cococandy:
You guys need to work on your marriage ASAP.
You've shown her signs that you're not emotionally invested in the relationship and she's unknowingly in the look-out for something else.
If you don't do something now, it will clear in your eyes the moment she gets carried away enough to bed the fellow. She needs a serious wake up call.
Both of you.

keepingmum:
Hi poster. I have and still am in similar shoes wt u. Been married almost 11 years n the bread winner of the homem did I mention I am under 30? See my 1st topic on this forum ....

I know exactly how u feel and trust me only u can decide what's best for u.
God ll direct u aright ijn

FriedPlantain:
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In 1995, Peter Davies was on holiday in Nigeria after graduating from Louisiana State University .

On a hike through the bush, he came across a young bull elephant standing with one leg raised in the air. The elephant seemed distressed, so Peter approached it very carefully. He got down on one knee, inspected the elephants foot, and found a large piece of wood deeply embedded in it. As carefully and as gently as he could, Peter worked the wood out with his knife, after which the elephant gingerly put down its foot.

The elephant turned to face the man and with a rather curious look on its face, stared at him for several tense moments. Peter stood frozen, thinking of nothing else but being trampled. Eventually the elephant trumpeted loudly, turned and walked away. Peter never forgot that elephant or the events of that day.

Twenty years later, Peter was walking through the University of Ibadan Zoo with his teenaged son. As they approached the elephant enclosure, one of the creatures turned and walked over to near where Peter and his son Cameron were standing. The large bull elephant stared at Peter, lifted its front foot off the ground, then put it down. The elephant did that several times then trumpeted loudly, all the while staring at the man.

Remembering the encounter in 1995, Peter could not help wondering if this was the same elephant. Peter summoned up his courage, climbed over the railing and made his way into the enclosure. He walked right up to the elephant and stared back in wonder. The elephant trumpeted again, wrapped its trunk around one of Peter legs and slammed him against the railing, killing him instantly.

Probably wasn't the same _fucking elephant.


This is for everyone who sends me those heart-warming bullsh1t stories. _Fuck you all!

FriedPlantain
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softysparky:

There's nothing one won't hear in this world.
He should go to orphanage and buy a wife there.
Some parents ehhh smh

gidjah:
It is well honey, I was once there o.one or more of this may be involved, pls check ur neatness and matrimonial hygeinem, kip d home clean, and every other things around. 2. Your size is also a factor to consider ma, it may be putting him off, put your weight always in check, 3do you still cook his favorite meals ?4. He may be growing up mentally, he has to be a man of d home, paying bills , meeting needs etc all makes a man seriously go down out of sexual urge o, once he wakes up d first thing that comes to mind is 'what is d next thing to do today?,how do I go about this or that, how do I meet the f
Amilly needs?, how will d familly survive? E tcm this can make a man always disturbed and hence,...5. Lastly I hope he is not into another relation ship some where ?

exxell:
People be typing rubbish by themselves, book FTC by themselves, call out to a mod by themselves.... All to make front page. Nawa oo. Shame!

sammer4life:
Make una help me thank God oooo. I jst landed a job in one of the big time players in the hospitality industry. The salary is worth the stress. But most importantly is the prospect of career growth. I got the job link via nairaland. Attended the interview. Now the search is one. To my fellow guys in the ministry, the Lord remains our strength.

angelTI:
Oshi ati iranu ni thread yi

pwerrymansion:
The caption is never let an "ode" girl go...literally do guys really wanna date dumb girls? What then spices the relationship? Even slaves would not want to be trapped in such situation. Those qualities aforelisted are for Zombies !

Babymama1:

Now more seriously because this will eventually affect your marriage ,that's why I am responding
I don't endorse fornication.
Se.x is a covenant
Every time you sleep with someone you make a covenant with them and they can have lasting detrimental effects
You need to tell your mom or a trusted aunt about this
There is a sort of freedom that comes with sharing a deep seated pain
You've kept it private too long and it's eating you up you need to face it now
After you have told your mom,you need to let her know that you intend confronting your uncle
I suppose she may not want you to do this and may actually discourage you
But you know what you feel and you need to do this for you in order to free yourself
Whether your mom,aunt or older adults you share this with agree or not you need to go ahead with your plan
Get him at a place where you are free to speak but still private and tell him ho ha
You need no explanations there aren't any
You need to come out strong and tell him that what he did to you was wrong and that you hate what he did to you
And that he took advantage of a little helpless girl and that now you are grown and have decided to confront him and that he cannot hurt you again.
Tell him you have told family members about this and that you have forgiven him and that he ought to ask God to forgive him for that wicked act against you and against any other children he hurt the way he ought you .
You need to be strong while saying this
No tears,no shaky voices
Ra.pe is a crime of power where a stronger person victimizes the weaker
In this confrontation,you cannot allow him to be the strong one,he needs to be the weaker one so give him no chance to respond until you have said everything you want to say
And be ready to walk away if he comes with BS as a rebuttal
Watch out
1. He may deny it
2 he may call you names
But you need to have made up your mind and when you go with a mindset of what you came to accomplish you come out a winner.
Practice your lines over and over and over again till they come out perfect
Lastly,stop sleeping with your boyfriend,you don't need that
What you need is to heal from the pain and se.x with your boyfriend won't help the situation
Let him put a ring on it if he is serious about you.
And please don't take him to this encounter
You don't want drama out of it

madjune:
This is heartbreaking.
Considering the fact that this man drove round Lagos through the night and in the thick of fuel scarcity at 500naira a litre...

I can only say, my brother you gave your best.

You've suffered too much.

May God comfort you and bring blessings to renew you and our wife as we mourn the death of your baby.

So sad we suffer so much in this country.

mulanbaba:
Hello everyone

i just want to thank you again for your imput on my situation. we decided to get a separation because too much had happened.

i got admitted in hospital for nervous breakdown after meeting my former BF at the gym, so after my mental breakdown all the pain and anger i felt towards my husband wasnt healthy for me at all. i even was fantasising of stabbing him in his sleep and was physically attacking him as well. lets just say my rage was uncontrollable so we had to separate. i know am not making sense but i dont make sense lately. i am a naturrally soft, gentle and humble person but lately i am somebody else. thank u guys aam currently on antidepressant and seeing a psychiatrist

Westendel:
Why all this? why derail this thread. I only seek for your advice not you people attacking one another with your unnecessary argument.
To everyone here,post your comments and stop imposing your opinions on others.
stop this e-war. no matter how anyone proposes his or her advices to me,it is what is on mind that I will do.so stop killing or giving yourselves headaches.
I might decided to forgive and continue with him or divorce him kia kia. what ever rocks my boat.
well, well,the purpose of this thread has been achieved, time to deactivate and continue with my original moniker.
Thank you all,family nairalanders. creating this thread was therauptic ,it helped eased the pains and hurt .Can't thank you guys enough .
off to TTC health section, with my original moniker. the beauty of nairaland!
once again thank you all ,am most grateful
@phema,thanks for that wonderful prayer.it came at the right time.thanks

infotainment:
Its not scam.Mecure is a well recognised medical institution

mulanbaba:
its also true that whats hurts the most is that he cheated with my best friend. At the moment i am just numb towards him, no feelings whatsoever. i am also shocked that his best buddies are betraying him the way they are doing right now because he is currently staying at his( the one who suggested a divorce lawyer) house since he is single. So hubby is always asking him to come talk to me on his behalf but the friend comes to my house to encourage me to divorce him instead, i mean what is that?

does this mean one cant trust friends anymor? because the rate at which they are willing to backstab him shows that they dont like him at all.

and i am also deducing that my best friend must have hated me to have an affair with him.
I mean none of his friends hev anything nice to say about him to me so it shows that they have been jealous of him all along, because three of them got married after us and they are all divorced.
i am so confused because what he did is not a small thing at all, i am struggling to believe that he hasnt cheated before this incidence maybe i just never found out.



i mean how can he cheat when i perfom so well for him sexually, what was missing? how can i trust that i will ever be enough for him?
So at the moment NL is where i can say how i feel and get differeent perspective and some home truths.

did my suggesting swinging to him drove him to cheat?

How come friends he trust so much are willing to betray him so easily? are humans naturally so callous?

hahn:
My marriage isn't like this. Things like this only happen to people who get married for the wrong reasons