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whyteteeth:
Eversince this lockdown I have been home with my parents and there is a way my dad looks at one particular lady whenever she comes around to buy things in my mother's shop which I think is inappropriate. He teases her and calls her sweet names also. As a guy I have tried not to take it serious since it's one thing a lot of men do but I am beginning to suspect my dad for trying to have an extramarital affair with this said woman. She is beautiful though and she is still a young woman while my dad is in his fifties.

Now today, My father asked this same woman who happens to be a female tailor and makes female clothes to help him fix a zip in one of his trousers, which has possibly gone bad.

The woman blushed and didn't really give him much attention or any reasonable answer while he was busy saying it repeatedly till the woman left. I find this a little bit disturbing and inappropriate and possibly giving wrong signals. I mean it's not like it's a new clothe the woman was making for him or something. .

Another reason why I find this inappropriate and indecent is that, the zip can actually be fixed by any of these aboki people that mend clothes. Aboki do pass around my area every now and then, even yesterday they passed. So I want to know if my dad is up to something? And if he is, well i will just know for knowing sake.

The reason(s) for your suspicion is very flimsy.

OchoL:
I'm a silent reader on this forum and noticed this myself.. she sure does have a lot of arselickers.

Hehe. Turns out you were right afterall. Her "arselickers" surely have arrived
AKA pocohantas, vyolet and co - won't be surprised if it's the same person running all these accounts. LOL.

Alennsar:
I guess you didn't know what really happened but you're putting your mouth isn't it?

He was busy insulting all the women folks in a degrading manner, insulting peoples parents and wife even after someone corrected him and you expect me to be quiet. No i can't because he does not exhibit the character of a well trained person..

I'm not a serial beggar and i have my own personal job that earns me money. If not for the lock down what would make beg.

And moreover God has been faithful to me since the past three weeks without anybody support

After spending hours trading words and insulting someone, you have the nerve to mention God? Smh.
Nigerians and fake religiosity - you're actually worse than the guy.

Alennsar:
Seems you are trained properly to mind your business and moreover i didn't beg from you both nor did i do it secretly. I did not force anyone to give me, so what

Birds of the same feather.

But you begged for food on a public platform didnt you? Lol.
Continuosly insulting him doesn't make you look any better - just saying.

Alennsar:
Please leave that mindless idiot and he's nothing but a tout. omo irankiran

Is it because he exposed you for begging on NL? Coz I don't understand your beef with the guy.

Vyolet:
Respect to those that earn that little, I do not mean to spite anyone.

What i am saying is, that 50,000naira is not enough monthly in Nigeria of today so if someone spends that kinda money, the man has no right to call her wasteful.

I beg to differ. It's his money at the end of the day and as someone rightly pointed out on the front page, she needs to work and contribute to the household for her to truly appreciate the value of any amount her husband gives her.
Gone are the days when households survive on a single income. Women need to stop feeling so entitled.

Diiiamoond:
I’m a nurse, obviously anxious about what dangers and nightmares lie ahead, and my Husband has just said that I don’t have to go to work if I don’t want to, and he’d rather us live on just one wage if it meant I could be kept safe.
Has anyone else working in hospitals ever felt so nervous about what’s to come that they’d consider leaving?

You are free to quit if you want. Everyone has the right to be selfish and look out for themselves.

As for me, my decision to practice medicine was born out of sheer love for humanity and a passion to save lives.

I will not give up just because of a mere virus of which most who contract it eventually recover. I take my registrar status in public health very seriously and will continue to play my part in curbing this virus.

dancok:
Huh, stay in Nigeria jor, u Doctor don't appreciate God, ur salary in Nigeria is a prayer point for some people, u Nigeria Doctors like money too much, and e no dey show for ur body o, upon all d money, na stingy stingy, no dress sense, mchweeeew.

How much salary? Don't for a second think doctors are paid so much like that. Take LUTH for example, do you how many months and how frequently they delay paying salaries? If not for the private hospital I work at, I doubt I'd be able to even afford rent.

As a doctor, I'm faced daily with an immense pressure to live up to certain standards. We have to drive certain cars, carry ourselves a certain way, give handouts to every family member who feels you are better off than they are. It's been a stressful existence so far practicing medicine in Nigeria, it's not all glitz and glam as it seems.

rain21:
she's intelligent, she's down to earth, she's blabla bla.., meaning you are already taking sides with your brother's wife and your wife is the now the one with inferiority complex.

that could even be the reason why she doesn't want to move___you are comparing the two women and probably flow well with your brother's wife more than with your own wife.your wife has seen the signs already and will rather prefer she stays home since she has a very good paying job here.

relocate, get a good job and then come for your family.consider living in a separate town far from your brother's to avoid frequent clash from the women. the two will still settle laslas

Its shocking that you would interpret my words this way. Is it a crime to compliment my brothers wife?

Truth is she's truly a lovely woman and if I'm to be fair, my wife was the one who started this whole beef with her attitude.

Of course I stuck by my wife throughout the whole ordeal but this is an anonymous forum where I can admit the truth.

ezugegere:
Must it be UK? Why can't you think of another country except UK?

UK is my choice.
- More opportunities, the pay is superb..
- Got friends and few family members there (so I won't face loneliness)
- I like the UK way of life.

LilMissFavvy:
There are people who are naturally not fascinated about living abroad, they love their Homeland, they are contented, especially if things are working for them. Your wife is gainfully employed, just like you, she lives independently, yet you think it will be easy for her to accept to travel abroad and go and squat in your elder brothers house. Oga, make money, enough money then convince your wife that when you travel abroad she will not be a squatter in someone's house.

Whatever views you have concerning your elder brothers wife does not matter, what matters here is that your wife and your brothers wife do not get along well, atimes some relatives cannot just ''gell'' together, you cannot force it. Personally, I don't know if I would be happy to leave my home to travel abroad to squat in a relatives house, you may say the squatting will be temporary, but you can't be so sure. Your wife does not want to be part of such drama. So make more money, assure her you will rent a home over there and see her reaction.

Notice I said MIGHT.. with a doctors salary I can obviously afford to get a place of my own but it's my preference to stay with bro for a while as we settle into a new environ.

I'm a medical doctor by profession and completed my residency over a year ago. However, I'm currently frustrated with the state of things in this country. I work endlessly, shuffling between a public hospital here in Lagos as well as also doing some consulting on the side in a private hospital – all to make ends meet.

Many of my fellow medical practitioners have relocated abroad and are all doing tremendously well for themselves earning fat salaries. My friends have tirelessly encouraged me to also make that move but for the past 3 years now, I’ve be peddling a lie that I’m 'comfortable' here in Nigeria. What many don’t know is that MY WIFE is the main reason why I’ve not been able to even attempt the exams not to talk of passing and eventually relocating.

Her reasons?

I have an elder brother who currently lives in the UK – he’s an engineer doing incredibly well for himself. He is married to a fellow Nigerian who is a naturalised citizen abroad but here’s the problem, my wife cannot stand the thought of moving to the UK because of an ongoing issue with my brother’s wife. I can’t go into much detail lest I digress, but my wife has always had this inferiority complex that my sister in-law will look down on her because she was raised abroad and comes from a wealthy home. These two have never gotten along from the very beginning and things have deteriorated to the point that this has affected my relationship with my bro. I personally like my brother’s wife, she’s an intelligent and down to earth lady and we got along so well until I met and married my wife. My brother and I have both tried to get our wives to reconcile but to no avail and now that I could potentially move abroad, this matter has been a major stumbling block affecting my ability to forge ahead in life.

Every time I try to talk sense into my wife, she flares up and refuses to admit the truth, rather she’d claim that her reasons for not wanting to move abroad is because “the grass isn’t greener on the other side”, “people are suffering abroad”, “she’s comfortable with her job here in Nigeria” etc.. but deep down we both know that she doesn’t want to give my sister-in law the satisfaction of seeing us move to the UK for a better life – coupled with the fact that we might have to squat with them for a while before finding my feet.

I am depressed but do a fantastic job at hiding it but the truth is, It breaks my heart every time yet another colleague of mine relocates abroad with his family and then tells me of how conformable life is over there and how much doctors are being paid – it’s not that I’m jealous, I genuinely feel happy for my guys, but just can’t help but feel stuck and unfulfilled with how things are going in my career and personal life.