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Omar09:
So long as we are humans, no matter how strong we bond, we can never be indestructible. Still soulmate is for them teenagers.

Sir I stand with sassy sure. They're are relations that can be termed indestructible both by the spirit of the letter and by its words. Yes. It exists

My waist o. We men and romance sob tales

AmazingELixir:
My friend looking at the wreckage, you don't need a sooth sayer to tell you the occupants of that vehicle had left this world before the fire broke out..even a fire truck wouldn't have saved them.

Excpet for that. But then people don't just die like that. With the body of the car left intact

Originalsly:
Do you know if they had fire extinguishersss in the car?.... did it occur to you that they were trapped in the car and couldn't get out to save their lives let alone to get fire extinguisher? It is not normal for a car to crash and bust into flames unless travelling at high speeds. Maybe they had petrol in containers in the car. Too many people underestimate how easily petrol can be ignited... they usually focus on the actual liquid but never consider the vapour.
Sad....everyone trapped... everyone killed.

If multiple persons with two fire extinguishers are trapped. Using two full extinguishers should contain the damage help break one or two glasses and free one or two persons. That all got burnt without a fight points to the fact that there wasn't fire extinguisher to give them the opportunity of a fight

cococandy:
Quoted you because I didn’t know the two accounts are the same.

You my enemy? Lol

You take yourself too seriously

Nah don't be distractive. You claimed we bashed women, please shame me by bring it to the forefront where and how we did besides your unintelligent misinterpretations and assumptions

crackhaus:
Girl can't you read?
The OP already stated clearly that what he feels is occasional loneliness because he spends time working and reading, yet there are times he still just feels lonely.

It's no longer a matter of you could be right or I could be right, when the OP has already determined who is right.

She's overly pushing it. Smh. She's blind to the real point. I'm dissapointed by her very unintelligent interpretations. I kinda wonder what their soul lens is comprised of..

cococandy:
Kunle I didn’t even know you’re the same account as the healthcare (or something) account. I wouldn’t have quoted that your post even though I agreed with it. I would have just read and moved on.

That’s what I usually do for accounts that I know for certain are bent on disrespect. Like you can’t even agree with them without them finding a way to turn around and give a low unnecessary blow. How much more when you disagree with them. Then it’s all ad hominem and personal attacks that’s usually not related to the topic.

Or trolling with multiple troll accounts.

So kunle is healthcare. Noted

I dey my own jeje you quoted me

Before you continue with the emotional tirade, I've never been discreet about my identity to you and our enmity. I also didn't dismiss your opinion and accorded you with respect and great civility in our interactions. I only asked you one thing to point out one instance alone where I derided women, or bashed ladies or treated y'all with disrespect. If you can atleast be as rational and intelligent as you claim, we will have a more meaningful conversation. Don't you agree?

Follow whatever your instincts says

crackhaus:
Lol
Rewards which in the context of NL would include a big pat on the back for being attractively mature, for being a gentleman, and being respectful.

Count me out mehn, I cannot abide.

Hahahaha, I'm cracked up and open

iRyan:
Can you provide substantial evidence out side your holy book that Jesus is the only channel to God

Jesus is not the only channel to the spiritual realm boy. But Jesus is the only way to God. You can fight if you like, your call. You can choose to seek answers from other people the basis behind this statement, your call. You can be protective of your religion to the point of not engaging a contrary perspective/opinion, your call.

I only dished the truth and remainunapologetic about it.


Tsangoma can access the spiritual, psychics can, Buddha and Hindu can, demonism can, the terrestrial and the principalities in the air can, but whom the Almighty chooses as whom a King confers the inheritor of His throne is. JESUS. The spiritual and the heart of the Father are two different things, much as eternal damnation and eternal glory are two different things. In the end some minutes after death, reality danws on every individual irrespective of choice and decision.


We have tested these truths and have found them to be worthy of its implications

fieryy:
Perhaps I am over analysing things, perhaps I'm also not. I already stated why I had come to my conclusions.

"Once I sense a whiff of indifference or disinterest by a woman, I flee to protect my ego"




"I firmly believe that a man’s value is inextricably tied to his economic worth"

"This has discouraged me from initiating a chase as I think it won’t be worth it in the end as it will all end up with the money issue."

That in my opinion is not of someone who has a healthy self esteem and or is truly unbothered.

If you ask someone out, you should accept rejections as well as being accepted. Everyone has their reason, some more reasonable than others. Someone with a healthy self esteem wouldn't be bothered. Everyone is free to have their preferences.

Albeit could be your interpretations of events


Furthermore, being on the defensive to protect ego could be hinged on alot of other factors besides a weak/unhealthy esteem. To narrow it down so hastily as ill esteem is what we're saying is an hasty move here. Not that your points are entirely. Invalid

Noticed how you started with " your interpretations".


BTW babe how far, this is the longest you've stayed on a thread since I've know you... Are we safe..

iRyan:
how do you know gods only approved channel is Jesus? Other channels are Satan approved abi?
Intelligent animals but no so intelligent after all sheesh

Lol. Streaking a few seemingly intelligent words shouldn't be equated with intelligence. Simply put in the scriptures, no one goes to the father except by me, Jesus. And lots of scriptural backings. Next time, seek to understand and not to attain understanding by being combative


Don't bother replying. Google can help you in your quest for more scrpitual proofs

uninspired07:
Allow her to continue her reconstructing half truths from my posts. I know what she’s doing but it doesn’t work. She feels this is romance section where you can shut guys up by calling them broke or undesirable.

I love your mental/psychological stability. It's something that's very very admirable...

fieryy:
Did you even read my post? I never claimed his reason of loneliness is due to him not having a partner, but him having a low self esteem.

He cares too much about what others think of him. His reasons of not asking girls out is not because he does not feel like or see it as sth. necessary, but because of them rejecting his advances.

His reason for wanting to earn a lot of money is also based on him feeling unworthy of being loved if otherwise.
You don't claim to be unbothered, if you care that much about what others think about you.

I agree with your line of reasoning, but you're overly reading meanings that weren't conveyed. Never in any part of his posts did I see all these.


Rejection is normal. Trust me we men know. Until full financial stability is attained, a man is doomed to continous rejection. I only wondered how women like Mrs. Ameachi got married to a broke ordinary English graduate at this time, or Mrs Thorpido from here or Goodluck, who later became president. I wonder what those women saw to choose to settle for broker dudes

uninspired07:
Don’t mind her. She’s just projecting & trying to chip away at my confidence. What a futile effort.

Be careful fierry isn't ordinary. She's one of the few females ill be wary of, if I were you. She's damn fiery

Biglittlelois:
Deflection and small mindedness, that's what you're showing here, your comment is your comments, there is no freshness and new perspective or interpretation of you saying "menopause causes bitterness and is self inflicted, people like you portray yourself to the world as reasonable, tolerating and unbias, but within yourself, you are struggling with keeping your crass, hate-filled, female bashing venom in check, some days you try and succeed, other days, you lash out when you cant help yourself, today is one of those days,

A man that cannot see faults in his negative comment, who is trying to justify his use of a natural phase to belittle females, just to be seen or perceived as woke, while getting an online pat on the back from his ilks here, is not to be taken seriously or regarded as worthy in any ramification.

I call out people, whether male or female, I call them out when there is a negative generalisation or untrue words of any gender, this is a forum where people learn, not a gender competition or degradation just to appease whoever, enough said.

Comprehension issues with stiffnecked-ness. Simply put, point where I've put down women and how and I'll hand you my password to deactivate my account. And I won't return

fieryy:
And where in my post did I say a woman is a cure for his loneliness? I'm simply calling him out for what also you think he is : "confident".

OP is everything, but confident. I already talked about this earlier. Loneliness is sometimes attributed to a low-self esteem, which I believe applies to Op's case as well.

Thesedays everyone comes up with terminologies and that it springs up on Google almost makes it a fact if not challenged. How loneliness equates low self esteem defeats me. As even God saw single men at a phase of being lonely even without a woman and chose to create/bring in a woman. If a man can be lonely before the creation/entrance of a woman, then loneliness has little to nothing to do with female companionionship/confidence but a feeling of numbness brought about by inactivity or inability to fill a void.


So a man can be lonely with or without a woman, and thus isn't I confident because he's lonely. Let's not get it twisted here.


Cc Pansophist Franchasng crackhaus

bukatyne:
If you are someone spiritual enough to be led to a lady, then you would chase her extra.

If you feel that there are plenty fishes in the sea and you can point and kill, no need wasting a lot of time.

I believe in soul mates and that one person perfect for you. Most people rely on God to lead them to the person. Picking your soul mate from 3 billion people is an herculean task.

Of course, you can marry others and the marriage will be OK.

Nothing beats a perfect soul mate, but then meet me in the middle is the right way to go about it thesedays not to be termed desperate.

May it never be our potion. Except for my lovely Gift. Her smile could light up the planet. Guy wake up

pansophist:
No, I didn't write or imply that a man's worth is dependent on how women perceived him, but that women find men with resources attractive. Two different things. My stance is also implied by the link I posted, which shows what women consider attractive in men (the subject being women), not what men think women find attractive in them, got it?

Well, you can call money a servant or paint it anyhow you want it, but whether men like it or not, women will always judge a man from the depth of his pocket (ceteris paribus), not from the kindness of his heart. It hard pill to swallow I know, but that is what is it. Women, kids, and dogs are loved unconditionally, but men are loved on the condition that they can provide (Chris Rock). Women are human beings, men are human-doing. A woman will attract a man just for being a woman (with intrinsic values such as beauty, youthfulness), a man attracts a woman with extrinsic values such as his resources and social status. Of course, exceptions apply, but for the whole of human history, this has been the rule, which still didn't change.

Fact!

Mindfulness:
Now you are playing the victim part? How sweet.



Didn't know I was having more influence on Nigeria than Aisha Buhari.

Who's Aisha Buhari

crackhaus:
Very real.

You can imagine someone implying that the OP will remain lonely because he has no woman.
What else would be responsible for this brand of illusion if not the syndrome?

The gameplay is real. It advocates all forms of rewards in exchange for good/princessly treatment, and no contrary stance to the female's POV

crackhaus:
Take note uninspired07, having a woman by your side is NOT the cure for loneliness.
Don't let that feeble attempt at striking your confidence take hold.


Read the experience of fykes below again:


The best solution is always to seek ways to deal with the loneliness you feel and after you succeed, then you can get a woman.

The reasons for this include but are not limited to:
1. You will be more attuned to selecting a woman with near-perfect accuracy...ergo, you will not be motivated by the need to fill a vacuum.
2. You will not need her as an emotional anchor during the course of the relationship because you are very stable in your own emotions.
3. You will not tolerate her bad behaviour for fear of losing her.
4. If she does end up breaking up with you, you will not return to that feeling of emptiness and loneliness.

@Point 4. That's why I told him to personally develop the feelings a partner would stimulate in him without a personal/internally, and personally.

Lmao

pansophist:
At the bolded, it is not entirely true, especially in relation to Nigerian women (caveat observed). I hope to see the day that the average man will be attracted to just for being a man with inherent qualities such as depth of convictions and strength of character, but at best, it remains an idealistic pipe dream as opposed to a liveable reality. As someone that has been on the opposite side of both spectrum, my inherent qualities was only noticed when it was allied with an idea that I am well-off, not just a stand-alone.

Inherent qualities in a man, that is not simultaneously allied with financial capability is usually not respected. I think Basketmouth made a joke one time, that a rich man can wear an okrika shirt and girls will gush over him, labeling him with cool names like being down to earth, simple and other spicy words, but such privileges are not afforded to the average joe that dresses in the same sense.

Also, I was reading pew research about what women find attractive and consider important in men, and it was his career/profession, things that link to his financial stronghold. If you peruse the link below, you would see that for women, a mans financial capability is the second most important, even before qualitative traits such as intelligence, physical attractiveness, family-oriented, etc, and most importantly, the statistics were done on the richest country in the planet, the USA. Now imagine if it would be done in a poverty-stricken country like Nigeria, the answer is better imagined.

https://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2017/12/05/americans-see-different-expectations-for-men-and-women/

From my lived experienced, my success with women has largely increased after becoming financially well-off, that is an incontestable fact, even though I consider myself to be good-looking and with inherent qualities you mentioned as far back when I was a teenager. A man's value will always be connected to his financial standings if not, then money will not be one of the major reasons for divorce, and ugly old men marrying young wives (not mentioning any names here ). Truly, there are women out there that will love a man for who he is (as opposed to ''what'' he is), but the numbers are infinitesimally small to be found in statistics, especially in Nigeria. Money gives a man confidence, as romance is sweeter with finance, especially in this materialistic world we inherited.

kunleweb, franchasng, healthserve, uninspired07

My brother watch them call for your head because you used the term, Nigerian women. If these ilks are busy throwing the ideology that a man only needs to have positive self esteem to be admired then, ask them why majority of them are single and if they don't have suitors all over asking for thier hands.


My brother I was shocked when a lady friend that's a sister I speak with soul to soul on the forum told me she had over 75 suitors. If being loved, and loving irrespective of possessions are as these things claim, then lots of Opay riders ought to be wedding medical doctors every other weekend and hir dressers getting married to oil tycoons

Biglittlelois:
You did not answer my questions Kunle, I read that comment with hate because it was totally unnecessary and uncalled for, and because I perceive that you made that comment with hate, prove me wrong by answering my question without bias and I will take you serious,

And bukatyne did not reply or quote that comment, she only replied to the back and forth you both had, which were valid FYI.

Your mind's default set is altering basic reality from your viewpoint. If you took off the mind-less, and perhaps read through the same comments of mine again this time with freshness and new perspective, perhaps you'll be able to gain accurate interpretation of my points.


Better put, I'm not responsible for your comprehension issues. It's your responsibility not mine

Mindfulness:
Nothing easier than that.

Yawns. You're inconsequential. Trust me

I don't get it. Two little stooges

Mindfulness:
I know you can't. The desperation is obvious.

Didn't I say earlier that politeness is more than often interpreted as weakness. Get your tiny nyansh off my view joor

Biglittlelois:
Kunleweb/healthserve, explain in details, what menopause has to do with this thread, of which menopause, a natural phase all women will experience, explain how menopause is a self inflicted condition and makes one exudes bitterness.

If you read my comment without hate perhaps you'll see that I was speaking about "damaged women", something even Bukatyne observed and we discussed about with good civility

Biglittlelois:
I noticed that after cococandy quoted your bashing ladies comment, you couldn't quote her on that because you were caught on that, instead, you choose to go personal by attacking her persona, same thing you just did to me, trying to justify your crassness for lack of a better point to make, forgetting that, you tried to brag about mentorship of females and having mostly ladies in your family, as if an evidence of that will change your faulty mentality and mindset of women, you just displayed the CHARACTER OF A TYPICAL NAIRALAND MALE, though you tried to make it unnoticeable with your diction, of which I say, you try.

Hahaha you see why I keep saying you're seeing things that aren't there. Apart from the fact that I've consistently taunted cococandy as shiny skull over the years, I've never attacked her persona just like that and consider her to be a classy, strong, intelligent, independent, strong-willed woman, but doesn't mean I should bow to whining. No, I don't need validations trust me. I don't give a fvck.