Heiterkeit watching below again at the mention of cococandy's name.

Ariza:
[s]Deep down within you, I know you know the answer you seek but your quest to drag the women folk, you decide to feign ignorance. I wonder what you all gain from dragging ladies on this forum[/s]. Does it pay bills?

Yep it pays my bills. Happy now?

faithfull18:
Because Nigerian men start acting up when their wives give birth to girls only like it's the women's fault.

It's no one's fault really. I would've thought that by now, a confirmed theory would have been developed in a way that allows us determine the gender of a child without the use of medical intervention such as sperm selection etc..
Theories such as sex position, high calorie intake, chinese chart etc.. have all proven to be unreliable.

doitforyou:

It’s because OP didn’t create this thread in good faith.

Of course I didn't. Lol. Grow up.

Mizwisdom:




See, you have two boys now you want a girl, it's the same with most people, having two or more of one gender makes you desire the next. If your wife was actively pressing you for a female child, you will feel it more same way if a woman is being pressed for a male child by her husband. As a married man, the fact that this issue is on your mind is queer. Men don't usually banter about this, are you a religious or a counsellor? I'm a bit curious as to why you feel the need to create this topic. You can simply ask the women who visit you with their problems, why they have such problems in the first place.

Last time I checked, this was a free forum where anyone has the right to create any topic they so desire.

cococandy:


I’m afraid in order to give you a proper answer, I’ll have to be dragged into a pointless unending roundabout conversation that I’ve had and concluded many years ago.

But simply put, my reason for worry is the increasingly brazen and violent racism that black women and men (more at risk of death being black men) are facing in this current society. That’s kind of the long and short of it.

Ok if you say so, but this is only applicable to the West (predominantly America)

Hathor5:


Like women don't want to bring a female child into a toxic environment in Nigeria? Here you have the answer to your thread but your answer is wrong.

False.

This would be a fair statement if this was the true reason why women would prefer a male child but we all know this isn't the case.

Their reasons are often down to securing their marriage, pressure from inlaws or simply just having a little boy to "dote" on them.

cococandy:


Let’s say I’m blessed with what I have. I don’t want to be partial and say if I had a male child now, I’d be actively trying to get a girl. But it’s the truth and I realized that’s a bit biased. So I’m very happy I got my first choice as my first.

I worry even, (especially considering the society I’ve found myself in) if having a male child will not give me constant hypertension. But I won’t be mad if whenever I decide to have a child again it turns out to be a boy.
I’ll just prepare myself for what’s ahead.

Why so?

Could it be that you wouldn't want to bring a male child into this world to be subject to the increasingly toxic environment women have created under the guise of feminism? Or perhaps you feel you lack the ability to raise a male child? What are your reasons?

NoToPile:


Bros the matter is not funny ooo.

These are issues that make some women cry silent tears.

Boy child matter, is a serious something.

Lol.

Indeed it is but I never understood why.

Me personally I always wanted a female child as my first born - my own little princess! I grew up with all boys as siblings and I always longed for a sister..

However, as fate will have it, my wife consecutively had two boys one after the other. I wont lie, I definitely noticed the bravado that came along in her attitude because of that.

As for me, I'm still hoping for daddy's little princess Might be lucky the 3rd time round!

sweetmelanin:


You need deliverance.

Surprised you spent time reading his stupid incoherent verbiage.

NoToPile:
Tradition which I believe is a major factor

Some cultures make having a male child a do or die affair, wife has no place in husbands home if she doesn't have a male child, when the hubby dies the uncles swoop over everything because there's no heir.

The extent to which women married to such cultures go to have a male child is something else because they believe all will be lost.

Most women may not mind not having a male after having the no of children they desire but when they think of the future and tradition they go all out- fasting and prayer on the mountain sex selection etc.

I still cant wrap my head around it, different threads in this section showing women's agony on their inability to produce a male child.

A woman in my church had 5 girls anytime they ask for those looking for the fruit of the womb she will be the first to run out, last last she had a boy as the 6th see the way we were all rejoicing because we know her feet is now firmly rooted in her husbands house.

The 2nd lady told me point blank that shes happy she had a boy as her 2nd child because 'for my place if you never born boy you never start'

Nothing wrong in wanting variety most couples desire to have boys and girls under normal circumstances and may not even mind if they have just one sex but pressure from the village people is always the issue.

LMAO!

havilla:
Am not married yet but I think most women are of the impression that a male child would make their husbands happier, and since most women want to please their husbands they prefer to have a male child.

Secondly, it's generally harder to get a male child as female eggs swim faster or survive better (not sure am right) so they prefer to get a male child and get it out of the way.

As enlightened as I am anytime I see a woman with three or four only female children sometimes I feel sorry for them honestly, dont really know why I think this way even though I know deep down it doesnt matter.

It's so sad that a fellow woman can say this. Do you have male kids? If so, does this make you feel superior to other women who don't?

cococandy:
1) Asking questions you already know the answer to.
2) women who are ardent foot soldiers in ensuring such misogyny thrives will also tell you that there’s nothing like oppression
3) pray for them

You have a female child right? Say that you don't desire a male child

Ladyhippolyta88:

Exactly.
Women are the gate keepers of their own oppression

True.

bukatyne:


1. They feel it 'cements' their place in their 'husband' s home and access to his wealth/inheritance

2. They have a better relationship with their husbands.

3. Their in-laws (read women in their husbands' families) pressurize them for male children.

4. They want to be served as MILs in future.

Times are changing and people are becoming more content with whatever sex of children they have especially as people are now having just max 2 kids.

You are so reasonable and I always value your contributions.

It's really astonishing the amount of counselling I've had to do for women who have sunken into depression after finding out the gender of their baby - and I've noticed most of these women are pregnant with girls.

The only time I encountered someone unhappy with a male pregnancy, was because she already had 3 boys and was desperate for a change the 4th time round.

Why is such mentality prevalent amongst our women? In fact, the way some of these pregnant women act makes me question if women hate their gender so much that they can't bear to bring in another of their kind into this world.