Abeg bros talk true. Are you sure you dont already have a Naija girlfriend by the side who you are now trying to repay for all years of patiently waiting for you? If that is not the case, you can simply engage the services of a caretaker / manager as others have advised.

She has done well for herself.

Thank you Mr Gbenga and God bless you and remember you too in your time of need.

@ poster by the way try to always keep the man's place clean oh and respect boundaries. God help your hustle.

Nice one, but what about the other women? I only see the celebs.

Phema:
@EL2015

I'm not in a position to judge you, so I'm just going to skip that part and concentrate on your questions.

Many people have asked if this lady has any other ties, but you didn't respond. Are you the only thing/person she lives for tie she has? No job, no school? This will be a huge contributory factor towards her visa issuance. Lumping a huge sum into her account will be very detrimental.

Please, the last thing you want to do is appear to be married or engaged to this lady as that is bigamy especially if you are not a muslim. It will go on your record and this will make it more difficult for you to get a US visa in the future.

She should go prepared with documents to proove her ties and your financial/business documents to proove you two can afford it. She should just say her child's father will be sponsoring.

And no, she doesn't need to have anyone in the US. Sometimes, the less people one has, the better.

Goodluck.

As a side note; I couldn't help but notice you mentioned your wife's libido. As much as I empathise with you, my little experience in life has taught me that a very happy and healthy woman/wife will not continuously deny her husband sex for months. There is a fundamental issue in your marriage and I'm sure you have an idea what it could be. Get to the root of that issue and deal with it.

You do seem like you have a good head on your shoulders with a fairly decent heart. You've got to look for a way to fix your marital problems. You cannot continue this way. How many more babymamas will you be sending to the US? How much will you keep spending on covering your tracks? You've just got to look for a way out. If not, the more you make excuses why you should 'eat out', the more you drown and lose yourself and eventually, your family.



Most times, facing our problems heads-on costs us less (in every ramification) than taking the seemingly "easy way out".

Well put

Wow!! How sad..

The level of depravity these day is becoming worrisome. Small time he will say ' an devil cause am'.

Captainswag225:
MALNOURISHED MVP

See your sharp mouth

Congratulations Nigeria, something to celebrate.

Abeg even if its a bronze we go manage am.

adeblow:
she was 8th position come dey shine teeth with person wey Don achieve

Well, she made the finals, I don't remember seeing you there!!

If you cannot wait for her, then let her go and look for another person that is ready to marry.

EfemenaXY:
To each their own.
This article at best, can be described as a haphazard, directionless piece, ranting against everything and nothing in particular.
The question, @OP, is - what are your views on this?

My thoughts exactly Ma'am

MarvellousGod:
Load of trash.... Fidelity is an individual decision. ..

So true. While I agree that some jobs take up your time and leave you with a lot less relaxation time, fidelity and faithfulness is a personal responsibility and decision.

May GOD save us in this country. This is a government that is alive to its responsibility to its citizens.
I wonder what our own government will do to protect us. :

Chillis:
At least for you to order online, you have a credit card
.. blender etc


Some of all these ones that shouts and praise those suffer heads don't even have food to chop.

The 200 naira their husbands gives them should be well accounted for while buying 50 naira ice fish and 15 naira crayfish etc.

This one can't be done online oh.

Make evribody dey him lane...

Seconded.

justwise:
She has done a priceless job in that thread. Incredible service!

Truly incredible.
Thanks Ma'am.
Wishing you all the best in all your future endeavours.

toloskhati:
The most culprit of this case is the DCO. I'm a serving police CSP. The DCO wanted the woman died so that he and his men can rewrite statement. I once had a case like this at Irele in Ondo state. I was the DCO then. What I did was to give the woman a hope of justice by summarily asked my men to manhandled the two blood testing policemen and that was the magic that gave the woman and her husband likely sense of justice and he recovery was speedy. For a dco to watch a woman dying and still allowed his men to make sole breaking speech is a misnomer.

God bless you and protect you and your family as you do your job fairly and with integrity.

Is this a trick question?

If not, then all things being equal the man should resign. But that the woman earns more is already a cause for friction in some homes so I dunno.

MarryMeee:
Its not a personal attack but its a request i dont know why you would see it as an attack. Dont tell me you already got offended, hence you thought it was an attack

It would have been nice if you used them as an example of the women you described so we cant get a better pic of what you were talking about.

,
wow! Nairaland!!
I started coming to this forum in 2005 because there would always be something funny to let me forget the stress of work.
Now 10 years after, I must say una never disappoint.
Thank you Nairalanders.

Nice, but how do you intend to go about it?

Phema:
Please go to a Sperm bank.

People will not know unless you tell them.

Exactly.....
I know of someone who also got medical reports that he couldn't father a child. He and his wife moved to a different state and adopted a baby. Two years after they had their own biological kid. Only the couple's parents know the first child isn't theirs.

Do what you feel will make you and your wife happy and make sure you're totally prepared to love that child (or children) as your own if you decide to go through sperm bank or adoption.

Rooting for and wishing you the best

nnafather:
Cheap cakes...

Purpose-driven life

hardbody:
I could not bring myself to read the first line. Whatever it is, i will not be scammed, trust me.

The poster below me has additional points to make

The man is just mentally deranged

The poor kids

adedibu6:


The Williams sisters head to head is 15-11 in favor of Serena. Venus won her last slam in 2008 and she has 7 grand slams. Richard is also no longer their coach, he's now a full husband to his young wife and father to his 3 year old son. Serena is coached by Patrick Mouratoglou while Venus is coached by David Witts

So true

isaiah9:
it's her eight Wimbledon title not sixth

It is her sixth Wimbledon singles title

wildchild1:
Congrats Serena
Cant wait for tomorrow ,the big showdown RogerFederer Vs Novak Djokovic

#TeamAnybodyCanWin but secretly wishing Roger wins

Same here especially as my tennis crush ( Rafa) seems to have gone AWOL with his game these days.

kliq:


Yeah Serena beats her on the regular, Venus was equally good until she lost her form(won her last slam exactly 3yrs ago)...She has 13 grand slams to her name while Serena is on 21 and still counting. Talented family,not forgetting their Dad(Richard) who also is their coach.

I thought Venus had 7 grandslams?

Tough one...

If the pay is good and she can get a good nanny then let her take the job. We all know how challenging it is getting a job these days.
Do either one of your mums live close by? That's another option you could explore.

If all these fail then let her stay back and take care of the baby. Hopefully another job opportunity will come then.

forgotusername:
@kreamdiva and Zikkie I just wanted to touch base and find out how everyone is. It takes a very long time to recover from the emotional scars left by an abusive relationship or bitter divorce. As such if you are still feeling the pain I would say don't you worry much about it these things take time.

I am doing better everyday my kids have flourished and are doing so well. I hope you and children are all well. here's to us making it!!!!

Been following the thread. Nice to know you and the kids are doing great. Wishing you all the best.

Rug rats

bayusdipe:
don't u think the man on RED top also need help at all?

Una don start.

Great gesture by the group. I hope and pray they are able to follow through on their promises.