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SimeonOTC:
very very true

I tell people. It's not even in books. I tell people. The very first thing to look out for if one funds a lover is their "psyche", their ability to be... That ability to remain in a state/phase without been tossed to and fro by external issues. Only people with a very stable core can form stable relationships. And unfortunately many sorry most people aren't stable psychologically. They're tuned by anxieties, worries, insecurities, words of friends, family pressure. People are mad thesedays but don't know. How then can they form stable bond with people when they can't be at peace with themselves first

frozen70:
But for how long

I mean till what stage in life will you end it

If you are scared of what women does and their antics then you need some lectures from dad

I won't stress it for a woman. Not fear. I just won't tolerate an infidel under my roof. Even acting like she has my best interest at heart when it's the opposite. I don't want to die from a woman's hands abeg. There are more honorable ways for me to die as a man.

frozen70:
In this case now, he has been guiding her to avoid her falling into the wrong hand and she wants to loose the grip

Let her have her freedom because am very sure she may not get a guy like him though it will take so many heart breaks to achieve that

By the time she comes back, the road is already blocked

Straying is more psychological than the way people treat it. Someone was doing same around me, quick I find am tfare move. My principle about life is simple. I allow people to stray and move on. Ba da mu wa. But I won't be anyone's rebound. Be it friend, lover, pastor or associate. My golden rule is be responsible for your actions and act responsibly. He's jittery to due his emotional investment. I think I should advice him Happy heartbreak in advance cause no matter what he does when people go through this phase of wanderlust, words don't appeal to them unless them miss road suffer a few bullet wounds. Some don't even recover for life. Many ladies who are single till deep 40 and 50lost a chance like this in their 20s.assuming more guys will come. For where. Wu sai. Many dey mountain as we speak eating all sorts of concoction, cook towtow join, yet new husband no gre come. Karma is a bit h. It has a way of making people pay badly when they miss their chances.

frozen70:
Lol, like I said, I don't support a woman taking advantage of a gentleman

But I will fight any man that maltreats a woman just because he feels she is a lesser being

My sister we men have lost hope if na woman matter. Its beginning to feel and look safer to have multiple sex mates outside than have a committed-to lady. It strips a man of his peace of mind and mental health. Just imagine calling a call girl she does the service, pay her to go. Next time get another one. No strings attached. Abeg na peace of mind sure pass. No stress

NwaAmaikpe:




Ask men suffering from premature ejaculation how come they can not tell their sperm not to cum when it is ready to cum even when they are not?

The answer is this;
You simply can't hold back what doesn't want to stay.

Find peace, let her go and move on.
Live is too short for all the fun and kpekus in it,
Don't waste yours because unlike in football, there will be no extra time added.

There are plenty girls out there looking for men like you to lie to them that they love them.

Masterpiece

Viicfuntop:
. They probably sent each other a dm.

This is sweeter than apple cider.

frozen70:
You guys have gone a long way and I appreciate all you dropped here about your involvement in your relationship

She could be under pressure from her family to get settled of which you are willing but not financially prepared

Girls between the ages of 18yrs to 25yrs, are not always serious with relationships because they believe they are at their pick if youthfulness and guys are rolling on them, even the ones that will dismantle their hearts

The more you love them the more they feel they will get another one who will offer more not knowing that a bed in hand worth two in the Bush

They can be very materialistic thinking that getting money is easy not knowing that guys goes through alot to have the little they have and still provides for them

Sit her down and talk senses to her

Let her know thst those guys she is looking up to are wolves and they will break her heart

Let her know tgat if she can't be with you and needed freedom, you will grant it to her but if by any chance she decides to come back and there is no vacancy, she won't be accepted

But you know what, she wants to learn the hard way, if she insist, let her be

Sometimes we don't value what we have until we loose it

I don't get it. How come your writing tone sounds so relaxed/calm. What did you do today. Oya o confess

crackkhaus:
Uyaiincomparabl must see this.

That chick that looks 19. Is that one doing yanga for you too?

crackhaus:
She no wan talk na.
I'm waiting for her to tell me her mind.

I've asked her what she wants before, sometime in December last year and she ran away, refused to respond till date.

She has great deep love for you. She's only female. Permit her to act tact now she has revealed her heart and intent towards you. Just give her time. Try later again. You know ladies. They want to do things when they feel most comfortable. And with her emotions off the charts, she prolly may be thinking towards recovering gravity before she communicates with you... But this one down fall for you o.

Viicfuntop:
I back you up. Their flirtation game is on point. I actually liked it. You could see the subtle way of them flirting

Babe I sipped wine watching the whole flirtation brouhaha. If only wishes came true, I would have wished them both together.

Fountainofyouth:
Lol you're funny.

Be deceiving yourself.

crackhaus:
Lol, me I'm always ready.. but shyness has made her not respond to any mentions, and she is online.
This kind of exposure is not what she bargained for.

I know that introverted women are terrible fvcks anyway, can you confirm this fountainofyouth?

She's interested. Don\t let her out of your hands. She has been online all day with fantasies of you and her. Maintain course bro

crackhaus:
If we find ourselves alone in a room, she will run mad.

She seems like someone that will be begging me with tears in her eyes to take it easy.

Fountainofyouth Crackhaus Both of you come abeg una two. Make una two leave pride aside hook up privately, i love what i feel here,\\\Back me up Viicfuntop

Another towtow wahala thread

pryme:
And how do you know the guy will leave after having sex?
It doesn't matter if the guy has sex or not, what matters is if the guy has good intentions.
And no sane man will want to end up with a woman that uses sex as a bargaining chip, its a complete turn off.

The guy could agree to the no sex thing but he is having it elsewhere, now since he is not "disturbing" for it, does this makes him a good guy?
You guys dont have any strategy that can decipher a man, even if there is this is not one of them.
The only thing is you should pray you come across a good man, but then again you will push him away with your "strategy".

Besides how do women loose by having sex in a relationship? Or you leave everything to chance and hope you guys are sexually compatible?

When you start a relationship you either go all the way or you dont bother at all.

I picked a point. Very important point many ladies make. Mistake on. They pray for a good person, and then the person comes, they push him away with their "strategy"

streetsoldier1:
I tried all I could to save face, just have to end it all after discovering that the single mother I married still contacts her ex regularly...

Despite forgiving her several errors even while we got engaged, she still has the guts under my roof to mess up.

Warning guys, never ever marry a single mother that has been messed up!!!
6 years was messed up!!!

Give us more gists soldier

tartar9:
Many people confuse their social anxiety disorder for introvertedness.

I actually believe introversion is acute social anxiety disorder. Albeit not psychologically sick but mental wired..

I believe people need to write about being introverted and astrology. If you belong to a sign I believe the chances of introversion would be high. For example I can tell Fountainofyouth that troublesome gal was born around the last four month of the year.... So introversion and personality forming is also directly linked with one's broth sign astrologically too

LJ1759:
crackhous & fountainofyouth, why dont you two love birds just admit to loving each other, its so obviously embarrassing that you two keep ranting to each other and secretly admiring each other. next thing we see on front page ''TWO NAIRALANDERS PRE-WEDDING PHOTOS'' (crackhous & fountainofyouth)

It's just two obvious my guy crackhaus and Fountainofyouth are not just in love but madly in love with one another. If the both of them can leave pride alone and do the needful, the expected could occur. But if for a fling, if this two find themselves in a room, I feel very sorry for the foundation of that building, even the walls will not be spared from the exothermic energy their infusion would produce. O ma bad gan So crackhaus, Fountainofyouth both of you stop playing hard and do the needful.

Fountainofyouth:
When we are always at opposite end, why will I be obsessed with you? Give me one good reason?

Crackhaus and you need a room. Damn too much repressed energy felt here

crackhaus:
Just imagine.

Two is crowd for you, you would rather be alone locked up for hours, your only social media presence is right here and you should have been taking advantage of this to form/have healthy relationships to at least nurture your mental/emotional health, yet you still chose to spend it fighting, insulting, and surrounding yourself with so much negative energy...
Don't you get drained?

I'm actually starting to feel bad for being too hard on you all this while, when all you need is love.

Bro. R u trying to make me healthserv donate a tear drop

SimeonOTC:
o.p i will share with u my story if i can still even remember them self..

exactly what you are passing through, same age, same year of dating (5yrs), same graduate like you, same admission wahala (that made her left me)..everytin almost alike bt b4 i start, u better listen to this man and screenshot this comment..

cux o.p, whether you like it or not, start getting ready to park, your 5year subscription is about to expire..

dnt look at me like that oga i knw what am saying

Wetin I no go c for nairaland. Na which one be 5 years subscription again



Anyway as an elder. I healthserve will continue to hit matters on its head. I leave by saying marriage more than often ultimately will determine if an individual will live long or die young but sadly too many men especially jump into relationships without considering this. All for the sake of a. Lousy fling

Albert Einstein didn't create nuclear bomb nor the events that led to it despite being ascribed as the father of nuclear physics.

frozen70:
I wouldn't want to put the whole blame in the women, the men too has a fraction of the blame

But incompatible partners that lack understanding can never make a successful marriage

Not speaking on the success of marriage but on the failure this time around. Havent you observed the zeal to move out of marriage at the flip of an heart with your sisters. I hold psychological instability for this. Like we the elders would say, you rush in, you rush out. Unfortunately too many marriages depend on konji as their starting point.


Konji na serious bastard

frozen70:
Your mum is right in her statement, some women are growing with the mentality that men should do all expenses at home

But I am against that, women have to contribute to support the men in family because its not easy to carry family load

Only the married one's will understand better

My dear sister. I'm sure you can tell from the massive toll of divorces cases you come across in your field that it won't be wrong to say that lots of ladies of the younger generation have lost it

funmisticqueen:
Thank God it is coming from you. Cos if I type now, people will call me names. He should understand that she is a human being, a person and not a piece of clay. He seems controlling, no wonder she feels stifled.

I've never been pro-men or pro-female. I've always been pro-healthy relationships and you know it. Let's leave that aside, are you saying you've considered my offer

Nooil:
Because he begged and begged like men in love so and she accepted like the natural woman she is

My dear not every woman in a marriage loves her husband one bit. But we don't see them all running out of their marriages as they consider they family and children's nurturing and upbringing. A. Wanderlust and greedy woman is a greedy and unstable woman simple



Have you ever wondered why psychologists would say " All of man's problems arises from his inability to sit still on a chair". My dear there are people who won't remain in play no. Matter how comfortable. And it's because they have inner instability. Controlled by their inner innate instability and every thing that moves externally around them. These kinds can never remain in good position for long. They soon give way to their instability list. This is who Dakore is. Even Dabota Lawson who came out complaining bitterly is still in her marriage. Omotola despite attention is still in check somehow. So. You know the square root of what I'm saying.. There are people who are only good as lovers for the moment and not the long haul. And this makes them unfit for marriage. Not that they are bid. But they are misfits. This is whom I paint her to be. Looking at the facts from past and present in front of me

etrange:
Women have suffered. You don't care to know what really transpired, who did what or what she might have suffered in there. Your first action is to attack the woman. Your type will still ask "why didn't she leave" if something terrible had happened to her in that marriage.

Y'all have thrown your consciences away in the name of toxic masculinity.

Tufia!

Look at this foool trying to sound intelligent and paint me in bad light. Marriage belongs more to a woman foool. And the home and marriage heavily lies more upon the woman than on a man. Oote. You better work on the lens through which you view people.. If a marriage fails its over 80% a woman's decision and desire. Oode.you better have sense. You're stupeed enough not to read many passages on men being advised on women to and not to marry abi. Why is this of not the deeper understanding that a marriage and family nurturing heavily belongs to a. Woman. You full. Na me you wan use take shine abi. Oode. You low life clout chaser. Don't ever mentioning me in your entire existence here

Zeal0000007:
thanks but I don't buy into that school of thought, I can't imagine her with someone else then after getting messed up, I now accept her back, she's not the only girl in the world, just that I love her so much and 5years no be play, I have really gotten used to her, but if she ever hurt me again, I will just let her go,

You don't love her from your energy displayed here. You're acting like you own her. And this may be proving her right. Give her breathing space for the sakes of God. You're overtly obsessed


You're depriving her own her judgement, decision and the opportunity to make you her choice. You will inherit an unhappy girl if you keep her forcefully hinged to yourself. Set her free, if the love is real, she'll come back to you. This is the golden rule

I suggest this thread makes FP. To have a wider audience. I'm sure it'll pull much traffic. Help people in the same boat understand better and contribute more opinions on the subject matter

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DNSPro:
One of my ex didn't take me serious until she had to go round, get forked badly and then tried to come back to me... Which was too late.

Its how they are programmed.

It is bro