or months, or years. For those whose sin weighs on them, who know with friendly familiarity the voice of the accuser, it feels impossible to disbelieve the lie: “God is punishing me for sin.”
Things God Says to You
Being broken up with can have the same effect as a bomb — it can create a ringing in our ears, so that we cannot hear the voices of those who love us; even God himself. But just because it’s hard to hear, that doesn’t mean the love isn’t there. Here are five truths to revive your hearts from the haze of being dumped.
1. Love isn’t about being a 10.
Christian dating does not escape the 1–10 scale thinking. “Is she a 6 or a 7?” But we are shooting ourselves in the foot with this type of thinking. Dating that assumes the goal is to get the very best person to love you has a relational shelf life of maybe a year or two.
The truth is, the only thing we have to offer is love. That’s it. And the only thing a potential partner can offer is love. And what greater love is there than the love of Christ (John 15:13)? The love of God liberates us from shallow and plastic mockeries of intimacy. Sometimes this means that breakups are even more difficult (something deeper is at stake). Even so, the good news of God’s deep love for us inverses the weight of lost superficial dating relationships.
We will go insane nit-picking through partners. When life is lived between 1 and 10, there is no room for God’s grace. Dating done best is dating between two people who show “no partiality to princes, nor regards the rich more than the poor, for they are all the work of his hands” (Job 34:19).
2. You are loved.
It’s not that you don’t feel loved right now — it goes further than that. You feel
unloveable. How do you receive the love of God when someone has thrown a rejection bomb into your heart, closed the hatch, and broken off the key?
First things first: Lean into those people who have made the love of God most tangible to you. It’s easy to spiritualize the getting-dumped-recovery-process, so that what looks like relying on God is actually just isolating yourself from love. Prayer, Bible reading, and spiritual disciplines are great, but you need people to help heal what’s broken inside of you.
It’s not unspiritual to need the love of friends and family to heal — in fact, it is the way God made you: “Love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another” (John 13:34). Lean into those who love you. I won’t ask you to believe you are loved, because I don’t know your story, your childhood, or your deepest feelings of pain and betrayal. But accepting God’s love after a breakup comes from accepting God’s gift of community: “Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another” (1 John 4:11).
The command to love one another is not just a command. It’s also something we receive, and in which we can rest when we need others to carry us into God’s love for us in Christ.
3. Your circumstances are not random.
If we strain to glimpse through the cracks of heart-death for just a moment, we can see others who have been heartbroken, who end up praising God, even within the year. Many people who have been dumped are so thankful years down the road. It’s almost impossible to imagine that you’ll ever be thankful for being dumped. But the reality of God’s sovereignty always trumps the terrifying myth of “The one that got away.” With God, there’s never one who gets away. Unrequited love is God’s protection, his plan, his care.
The psalmist knows: “Has his unfailing love vanished forever? Has his promise failed for all time?” (Psalm 77:. Now, don’t move too quickly to the next verse. Rest here. Cry with the psalmist. You’re allowed to stay on verse 8 for a time. We don’t know how long it took him to move past verse 8. It may have been months. But eventually, there was a time when the cloud lifted from his eyes: “Then I thought, ‘To this I will appeal: the years when the Most High stretched out his right hand’” (Psalm 77:10).
He remembers: “ Last time I was in trouble, God had a purpose, and the ability to bring me up from the bog.” Circumstances are ordained, and they are malleable in God’s hand — in his never-leaving, never-forsaking love.
4. You will be okay.
When it comes to getting dumped, our hearts feel the threat of open and violent exile — of shame, of regret, of deflation and defeat. We want that person back. Or, we want the guarantee that we will get something better. At the rock bottom of all of rejection’s disappointments is this: We will receive no guarantee. To speak a word of peaceful assurance to all who have been dumped is to utter a bald faced lie.
We have one promise from God about our future: He has not yet given us today the grace we need for tomorrow . Full stop. You don’t have it. You can’t tap into it. “The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases; his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning” (Lamentations 3:22–23).
Don’t underestimate the difficulty of
today’s wrestling with being dumped. Today requires your full attention. Thoughts of tomorrow will keep you stuck in bed, stuck watching TV, stuck inside, stuck binge eating (and worse, purging). Tomorrow is a weight too difficult for you to carry today. “Do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble” (Matthew 6:34).
You will be okay. You’ll have what you need. Today. Anybody offering you more is offering more than God. There is sober, but real peace in that kind of provision.
5. Heartbreak enables you to love.
Jesus’s own love is bound up with his suffering — “Christ loved us and gave himself up for us, a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God” (Ephesians 5:2). The suffering of Christ because of his love for us is his glory .
Heartache is often experienced as a sign that life is spiraling downward toward destruction and death. Yet, even with no assurance about the future, we know that it signifies glory in you. Do you hurt because of unrequited love? That is you being transformed into the image of the glory of God (2 Corinthians 3:18). You now have a special insight into the heart of God for sinners.
A breakup can be like that. It’s often more than a scar. We’re left walking with pieces of us stolen and gone, and other pieces weighing us down, unrelentingly coming back to our mind. “I can’t stop thinking about them.” Yeah, you got hit by a dirty bomb. The surgery is

This should be the punishment for rapist! what do you think guys?

you have done well my sister, may the almighty God continue to bless n increase u.
i love this.

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a good wife

October 23rd i and my nephew... i love October.

fallin, drippin, sinkin flattin all in d name. ok guys, enjoy ur lv ride. note u put on ur seatbelts n helmet. drive sale with lv. lv u guys...

waitin concern me

I got this on punch news paper and think it will be great sharing it with my sister's in the house...
Chukwuneta Oby
A carpenter that came to work for me recently was going on and on about how his younger sister has helped the family so much-economically. After a while, he became downcast and I asked what the problem was, he told me that it depresses him that the sister hasn’t brought a man to show them. As far as he is concerned, that lady is a nobody, for as long as she hasn’t become a ‘Mrs.’ All her hard work and efforts- at uplifting the family economically are all a waste…until she finds some man(even if he is the type that will be hitting her every day) to marry her. It is truly a sorry mindset.
A good friend captured it aptly when he said, “What has gone wrong is that our society is putting too much pressure on our womenfolk to get married and become ‘respectable’- so they fall for sloths ,only a few have liberated themselves from such shackles and are not ashamed to be single. I think more needs to be done in changing the thinking that a woman’s real worth is only in marriage. That way, some ladies would begin to look deeper into who they get involved with. These days, women enter into relationships with men who aren’t worth being called men; you get a woman’s head spinning simply by promising marriage. Most single ladies don’t enter into relationships here for the sake of it, they will begin to act ‘wife’ from the word go and that doesn’t go well with some men- especially those that are not ready. Some men also know that the easiest way to get some ladies is to posture as potential hubby .I still maintain that when women begin to think less of marriage as the measure of their worth (as human beings), the better for them.”
It is emotionally healthy to be involved with a worthy companion but it is myopic for a society to carry on as if a woman’s worth is determined by her marital status. As delightful as marriage seems, it doesn’t really define anybody. And a married lady is not necessarily happier than her single counterparts. There are so many supposedly married ladies who still peep out for fulfillment (not necessarily sexual…could be some sort of emotional upliftment). Let whoever that wishes to be married do so because she has found a worthy companion, not because she feels she has to be a ‘Mrs.’- to be regarded as a ‘somebody.’ I am not here to discourage anybody but it is high time we learned to put things in their proper perspective.
No lady should be made to believe she is worth nothing and that her life should stand still…until she becomes a ‘Mrs.’ The reason marriages are crumbling so fast is because of the desperation that drives people (especially ladies) into it, they do anything to get in there, only to realise (sometimes late) that marriage is just a phase of life…life itself continues!
Marriage is delightful but it is wrong to measure a woman’s worth by it. Our society does not look at an unmarried man as unkindly as it looks at an unmarried lady…most ladies do not have the emotional capability to withstand this kind of emotional pressure, so they settle for any ‘third leg’ that breezes into their lives…even the pathetic ones and the number of ‘bad marriages’ remain on the increase.
Whoever has a girl child should teach her to (first and foremost) find completeness in herself, so that if a complete man comes her way, they will grow together. Otherwise, she is better off-being alone!

You're a lady and you have the right to choose who ever you feel is ok or compatible for you, but note; you made the choice and you'll take credit if it's the right choice and also take blame if it's the wrong choice which I don't pray for you.
What makes you a mature lady or woman is ur decision. When you take decisions and can't stand on them, it mean yoU're not yet mature. In taking decision you need to predict the outcome.
There are some things you need to know about guys as a lady.
That I'll surely tell you.
1. Sex
A guy that ask for sex before marriage is not good for a husband. When he get wat he wants you won't see him again. He'll tell you is love, but does love think of himself alone?
2. Respect
A guy that don't respect a lady will not be a good husband. Respect is not only to the person yoU're dating but also people around and your family members.
3. Intelligent
An intelligent man will solve problems even in time of pressure. Tell me, if he can't solve common issues now that he is single is it when he is marry that pressure increases he will be able to do that?
4. Caring
Another important aspect is caring. As a man he must be able to care for his woman more than himself. Not by mouth alone but also the pocket or wallet.
5. Purpose
A man without purpose is a dead man standing. If he can't tell you What he intend to do in next 3yrs you need to rethink.
6. Trust
This one is very important. Trust is a builder of relationship. A relationship is bound to fail if trust is lacking. This is for both the guy and lady.
7. Definition
What i mean by definition is that, he must be able to define you. What make him like you?
If its materials things yoU're a gunner. Materials things like, yoU're beautiful. Yea, yoU're beautiful but is that why you like me? Beauty fades. Love me for who i am and not who i've become.
8. Planning
Planning is also one of the characteristics of a good husband. He must be a good planner.
9. You can add yours.........

lovely

You have done well my sister for that article. The truth of the matter is that majority of the guys commenting here are all guilty of what you just said. The ladies should also be care fully. Am a guy, but I almost become a victim of rape in the hand of a girl. We are not animals. Say no to rape! I frown at rapist! Rapist are beast in human skin....

The truth of the matter is that she has gotten one Alhaji to marry already n the only way to get you off her back is to bring religion issue. A Muslim lady will never n I say never marry a Christian. You should stand your ground brother. talk to her if she will change her mind. 2Corinthians 6:14-16 this is the test of your faith brother.
read the scripture over and over n u'll understand the message am trying to pass.